My elder brother came back from Asia and wanted to see her fiancee's people (based on intro), but d girl whom he met 4 yrs ago during his nysc rejected d idea. She insisted that if my bros wants 2 commence d marriage rites, he should at least get past d intro level (2nd visit). Her reason being that she's no longer a small girl and that intro wib b an insult to her. On d other hand, my bros had come into d country with some project plans which he has started working on. Based on what he told me, he wants to go back, put finishing touches on those things within d space of 1yr b4 setlling 4 d big thing. D girl is in final yr and wil b passing out same time. So i just want 2 do the intro to prove 2 her that i am serious, he added. Age is not on her side either as family mouths hav started wagging. But her refusal crippled my guy who loves this girl so much and hav been taking care of her frm overseas. Up til now, d babe stil maintains he should combine d duo now or wait until he's ready. And that he should not blame her if anything happens while he's stil waiting. My bros is scared that if he does d 2 now, her family wil begin to mount pressure 4 d overal which both him and d girl are not ready 4 now. Pls, he needs u guys urgent advice b4 he makes a costly mistake.

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Sometimes, u can't control mess. In d past, i used to release in my gf's presence. She frown about it at first, and later wud run outside to allow d air cool off. Then came one day she decided to pay me back. U knw gurls, dem too chop sweet things that generate high smellin mess. I was wt her in our room dt faithful day wen she scrambled d air. I shout eh, no b small. D mess smel 4 d whole day. There's nothin i didnt use 2 try 2 clear d air. First i sprayd perfume, no way. I then reach out 4 air freshner, no way. Later, i went 4 camphor so tee my custometic shop customa begin ask me weda rat die 4 my hous. Since dt day, i neva try a m again.

Enough said guys. From ur suggestions, i have an idea of what 2 do. To b sure she isn't trying 2 play a fast one on me, i wil upon confirmation she hasn't paid yet, wire d money to her account days b4 d exam resumption date of 14th May, 2012. I think i hav a guy that lives in d same neighborhood wt. I already asked him to help me (in a smart way) confirm if she has paid d fees or not. If indeed she has, then it's settled. I wil thank God 4 her, bt deploy d money fast 2 my next sibling doing his degree project. Once more, i hav been educated by ur wonderful ideas. ONE LOVE!

Thanks all. Ur ideas re sparkling. Please keep them coming. Tinkybabe ur words inspired me a lot. Howeva, i can't remember telling her or implying i was her Godfather. Thou in one or two occasions wher she sounded as if i wasn't doing enof, i pointed out some instances wher i had made sacrifices just 2 make her happy. But that was jst 2 send a msg that i was doing my best. It's sad 2 stay eternally quiet while some1 u v riskd enof 2 care 4 repeatedly tels u or insinuates u aren't doing wel because u faild 2 meet up at one time or d other. Sexkillz, Okontami, it's not 1 semester left oo. She's in 300 level. There's stil final yr comin next season. Best regards.

Sexkillz u re d bomb, frank3 u jst red my mind, beylinko i welcom ur critics. Regards 2 u all 4 ur points. I hv no low esteem. I don't want 2 sound sarcastic, bt its really not a case of self worth. I may not b ther yet, bt i hv a degree in engrg wt a master on d way. I hv a training and also practicing in d telecom sector. I hav dated about 43 babes. I hv also spent over 6 yrs wt ds girl. U see, that i sound human is not a sign of weaknes. If all i need frm her is sex, then my problems re over. With her tone and manner, she doesn't deserv a dime frm me. But thinking of helpin her is only a normal feelin of wantin 2 assist som1 in need. U may as wel regard her as a destitute. She hails frm my village, all and sundry knows about us. If thru u guys advice, i end up helpin her, then not only would d heaven help me, bt i would hv exonerated myself frm any form of blame. Like one of u sugested, i can keep her text and payment details (jst as i hv kept d deposit teller 4 all d other payments i made wt regard 2 her skul, knowing that a day like this would come). Personally i hate 2 b associatd wt d reason she dropped out of school. As 4 d relationship, it died a long time ago as far as am concerned. Thankin u all 4 ur wise counsels!

My gud people of NL, i want 2 appreciate u all for ur contributions, suggestions and counsels over my situation i brought b4 u here last week. I told d story of my fiancee whom i hv bn assisting, but she finds it dificult 2 appreciate my little efforts. Here is d situation at present. As some of u suggested, I felt human, called her 2 knw d level as per her skul fees. She started playing pranks, posting me on two occasions that she would tell me d details later. After d second time, i said shooo, do i now need 2 beg her 2 accept my hard earned money? No way! 2 days later, i wrote her a text (since she would b reluctant to listen 2 me), pouring out my mind on d whole issue and opting 2 now retain my assistance until she decides if she wants my help or not. Since then i blackd out, havnt called her and wasn't ready to. Clearly i felt 2 help not because i expect 2 marry her, but because posterity has a way of remembering d gud we did unappreciated. Today, she sent me a text with d following content. "gud mornin, we re starting our exams on 14th of May. If u want 2 help me 4 my skul fees, u let me know. If u re not willing 2 help, tel me. I am with half of d skul fees now. Thank u" Guys in as much as i'm not a saint in all of this, is d above d tone to seek a fiance's assistance in such matter. I am sure, she was exploring other options wen she refusd to giv me update on d fees. But now it seems it wasn't succesful afterall, and that's why she now wants it. I tel u, if she had gotten d money frm elsewher, sh would hav told me that mine's no longer necesary. One thing i knw she thinks is, i neva wanted to giv her in d first place and that's why am dragging. I knw her wel 2 alwez find a way 2 acuse me of not willing to help wen it was clearly her impatience that brought up all this. At her 200 level she did same thing, acusd me of not wiling to. Has no idea wot it takes to make money in Lagos and pay all d bills. Hers is i want u 2 help me over this and now. Once it takes a litle time, u re no longer wiling. Am fed up and no longer interested in d relationship 4 d fear of d worst in d future. Bt i feel 4 her because she won't sit 4 d exams without d fees paid. Please, in ur humble opinion do u think i shld help her or run as far as my legs can carry me? Thanks 4 alwez being there?

As far am concernd, u hvnt done anything wrong. What u did was d best under d circustance. Ur mom ought 2 be informd, havin dwell among d western world. DO NOT YIELD TO THEIR PRESSURE. No matter hw she advertises her feelings, FOLLOW UR HEARTH. Sooner or later, she wil come to terms with ur judgement. Gud luck!

Omosexy1, Cowgurl, bennyraz thanks a lot. Points noted.

Roland, Slimyem, Killz thanks so much 4 ur takes. Doe-eyed, i don't have any of such relative of hers to take d matter to. The first time i tried it, though we settled, she frowned at it. This has bn her way since we began to think we belong to each other. Am not scared of today. Am only worried hw i can cope with that in marriage that is full of ups and downs. Again, its not as if we must marry. But we, our families and friends do not believ otherwise.

House, please read my story and tell me if am wrong or right. I am an employee with a meager salary. I do my best to help my fiancee with her undergraduate fees. Sometimes, to meet up with her financial requirements is very challenging to me, considering how small my own means of income is. But she alwez fail to understand that my support to her is out of luv. Rather, by virtue of her attitude, she usually insinuates it's my responsibility because if i do not exist in her life someone else who would pay all her bills would hav come to marry her. This is to some extent true because suitors hv bn coming 4 her. She's very pretty, faithful and lovely. But i can't do more than is possible with my earnings. I met her 6 yrs ago during my 100 level and talked her into furthering her education up to d university level. Since then, i hav alwez encouraged and supported her. But each time i don't meet up with her financially expectation, she gets emotionally affected and sometimes take it out on me in a way that pisses me off. Her parents are still alive, but are completely handicapped to render any form of help. With this atitude i feel quitting sometimes. I lov her so much and hv come this far to quit. Just 3 semesters to go and she would be done with skul and we will get married. Just few weeks ago, her skul fees for 300 level came, standing at a little above 100k. I put together 50k to support her, but because i didn't come up with d money sooner than she expected (u know salary payment and delays), she became angry and even dropped a call while i was going to tell her d money was ready. Days later, she called and did not bother to apologise or tell me why she did that. Now am so furious that i have decided to keep my money. Let her go sort herself out with those she believe can pay promptly. I am quitting. Thought not easy 4 me. She has been in my head 2 weeks now. But i am sure i will survive it, perhaps take my lov and effort to somewhere it can be appreciated. She wil blame me b4 family and friends on why it crashed, but i don't care. Guys if u think my decision is out of line, please advise. Thanks

I hav concluded plans to undertake some telecom training (Certified RF I & C Engineer) with a telecom training institute in India. The institute is called 'Tech Vidya'. Fellow Nairalanders, my questn is, has anybody trained with this people before? Pls telecom gurus share ur experience. I don't want 2 make a mistake because d money and risk involvd is too much. Suggestions 4 similar beta institutes in China and Korea wil help a lot. One Luv.