TUANKU:

He can earn that 30k while still learning the POP work, don't you think so?

I can but man, it's hard for me to say i am an adult kid. With that Job i won't be able to learn the pop installation. You know when parents are too over caring. They think i may die due to traveling everytime lol . This guy I'm learning from has contracts within some states which still makes me travel often.

This would be a bit long.


To start with, i have never condemned myself as a failure ever. I want to believe those are just phases in my life and it is unto greatness. I want to tell you about those phases in brief and in return i need your kind and candid advices.


I was born into a family that has three kids, i have two younger female sisters.

I'm over 30 years of age, but i have nothing to complement my age. I had always and still strive for knowledge. The kind of guy that want to learn every bit of anything he comes by.

I secured a job around 2013 (prior before this time I've always been working as a hotel receptionist ). I was receiving #70,000 then and was able to safe till i moved from a family house in Lagos to my own rented apartment. I was doing well for myself but a staunch gambler. I was an addict, but i was able to gamble within the ambit of my salary ( it did affected my income then but i wouldn't stop).

Fast forwarded to 2017, i resigned my appointment. I was able to safe #350,000 then. My parents supported me with #500,000 then i started a business. I relocated back to Osun state where i opened a patent medicine store, i lived with them during this time. (i had learnt about drug administration during my quest to know everything when i was still working in Lagos ).

I operated this shop for 8months and then it collapsed due to my gambling addiction. Then i ran back to Lagos 2018, started working again till things started going south. I lost the job after 5months, i couldn't go back home but stayed back with a family friend. This was when i hit the street properly, i sold illegal drugs to stay afloat but my gambling addiction couldn't still be savored. I was gambling heavily and this time i even went on credit gambling spree....

Till one day i hit the blunt of my life then i went for spiritual cleansing (i am not a believer though, i believe there is God but not a religious person par say). The man (Typical babalawo kind) He said i need to get married before anything meaningful would happen to me, he also told me i offended someone whom i should have married but wouldn't tell me who the person is... so many ladies we've had encounter but who knows who?

Then i sinked into myself. I came up with to the idea of a lady whom i thought i did offended. This lady who has always catered for my welfare since 2008, she stood on my toes to make proposals for marriage around 2015 (then i was still working in Lagos ). I had the impression that i won't get married till i start my own business. This lady in question has big business she is also running, so it wasn't because she would become a liability.
I met her parents then, i told then if they could wait till 2017/2018 then i would be sure i can settle down.
She is married though, i did apologized to her but she kept saying i didn't offend her, but prayed for me.


FastTracked to now, im back to square zero. I have been able to defeat my addiction. I made a resolution for 2020 to learn something. I started following a friend who was into POP installation. I have only been with him for only 4months before the coronaVirus lockdown started. My parents called me some weeks ago, advising me not keep going up and down. They wanted to secure a job for me at pharmacy where i can brush my knowledge back. They are not promising though, but i believe they may want to give me a soft loan again.... all these comes with a price though. I would have to live with them again (i am d only son ). I will be receiving a salary not up to 30k a month and have to leave what i am learning. I am a bit confused on what to do. I am above 30 years. An adult kid who still lives with his parent. .. would this give me any propeller or drive to success? I don't gamble anymore but at this stage, do i still need to live with my parents?
Are they not just too over caring?

Please advise me.