Powerfly:
You love her? And it's 4 years since you both started dating?.. And you've not proposed?... You want sex abi? Wetin bin make you agree to date her in the first place? Oh you thought she was one of those girls who mean yes even while saying no. You probably thought 'all females' loves sex more than men so definitely she'll change her mind. Well.. You don buy market. Cheers!.

I never asked for the opinion of Lesbians, whenever I become a Lesbian and I run into any issues, I'd definitely call for your opinion.

To begin with, please, if you believe in no sex before marriage, keep your opinion to yourself.

I am in a sexless relationship almost 4 years now, from the outset the agreement was no sex.

Honestly speaking if I knew I'd someday be writing on NL seeking advice, I'd have moved on from her, but love got me hooked.

It's ironic isn't it, having a girlfriend and still wanking (sighs!). I find it extremely difficult cheating, as I have never done this with any other woman.

As regards my woman, there's nothing I haven't done except rape (which I can never do). Lots of instances when the only thing left is for the act itself, she begins begging me in the name of God not to do this to her, she doesn't want to get pregnant, she wants to keep it till her marriage night and all that.

Even when I buy a condom, it's one story or the other. She might even turn her back on me or cover her boobs or her pussy.

Recently, I told her I'm done with the kissing and caressing, it's a cycle whose end I know is always filled with disappointments.

She would then go on to tell me, that does not mean she cannot touch, hug or hold me.

Such happened tonight and there we were again at the beginning of the cycle. When it came to sex, she was telling me to promise her nothing like that would happen.

This is something I can't even discuss with friends and even a cousin of mine, guys would be able to relate more, it's something I'm ashamed of.

These days I even began looking up drugs that lower libido, all because of this issue.

I love her, God knows I do.

I am tired and frustrated from the constant rejections, I can't even sleep.

It's almost 4 years, what else does she want?