kolatunez:
I had a hot arguement with a guy who kept on saying marriage will get boring and i tried to explain to him that it can't. Frustration is what can break up a marriage not boredom.yout partner is not a toy u will use.in marriage there is joy,love children and happiness. But this guy is as stubborn as they come. He said its human nature to get bored of something after a while.so i said to him " But then again marriage Is a bond not material substance" . To cut the long story short the guy gave up the arguement. But i wasnt done with the topic which brings me here.

Can marriage actually get boring

What are your thoughts

Marriage can and does get boring for both parties either at different times or at the same time. Once you get into a routine, it is inevitable to get bored with it over time. Picture this - you wake up, talk to, sleep beside, eat with, bath with,fight with, take about the same issues, go in the same circles with the same person every single day of your life. There is a reason why sometimes you picked going out with your friends over sitting at home with your mum while growing up, it's not because you value or love her less but just the need to break out of the routine. It is the same for marriage, people always confuse dating with marriage but one key factor that you enjoy in a relationship that is missing in marriage is the absence of the person - the ability to miss the person, the excitement of sneaking around to see the person, or having to go home after spending time with the person. It creates a vacuum to constantly want to see the person and go through that cycle, because once he/she leaves, you're back to your life - just you. In marriage, its the exact opposite, you actually just want to break out of the routine sometimes. The key to dealing with boredom is ensuring you marry someone you love and for the right reasons and consciously staying innovative with how you relate with each other. Even at that, some external factors may cause a strain and put you out of synch with your partner, constant communication and quick resolution is the only thing that keeps a good marriage afloat.

UyaiUyai:


Some women take longer time to heal than others. I personally started having sex again 2 months after birth but have some friends who didn’t start till 6 months later. Most of the time it is not because their bodies haven’t healed but because of fear and trauma – will it be painful, will it feel the same, will I get pregnant again?
Some women talk to their husbands about these fears, while some don’t. it all depends on the atmosphere at home and how they perceive their husbands will take such discussions.
That said, based on the statement you made that she indirectly gave you the go ahead to satisfy your urges outside, she may not enjoy sex generally or she doesn’t entirely love you – that is for only you to answer. I can only help with giving advice if you suspect she doesn’t enjoy sex. It may be because she was circumcised or isn’t properly being sexed by you. You should ask her about circumcision. If she was circumcised, you will have to do a lot more work to get her in the mood – wait for her “heat period” (women are usually very Hot just before their periods, during their periods, or just after their periods – please watch your wife and see what type she falls under), when she’s Hot do extra nice things to put her in the mood, then initiate sex with long pre-intimacy, that should be enough to get her in the mood. If she wasn’t circumcised then please give her MouthAction, learn how to do it well if you must – it is the easiest way to give a woman sexual pleasure. It gives women the same feeling sex gives men and before you know it, she will be initiating sex just to have a taste of it.
I counsel people and one thing married women complain to me about is tiredness from house chores, I’m not saying this is the case with you but just a general final advise. If your wife is working, babysitting, cooking and cleaning most of the time, the last thing on her mind will be sex at the end of the day. Give her some breaks and take over some chores and see if anything would change.
If you need further advice please email me inwanguyai@gmail.com
Hope my advise helps.

Forestgreen:
I am a married man with a job in the financial sector. My wife also works too. I decided to put this here because I want married ladies/mum to comment on this and advise me if I'm going overboard.
we have been married for over three years now and have a little son whom I adore do much. My wife has never really loved the act of love making. she is never really an initiator in matters like this. I have the one to always initiate the move and this is quite exasperating. was we manage to get down to the act, she responds warmly.
Before we got married, I noticed she doesn't really like sex. I'm a guy that enjoys stuffs like that- romance, intimacy and the whole baggages. initially I thought it was just because we were still courting and she didn't want to let go completely so I thought she would finally relax when we get married, but I was wrong.
fast forward to present time. our baby is almost eight months old and we have not done it. she keep giving one excuse about us having to wait for her to heal properly ( she delivered through C. section). sometimes,it's just that she is not in the mood. during the pregnancy, we did it just once. not because she wanted it but because some old woman somewhere adviced her that it will ease labor and delivery.
Now I'm looking down into the future wondering if this is how bleak its gonna be for me sex-wise. she is probably waiting for our baby's one year birthday for me to come and do my conjugal right and impregnate her again then we go back to the status quo. I have talked to her before about this and she just mentioned casually that I am free to go out and satisfy myself. I'm a man that love intimacy and sex. Sometimes, I missed my past affairs. The cuddling, intimacy and the real deal. My wife doesn't care about all these. it's just like I'm living with a room mate and the matter is getting worse.
Ladies in the house, sorry for this long epistle, but I'm I demanding for sex too soon(8 month after she put to bed)? what do you advice I do.

Some women take longer time to heal than others. I personally started having sex again 2 months after birth but have some friends who didn’t start till 6 months later. Most of the time it is not because their bodies haven’t healed but because of fear and trauma – will it be painful, will it feel the same, will I get pregnant again?
Some women talk to their husbands about these fears, while some don’t. it all depends on the atmosphere at home and how they perceive their husbands will take such discussions.
That said, based on the statement you made that she indirectly gave you the go ahead to satisfy your urges outside, she may not enjoy sex generally or she doesn’t entirely love you – that is for only you to answer. I can only help with giving advice if you suspect she doesn’t enjoy sex. It may be because she was circumcised or isn’t properly being sexed by you. You should ask her about circumcision. If she was circumcised, you will have to do a lot more work to get her in the mood – wait for her “heat period” (women are usually very Hot just before their periods, during their periods, or just after their periods – please watch your wife and see what type she falls under), when she’s Hot do extra nice things to put her in the mood, then initiate sex with long pre-intimacy, that should be enough to get her in the mood. If she wasn’t circumcised then please give her MouthAction, learn how to do it well if you must – it is the easiest way to give a woman sexual pleasure. It gives women the same feeling sex gives men and before you know it, she will be initiating sex just to have a taste of it.
I counsel people and one thing married women complain to me about is tiredness from house chores, I’m not saying this is the case with you but just a general final advise. If your wife is working, babysitting, cooking and cleaning most of the time, the last thing on her mind will be sex at the end of the day. Give her some breaks and take over some chores and see if anything would change.
If you need further advice please email me inwanguyai@gmail.com
Hope my advise helps.

LOL. Why did autocorrect change Hot to Hot and MouthAction to MouthAction? Na wa oh

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Do you reside in a state where you don't have access to big markets?
Are you abroad and would like to do some surprise shopping for your loved ones?
Or are you a business owner that regularly has to come to Lagos to restock?
Then you should try our service. I am a sourcing expert/personal shopper who has extensive experience sourcing and buying products from wholesale markets like Balogun, Idumota, Alaba & Trade fare here in Lagos. I will source, buy and ship your desired products to you anywhere within Nigeria, UK and America. There are no restrictions to the type of products, it can be Fashion items for your kids, weavons, shoes, bags, hampers, foodstuffs, electronics, anything really.

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3. My team will source for the products - you will need to confirm in real time before we purchase anything. We recommend Whatsapp photo or video call confirmation while we are shopping
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