@ poster,

Lies kill relationships faster than anything!!! Better tell the truth, and you will be surprised how much trust and respect you will earn just being you, no pretense.

Just let her know you really really are sorry, offer some explanation, and show remorse. may you never be seen with the other girl! best of luck!

Thank you all for your advice on my post, It helped me a great deal. I knew I could count on you.
cheers!

I have been in a relationship for almost two years now, and he has made it clear that we may not get married though we agreed to at least give it a chance to work out. I have been trying to adapt to his needs and expectations, and support him that I dont even have much friends again.
Now he has problems at his workplace and I have been the breadwinner and errand person. I am at the end of the rope with his festering attitude and I think he is just using me. If I leave now, It will look like I abondoned him when he needed me most, but I dont want to continue this charade of a relationship. yet I dont have the mental courage to leave, I do I do?

Thank you sweethearts, you are all very wonderful. I had a very swell time yesterday. Happy birthday to you all in arrears and advance, And for those celebrating today : HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! HAVE FUN, AND SHOW YOURSELF LOVE.

Remember to be yourself, and not someone else's version of you.
Love you all.

Thank you,

@ aisha2
I personally think the guy is particularly unfeeling. Could have as well asked her if she has decided to get married.

Thanks everyone and happy birthday to all my birth mates.

Well I'm planning on taking myself out to the best place in town after work, and afterwards go home to a great dinner prepared by my friends, and then dance my heart out, Its really going to be fun!!!

Hi everyone, today's my birthday!!!
I'm so happy I witnessed this day. So I am determined that nobody is going to spoil my day. Any other March 4 in the house?

Love you all,

I personally find it difficult to ask my guy for money. Sometimes, I get to spend on him when I know he is flat. Though I dont give him cash, cos it might affect his ego, rather I buy foodstuffs and stock his kitchen, and stuff like that.
I dont think money should determine a relationship.

@ poster
Please stay away from her to avoid blaming yourself at the end of the day. if you do it and your friend finds out (and he will), the girl might leave your lives for good, but the trust btw best friends leaves too.
When she comes to your place, tell her you are busy, and cant attend to her. DONT LET HER COME BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR BESTFRIEND plssssssss

Thanks everyone for your timely responses. Honestly I was at a cross road as to what to do. I'm glad I listened to you.
You are the best.

4th March,
Great to be in this sign chart, though we can be very emotional and very loving.
Where's my birth mate

hi temmie, you can mail me with this id; Expecting your mail, thanks

As for me, I would spend most of the day at work, go home and probably spend time writing poems. Actually its birthday for two of my friends, so if I like, I could go partying, but to be on t to be on the safe side and avoid feeling lonely, I will stay at home and write beautiful poems about life and love. afterall everyday should be valentine for those who appreciate it.

I used to think its a fifty-fifty thing, or probably 60% for guys, and 40% for babes. Well right now I`m not so sure.
Whats your view?

Hi folks, you are welcome to comment on this topic?

We had a hot debate about this with my female colleagues at work during a lunch break, and felt I should throw it open.
Do you really think girls should spend on guys, whether they are seriously dating or not.

Thank you all for your prompt responses and opinions, They`ve really helped to lift my spirits and make a decision. I`m so grateful, God bless you all, and bless your relatinonships too.

Mee

Hi, pls whats YIM

I dont if the problem is in my head or if its real. I`v bin dating my guy for close to 2 years now. the first 8 months we were always together cos we served in the same place. after service he got a job with oceanic bank and was posted to Ondo State, while I got a job here in Edo state with an NGO. We had no problems initially cos I try to visit hiim at least twice to thrice a month.
One day I visited him and discovered a text message in his phone from a colleague who was professing her love to him as if they had somrthing going. I confronted him and he got on the defensive asking while I shd go through his phone. I was shocked cos We always go through each others phone at all times, we even recieve calls for each other. I got so angry and almost decided to go back that morning instead of the next day. i met another colleague of his who is our friend and she told me that the girls in their office wouldn`t let my guy rest, and that is seems they are succeeding in distracting him.

But the thing is that, anytime I visit, he always ask me to come to his office and stay for a while as he introduces me to all his colleagues and friends as his wife to be, in fact when I go to the office, they just let me in to see him without obstruction.

After the episode of the phone, he said he was sorry for the reaction but that there was nothing between him and the girl. i believed him.
in another episode, he categorrically asked me not to visit him without reason.
And at every other times, I find text msgs from the girl to him but decided not to ask him anything again about the girl as it could amount to my distrusting him.
Some other times, he might just get pissed off with my calling him and pointedly cut me off.
At a time, I almost gave up on him.

During the festive period, we had called some kind of truce cos he explained that he was undergoing some kind of stress at the office that got him on edge, and that he was sorry for all the stress he had caused me. Afterwards, he took me to meet his parents for an informal introduction, and before I got there, everyone was already expecting me, like I was already a member of their family.
but the day we left for their village where I spent close to a week, a girlfriend of one of their colleagues there in Akure called me to tell me to be careful of the girls in my guys office cos she doesnt like what she sees there.

Now the problem is that earlier this week he told me that he is on edge again due to stress and constant work. I tried to talk with him like I`ve always done, but it didnt get me anywhere. he has started cutting off my calls, and when he picks, his voice is sharp. when I suggested visiting him he said he was sorting his life and didnt want visitors till April.

I am fed up of all this attitude and I`ve just told my parents about him(which cost me all the courage I can gather) and they are looking forward to seeing him, though they feel that I shd take my time in choosing my spouse, in fact my dad feels I shd finish my master`s prog first before getting married.

I`m in a mess now. Shd I call him or mail him? should I ignore him and pretend I`m not hurt? Should I consider other proposals and forget him? Should I tell his elder sister who calls me every two days or his mum.
WHAT SHOULD I DO? I love this guy that he is practcally my existence (and he knows it) PLSS advice me.

hi guys,
I've been invited for an interview by the Medical and Dental Council of Nigeria. I'm at loss on what to expect. Moreso, I've never attended an interview before now. All contributions wil be highly appreciated by me.
Love ya all.

Mcchimo or whatever your name sounds like, For the records you are so arrogrant and full of yourself, dont you know people make Ist class in school, If you are so 'intelligent' and 'worked so hard', why didnt you make a Ist class or get a scholarshp to study abroad? mind what you say to people cos you wouldnt know who you'll be insulting. Better watch it before you lose it

Hi seems, Were you invited for a test? pls tell us the time, venue and date for the test? I'm highly interested. Thanks a mil.

Hi landers, Please can I know the time and venue for the test. Is gatecrashing allowed?

hi nairalanders, can someone tell me companies recruiting now. cheers!