Ask4bigneyo:

Is rice not contraband goods?

No it is not.

Gabrokpara001:
This is a contemporary 4bedroom apartment architectural design.

DESIGN FEATURES

*CAR PARK
*LIVING ROOM
*LIVING ROOM BALCONY
* VISITORS TOILET
* DINING
* KITCHEN
* 3 BEDROOMS ALL ENSUITE
* MASTERS BEDROOM WITH WALK-IN-CLOSET

Are you doing the engineering design? Are you a civil engineer? Or do you already have the house for sale.

cudolisa:
What can someone import from Thailand to Nigeria. Suggestions

Import Thailand rice. I am available wholesales in Abuja

FRANCISTOWN:

I'm talking about my wife, not your wife.
Your wife can say whatever she likes to you, or your relatives. That's your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with me.
What I know is, ain't no wife of mine gon' speak to my relative disrespectfully. That's not my world.

If all the "op" said is exactly what transpired. I did not notice any disrespectful utterance to her husband's relatives and mother.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Brother, this is rather petty issue. In fact, it is not an issue, forget about the dispute and move on.

Buy some Barbecue fish, Shawarma and Wine. Take it home, play some romantic music and create a lively mood with your wife.

Let it slide Abeg!

WithX:


Kano Shoprite branch got it wrong when they start selling their goods above market price (that is a red flag). No matter how posh your shop is many rational buyer talk more of the north will prefer buying where the good i even one naira less. With many supermarkets springing up everywhere in Kano now, its fight of the survivals
Some two years back the place is always overcrowded because customers get some of their goods cheaper than the market price (surprisingly, the difference in price may just be fie naira or a little below that).
I remembered taking the trouble to go to the store anytime i want to stock up on drinks because then their drinks are always around ten naira to fie naira lesser than the market price. Then you will see drink retailers storm there with pickups on daily basis. I can no longer take that trouble if i can get the drinks at a price cheaper close to me.

I believe their change in business strategy have a large part to play.

When the pioneer investors of Shoprite left Nigeria and sold/transferred it to another investor.

Shoprite started offering even more ridiculous prices for majority of their goods. Just a few (soft drinks and bottle water) that are still priced below general market prices.

We also see that at their outlets in Abuja and Lagos. Infact they should change their slogan (Why Pay More) to something else.

I strongly don't think the exit of shoprite from Kano implies that the Economy of Kano is terrible.

I would rather buy several items from the aboki shop near my house rather than shoprite because the aboki sells at cheaper prices.

nairalandkachy1:
There were similar reactions when the CJN's son was one of 23 sworn-in as Justices of the Federal High Court in Sept 2023

Again, reportedly his nephew, was sworn-in as a Justice of the Appeal Court in Sept 2023



https://gazettengr.com/cjn-ariwoola-appoints-younger-brother-adebayo-ariwoola-as-new-auditor-for-national-judicial-council/

So the Supreme Court, NJC; in fact the judiciary has been compromised now.

Lyrics269:

They know themselves.

So why are you generalizing about most Nigerian men.

onobire83:
I have 2 kids (boy and girl) with my wife in a marriage of 6 years , and I needed another child but my wife doesn’t (she went for family planning) what should I do?

Advice please

You don dey mad abi! Please get off this space. We are expecting people who have genuine challenges not greedy, ridiculous and mofos like you.

If you like, destroy your marriage, I only pity the unfortunate woman married to you.

Idiot.

Lyrics269:
Most men in Nigeria are coded bisexuals who always cry about women and deceive girls but end up pleasuring themselves with men.
Never trust a nigerian man, they have sex with anything under skirt and trouser.
Most of your boyfriends are gays and bisexuals in disguise using you
Bobrisky and co are being patronized by some of your fathers and boyfriends.

What do you mean by "most men"? How many Nigerian men alluded to this opinion of yours. What statistics informed it?

Darevofpeace:

It is common knowledge that many beautiful marriages in Nigeria, collapse few months or years after the families move to the western world. We equally read stories of men thrown out of their homes by their wives they brought over from Nigeria.

.........................

Allow her the freedom she desires, she will come back to make you her best friend. Control will never work...can work for a short time, but will boomerang later.

https://www.facebook.com/1525879707/posts/pfbid02gFRufqsFTQCF9GaXTb5CJfhiA4LszrHFwPzeJJvVPBCuS41MJnEaTiy6Hr2VYTel/

Your article is skewed towards becoming a SIMP for the woman in the western world.

This is completely against some men's culture, personality and orientation. You will find it difficult to change those orientation and culture in the African man.

Hence, it is better decision, though it has its own cost because someone could be sleeping in your bed while away in the western world hustling, for the man alone to travel to the Western world and hustle, leaving his wife and children behind.

If you go there with your family, just have a provision in your mind that you could loose your family and resources; you could live in regret afterwards when your wife change am for you.

gabbrri:
she was only looking very surprised on how I found out since she deleted the picture she has been sending series on massages apologizing

I assume that you have discussed with her parents on the matter since you said you are already asking for a refund of the bride price that you paid.

A separation is recommended by me, especially if you feel threatened or uncomfortable in the home with her. During the separation, you can decide on divorce or consolidation of your marriage. God bless the children.

Kindly accept my sympathy on the development, I completely understand your situation but you have to man up in anticipation of whatever possibility. Your safety, happiness and mental stability first and then care and love for your children and loved ones.

God bless you.

gabbrri:
I will be so brief in explaining the skocker I received last week.. I have been suspecting my wife for a while now because of her attachment to her phone but I kept my cool trying to track what she has been up to,,
men my discovery was shocking, I got to know her password through my 5 years old son that is always with her phone. I checked her phone thoroughly but did not find anything only for me to check her thrash pictures on Google photos fellow nairalanders I saw a male colleague that always communicate her putting on my wife's gown in a hotel looking arrangements I confronted her on and she was confused on what to explain ... I post this here for people that completely trust their spouse to do the trusting with sense.. officially I am ending the year wifeless as I have demanded a refund of the dowry paid on her no going back I consider my decision a gain and not a loss congratulations to me for finding out what she has become on time

You need to tell us what her defense was. What did she say when you confronted her?

10mobile:
I'm not happy with those who talk ill of our Nigerian girls because our girls are the most sexy and beautiful all over the world.

For example, look at this photo and tell me what else you want our girls to bring to the table. Be honest as a Nigerian man.

Ladies don't comment. Just watch.

Is that all she has to offer?

Fountainofyouth:



You do not know women more than we know ourselves, we do not talk about someone we're having a sexual relationship with to our significant other, we will never utter a word about it, not ever.

Madam, his wife's response was not verbal or in the presence of her husband such that we can assume that she was trying to make her husband feel jealous.

The response was on a chat that was supposed to be private, between her and her cheat. The husband only read it without her permission.

Now her response "you have too much in your hands" speaks volumes. It means a lot. So if the guy has less in his hands......... So if the guy has few or no babes in his hands........... So she would like to fu..ck the guy right.

Come on, stop making excuses. She want to fu..ck the guy or she is already fu..cking him - that is established.

Isolock:
As a married Man myself, I'd say "There's really no smoke without fire".. the situation is not strange but obvious to the fact that your wife and her colleague have something going or brewing. It is inappropriate for any married man or woman to chat or entertain such chat from a colleague. While she can't stop a colleague from sending whatever type of first time messages, it is her duty to address it right away and YOUR WIFE'S RESPONSE DID NOT ADDRESS THE ISSUE.. it was casual. You should have observed a little bit more, snap the evidence and check back another time if the messages are still there or deleted or if she'd bring such matters to you or if there more changes in her appearance, behaviour and communication. Whatever it is, you will find out..!!! Just don't be in a haste to end your marriage or point accusing fingers. You must be certain

His wife's response to the flirt is the major reason I believe that her commitment to her husband is compromised. She is either fvckn the colleague or other men already or she is open to it.

Any man can hit on your wife but her reaction or response to the flirts will determine if she is game.

Fountainofyouth:


I have friends I send my pictures to so nothing wrong with that

I work with fg, and there are so many married men that have tried and still trying to get me to no avail, the ones I've told off still won't listen so most times I ignore them when I'm tired of shouting

For Op, the wife obviously likes the man that's why she replied that way, that doesn't mean they've had sèx or something is going on, highest Op can do is warn her or get his number and warn the man off his wife, simple.

Read your post again and meditate on it, I don't think you are being logical.

Let's assume you are married and one of your toasters (married or unmarried) asked you to make babies with him.

What will be your response and why?

qtguru:


I won't need to meet HR, because that message tells me enough. Since OP is confused on what to do, I think it's only reasonable his wife knows of his act.

You also don't need to meet the boss about such matter. It is not supposed to be an official matter.

You can meet her parents, close/trusted friend or respected family friend or church leader.

Don't take such to the office.

qtguru:


reason being ?

If you are the man in the scenario, you should face your wife not the other man.

In fact, you have no business with the man except he comes into your house to fu.. ck your wife. Then you can take physical or logical action against him.

For now, you can only do "magun" jazz to deal with him or and her, if you want to get at him physically.

It is quite immature to go to the HR of their coy to report such matter

qtguru:


Visit the office and report to the Boss, blow the whole thing up, and let his wife know if you can.

This is not acceptable

tyinfinity:
Go and confront the man in the office .threaten him and report him to the management.if you know his name let us send spiritual missile to him

This is not, highly, neccessary.

mcdon024:
Mature advice only please.
I will keep this very short.
There is this her colleague she talks about almost all the time. He is also married. I became curious and decided to go through her WhatsApp chats with this guy. I saw in thier chats selfie pics she sends to him (normal selfie pics), and the one that really got to me is the part he invited my wife to come over and "lets make babies" according to him. But her reply was "No I can't, your hands are full"....Please who can decode this her reply to him?....I confronted her but she denied ever having anything to do with him beside been colleagues. But my worry is why chat flirty chats with a guy and what would give him the mind to ask her to come over and .......... Please I need mature advice only

I am almost certain that it is either she has been fu..ckn her colleague or she is open to fu..ckn other men.

I think she wants to be adulterous or she already into adultery.

The question is: what should you do about it? You are the only one that should answer the question with options then we can help you to critically analyze the possible options to help you make a good decision.

Autobot05:



Professor please It’s ILLITERACY Not ilitrasy

I can't understand why choice of cutlery became a factor that determines illiteracy.

MrCork:



So u one of those homebase people that use spoon to eat rice embarasssing nigeria.sp how would u feel if white woman see u...and then when the call u monkey u start cussin riot.dont use spoon please!!(no oofencse)

Who get your time to embarrass you. Who cares what white woman thinks with my choice of cutlery. Na her food?

Does monkey eat with cutlery?

Who decided and informed that cutlery must be used to eat rice?

Una no well!

MrCork:
Ilitrasy is a desease.i cant imagine my white London friends seeing then...coz here in pekam London, if waiter see u eating rice in a restorant wit a spooon,they will walk u out & ban u..we use fork....but for some reason in nigeria * africa.,homebase guys use spooon...& some times they use ther hand to eat rice or chickens in a restorant especially
In from of a fine female (ilitrasy)
...is this normal behaviours for homebase guys?(no ooofencse)

You dey craze. They will walk me out for eating with whatever cutlery - then I will not pay for the food if you will not let me eat in peace. The worst you can do is laugh at me or marvel at it or try to correct me but you can only walk me out when you are willing to forfeit the pay.

Ban me, I don't care. If I dig my rice with my spoon and you feel uncomfortable, please cry me a river.

As for you, I don't care about your feeling with my cutlery choice. It is not your money or your food. It is mine!

DyshApp:
A married man has anonymously taken to social media to complain about his wife’s addiction to watching cartoons with their children.

According to him, his wife was always excited to watch and sing along to the cartoon with their kids and she would narrate the stories to them if they missed them.

According to the man, something must be wrong with his wife. While admitting that she has not failed in her roles as a wife and mother to his kids, he reiterated his worry that he felt she should have grown past cartoons.

He appealed for help to fix the cartoon problem.

In his words:
"I feel like something is wrong, I don't really get her sometimes. She doesn't even watch the movies I want us to watch together unless I really encourage her. She acts like me not watching those their cartoons with them, I'm missing out on something great.

“My wife, 37 years old, enjoys watching cartoon even more than our kids. When I say cartoon, I mean animated movies.
Our first boy is 14 years old down to our last who is currently 4 years old.
They’ve turned the home into a cartoon home.
They are soo addicted, they sing their songs, do their dances and discuss those things all the time.
My wife at her age will be running as if something strange was happening and she forgets herself to be an adult sometimes.
I’ve tried to explain to her that I don’t really like it, I don’t complain because they are being happy but, I don’t understand my wife’s addiction. Even when the kids aren’t around, she’ll be watching animated movies alone.

Once they get home, she’s going to narrate all she watched to them and even demonstrate with actions some funny/emotional scenes.
I feel like something is wrong, I don’t really get her sometimes. She doesn’t even watch the movies I want us to watch together unless I really encourage her. She acts like me not watching those their cartoons with them, I’m missing out on something great.
Is there something I can do to help her? It’s somehow bothering me.

Kindly note that, she’s fully employed and still does her duties as a wife and a mother. I don’t have any problem on that side, I just feel she’s addicted to animated movies when actually, she has grown pass it.”


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It is actually no big deal, she is young at heart.

Magnoliaa:


We can keep going back and forth on this. I even made my comment in respect to sex, and deriving pleasure. But you brought in procreation. And I rightly pointed out that the female sex organs and functions is equally responsible for that.



Again, your ignorance is your own business. It is a marriage not a warring zone.


Have a nice life.

Have a splendid life too.

Magnoliaa:


And you will not need an egg?





Then you're already stretching the standards. Based on physical strength alone, the average man is stronger than the average woman. I agree. Other types of strengths are relative and varied.



Your misunderstanding of what equality means is not my problem to cure. Moreso if you think being equal is grounds for disrespect.

I only tried to point out what the penis does that the vagina can't do.

I agree that every strength is relative and varies from man to man, man to woman and vice versa.

What you should be advocating is equity not equality with your husband. Show some respect my lady. Disrespect includes situations where you see your husband as your equal.

Magnoliaa:


Like what? Giving birth to a nonuplet?

And stop calling me "my dear" please. I don't appreciate it.



Okay. I will only concede that strength is necessary for physically building things. But due to the variety of human beings and their abilities, strength is not enough basis to classify men as being of more worth than women.

You will always need a penis to ejaculate sperm for procreation, there is still no substitute for that yet

About "my dear", don't take it to heart. I am only trying to be pleasant and nice. In other words, you can be no dear to me if you wish so.

Strength is not just physical, it is mental, spiritual, economic and diverse however, the men have got loads of it.

No one is saying men worth more than women, we are only asking you to respect men, especially your father and husband. Your husband is not your equal in marriage.

Magnoliaa:
^^^

And the above is one sense in which I will agree that people are not "equal". Some people are that brutal and ruthless and crush everyone in their way to get to the top, and then they put a system in place that will keep most of everyone else poor and wretched.

It's not fair, but it is life.

But I will not fight against those standards and realities for another idiot to come and lord over me and tell me that I am beneath him because he carries a pènis and me a vagìna, and so we're not "equal." What intrinsic worth does your penis hold unlike, say intellect?

Even superficially sef like being cunning or sycophantic. These are negative traits but they get you somewhere. What can your pènis do that my vagįna can not?


What is the social value of your 'strength' as a man, especially in the modern world? I am particularly interested in a good-willed argument from any pro-male guy on this last question. I am on the look out for it... and I promise to not be dishonest.

Like, even if there are are (dis)advantages to be found in being male/female, it'll be on a pound for pound basis.

No man should see you beneath himself. However, your husband is your captain, leader, protector and helper. He deserves respect from you.

My dear, there is a huge difference between the Penis and Vagina. There is a lot the Penis can do that the Vagina can't do.

Man built the world, man is still building and modernizing the world even today and till tomorrow. That is part of the man's strength; that is a significant and great social value.

Instead of dwelling on the disadvantages and advantages inherent in being male or female, why not be content, glad and appreciative of who you are, try to improve yourself on daily and impact the world positively. Be a solution provider but not constitute yourself into an identified problem for men.

Magnoliaa:
But if you feel you're qualified to speak on gender dynamics and sociocultural issues as a poor, anonymous, etc., man, then your next feminist is as qualified to do so.


If you speak on women because you think their behaviours affect you everyday, a woman can do the same too because everyday men bothers her.




Also, it is interesting that you guys have insulted Bezos for being a simp, and many other guys on that list too.

Everytime you hear of divorce settlement cases, you people start gnashing your teeth and hitting your head on the wall that the world is rigged against you, and laws favour women more. So you think those women are rich due to the generosity of men and not because of an unfair system against men?

Hi, I find your opinion interesting but I am still to understand your point. Can you explain.

That guy was probably a yahoo boy.