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Romance / Re: How Lola Brought Charm From Ijebu To Her Marriage In Nnewi. by Westerville: 5:30am On Aug 17, 2021 |
SimplyFacts: Amen✓ Exactly!!! But Lola changed the narrative. She used the most effective charms which is"LOVE". 1 Like |
Romance / How Lola Brought Charm From Ijebu To Her Marriage In Nnewi. by Westerville: 1:09am On Aug 17, 2021 |
When Emeka broke the news to his parents that he planned to marry a Yoruba lady, they told him that he was a joker. That would never happen, they said flatly. Was there a scarcity of nubile damsels in Nnewi and its environs or in Anambra State and the entire Igboland that their son would travel across many rivers and many states to marry a Yoruba girl from Ijebu-Ode? Or, had the girl bewitched Emeka with “otumokpo” from Ijebu-Ode? She would not succeed, they concluded. Never! Weeks after that, nothing was heard about the issue again. They assumed that the case had been closed. Emeka had come to his senses, they concluded. But had he? Two months later, like a bad dream, Emeka brought up the issue of this Ijebu girl again! This time, his tone was firm. Despite the threats of the parents, he was not cowed. He was resolute to the point of obstinacy. Even the tears of his mother did not move him. His parents concluded their son was indeed under a spell. When it became obvious, after many months of dialogue, pressure, threats, pleas, tears and quarrels that Emeka was hell-bent on marrying Lola, his parents grudgingly gave their consent, but the father warned that nobody should run to him if the marriage went awry. The father also refused to accompany him to Ijebu-Ode for the marriage rites, saying that as an elder, it was a taboo for him to travel far away from home. It did not matter that a few months before the marriage rites, he had travelled through Ijebu-Ode on his way to Lagos. Not only his parents were against the marriage: Out of Emeka’s three brothers and two sisters, only his younger sister was on his side. But Emeka overlooked all that and went ahead with the marriage. When Lola came into the family, it was obvious that she was not welcomed. She was just being tolerated. Matters were not helped by the fact that Emeka had recently relocated his architecture business from Lagos to Nnewi, to take advantage of the burgeoning building industry in the town. And even though he had built his own house, it was within the same compound where his parents lived. It was a large compound: All the four sons had their portions of land within the compound, even though two of them were not based at home. Another handicap Lola had was language: Igbo was the language of the family, but Lola spoke only English and Yoruba. So, Lola began forcing herself to speak Igbo. Any time she uttered an Igbo word or sentence, people would laugh. But her determination and sense of humour impressed everyone. She also did something that nobody around her did: she curtsied or knelt down when greeting elders, especially her husband’s parents, no matter how hard they protested against such acts. That act and her accent marked her out as a Yoruba, which made people treat her like an egg and call her “Iyawo.” Most mornings, Lola would go early to the quarters of her husband’s parents, greet them, tidy up their rooms and collect their clothes for washing. She would ensure that Papa and Mama had their meals. She asked her mother in-law to teach her how to cook all local meals. Mama was eager to teach her, and she learnt fast. Any time Papa or Mama complained of backache, rheumatism or fever, Lola ensured that they got medical treatment. Most evenings, she would spend some time with them, either alone or in the company of her husband, before retiring to bed. Her brother-in-law’s wife sneered that she was shamelessly trying to buy love with her boot-licking tactics. But Lola was not bothered about that. Less than a year after Lola came into the family, the music changed. Emeka’s parents, especially the father, never completed a sentence without mentioning “Iyawo.” He would tell anyone who cared to listen, including the wives of his other three sons, that if it was not for Iyawo, he would have long died. Today, Lola speaks Igbo, or rather Nnewi, like a daughter of the soil. As far as Emeka’s parents are concerned, “Iyawo” can do no wrong. Even when Emeka complains about her before his parents, they will not let him finish before warning him never to do anything that will hurt that “peace-loving girl.” Unknown to everyone, before Lola left her parents’ home, she fortified herself for any eventuality, having known that her husband’s family were not happy about the marriage. Her parents had also done all they could to dissuade her from marrying an Igbo man, but their words fell on her like water on the back of a duck. So she knew she had a major battle to face in her new home. Failure was not an option, for if the marriage failed or proved unhappy, her parents would give her the I-told-you treatment. Consequently, before leaving for Nnewi, she boiled herself in a pot of charm. Then, she etched the charm on her face, tongue and heart. The power in the charm was meant to automatically make anyone around her to like her. Anyone she smiled at or talked to was meant to be charmed by her. What is the name of that charm and how much does it cost? The name of the charm is simple: Genuine love for others. It costs nothing to buy. No medicine-man is needed to prepare or administer it. It has no overdose. Everyone can prepare it. Everyone can administer it: At home, in the office, on the street, in the market. Its result on people is magical. Nobody can resist its effect, including “wicked mothers-in-law” and “impossible bosses.” Fortunately, it is available in all parts of the world: In Ijebu-Ode or Nnewi, Zaria or Ikot-Ekpene, New York or Kabul. Brides and brides-to-be must realise that even though in-laws may seem difficult to deal with, they are human beings with flesh and blood. Parents – especially mothers – want to cling to their sons as long as possible. Parents are naturally suspicious and even envious of “an outsider” – who did not participate in bearing, nurturing and raising of their child – coming to take that child away. To them, the wife is a stranger who may have a selfish agenda to destroy the peace, unity and love existing in that family. It is the duty of the wife not to breeze into the family with an antagonistic stance. Rather, she should reassure her in-laws – through her words and actions – that she has not come to “take away” their son and brother or to destabilise the family, but that she has come in – like a new baby born into the family – to increase the family’s love, peace, unity and happiness. Everybody wants to be loved, appreciated and respected. When love is shown (over a period of time) to even untamed animals like the bear, leopard, chimpanzee, hyena, etc, they respond with friendliness. Human beings have the capacity to even respond better than animals when shown love. The rule in all human relations is that you get what you give. If you smile a lot at people, you receive smiles. If you are cold to people, you receive coldness and more. If you love to help others, you receive help and love. Therefore, those who go about demanding and expecting love, care, and respect from others may get disappointed, but those who first give love, care, and respect to others usually receive them many fold. Showing genuine love to others is a potent charm that works like magic. 6 Likes 1 Share
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Politics / Re: New Lagos Councilors Fight Over Electing Principal Officers Among Themselves by Westerville: 6:06pm On Aug 13, 2021 |
Politics / Re: Ward Congresses: Aregbesola Loses Out, As Oyetola Takes Control Of Osun APC by Westerville: 7:55am On Aug 02, 2021 |
Politics / Re: Hushpuppi: Abba Kyari's Story On CNN by Westerville: 2:47pm On Jul 31, 2021 |
Kingsnairaland: In as much as I don't support crime,fvck CNN,they will rush to publish this,but the keep mun on all the atrocities going on in Nigeria,fvck CNN, fvck USA. |
Politics / Re: Eid-El-Kabir: Okowa Calls For United Nigeria by Westerville: 10:25pm On Jul 19, 2021 |
You guys have been vomiting this trash since 1960.Mtchuu Anyway,any update from Oba? 1 Like |
Politics / Re: President Buhari In Kano (Photos, Video) by Westerville: 8:19pm On Jul 15, 2021 |
75% of zone B in Nigeria are from the North |
Politics / Re: Police Carried Yoruba Nation Protester Like A Baby by Westerville: 4:57pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Biodun556: The person that shot this photo needs aword ��
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Sports / Re: Jadon Sancho Joins Manchester United For €90 Million by Westerville: 9:48am On Jul 01, 2021 |
Health / Re: Please Help! How Can I Treat Chronic Catarrh That Has Lasted More Than 8yrs by Westerville: 5:38pm On Jun 21, 2021 |
Gvnl: Engage yourself in intensive workout for three months and thank me later 2 Likes 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Twitter Ban: ECOWAS Court Serves Buhari Hearing Notice! by Westerville: 5:25pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
NwaNimo1: The bird dey vex self,e wan blind Baba eye,���� |
Health / Re: I Have Erectile Dysfunction And Its Really Affecting My Relationship. by Westerville: 10:39pm On Jun 12, 2021 |
Reduce the intake of alcohol, reduce intake of beverages,do workout at least twice a week. Take fresh grounded ginger and honey, give it 1hr and take enough watermelon 30mns to the action and thank me later. |
Politics / Re: Bandits Kill 41 Farmers In Zamfara Fresh Attacks, One Police Officer Shot Dead by Westerville: 12:17pm On Jun 07, 2021 |
Insecurity: Something is fishy here, whenever there's attacks in the North no pictures/videos,but when the same thing happened in the south, there will be pictures/videos flying everywhere on the internet,is there anything security operatives are hiding from Nigerians? |
Politics / Re: Al-mustapha Rejects Constitution Amendment, Says Elites Are Nigeria's Problem by Westerville: 8:20pm On Jun 06, 2021 |
bolaayenimo: Because it's not going to favour them after the amendment,Mr.Mumustaph we know that is in the rush,but lets start from somewhere. |
Politics / Re: NCC Orders Telcos To Effect Twitter Ban by Westerville: 10:04am On Jun 05, 2021 |
SultanOfPuna: Sense no go kill you, exactly |
Politics / Re: Abdurrahman Sumaila: Don't Support Igbo Presidential Candidate In 2023 by Westerville: 4:00pm On Jun 03, 2021 |
iwaeda: And you don't want them to be on their own,,,,yeye dey smell |
Celebrities / Re: Ada Ameh Slams Naira Marley Over His Sexual Fantasy (Video) by Westerville: 2:09pm On May 21, 2021 |
Celebrities / Re: Williams Uchemba And His Wife Brunelle Compete In Italian Language by Westerville: 10:09am On May 18, 2021 |
shiffynaani: Vraiment? |
Politics / Re: Taiwo Oluomo: I Am Suspecting Lawan, I Don't Think He Supports Restructuring by Westerville: 11:09am On May 15, 2021 |
helinues: Restructuring doesn't mean that poor states would be ignored,NO.Those poor states can equally depend on Federal Government for any project,but it will be on mortgage bases. Restructure means that every state will not have the same salary structure, housing scheme,cost of living , school and health care. For example,a police officer in Lagos can earn 200k in a month, while a police officer in Ekiti will earn 80k a month and they will do their job wholeheartedly.It will enable each state to enact a law that will suite them,,e.g a state in the north will decide that there will no church in their state,and you will abide by it,if it's not okay by you,you relocate,some will even adopt sharia-law. In another words, those power states will bring more to the federal government to run the federal government parastatals, like army,custom, immigration,FRS,fed.police,nas and diplomatic missions. By so doing,there will be a serious competitions across the states of the federation,and Nigeria will take her glory as giant of Africa. |
Politics / Re: Smart Adeyemi: Let’s Shut Down The National Assembly If We Can't Save... (Video) by Westerville: 10:45am On Apr 28, 2021 |
NEWSREPORT: Say the truth and it shall set you free. |
Sports / Man Utd, Arsenal, Chelsea: Champions League And Europa League Favourites by Westerville: 8:03am On Apr 16, 2021 |
The Champions League and Europa League are advancing towards the business end of the season. With the final whistles blowing on Thursday night's round of continental action, we now know the final eight clubs who will contest the primary and secondary tournaments in UEFA's 2020/21 crown.And it makes for fantastic reading for Premier League fans because there are two representatives from the so-called 'big six' clubs in each of the competitions respectively. Europa League and Champions League Manchester City and Chelsea join Real Madrid and Paris Saint-Germain in the hat for 'Big Ears', while Arsenal and Manchester United are rubbing shoulders with Villarreal and AS Roma elsewhere. As a result, there's a pretty high chance that an English club will be taking home at least one piece of European silverware this season or perhaps even two like dramatic 2018/19 campaign. Either way, though, I'm sure you're plotting in your head who you think might be crowned champions of Europe when May comes around and there's no denying that it's difficult to call. But if you're struggling to reach a conclusion then fear not, because the data analysts at FiveThirtyEight have used their complex algorithm to see which clubs are most likely to win Data analysts predict winners The revered statistical gurus, who also predict matters of science and politics, have ranked the four teams in each competition by their chances of winning the final - and with interesting results. So, do yourselves a favour and check out how the remaining clubs in Europe stack up down below: Europa League 4. AS Roma - 11% chance of winning 3.Villarreal - 19% chance of winning 2. Arsenal - 26% chance of winning 1. Manchester United - 45% chance of winning Champions League 4. Paris Saint-Germain - 8% chance of winning 3. Chelsea - 17% chance of winning 2. Real Madrid - 20% chance of winning 1. Manchester City - 55% chance of winning Manchester conquering Europe Can you imagine the absolute scenes?! It would be staggering for Europe's top club competitions to be won by two Premier League clubs again, but especially when they're from the same city. It would seem so surreal seeing United and City lining up against each other in the UEFA Super Cup, but it's certainly something that we can get on board with. And truth be told, not that I'd be brave enough to argue with a complex data algorithm anyway, it's easy to see why the two Manchester clubs are being backed as favourites in each competition. Objectively speaking, I think it's pretty uncontroversial to name City as the best team in Europe right now and United are only really in the Europa League because their Champions League group was so brutal. I do think that PSG have been rather hard done by and you'd be mad to write off an Unai Emery side in the Europa League, but make no mistake that the Mancunians are set to take over Europe.
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Religion / Re: Meet Gbenga Alalade, Architect Behind Living Faith Ark (Photos) by Westerville: 11:27pm On Apr 15, 2021 |
HigherEd: Commendable |
Webmasters / Re: Factors To Consider Before Choosing A Website Name by Westerville: 6:06pm On Apr 15, 2021 |
Crime / Re: U.S Cop Fired For Pepper Spraying A Black US Army Lieutenant In Sickening Video by Westerville: 11:26am On Apr 13, 2021 |
Explorers: Pure racism |
Sports / Re: Pitch Invader Runs On Pitch In Granada Vs Manchester United Match (Photos) by Westerville: 2:57pm On Apr 09, 2021 |
mysportdab: Staking,,oyibo can stake for life |
Romance / Re: Why Do Females Celebrate Relationships And Marriage More? Opinion by Westerville: 12:52am On Apr 08, 2021 |
Sentientmind: Because of time, women have limited time to reproduce while men don't have. 4 Likes |
Politics / Re: Crush IPOB, ESN Members, IGP, Muhammed Adamu Orders by Westerville: 3:55pm On Apr 06, 2021 |
Downey: Just get prepared for heart attack today |
Politics / Re: Bello Matawalle: Youths Can Save Nigeria From Collapse by Westerville: 3:12pm On Apr 06, 2021 |
iwaeda: Youths can not save this current structure of Nigeria. What Nigeria need now is restructure,the foundation of this country is weak,even if we elect there, nothing will change. Nigeria solution is restructure or disintegrate,but restructure will favour us. |
Celebrities / Re: Photos From Sinach's 48th Birthday Party (Pictures) by Westerville: 8:55pm On Apr 05, 2021 |
Ekugbeh: Happy birthday Long Life And Prosperity my able choir mistress.May God bless your family |
Politics / Re: Abia Government Imposes Curfew In Aba And Umuahia Metropolis Between 10pm & 6am by Westerville: 5:42pm On Apr 05, 2021 |
Coronavirus84: If they want to deal,let them deal with the culprits not innocent people, 1 Like 1 Share |
Crime / Re: Imo: Gunmen Attack Njaba LG Secretariat, Burn Army Checkpoint by Westerville: 5:35pm On Apr 05, 2021 |
Yankee101: But when the army and police are extorting people from the same region is wiseness abi... sorry 2 Likes |
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