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Plateau: Over 70 killed in Kanam communities’ attack





https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/04/plateau-over-70-killed-in-kanam-communities-attack/

Chai. I could still remember the peaceful kanam while I served at Bankilong (Banki nkwudi) in those years. Nigeria, which way

Lalasticlala

Newborn27. Kindly reach out to me via WhatsApp with the number I posted earlier. Or you can probably expect a text message from me detailing how you can start with content writing.

Just be still and know that God's with you. It's an opportunity for a greater blessing. Gracias

It's not easy anywhere my sister but it can be easy if you push a little more. First, get away from that school. Don't resume with them,drop your resignation letter, dnt let them sack you. Don't be afriad to do this. Second, Do you write well, you might want to look into content writing as a side income.

Newborn27:
Compliment of the season to all nairaralanders.

It's not as if I can't live without bringing my stories on nairaraland but I just know that this forum is safer and I can get the necessary information, advise, scolding, counseling and way out of my dilemma from matured minds here.

I guess I don't have to introduce myself,my predicament and job since I already spread my dirty linen on here.... I'll just go straight to the point.

I'm still stuck here in my dilemma, shouldering responsibilities, life has not been easy on me but I kept pushing....so I thought within myself, this 30k teaching job can't pay all my bills (rent, school fees, feeding, daily upkeep etc) I felt there is a need to diversify my income to make ends meet.

My school had scheduled a career day program which came up on 9th of March...I met with my proprietress to please, permit me to sell the costume for the career day as people won't get easily here in Ore...she enquire if I know where to get them from and made me to promise it won't affect my class as a Teacher....I promised to do my best and not disappoint her.she obliged .

I got a loan of #150,000 from the school cooperative society where I'm a member and embarked on the journey to Lagos State (Idumota) to get the costume.

I got around 15pcs of different careers and brought it to school to show the pupils to inform their parents.

Like play ,like play, parents started coming to order in my class, I started traveling to Lagos every Saturday for 4weeks before the deal day..... within the weeks of selling the costume in school...I started learning some hidden facts about life which some of them are:

*Nobody wants to see you making progress
*Your closest pals might be your worse enemy
*No human being is perfect

The problem started from co-staff discouraging parents from patronizing my product, to the headmaster sending parents away from ordering in my class that he even almost beat me up....then finally to my boss.... She stopped parents telling Them not to bother buying as they can as well put on school uniform.

All their thoughts were, I'm making millions as the parents kept coming, meanwhile the expenses I'm paying were more than my gain... transportation cost, POS, etc...

I became enemy of everyone, I regretted ever taking this bold step, the gain is not there and my time and energy are soiled into this sales, as our bus always leave the park in Ore 2am and get to Idumota around 6am.


The last straw that broke the Camel's back was the week that preceeds the program, I promised myself not to ever take any orders again but some parents begged saying their kids won't allow them to rest if they fail to buy from me.... after much plea I obliged and called my customer in Idumota to order some costumes on Monday which the program was Wednesday, the management can't give me a day off work so I pleaded with her not to disappoint me.

I sent her the orders and paid #402,700 for the Monday orders.....I was shown what "trust no one" means when I opened the box Tuesday around 3am at the park.....this trusted customer of mine ruined the glory of all my efforts in the past 4weeks....she packaged nonsense for me as goods....I wept bitterly that night then summon courage to go to school.....the day of the occasion came I got to school before 7am and parents and pupils had been waiting for me.


I received the insults of my life and some even called me fraud, criminal....I tried persuading some of them that it wasn't my fault, it was what I ordered.....many angrily collected their money back on the spot while others promised to come back the next day....in all my pleading and persuading moments I watched my back and couldn't see a staff on my side.

I wept bitterly....all my years of working here came crashing in my presence , I became perplexed and highly embarrassed.


All the gain I ought to have,I returned to parents and my image became spoilt.


After the day, I wrote an apology letter to the management on the chaos and appreciated the the opportunity given to me to sell in the school.


Since that day, March 9th ,I became the center of everything in the school, things others will do and they'd overlooked ,the management will take mine up.....someone hinted me this Monday that my name is among the Teachers to be sacked at the end of the term.....


I might appear strong facially but this is killing me inside.
I'm unable to sleep since that 9th of March.

Where do I go from here? What should I do?
This is the only source of income I'm having... please familylanders come to my aid.


As I'm typing this,a parent just came to dump the costume on my table saying she wasn't around before and needed refund.

I am dying slowly from all this....the burden is much on me,

What should I do?


Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Then leave home foe the time being
Desperate times call for desperate action. Else this woman go serve you breakfast better be preparing psychologically for divorce.

Didi2d:


I no sabi keep malice my brother.

I did ask her, that's when the recent issue triggered. I called her some days back talk to her about her attitude. Then I told her to go think about everything I said.
Only for to call her after 3day, and she said she doesn't remember we had any discussion, that she has other important thing to think about. That really got me pissed

If you know how to keep malice very well, do as if she doesn't exist for at least one month. Only speak to your kids, go to work, come back home and then sleep. On no occasion should you eat her food or talk to her. Don't even greet. If she asks for things in the house, do it as a responsible husband. But don't ask her questions. Just ghost her.

Then watch for her behavior within this time span. If she doesn't change, ask her directly if she wants divorce. Tell her it's because youre tired of her behavior. A reasonable woman should be able to detect your behavioral change during this time and try to adjust, if not you're only living with a roommate not wife.

Op, I think it's the little money she's getting from her business that contributed to your woes. But she no try at all.

If you do this for one month and she doesn't change, chances are she wants out of the relationship, ask her, n give it to her if that's what she want. By the time she goes out there, she'll know that one with a husband has some sort of protection. Good luck. Cheers

Didi2d:
Early this year my wife started doing business and to our surprise the business picked up fast, sale was good.

The Idea for the business came up last year when my sister called my wife and asked her what would she like to do, since she was just a full time house wife and all responsibility was been taken care of by me and support from my sister.

My sister made this call because of the various quarrel and misunderstanding between me and my wife almost every time.
My wife is the kind of person that doesn't take advice and doesn't respect me, she fast to answer my questions with question, always ready to keep malice with me for as long as possible.

Yes, I saw all this bad attribute when we were dating, but I was forming loving and caring guy and still went ahead with the relationship. We'av been together now for 14 years now and I must say here that it has been hell for me, at times I almost want to beg for sex.
If I start mentioning everything here, you guys won't believe.

To cut the story short, now that the shop business is going well, her attitude is worse more than before. Anytime she goes to market and when she returns if I ask her what and what she bought, she will reply violently, that I should not be asking her. That, don't I have eyes., she talks to me violently in presence of her younger once
So I called her some day back, spoke to her that I don't like her attitude. That she should tell me if she wants to continue or not. After some days I call her, her reply was she didn't even remember we had any discussion. So I told her that her attitude shows she doesn't want to continue the relationship, that's where she started shouting that I should do whatever I want, I should go if I want, that she doesn't care.

N.B
The funny part is if she needs anything from the shop, she will ask me to buy for her.
Some days back I got back from work and immediately told me gas has finished. How of curiosity I asked why didn't she fill it, her response was (from which money)

I advice you personally seek God in place of prayers. Ask for forgiveness and confess all you've done. Break every unholy convenant you had with him. Lastly believe in the words of your prayers.

Who the Son sets free shall be free indeed. Go and sin no more

Giftlove11:
I was being blinded by love to the extent that my boyfriend and I took a blood covenant, that was about some years ago..

The truth is that I was so madly in love with him, and when he brought out the ideal, I thought that was the only way he will be mine forever. So I agreed with him, and we made the convenant.. We use needle to cut out blood from our thumb, and we made a vow never to live each other or make love with another person..

i've been discussing with him to end this convenant, but he always refuses. We took the convenant when i was 17yrs, and Its been 8years now, and i've loved only him. Even though i don't love him again, i'm afraid to have or make love with another person.
he say we can't end it and that we must mary each other.

I already found someone else i love, i'm planning to report him to the police or his parents if he dosn't give me a chance to go away..

*i don't kno if it will actually hurt me if i love another person.

i really want to go away from him

KillIgbohoN0W:
Afonja drug dealing criminal claiming 22 years old

Civility is far from you. Next time do due diligence before attacking other tribes.

Which way Naija