point of correction!!!! its not life that is unfair to women, its the society that's unfair. life is fair to both men and women.

That's what i dont understand... which hadith or Aayah says that marriage is half of your deen? i have been goin through books but i cudn't find it.

how comes there are no bible verses to back up your theories and your topic says Christianity and science?

Looking critically at the bolded, one will notice that the writer places emphasis on family elders' wisdom and guidance in making a success of the entire courtship process.

This is not very realistic in a society like Nigeria where quite often, children/young people are often more knowledgeable about Islam than their parents. Relying on parents/family elders for a choice of spouse might translate into selecting a not-so-good spouse in terms of Islam because factors such as social status, wealth, beauty and even "modernity" may be favoured whilst the degree of understanding and practice of Islam of the individual may not be considered at all in making such a decision.

one thing to note is that Islam is a perfect religion. so if it gives suggestions, then its for our own good. Parents know their children better than anybody else. so they can tell who the right person for their child can be. in terms of practicing islam, its only the person's close freinds can answer that. so by involving the parents, they can know which of the freinds/colleagues to ask and they can easily detect whether the friend is telling the truth or not because they have more experience about life than us. so i strongly agree that parents' involvement is very essential. i hope my point is clear enough. may Allah grant us guidance.

note: there's always a way out through patience and salaat. Allah the exhalted says " O you who believe! seek help through patience and salaat. indeed Allah is (always) with those that are patient." surah Al-Baqara C2:V153.