Opeyemiextra:


And your own specie is what?
Please.
You don't know the details about their relationship so stop!

Kobojunkie:
He is wrong though!

When Jesus Christ said, " by their fruits you shall know them..", He meant nothing about judging people by appearances so why would you consider Jesus Christ to have been wrong about how to know those who belong to Him from those who don't? I mean Jesus Christ instructed His followers never to judge others by appearances, commanding instead they judge others righteously - Matthew 7 vs 1 - 6 - and we know the standard of righteousness is Jesus Christ, God's own New Covenant agreement and Law in the Kingdom of God.

2. I don't need to "meditate deeply" about what Jesus Christ meant when He said, " by their fruits, you shall know them....". This is because the same Jesus Christ went further to explain that those who belong to Him are those who Trust and Obey His teachings and commandments - John 14 vs 15 - 25 - and in John 15 vs 14, Jesus Christ declared that those who are His friends are those who do as He asks insinuating that His.enemies, those who don't belong to Him, are those who don't do as He asks .i.e. those who refuse to obey His teachings and commandments.

3. The fruits Jesus Christ spoke of are fruits born of obedience of His teachings and commandments (good) and those born of disobedience of His teachings and commandments (sin). This is found right there in the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ - contained in the 4 gospels

4. Do you know that a sinner cannot feign to have God's kind of goodness? Pay attention to Jesus Christ's teachings on this to you...
It is impossible to fake God's righteousness. No sinner can do that.... that is what Jesus Christ is telling you in the passage above..

And the same Jesus Christ warned you against judging people by appearances in Matthew 7 vs 1 - 7. So obviously, anyone who judges by appearances produces fruits of disobedience and so is not himself of God.

Tloc:


Don't bother explaining much dude, the financial weight of running a home is now so heavy with bills coming from all angles. It takes a really heavy earner to pull his weight, contemporary rimes demand both couple to bring something to the table to enable the family live above waters. The man handling all the financials is a no no and might bring in a lot of disrespect to the other gender sooner than later.

Bonjovi13:
I'm sorry man. You are not ready to be a husband.
The first rule of a successful marriage is that you don't plan with your wife's money. A woman's money is her money. Your money is the family's money.

Have that mind set and don't let fear of being stressed or broke rule you.

Before a woman will trust you with her money,you must have earned that trust based on how well you take care of the family and being financially prudent and responsible.

You cannot just expect her to submit her money to the common purse when you have not proven yourself.
Besides look at the pressure you are putting on her even before you have married her. All those bills inside 80k. She has to even buy her clothes. LMAO!!!

Guy,chill out. Next time when you get into a serious relationship with a woman,let her see you being responsible and generous to her and then allow her to decide what she would do with her funds to help out. But never plan on her money or worse still suggest what she would bring.

princeeze1:
A woman who cannot finance about 25-30% of her home budget has no bussiness getting married, no matter how able her husband may be. A takes a little wind to bring down a great man. You were created to be a help meet. Helping him meet his goal. Family support from a woman is not an option item.

As for Op, the vacation budget was way off, from your budget 30k already gone for education/vacation. Atleast another 30k will supplement feeding as you pointed you would only buy major food items. So you expect 20k to cover her transportation, hair, cosmetics, airtime, clothing, sanitary etc in a month? Trimming that vacation to 5k pending an increase in her earnings should be a fair bargain. But all thesame, I love your planning!

Opeyemiextra:
This looks to me like a great deal but she would probably have her reasons.

Biggie2000:
Op, let her go jare. Go and find another woman that earns higher and is not tight-fisted. The moment you put her in your house, just know you're reducing your lifespan. You already said she's going about telling her friends you are stingy, just imagine what she will do/say, when you eventually put her in your house. Your girl should always be an asset to you, not a liability. A girl friend that is a liability, can never become a wife that is an asset.
I'm baffled that at this day in age, some girls still can't buy common recharge card or even make their own hair, without asking a man for money. Tufiakwa

Even if he made the plans without her, why didn't she negotiate? Why did she run?

Kobojunkie:
That is not true. Jesus Christ at least taught His followers to know those who belong to Him from those who don't. He said by their fruits, you shall know them.