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slawomir:Both you and he should go Bleep yourselves till eternity! |
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slawomir: Go hang yourself peasant! 4 Likes |
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Dear Nairalanders, A 2006 Honda Civic was advertised to me at N1.7m. From the pictures sent to me, the car looks clean but one might not know the hidden problems a second hand vehicle has till you take possession of it. Although I know all vehicles have their own problems if left unattended to especially if the owner is refusing to fix which in the long run it might generate to major problems. But I would like to know, what are the common problems of 2006 Honda Civic! Does the tyre detach itself from the body when making a turn, etc? What other common problems one should expect. Please help a brother before he makes a wrong decision |
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FROGMAN101:I was thinking of similar thing. That movie is scary |
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Why Some Relationships Are Toxic and Doomed From the Beginning Many relationships are doomed from the start due to a lack of empathy, understanding, and communication between both parties. Narcissists often have difficulty seeing the needs of their partners, while Empaths often struggle to maintain boundaries in order to protect themselves. This results in a toxic relationship where each individual feels drained and disrespected, leading to resentment and anger that can be difficult to move beyond. This can quickly lead to an unhealthy dynamic where both individuals feel taken advantage of and unable to come together as a team. Why a Relationship Between an Empath and a Narcissist is Toxic A relationship between an empath and a narcissist can be incredibly toxic. As the empath gets more in tune with the narcissist’s feelings, the narcissist takes advantage of it and exploits this connection for their own gain. This leaves the empath feeling depleted, unappreciated, and used. Furthermore, these relationships are often co-dependent, making it difficult for either party to walk away from them. The lack of balance between the two makes it increasingly easy for one or both parties to become resentful and angry toward each other, which can have long-term damaging effects on both mental and physical health. Opposites Attract, But the Results of Joining an Empath and a Narcissist Can Be Toxic – Here are 15 Reasons Why An Empath is Attracted to a Narcissistic Partner An Empath is often attracted to a Narcissistic partner due to the allure of their confidence and charisma. They are drawn in by their charm and how they make them feel seen, admired, and appreciated. However, this relationship can quickly become toxic as the Empath quickly realizes that the Narcissist is not able to offer authentic love or support. Efforts to “Fix” the Narcissist Fail No amount of effort can undo the damage of a toxic relationship where one partner is a narcissist. Attempts to convince narcissists of their need for empathy and understanding may fail, as they often lack insight into the reality of their words and actions. Any efforts to “fix” the situation may instead be met with aggressive behavior, manipulation, and further attention-seeking tactics in order to maintain control. Narcissists have difficulty seeing outside themselves, so attempting to help them change will rarely end in success. Manipulation Takes Over Narcissists have a tendency towards manipulation, using their charm and charisma to control and manipulate those close to them. They lack empathy and are unable to take accountability for their actions, meaning they will do whatever it takes to maintain power in the relationship. Self-Worth is Questioned The psychological effects of manipulation can be devastating, leading to feelings of worthlessness and insecurity. Victims may find themselves constantly questioning their own judgement, self-image and even identity as the narcissist’s toxic behavior chips away at their confidence. Submissive Behavior Follows Manipulation can lead to a cycle of submissiveness in relationships, as victims become conditioned to looking to their manipulator for approval. Over time, this sense of helplessness and powerlessness takes over, leaving victims feeling unable to stand up for themselves or take action against their abuser. Feelings of Being Drained of Energy Manipulation can have an insidious effect on a victim’s energy levels. Victims often report feeling drained, exhausted and overwhelmed from constantly trying to keep up with their abuser’s demands. This excessive mental and emotional labor saps victims of their strength, leading to feelings of powerlessness and despair. One-Sided Conversations Become Common One of the major hallmarks of manipulation is that conversations tend to become one-sided. The manipulator controls the conversation and limits the victim’s ability to get a word in edgewise. This forces victims into a cycle of silence, making it even harder for them to speak up and push back against their abuser’s attempts at control. Empath’s Thoughts and Feelings are Dismissed Empaths often find that their thoughts and feelings are ignored or dismissed by others. This can be extremely disempowering for the empath, leaving them feeling unheard, invalidated, and unheard. Manipulators in particular tend to use this tactic to undermine the empath’s sense of identity, thus allowing them to further control their victim. Lack of Support From the Narcissist Empaths in relationships with narcissists often find themselves without support or validation. The narcissist rarely understands the empath’s needs, instead expecting them to conform to their own beliefs and desires. They may also struggle to find comfort and understanding from others, as many people are not aware of the plight of empaths living with narcissists. Without a strong support system, empaths may be vulnerable to further emotional harm. Loneliness Sets In Living in a relationship without the support of a narcissist can be lonely. Often, empaths find themselves unable to find solace in the company of other people and instead become isolated. This sense of loneliness can lead to depression, anxiety, and fear, as the empath may feel that they are completely alone in their struggles. Lack of Trust Breeds Dissent The lack of trust between an empath and a narcissist can make it difficult for the empath to feel safe in the relationship. Without mutual trust, the empath may hesitate to express their thoughts and feelings, fearing that the narcissist will use them against them. This can lead to resentment and disagreement over even the smallest issues, further straining the relationship and creating more mistrust. Real Intimacy Requires Maturity Real intimacy requires both partners to be mature in the relationship and view it as something worth nurturing and protecting. It requires both people to take responsibility for their own feelings and actions, as well as exhibit understanding, respect, and consideration for the other person. In a relationship between an empath and a narcissist, this level of maturity can be difficult to achieve, but if done so will ultimately bring the two closer together. Guilt May be Experienced by Both Partners When an empath and a narcissist are involved in a relationship, both partners may experience guilt. The empath may feel guilty for not being able to meet the narcissist’s needs or expectations, while the narcissist can feel guilty for the lack of empathy given to the empath. Guilt creates an emotional barrier between two people that can be difficult to overcome and can lead to further conflict if not addressed and discussed openly. • don’t need another person’s validation or love to be happy. • Practice self-care in whatever form works best for you – whether it’s journaling, meditating, or taking time away from social media. • Talk about what happened and learn how to express your feelings in healthy ways. Talking with a therapist can also be helpful in processing difficult emotions. • Create boundaries with the narcissist and limit contact as much as possible – even if it is hard at first – so that you don’t fall back into unhealthy patterns of behavior. • Find new activities and hobbies that bring you joy and help you cultivate healthy relationships with people who make you feel safe and valued Are you tired of being in a relationship with someone who is selfish and always puts themselves first? You're not alone. Narcissistic abuse is more common than you think, but it's also difficult to recognize. That's why we're here to help. We'll send you awesome articles that will help you identify narcissistic abuse, and provide tips on how to save yourself from it. You deserve to be in a healthy, happy relationship where you come first. Sign up now and start receiving our helpful articles today. You'll be glad you did. https://beautyhealthpage.com/15-things-that-happen-when-the-empath-falls-in-love-with-a-narcissist/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Social&utm_campaign=iheart |
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Have you ever wondered why girls especially will always accept to be ' Apakolyzed by their 'EX'?? Have you ever wondered why married men and women still can not resist that one guy they dated far back in the uni?? Ladies and GentleBabes, i bring you... Okafor's Law of Congodynamics C 1 P = C ∞ It states that once a Congo has been shined once (C 1 ) , it can always be shined (C ∞ ), provided it was shined properly ( P) the previous times(emphasis on properly). In other words, "....a woman once knacked, can be reknacked..." Just like we say, "water finds its level" Which is not exactly how Achimedes narrated his contemplation, of all things floatation. In scientific circles, opinion is divided as to whether it is actually a law or just a hypothesis. There is a large body of evidence to suggest that it is a law but there are others who think it is merely a hypothesis and does not take into account other variables such as M (marital status), O(opportunity) and F (Financial status) of either one or both of the parties. In lay-mans term, what the above jargons simply mean is that. A hole once drilled, drilled properly even when closed up, can always be found and can be drilled forever' if u have been involved with a girl for a period of time and did a good job in and out of the bedroom (mostly in..), the belief is that u can always go to the girl at any given time and sleep with her again no matter what situation arises (breakups, different lover, etc..) Now, who believes this to be true? 1 Share
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naijacarlovers: 1. Did Joshua and the Israelites capture Jerusalem? (a) Yes (Joshua 10:23, 40). (b) No (Joshua 15:63). 2. Who was the father of Joseph, husband of Mary? (a) Jacob (Matthew 1:16). (b) Heli (Luke 3:23). 3. Jesus descended from which son of David? (a) Solomon (Matthew 1:6). (b) Nathan (Luke 3:31). 4. Would Jesus inherit David's throne? (a) Yes. So said the angel (Luke 1:32). (b) No, since he is a descendant of Jehoiakim (see Matthew 1:11, 1 Chronicles 3:16). And Jehoiakim was cursed by God so that none of his descendants can sit upon David's throne (Jeremiah 36:30). 5. Jesus rode into Jerusalem on how many animals? (a) One - a colt (Mark 11:7; cf. Luke 19:35). And they brought the colt to Jesus and threw their garments on it; and he sat upon it." (b) Two - a colt and an ass (Matthew 21:7). They brought the ass and the colt and put their garments on them and he sat thereon." 1 Like |
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jonathanOz:Beef |
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DikSin:Even Jesus was buried the same day he died according to the teaching of the Christianity 1 Like |
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Dandeson1:And if he had just reported this without picture attached, you will be the first to shout #pictureoridontbelieveit At least appreciate the fact that he took the risk in backing his story with a photo 1 Like 1 Share |
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CORTANA:He voted for GMB 3 Likes 1 Share |
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This photo has a clear date, time and you can see the new colour coded INEC ballot papers on a open field. According to the source, this is "open thumb printing inside police station in Gokana" in Rivers. INEC said they had already received petition on the madness that took place in Rivers State in the name of election on Saturday and that there are many reports of "alleged malpractices". So, watch out! source: http://www.olufamous.com/2015/03/see-how-pdp-rigged-election-in-rivers.html?m=1
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bros1234:Please what part of Kaduna PDP is gaining...Last time I checked, APC is whooping PDP here... please don't let your friend deceive you! APC is winning in Kd 1 Like |
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Abeg o.... I was never on this thread at all! |
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Despite the Ekiti State Governor, Ayodele Fayose, and the Minister of Police Affairs, Adesiyan Jelili – two of the characters in the Ekiti rigging audio recording – admitting the authenticity of the recording, President Goodluck Jonathan has described the tape as a fabrication that is not worth his attention. In an interview with the Wall Street Journal, last Friday, Mr. Jonathan said he was not going to investigate the authenticity of the audiotape describing it as a “fabrication.” “It’s all fabrications. Why should I investigate things that are not real?” he asked. It is not clear how Mr. Jonathan determined the tape was not real without conducting an investigation. Guardian Consulting, The New York-based security firm that helped analyse the voices of the characters in the leaked recording, said it conducted a forensic examination on the discussion and compared the voices to public record samples of the known individuals. “The voices from the recording were subjected to a Forensic Voice Frequency Comparison against known samples and were found to match to a 98 per cent degree of certainty,” the firm said. But rather than order his own investigation into the scandal, Mr. Jonathan has dismissed the tape, labelling it a fabrication the same way he, without investigation, hurriedly absolved the Movement for Emancipation of the Niger Delta of complicity in the October 1, 2010 bombing that killed many and injured several others. He was later to blame the same MEND for the incident, saying the group wanted to kill him. An intelligence officer, Sagir Koli, a Captain in the Nigerian Army, recorded the audio of a meeting between his superior, Aliyu Momoh, a Brigadier General; former Minister of State for Defence, Musliu Obanikoro; Mr. Fayose and Mr. Adesiyan where strategies for rigging the 2014 Ekiti State gubernatorial election were discussed. While Mr. Obanikoro has denied taking part in that meeting and threatened to sue PREMIUM TIMES and Sahara Reporters for their relentless reporting of the issue, Mr. Adesiyan confessed that the recording was genuine but that it was more of an altercation between Mr. Fayose and Mr. Momoh after the former accused the later of being bribed by the then governor of the state, Kayode Fayemi. “Fayose accused the General who supervised the Ekiti election of taking bribe from Fayemi and APC, that was two days before the election. They called me because they said the General disarmed policemen and I told him to allow the policemen to do their job,” he told the Sunday Punch newspaper. “I was there, Fayose was there, Otunba Omisore was there, Senator Obanikoro was there. I am not denying that there was a conversation but it was not what they are saying. “Nigerians are not dummies. These people are mischievous; somebody recorded the scene but let everybody listen to it. Listen to it yourself and get back to me,” Mr. Adesiyan said. After initially claiming his voice was manipulated using speech software such as Natural Voices, Mr. Fayose later admitted during a political event in Ekiti that it was his voice that was captured in the tape but claimed he was rebuking Mr. Momoh for favouring the All Progressives Congress. “If you listen to the tape about military rigging in Ekiti. Listen to the tape you will see that I was the one accusing the army of compromise. Listen, take time to listen. But they would come back with propaganda and saying it all as if the whole world of propaganda belongs to them,” he said. President Jonathan, however, insists the tape is not real and has even proceeded to nominate Mr. Obanikoro, a principal character in the election rigging scandal, for ministerial appointment http://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/177009-without-investigation-and-despite-admissions-by-fayose-adesiyan-jonathan-says-ekiti-rigging-tape-fabricated.html |
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If u have broom anywhere in your house, then you are APC supporter |
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chymystique:He is two steps above Jonathan! |
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He won't stop! He can't stop now.... The very moment a man lift his hand and slap or hit a woman, trust me, no going back. He will hit u more,cry hard,apologise and still hit u again.. It's going to be a circle thing......, hit u-cry and apologise-then hit u.. One word: RUN 2 Likes |
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Just vote 4 Buhari and every will be fine |
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Most of them are Nairalanders! |
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SeunEatsGARRI:hahaha... I love ur profile name... no let Seun ban u ooo 1 Like |
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waternogetenemy:And GEJ was worse wen he "had no shoes" and u voted 4 him! Now tell me son,how many shoes does he have now? 1 Like |
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waternogetenemy:And GEJ was worse wen he "had no shoes" and u voted 4 him! Now tell me son,how many shoes does he have? 7 Likes |
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MANCHESTER UNITED will have to pay Real Madrid €1BN to re-sign Cristiano Ronaldo. Jorge Mendes has told Manchester United they will have to shell out €1billion to re-sign Cristiano Ronaldo [GETTY] That's according to his agent Jorge Mendes, who revealed his client's staggering release clause in a recent interview with Spanish newspaper AS. The Red Devils have been repeatedly linked with a move to re-sign the 29-year-old this summer, and several reports have suggested that Louis van Gaal is eager to add the Portugal star to his squad. But Mendes has insisted that his client won't be moving back to Old Trafford, and claimed that United would have to shell out €1bn (£800m) if they want to re-sign the Madrid star. He said: "In addition to being the best footballer in history, he is the greatest athlete of all time. “The price that is stated in his release clause – €1bn” Jorge Mendes "You cannot compare him with anyone. "He is the best player in the biggest sport in the world, in which there is more competition than in any other. For that reason, he is the best sportsman in the world." "The price that is stated in his release clause – €1bn." http://www.dailystar.co.uk/sport/football/404545/Man-Utd-must-pay-1BILLION-to-sign-Cristiano-Ronaldo
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Adyrin:Please learn to grow up... we don't need this space 1 Like |
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Post Match TV Interview .. Q : Arsene what did you make of that Tussle with Jose on the touchline ? A : I don't know .. I did not see it . I will have to watch the replay of the incident and then comment . 2 Likes |
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Incest laws could be scrapped in Germany after the government's ethics council said sex between brothers and sisters should be legal and is a 'fundamental right'. The council recommended that the right of 'adult siblings to sexual self-determination' was more important then the 'abstract idea of protection of the family'. It comes after the case of Patrick Stuebing, who was jailed for more than three years after having four children - two of which are disabled - with his sister Susan Karolewski. The German Ethics Council has suggested that sex between brothers and sisters should be legalised Stuebing was put up for adoption as a toddler and only met his sister when he was 24 and she was 16. He was imprisoned for incest in 2008. He made an unsuccessful appeal to the European Court of Human Rights in 2012 over his right to a family life - as he and Ms Karolewski were split up and three of their children were taken into care. The youngest was allowed to remain with Ms Karolewski. The German Ethics Council said in a statement that 'criminal law is not the appropriate means to preserve a social taboo', adding that the risk of disability to children is enough to warrant incest being illegal. the suggestion of decriminalising incest comes after the case of Patrick Stuebing, who was jailed for more than three years after having four children - two of which are disabled - with his sister Susan Karolewski 'Neither the consequences for the family nor the possibility for descendants from such incestuous relationships can justify a ban under criminal law,' it said. 'Incest between siblings appears to be very rare in Western societies according to the available data but those affected describe how difficult their situation is in light of the threat of punishment. THE INCESTUOUS RELATIONSHIP WHICH COULD CHANGE THE LAW Patrick Stuebing, born in Leipzig, Germany in 1977, was fostered at the age of three after being attacked with a knife by his alcoholic father, and did not meet his mother or sister again until he was 23. He says his relationship with Susan Karolewski became incestuous six months after their mother died from a heart attack in 2001, and Ms Karolewski gave birth to their first child in October of that year, when she was 16. Two of their children have severe mental and physical disabilities, and another has a heart condition which required a transplant. Stuebing was sentenced to 10 moths in prison after his second incest conviction, and then a further two and a half years for his third conviction. 'They feel their fundamental freedoms have been violated and are forced into secrecy or to deny their love. 'The Ethics Council has been told of cases where half-siblings did not grow up together and have only met in their adult lives,' The Independent reported it saying. Despite saying that sex between brothers and sisters should be made legal, the council recommended that sex between parents and children should remain against the law. It is believed that incest increases the risk of children being born with disabilities, but the Ethics Council dismissed this as an argument for it being illegal, saying that couples with genetic defects are not banned from having children. However, Chancellor Angela Merkel's CDU party have been quick to push away the idea of legalising incest. Spokeswoman Elisabeth Winkelmeier-Becker said that it would give out the wrong signal, telling Deutsche Welle: 'Abolishing criminal punishment against incestuous actions within a family would go completely against protecting the undisturbed development of children.' Around two to four per cent of Germans have had 'incestuous experiences', according to an estimate by the Max Planck Institute reported by The Telegraph. Incest is illegal in the UK and most of Europe, though sex between consenting adults who are related is legal in France, Spain, Portugal, Belgium, Luxembourg and The Netherlands. http://www.caribbeanfevercommunity.com/m/blogpost?id=2663233%3ABlogPost%3A1642388 |
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Cameroonian soldiers have captured Abakar Ali, one of the top commanders of insurgent fighters belonging to the Islamist group, Boko Haram. According to our reliable source, the Cameroonian army also seized a huge cache of arms and ammunition from the Islamist militants during the operation. http://saharareporters.com/2014/09/26/cameroonian-military-capture-boko-haram’s-top-commander-abakar-ali 7 Likes 4 Shares
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It was Dalhatu Tafida, the Nigerian High Commissioner to the United Kingdom, who first let the world into the working of the president’s mind. At a press conference in Abuja in late 2010, a day ahead of President Goodluck Jonathan’s formal declaration to run in the 2011 presidential election, Mr. Tafida, then Director General of the Jonathan/Sambo campaign organisation, said the president won’t seek another term in 2015. The president, he said, would be available for only a single term if elected. “The President wants to run for one term…Let us give him the four years and see how he performs,” Mr. Tafida implored, in what now seems a campaign gimmick. That explanation sounded logical at the time following the subsisting power rotation formula between the North and the South of Nigeria. Ex-President Olusegun Obasanjo, a southerner of Yoruba extraction, was in office for eight years. The late President Umaru Yar’Adua’s, a northerner, was therefore expected to take the north’s eight-year turn. But death suddenly struck, foisting Mr. Jonathan, who was Mr. Yar’Adua’s deputy, on the nation. So, when Mr. Talfida spoke, the president didn’t deny or fault his arguments. Rather he reinforced them in his actions and speeches. Although he denied knowledge of the power rotation arrangement, he was unambiguous about his future. Addressing Nigerians in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, where he attended an African Union Summit, the president regretted they would not vote on April 9, 2011, in a poll that was to return him for a fresh term. “I would have loved that Nigerians in the Diaspora vote this year. But to be frank with you that is going to be difficult now,” he said on January 31, 2011,before striking home his point. “Nigerians in the Diaspora will not vote, but I will work towards it by 2015, even though I will not be running for election.” The presidency’s denial on Sunday that he has made no commitment to anyone not to run again has shocked many watchers of Nigerian politics with some describing Mr. Jonathan as a shameless liar. The denial has also triggered debate on whether Mr. Jonathan’s tenure will, or not transcend 2015. In a reaction to Niger state governor, Babangida Aliyu’s claim that the president endorsed a pact with the governors to exit in 2015, and former presidential adviser on political matters, Ahmed Gulak, said the claim was “frivolous” and a figment of the governor’s imagination. “The alleged agreement only exists in the figment of the imagination of somebody with presidential ambition,” Mr. Gulak said, referring to Mr. Aliyu’s own ambition to succeed the president in 2015. The president himself has yet to personally speak on the subject. But that is not surprising as that is a well known Aso Rock’s tactic where the president pushes aides to express his position on issues. At times, when a sentiment expressed by an aide gets controversial, the president pushes back, disowning such a remark. Still, Mr. Gulak’s response on the president’s behalf seems deliberate. For a potentially stormy subject, the president, through his political mouthpiece, Mr. Gulak, needed to have made it clear he signed no agreement if indeed he didn’t. But he should also have explained if he had changed his mind about running again. He said it himself he won’t run in 2015. At a time the presidency is being criticised over the disgraceful admittance of lying to the public about the health of the First Lady, it faces even greater condemnation should it continue to deny that the President didn’t tell the world he won’t run in 2015. Nigerians seem to respect the president’s right to seek re-election. The concerns have been more about whether Mr. Jonathan once pledged to run for only a single term ending 2015. The president’s remarks in Ethiopia, probably alongside others, provides a response to that concern. The president indeed said so. A denial today would be ungentlemanly and unpresidential. Ahead of that famous Ethiopian speech, the resolution of a meeting of 18 governors and two deputy governors provided a much-needed weight at the time for the president’s ambition, with a statement backing Mr. Jonathan for one term. Governor Aliyu’s claim probably derived from the outcome of that meeting. Also, after the president’s declaration in Addis Ababa, former president, Olusegun Obasanjo, warmed up to that position on March 26, 2011. Speaking in Abuja during the grand finale of the Jonathan/ Sambo ticket, Mr. Obasanjo praised the president for agreeing to stand for only a term and urged Nigerians to give him that one chance. Mr. Jonathan was in the audience the ex-President addressed and he nodded in agreement to Mr. Obasanjo’s remark. Mr. Jonathan should resist the temptation to be blinded by ambition. He should be a man of his words. He should not run again - See more at: https://www.premiumtimesng.com/opinion/120981-editorial-jonathan-personally-promised-not-to-run-in-2015-a-denial-today-is-barefaced-lie.html#sthash.WigF4nEg.dpuf 1 Like |
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tit: This is how northern governors spend their state allocations and impoverish their people.Source please? |
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Busybody Reno Omokri aka beef was among Id!ot |
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There are certain times dua (supplication) is more likely to be accepted by Allah (SWT) as mentioned by Prophet (SAW). These times are as follows: 1. The Last Third Of The Night Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: 'In the last third of every night our Rabb (Cherisher and Sustainer) (Allah (SWT)) descends to the lowermost heaven and says; "Who is calling Me, so that I may answer him? Who is asking Me so that may I grant him? Who is seeking forgiveness from Me so that I may forgive him?."' [Sahih al-Bukhari, Hadith Qudsi] Amr ibn Absah narrated that the Prophet said: 'The closest any worshipper can be to His Lord is during the last part of the night, so if you can be amongst those who remember Allah at that time, then do so.'[at-Tirmidhi, an-Nasa'i, al-Hakim - Sahih] 2. Late at night When people are sleeping and busy with worldly pleasures Allah (SWT) gives the believers an opportunity, or an answer hour if they can fight sleep and invoke Allah (SWT) for whatever they need. The Prophet (SAW) said: 'There is at night an hour, no Muslim happens to be asking Allah any matter of this world or the Hereafter, except that he will be given it, and this (occurs) every night.' [Muslim #757] 3. Between Adhan and Iqamah Anas (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: 'A supplication made between the Adhan and Iqama is not rejected.' [Ahmad, abu Dawud #521, at-Tirmidhi #212, Sahih al-Jami #3408, an-Nasai and Ibn Hibban graded it sahih (sound)] 4. An Hour On Friday Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA): Allah’s Messenger (SAW) talked about Friday and said: 'There is an hour on Friday and if a Muslim gets it while offering Salat (prayer) and asks something from Allah (SWT), then Allah (SWT) will definitely meet his demand.' And he (the Prophet (SAW) pointed out the shortness of that particular time with his hands.[Sahih al-Bukhari] Some have said that this hour is from the time the Imam (prayer’s leader) enters the mosque on Friday’s prayer until the prayer is over (ie between the two khutbahs), whereas others have said that it is the last hour of the day (ie after the Asr prayer until the Maghrib prayer). 5. While Drinking Zamzam Water Jaber (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: 'Zamzam water is for what it is drunk for.' [Ahmad 3: 357 and Ibn Majah #3062]. This means that when you drink Zamzam water you may ask Allah (SWT) for anything you like to gain or benefit from this water such as healing from illness.... etc. 6. While Prostrating Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW), said: 'The nearest a slave can be to his Lord is when he is prostrating, so invoke (supplicate) Allah (SWT) much in it. [Muslim, abu Dawud, an-Nasa'i and others, Sahih al-Jami #1175] When a Muslim is in his Salat (prayer) he is facing Allah (SWT) and when he prostrates he is the nearest he can be to Allah (SWT) so it is best to invoke Allah (SWT) at this time. It is said that while in prostration, one should not ask for worldy needs (ie a nice car, a new job, etc), but for the Hereafter. 7. When Waking Up at Night Narrated Ubada Bin As-Samit that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: 'Whomever wakes up at night and says La ilaha illallahu wahdahu la shrika lahu lahulmulku, wa lahul hamdu, wa huwa ala kulli shai'in qadir. Alhamdu lillahi, wa subhanallahi wa la ilaha illallahu, wallah akbir, wa la hawla wala quwata illa billah (none has the right to be worshipped but Allah (SWT) He is the only one who has no partners. His is the kingdom and all the praises are for Allah (SWT) All the glories are for Allah (SWT) And none has the right to be worshipped but Allah (SWT) and Allah (SWT) is the most Great and there is neither might nor power except with Allah (SWT) and then says, Allahumma ighfir li (O Allah! Forgive me) or invokes Allah (SWT), he will be responded to and if he makes ablution and performs Salat (prayer), his Salat (prayer) will be accepted. [Sahih al-Bukhari] 8. At The End Of The Obligatory Salat: Narrated Abu Omamah (RA): that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) was asked, O Messenger of Allah, which supplication is heard (by Allah (SWT), he said the end of the night and at the end of the obligatory Salat (prayer) [at-Tirmidhi]. This time is after saying 'At-tahyat' , and before making Tasleem (finishing prayer) 9. The Night Of 'Qadr' (Decree) This night is the greatest night of the year. This is the night which the almighty Allah (SWT) said about it, "The night of Al-Qadar (Decree) is better than a thousand months." [Surah al-Qadr, 97: 3] The Night of Decree is one of the odd nights of the last ten nights of the blessed month of Ramadan. The angels descend down to the earth, and the earth is overwhelmed with peace and serenity until the break of dawn and when he doors of Paradise are opened, the worshipper is encouraged to turn to Allah to ask for his needs for this world and the Hereafter. 10. During The Rain Narrated Sahel Ibn Sa'ad (RA): that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'Two will not be rejected, Supplication when the Adhan (call of prayer) is being called, and at the time of the rain'. [Al-Hakim 2: 114, and Abu Dawud #2540, ibn Majah] 'Seek the response to your du'as when the armies meet, and the prayer is called, and when rain falls' [reported by Imam al-Shafi' in al-Umm, al-Sahihah #1469]. The time of the rain is a time of mercy from Allah (SWT) so, one should take advantage of this time when Allah (SWT) is having mercy on His slaves. 11. At the Adhan 'Seek the response to your du'as when the armies meet, and the prayer is called, and when rain falls' [reported by Imam al-Shafi' in al-Umm, al-Sahihah #1469] In another hadith; 'When the prayer is called, the doors of the skies are opened, and the du'a is answered' [al-Tayalisi in his Musnad #2106, al-Sahihah #1413] 12. The One Who Is Suffering Injustice and Opression The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said to Mua'ad Ibn Jabal (RA), 'Beware of the supplication of the unjustly treated, because there is no shelter or veil between it (the supplication of the one who is suffering injustice) and Allah (SWT)' [Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim] The prophet (SAW) declared, 'Three men whose dua is never rejected (by Allah) are: the fasting person until he breaks his fast (in another narration, when he breaks fast), the just ruler and the one who is oppressed.'[Ahmad, at-Tirmidhi - Hasan] In another hadith; The Prophet (SAW) declared: 'Three du'as are surely answered: The du'a of the oppressed, the du'a of the traveler, and the du'a of the father/mother (upon their child)'. The One who is suffering injustice is heard by Allah (SWT) when he invokes Allah (SWT) to retain his rights from the unjust one or oppressor. Allah (SWT) has sworn to help the one who is suffering from injustice sooner or later as the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said. 13. The Traveler The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said; Three supplications will not be rejected (by Allah (SWT)), the supplication of the parent for his child, the supplication of the one who is fasting, and the supplication of the traveler. [al-Bayhaqi, at-Tirmidhi - Sahih] During travel supplication is heard by Allah (SWT) if the trip is for a good reason, but if the trip is for a bad intention or to perform illegal things (making sins) this will not apply to it. 14. The Parent's Supplication for their Child The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said; Three supplications will not be rejected (by Allah (SWT)), the supplication of the parent for his child, the supplication of the one who is fasting, and the supplication of the traveler. [al-Bayhaqi, at-Tirmidhi - Sahih] 15. Dua after praising Allah and giving salat on the Prophet (SAW) in the tashahhud at the end of salat. Narrated Faddalah ibn Ubayd (RA): that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'When anyone of you makes du'a, let him start by glorifying his Lord and praising Him, then let him send blessings upon the Prophet (SAW), then let him pray for whatever he wants' [abu Dawud #1481, at-Tirmidhi #3477] In another hadith; Baqiy ibn Mukhallid (RA) narrated that that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'Every du'a is not responded to until one sends blessings upon the Prophet (SAW)' [al-Bayhaqi] In another hadith; Umar (RA) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said: 'Du'a is detained between the heavens and the earth and no part of it is taken up until you send blessings upon your Prophet (SAW)' [at-Tirmidhi #486] After a person has finished his tashahhud and before saying the 'salam', supplication at this time is one likely to be responded to. Ibn Mas'ud narrates: I was once praying, and the Prophet (SAW), Abu Bakr and Umar (were all present). When I sat down (in the final tashahhud), I praised Allah, then sent salams on the Prophet, then started praying for myself. At this, the Prophet (SAW) said: 'Ask, and you shall be given it! Ask, and you shall be given it!' [at-Tirmidhi #593 - hasan, Mishkat al-Misbah #931] 16. The dua of a Muslim for his absent brother or sister Muslim stemming from the heart. The prophet (SAW) said: 'There is no believing servant who supplicates for his brother in his absence where the angels do not say, 'the same be for you'' [Muslim] 17. Dua on the Day of Arafat The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'The best supplication is the supplication on the day of Arafat'. [at-Tirmidhi and Malik] The day of Arafat is the essence and pinnacle of Hajj. On this great and momentous day, millions of worshippers gather together on one plain, from every corner of the world, with only one purpose in mind - to respone to the call of their Creator. During this auspicious day, Allah does not refuse the requests of His worshippers. 18. Dua during the month of Ramadan Ramadan is month full of many blessings, thus the du'a of Ramadan is a blessed one. This can be inferred from the Prophet (SAW) saying: 'When Ramadan comes, the Doors of Mercy (another narration says Paradise) are opened, and the doors of Hell are closed, and the Shaitans are locked up' Thus, it is clear that du'a during Ramadan has a greater chance of being accepted, as the Gates of Paradise and Mercy are opened. [Sahih al-Bukhari #1899, Muslim #1079 and others] 19. Dua when the Armies meet When the Muslim is facing the enemy in battle, at this critical period, the du'a of a worshipper is accepted. Sahl ibn Sa'd (RA) narrtaed the the Prophet (SAW) said: 'Two duas are never rejected, or rarely rejected: the du'a during the call for prayer, and the du'a during the clamity when the two armies attack each other' [Abu Dawud #2540, ibn Majah, al-Hakim] 20. When Muslims gather for the purpose of invoking and remembering Allah (Dhikrullah). The Prophet (SAW) said: If a group of people sit together remembering Allah, the angels will circle them, mercy will shroud them, peace will descend onto them and Allah will remember them among those with Him. [Muslim] 21. First Ten days of Dhul-Hijjah The Prophet (SAW) said: 'There are no days during which good deeds are more beloved to Allah than during these ten days' [Sahih al-Bukhai #969 and others] 22. Dua when the heart reaches out to Allah and is ready to be totally sincere 23. At Midnight Abu Umamah (RA) said, the Prophet (SAW) was questioned; 'Which du'a is heard (by Allah)?' He answered, 'At midnight and at the end of every obligatory prayer.' [at-Tirmidhi - Hasan] 25. Dua of people after the death of a person In a long hadith, Umm Salamah (RA) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said, when Abu Salamah had just passed away, and had closed his eyes, 'Do not ask for yourselves anything but good, for the angels will say 'Ameen' to all that you ask for. O Allah, forgive Abu Salamah, and raise his ranks among those who are guided.' [Muslim, abu Dawud, Ahmad] 26. Dua of the one fasting until he breaks his fast. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said; Three supplications will not be rejected (by Allah (SWT)), the supplication of the parent for his child, the supplication of the one who is fasting, and the supplication of the traveler. [al-Bayhaqi, at-Tirmidhi - Sahih] 27. Dua of the one fasting at the time of breaking fast The prophet (SAW) declared, 'Three men whose dua is never rejected (by Allah) are: when a fasting person breaks fast (in another narration, the fasting person until he breaks his fast), the just ruler and the one who is oppressed.'[Ahmad, at-Tirmidhi - Hasan] 29. Dua of a just Ruler The prophet (SAW) declared, 'Three men whose dua is never rejected (by Allah) are: the fasting person until he breaks his fast (in another narration, when he breaks fast), the just ruler and the one who is oppressed.'[Ahmad, at-Tirmidhi - Hasan] 30. Dua of a son or daughter obedient to his or her parents It is well known in the story narrated in hadith os three men who were trapped by a huge stone in a cave. One of them who was kind to kis parents asked Allah to remove the stone, and his du'a was answered. [Sahih al-Bukhari 3:36 #472] 31. Dua immediately after wudu Umar ibn Al-Khattab reported that the Prophet (SAW) said: 'There is not one of you that makes wudu, and does it perfectly, then says: I testify that there is no diety worthy of worship except Allah. he is Alone, having no partners. And I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and messenger', except that the eight gates of Paradise are opened for him, and he can enter into it through whichever one he pleases' [Muslim #234, abu Dawud #162, Ahmad, an-Nasa'i] Saying what has been mentioned in the hadith that is directly related to it (ablution) 32. Dua after stoning the Jamarat at Hajj The stoning of the small Shaitan (jamrat sugra), or the middle Shaitan (jamrat wusta) pillars during Hajj. It is narrated that the Prophet (SAW) would stone the small Jamarah (one of the three pillars that is stoned in the last days of Hajj), then face the qiblah, raise his hands, and make du'a for a long time. He would then stone the middle Jamarah and do the same. When he stoned the large Jamarah, he would depart without making any du'a. [Sahih al-Bukhari #1753 and others] 33. At the Crowing of a Rooster Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said: 'When you hear a rooster crowing, then ask Allah for His bounties, for it has seen an angel, and when you hear a donkey braying, then seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan, for it has seen a Shaitan' [Sahih al-Bukhari, Muslim, Ahmad, Sahih al-Jami #611] 34. Du'a made inside the Ka'bah The Ka'bah is a sanctuary that has no comparison in the entire world. The du'a of one who prays inside the hijr is considered as being made inside the ka'bah, as it is part of the house (Baitullah). [This is the semicircle to the right of the Ka'bah if you face the door, opposite to the Yemeni corner and the Black stone wall.] Usamah ibn Zayd narrated, 'When the Prophet (SAW) entered the House (Ka'bah), he made du'a in all of its corners [Muslim 2: 968 and others] 35. Du'a on the mount of Safa or Marwah during Umrah or Hajj It is narrated that the Prophet (SAW) would make long du'as at Safa and Marwah. [Muslim #1218 and others] 36. Dua at any of the holy sites. 37. While reciting Surah al-Fatihah The Prophet (SAW) said that Allah the Exalted had said: ' I have divided the prayer into two halves between Me and My servant, and My servant will receive what he asks for. When the servant says: Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the universe, Allah the Most High says: My servant has praised Me. And when he (the servant) says: The Most Compassionate, the Merciful, Allah the Most High says: My servant has lauded Me. When he (the servant) says: Master of the Day of Judgment, He remarks: My servant has glorified Me, and sometimes He will say: My servant entrusted (his affairs) to Me. When he (the worshipper) says: Thee do we worship and of Thee do we ask help, He (Allah) says: This is between Me and My servant, and My servant will receive what he asks for. Then, when he (the worshipper) says: Guide us to the straight path, the path of those to whom Thou hast been Gracious -- not of those who have incurred Thy displeasure, nor of those who have gone astray, He (Allah) says: This is for My servant, and My servant will receive what he asks for. [Muslim 4: 395] 38. Saying 'Ameen' during prayer After finishing the recitation of al-Fatihah, the saying of'Ameen' in congregation. The Prophet (SAW) said: 'When the Imam says 'Ameen', then recite it behind him (as well), because whoever's Ameen coincides with the Ameen of the angels will have all of his sins forgiven.' [Sahih al-Bukhari #780, Muslim #410 and others] 39. While visiting the sick, and dua made by the sick Umm Salamah narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said: 'When you visit the sick, or the dead then say good, because the angels say 'Ameen' to whatever you say [Muslim #2126] Ali (RA) reported that the Prophet (SAW) said: 'When a Muslim visits his sick Muslim brother in the morning, seventy thousand angels make dua for his forgiveness till the evening. And when he visits him in the evening, seventy thousand angels make dua for his forgiveness till the morning, and he will be granted a garden for it in Jannah.' [at-Tirmidhi, abu Dawud] Source:- http://www.islamawareness.net/Dua/best.html 31 Likes 1 Share |
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