Something happened in this December that shook my entire being.

We have this guy that has been barbing my son's hair for over a year now. He does home service for us. But this particular weekend, he could not come. He said he was extra busy and if the barbing was that expedient, I should bring Simon to his shop. I didn't have any other alternative, so we went. He was busy when I got there, two more people were on queue as well, so I had to drop my son with his aunt there.

When I got back there to pick them up, I could not recognise my son. He had given him a new look. He barbed off the whole hair. The whole effing hair. I was stunned, no angry...No I was mad. Is mad even the right word? I was on the loose. Both vocally and facially. This is the same guy that has been barbing my boy for years. How could he have forgotten his trademark cut. The punk style (I'm not sure I know what the name is though). But that style that they'll leave a lil bit in front with a parting slant in between. I was enraged. I told him he was stupid and blind. I called him idiot. He told me he has forgotten his hairdo or so. I didn't even bother to listen to his explanation. I threw the money on the floor and left.

All through my drive home, I was still bitter at him. I kept cussing him beneath my breadth. Simon, obviously unaware of the whole situation was playing and having so much fun. He couldn't care less. When I got home, my spirit was troubled. I knew I had over-reacted. Is it not hair? Ordinary hair that will grow back within days. So I'm gonna trade this relationship because of hair? I told myself I just have to call him. I have to apologize.

And so I did. He was surprised. He pleaded with me on the phone. That his mind was elsewhere. And I shouldn't be angry. I was still fuming but I just had to accept the apology. Even if I rain fire and brimstone, the hair wouldn't glue itself back. He promised coming to my house the next day, Sunday to shapen the front. I didn't allow him do all that at his shop cos madness wouldn't let me be. I told him I was deeply sorry too. For letting out too much unecessary steam. For the abusive words. We ended the convo with laughter and my spirit became lighter.

Sunday came and we waited for him at the time he was supposed to come. I called his number and it kept ringing. Hours passed and it was still the same. I was already thinking, 'this people have come again'. After a while, I decided to take my son to his shop. If Mohammed cannot go to mountain, at least let mountain go to Mohammed. We got there and it was locked. 'No wahala' I thought. His house is just a stone throw to his shop. We arrived the house and we saw people wailing. 'What could have happened', I wondered to myself as I alighted from my car.

On getting there, I got one of the most shocking news of my life. This guy has passed away. This same guy gangan. Our barber. The one I saw yesterday. The one that was seemingly hale and hearty. I was told he died on his way to the theatre. He had been battling kidney problems. He has been managing his health. He told no one except his siblings. It became severe on Saturday evening and he had to be rushed to the hospital. My tears became uncontrollable. I felt so much pity for his aged mum. I was mad at myself. So he was sick, that yesterday. He has been sick...Ohmaigod! Even though I had mended my wrong, I was still frigging mad at myself. I cried and cried. A young nice guy, cut at his prime.

I got a lot of lessons from this experience.

●Be slow to anger, even when you have every reasons to
●Give people the opportunity to express themselves, even if you are convinced they'll talk trash. There might just be a lil sense in their explanations.
●React less when you are hurting. You never can tell the deep shit the other party is going through.
●Be empathic. Be sympathetic
●Learn to let go of things that cannot be changed
●Say sorry even though you are at the receiving end. It doesn't make you less of what you are. It only shows you value the relationship more than your ego.
●Forgive that person even though you are deeply hurt.
●Forgive again.
●Las las, forgive.

Make that call today, apologize, say you are sorry, let go. I know you are still grieving about the hurt, the betrayals. If the altercation is beyond saying sorry, if the wound is deep and can't be in any way covered, if the friendship can't be in any way re-ignited, just let go of it in your heart.

It's very much possible!

DECLOGG YOUR HEART OF UNECESSARY TOXIC FEELINGS!

Bury it with 2021.

Wishing us all a triumphant and bitter-free entry into 2022.

I'm glad I made that call.

Cc

@lalasticlala

Had it been you lay hands on him? Let us learn to control our anger in every situation

Nicely put. Sighs.

Very insightful

Very humbling.. This post just altered my mood and brought back nostalgic feelings.

Only if men knew that tomorrow is not promised.. Then all men will live at peace with one another

This topic has calmed me down, we need to watch our emotions and how we react

Nice story though it didn't end well but you put it right. Now let's talk about you.
You knew about all the advice you gave in this write up even before you had an issue with the barber. Sometimes it's not about dishing advice to people. Are you living it? I'm sure your anger issue is not going to stop here. Maybe some other times you'll forget about this experience and still overreact. My advice to you is to use this experience as a benchmark for your anger management.

Speechless, always be at peace with all even if it doesn't seem right. Insightful post.

Shit poor guy, kidney stones hurt like hell. Maybe that was why he couldn't concentrate.

Happy for you for making amends.

May d soul of the jentle man rest in peace.

@leetylee

Dathypebruv:
@leetylee

elaborate storytelling right there. In as much I'd like to say everybody has a problem and one doesn't outweigh one since it's just what we feel at that moment and we just want it to end without it reoccurring. Be nice and slow to how you react to things which might be trivia you don't know what others be going thru. Welp I agree with your points.

Stay safe bruh

Learnt from your experience..

leetylee:
elaborate storytelling right there. In as much I'd like to say everybody has a problem and one doesn't outweigh one since it's just what we feel at that moment and we just want it to end without it reoccurring. Be nice and slow to how you react to things which might be trivia you don't know what others be going thru. Welp I agree with your points.

Stay safe bruh

sure, just wanted to get your attention we could use this thread to talk about stuffs...

using a smaller device, i can be here often than on fb and whatsapp plus my addiction to nl

Dathypebruv:


sure, just wanted to get your attention we could use this thread to talk about stuffs...

using a smaller device, i can be here often than on fb and whatsapp plus my addiction to nl

copy that... Whenever you active mention me with immediate effect

leetylee:
copy that... Whenever you active mention me with immediate effect

jst go with the flow, no need waiting for me to be active

once a mention pops up,reply follows

here to unwind and check up on the latest happenings

Dathypebruv:


jst go with the flow, no need waiting for me to be active

once a mention pops up,reply follows

here to unwind and check up on the latest happenings

Oh well not much has happened sha, seems like everything is in a rush, from political campaigns to increase of price in market, I just don't know what's happening out there since I just go out from the house to work and whenever I go out it's either I be at Tim's or mr.og... well yfht and Kandy cane by last week....

I got a fairly used phone to keep up, these days man been working without much gains so tired.

@ OP. Your post got me.

I can remember a guy whom I use to buy Video CDs from died of similar disease. Dude was always in a positive mood and we never knew he was battling kidney disease.

We have to be careful with how we treat people.

leetylee:

Oh well not much has happened sha, seems like everything is in a rush, from political campaigns to increase of price in market, I just don't know what's happening out there since I just go out from the house to work and whenever I go out it's either I be at Tim's or mr.og... well yfht and Kandy cane by last week....

I got a fairly used phone to keep up, these days man been working without much gains so tired.

hows the project coming up

Dathypebruv:


hows the project coming up

Welp I won't lie laziness is taking the best of us lol though new tracks been updated and we divided it to an EP for this year then a mixtape for next year. Northstar single will drop in all platforms by Nov 1st.

leetylee:
Welp I won't lie laziness is taking the best of us lol though new tracks been updated and we divided it to an EP for this year then a mixtape for next year. Northstar single will drop in all platforms by Nov 1st.

God speed !

Dathypebruv:
God speed !

happy Sunday blud
howdydo

leetylee:
happy Sunday blud howdydo

days are the same to me, nothing new under the sun
join the convo
Cc. @Haynnie

Dathypebruv:
Something happened in this December that shook my entire being.

We have this guy that has been barbing my son's hair for over a year now. He does home service for us. But this particular weekend, he could not come. He said he was extra busy and if the barbing was that expedient, I should bring Simon to his shop. I didn't have any other alternative, so we went. He was busy when I got there, two more people were on queue as well, so I had to drop my son with his aunt there.

When I got back there to pick them up, I could not recognise my son. He had given him a new look. He barbed off the whole hair. The whole effing hair. I was stunned, no angry...No I was mad. Is mad even the right word? I was on the loose. Both vocally and facially. This is the same guy that has been barbing my boy for years. How could he have forgotten his trademark cut. The punk style (I'm not sure I know what the name is though). But that style that they'll leave a lil bit in front with a parting slant in between. I was enraged. I told him he was stupid and blind. I called him idiot. He told me he has forgotten his hairdo or so. I didn't even bother to listen to his explanation. I threw the money on the floor and left.

All through my drive home, I was still bitter at him. I kept cussing him beneath my breadth. Simon, obviously unaware of the whole situation was playing and having so much fun. He couldn't care less. When I got home, my spirit was troubled. I knew I had over-reacted. Is it not hair? Ordinary hair that will grow back within days. So I'm gonna trade this relationship because of hair? I told myself I just have to call him. I have to apologize.

And so I did. He was surprised. He pleaded with me on the phone. That his mind was elsewhere. And I shouldn't be angry. I was still fuming but I just had to accept the apology. Even if I rain fire and brimstone, the hair wouldn't glue itself back. He promised coming to my house the next day, Sunday to shapen the front. I didn't allow him do all that at his shop cos madness wouldn't let me be. I told him I was deeply sorry too. For letting out too much unecessary steam. For the abusive words. We ended the convo with laughter and my spirit became lighter.

Sunday came and we waited for him at the time he was supposed to come. I called his number and it kept ringing. Hours passed and it was still the same. I was already thinking, 'this people have come again'. After a while, I decided to take my son to his shop. If Mohammed cannot go to mountain, at least let mountain go to Mohammed. We got there and it was locked. 'No wahala' I thought. His house is just a stone throw to his shop. We arrived the house and we saw people wailing. 'What could have happened', I wondered to myself as I alighted from my car.

On getting there, I got one of the most shocking news of my life. This guy has passed away. This same guy gangan. Our barber. The one I saw yesterday. The one that was seemingly hale and hearty. I was told he died on his way to the theatre. He had been battling kidney problems. He has been managing his health. He told no one except his siblings. It became severe on Saturday evening and he had to be rushed to the hospital. My tears became uncontrollable. I felt so much pity for his aged mum. I was mad at myself. So he was sick, that yesterday. He has been sick...Ohmaigod! Even though I had mended my wrong, I was still frigging mad at myself. I cried and cried. A young nice guy, cut at his prime.

I got a lot of lessons from this experience.

●Be slow to anger, even when you have every reasons to
●Give people the opportunity to express themselves, even if you are convinced they'll talk trash. There might just be a lil sense in their explanations.
●React less when you are hurting. You never can tell the deep shit the other party is going through.
●Be empathic. Be sympathetic
●Learn to let go of things that cannot be changed
●Say sorry even though you are at the receiving end. It doesn't make you less of what you are. It only shows you value the relationship more than your ego.
●Forgive that person even though you are deeply hurt.
●Forgive again.
●Las las, forgive.

Make that call today, apologize, say you are sorry, let go. I know you are still grieving about the hurt, the betrayals. If the altercation is beyond saying sorry, if the wound is deep and can't be in any way covered, if the friendship can't be in any way re-ignited, just let go of it in your heart.

It's very much possible!

DECLOGG YOUR HEART OF UNECESSARY TOXIC FEELINGS!

Bury it with 2021.

Wishing us all a triumphant and bitter-free entry into 2022.

I'm glad I made that call.

This article just mends my pain towards my official driver @work. Honestly, I have been mad at him since Friday, but all that just gasps away the very moment I read that the barber died. In life, never say never, because tomorrow might be too late.

I wanted to give him a query, tomorrow (Monday) morning, but I don't think I will do that any longer. I will accept his apologies tomorrow. Even if he's unwilling, I will calmly call him to order, and let him know that my respect for him as an elderly man is burnout from my upbringing, and should not be taken for granted. I am his boss, and should be treated as such. Thank you OP, you have healed a wound.

imadiyi:

This article just mend my pain towards my official driver @work. Honestly, I have been mad at him since Friday, but all that just gasps away the very moment I read that the barber died. In life, never say never, because tomorrow might be too late.

I wanted to give him a query, tomorrow (Monday) morning, but I don't think I will do that any longer. I will accept his apologies tomorrow. Even if he's unwilling, I will calmly call him to order, and let him know that my respect for as an elderly man is burnout from my upbringing, and should not be taken for granted. I am his boss, and should be treated as such. Thank you OP, you have heal a pain

Happy to share !

May his soul RIP..............
Anger is a natural emotion, he who hides it is more wicked.
The issue is how you control your anger...........simple!
He messed up does not mean you should not let him know, but how did you pass the message?
Let it slide bro! You can't live with the pains forever.
Life is too short to worry about the things you did wrong.

Mehn! Insightful

Dathypebruv:


days are the same to me, nothing new under the sun

join the convo

Cc.
@Haynnie

yesterday wasn't the day I'd like to experience in my life again lol but all good. Btw MK got a new project (EP) next month (probably the first week) new MK is a vibe abeg. Might drop the link here when he airs it.

leetylee:
yesterday wasn't the day I'd like to experience in my life again lol but all good. Btw MK got a new project (EP) next month (probably the first week) new MK is a vibe abeg. Might drop the link here when he airs it.

whats the 411 ?