Nihil-ce-M:

Sweetheart, while a man can choose when and who to marry, women aren't that lucky.
Afterall, you have got the choice!

With all due respect, where exactly are you from? I never knew that a woman marrying, was synonymous to a sheep being led to the slaughter-house!

Don1DeMaco:

u mean women don't choose who and when to marry??

didnt know that.

is that true

so please educate me how do they now get married?

yemivictor:

With all due respect, where exactly are you from? I never knew that a woman marrying, was synonymous to a sheep being led to the slaughter-house!

Nihil-ce-M:

Abeg as you carry your whala come, kindly carry am go. I nor fit debate with someone like you.

I am from Nigeria, check profile!
You know that country where a woman can be bought,
thrown out of the house,
replaced by a younger one.
I am sure you know it. It is situated in the west of Africa, it shares border with Ghana.
Crack your head. I am sure it'll come up to your mind.

I actually did check your profile, and your home-town is of more concern to me as against your nationality! Perhaps when we get ahold of that information, we'd know how women from your home-town are faring in their marital homes, if any? Since u've made marriage some what distasteful to the womenfolk! _{Trust me, you do not want to pick a thread fight with me!}

yemivictor:

I actually did check your profile, and your home-town is of more concern to me as against your nationality! Perhaps when we get ahold of that information, we'd know how women from your home-town are faring in their marital homes, if any? Since u've made marriage some what distasteful to the womenfolk! _{Trust me, you do not want to pick a thread fight with me!}

Nihil-ce-M:

What others decide to do in their marriage is none of my business
and i am not here to respond to the behaviour of girls from my hometown.
And please don't even try to use that tactics with me, cause I am not even going to defend them either.
You are free to abuse them as you like.
Abi na me ask them make they like money pass their dignity!!!

Good! Just what i wanted to hear read . Now, let's go back to the basics, where on earth did you get the notion that women do not have a choice as to who & when to marry

michelin89:

@ yemivictor

Don't worry I know you are just playing the part of the dummie cause you know what I am talking about very well. I don't like fake mugus and I'd be disappointed if you continue to act like one.

Ha! ha!! At long last! I can see now that it has been a mental case all along. Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) perhaps! I never knew that michelin89 and Nihil-ce-M were one and the same

I don rest my case o! _mentalo

ThiefOfHearts:

why the sad emoticon? I'm glad you got your name back.

ThiefOfHearts:

I'm willing to bet yemi is the only person who wasnt aware that you were one and the same. Dork.

You really think that was necessary?

michelin89:

Yeah and I am going to paint this forum red (of happiness)!

[/quote][quote author=Jezzy link=topic=101137.msg1818747#msg1818747 date=1199427352]
Honesty is the best policy.If this is a relationship leading to marriage,the parties involved have to come clean with each other about their past.No matter how much one wants to overlook the past,it has great bearing on the way a person's outlook on the future is formed.The disclosure is not supposed to be for malicious purposes,it should help the people involved to map out a better future.It would also keep them accountable.

Remember,Love keeps no record of wrongs(I Cor 13:5b).

blacklion:

[Hmmmmmmmmm! To the folks who say the past is the past and all and any misdeeds in the past should remain there, I have a few questions -

For the ladies, I take it that you are not really interested in knowing whether your BF or husband was once known to be a pedophile, child molester/abuser, a rapist, a known sexual pervert, a flasher etc? And you don't want anybody who knew him back then when he was a child abuser to tell you? You would be comfortable being married to a man who was once known to be a pedophile and child molester? You would not be worried that he might relapse into his old perversion and molest your kids sexually?

For the guys, you really and absolutely don't care if your wife or GF was once a street hooker or an aristo babe while on campus? You absolutely don't care if 50 guys at your office, at your club or in your neighbourhood had paid cash to sleep with her back in those days when she was prostituting? You really don't care that your work buddies and pals at the club have all seen your wife's naked body and sampled her goodies?

OK, assuming you live in Europe or North America, you absolutely would not want to know prior to the wedding if your GF/BF/Spouse had any previous drug or felony convictions and if he/she had done time? I hope you gys are aware that drug, drunk driving or felony convictions in the US can sometimes or often mean that he will never obtain decent paid employment in his life again and that very often banks and financial institutions will deny him business loans, home mortgages and that he will not qualify for government-backed student loans to further his education?

Also, are we to believe that if you live in Europe or North America, you absolutely would not want to know prior to the wedding if your GF/BF/Spouse had a bad credit history, had defaulted or maxed out on credit cards, was owing back-payments on his/her mortgage, student loan etc. I hope y'all are aware that in the American financial system, one spouse's bad credit rating can sometimes negatively affect the other.


Just curious!

issue:

YES OOOOOOOO!

truth is nobody really needs to know everything about another person, (what r u, God)

so if a woman feels like telling all, its her own biz, but as for me, i don't think i'd want to know everything, gimme a hint, explain that u're not a virgin but i don't think i really need to know how good/bad u've been. and u wont know that much about me either

Kemjisuper:

Of course! It's either you get to know her past, or her past gets to know you eventually!

couldn't have been put in any better perspective!!!