debosky:

A man (platonic friend oh) must pay for your hair (even if you earn more than him) to prove he will be the type of husband to 'provide' for his wife.

Even the educated, 'very comfortable financially' ones are thinking this way - can you imagine how the gold diggers are thinking?

I pity single Nigerian men these days.

ileobatojo:

Of course you are; while she is cooking 3 square meals for the entire family and doing everyone's dishes and getting the kids ready, putting them to bed etc everyday, you are replacing her flat tyre that flattens everyday and mowing your garden grass that surely overgrows daily too! Good job!

Kobojunkie:

Abeg stop!! She can easily ask that her husband share in the burden . . like any human with intelligence should. I know a man who takes care of his kids -- baths them, makes them breakfast, and drops them off at school etc. His wife goes to work earlier than he does, so he gets to handle those chores while she handles whatever is left when she gets home later on. This couple are human beings and Nigerians too.

Abeg, make una stop whining about these silly situations AFTER you are done helping create it.

Kobojunkie:

I know a man who takes care of his kids -- baths them, makes them breakfast, and drops them off at school etc. His wife goes to work earlier than he does, so he gets to handle those chores while she handles whatever is left when she gets home later on.

Abeg, make una stop whining about these silly situations AFTER you are done helping create it.

"She can easily ask that her husband share in the burden"

ileobatojo:

Before nko? Who will do it if not him? Should we give him a medal?

ileobatojo:
I'm just calling out hypocrisy when I see it that's all.

ileobatojo:
Really? And when he says but you're the woman nko? All the while forwarding her the bills as they arrive.

Seerer: @poster, I understand what your fears are, some are getting the 'salon'funds wrongly.

andromida: You are marrying him out of fear of being single at 30+. Almost all decisions made out of fear are wrong because you are not thinking straight.3 years and he never bought you anything? Hmm did u have a talk with him about this behaviour of his anyway Listen to your heart. Better single with options than married and miserable.

Efemena_xy:

na which wan come be dudu osun?? Dudu osun bu afa ncha



Come, Cooger - how you take know every single item detail of their needs?

What aren't you telling us, man??

ileobatojo: Kobojunkie, we are saying the same thing except that you want to put the blame solely on women. Abeg go your way and allow me expose the hypocrites jare. They know themselves.

OP, sorry for derailing your thread.

emiye: @OP

If "your" man starts earning twice as much as you do, will you start loving him?

Ishilove:
Majority misunderstood that part of her post

12 inches!:
I don't see a biggie in bathing MY OWN kids or feeding MY OWN kids...or dressing MY OWN kids...I actually love dressing up kids...Notwithstanding these are women roles...but I'll gladly do them for MY OWN children.

mirob:

It is not †ђξ matter of earning twice as much as she does, it is †ђξ matter of giving, †ђξ man might be earning much but is not responsible in †ђξ sense of taking care of †ђξ family, that is what †ђξ OP is concerned about.

@poster, I understand what your fears are, some are getting the 'salon'funds wrongly, am an african woman, I honestly expect my man to treat me this way, I could even spend more money on him, but he should show signs of been sensitive to my needs, that is being responsible to me. But its not a deciding factor, just let him know your values. As for not being in love with him, I will advise you bUy more time and get closer to him and find out if you will eventually love him, only then, you will marry him, else, free him, you might end up hurting him badly. But you need time before you decide.

Kobojunkie:

Well, let uS start with where you get the idea that they are women's roles?

anitank:
Am so out of here!

12 inches!:

Let us start with ow old u are......Not that age is linearly related to maturity but atleast I shud be sure I'm not discussing with some teenager...then I cn answer ur question.

stillwater:



Hope you remember that you are an African woman when fire hits the roof.

You guys actually think we are stupid, trying to downplay the salon trips part as 'getting it all wrong'. We sabi you people well well . [size=13pt]I know how you blackberry, Brazilian weave crazy Nigerian girls think. A man who spends on meagre things like hair, phones, nails, takes you to tasty fried chicken, buys you common icecream, you automatically deem as responsible, 'oh he's so caring', he becomes Mr. fantastic, Mr. Romantic, Mr. Melody, Mr. Magic, loll while his character stinks like a sewer. [/size]

Just realized the Op wasn't really dating the guy per se, and wants freebies already? Lollll.

jennykadry:

Good

anitank:
And who are u

anitank: HYPOCRITES!!! Dats what some ladies here are. They come here and trash out nonsense but in real life they're real screwed. No matter how rich a lady is, there is nothing wrong with a man who wants to marry her giving her as little as 2k for hairdo, wether she can afford it or not. It jst shows he can take care of his family with d little he has.....

And if u're a man here and thinks there's nothing wrong with the woman being the bread winner of d family, then I weep for u!!!!
Am so out of here!

anitank: HYPOCRITES!!! Dats what some ladies here are. They come here and trash out nonsense but in real life they're real screwed. No matter how rich a lady is, there is nothing wrong with a man who wants to marry her giving her as little as 2k for hairdo, wether she can afford it or not. It jst shows he can take care of his family with d little he has.....

And if u're a man here and thinks there's nothing wrong with the woman being the bread winner of d family, then I weep for u!!!!
Am so out of here!

ACM10:
I don't think that the poster is not attractive. I can't stay in a truly faithful relationship for one month without intimacy, let alone 3yrs. Except the guy is a gay or impotent. Pls poster, don't celebrate the fact that he has not shagged u since u started your affair with him. This calls for some serious questions. You should investigate to know whether he is sleeping-with other babes. A sexually active man cannot stay that long.

maxpro-xl:

As u said uv been friends with this man for 3yrs with no intimacy. The truth is no healthy man can do without sex for 3yrs so your "friend" is definately doing it with someone and respects u for not asking for it since.

ACM10:
I made the same comment and Drzed hounded me. I thought that I'm the odd one out.