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Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by airfinance(m): 7:29pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
Make I find trouble. E be like say una be igbo your mama and papa. Emeka ajeokuta ma Mu omi? |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by methodman(m): 7:43pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
DeCleff:Africa Magic.....lol |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by abdulkayus(m): 7:44pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
So, force marriage still happen in the south, thought it was only north dat has dat nonsence mentality. Up till 2day, force marriage is still prominent in d north cos of low education and male chauvinism. @OP, follow ur hart gal, ur parent are nt goin to live ur life for u, jus xplain to dem in a mature manner, and moreover seek God face. CIAO |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by xcitedjay(m): 7:45pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
OP Seems like you've already made up your mind to marry next year. I don't see why a struggling guy would rent a 3 bedroom apartment for himself alone, this shows that he isn't thinking of just himself or being selfish. Do this guy a favor and create space for someone who wouldn't hesitate to leave him cause of his present situation. 2 Likes |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by eddy18(f): 7:45pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
Marriage is not an escape route, there's more to life. Re evaluate your priorities. Add value to yourself and assist your family, don't have expectations from anyone...rich or poor. Then get married based on your values. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by damoskiy(m): 8:02pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
take your time to think.tell your suitor to wait till next year.if he truly loves you then he will wait.but if he can't wait then u should know he is not the right man for you.don't take it hard on yourself. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by faceit: 8:07pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
can ndcide: if i say that the OP is not ready for marriage some persons will take it too far. go and develop yourself first. befor you get married you should be abel to hear from your God.(chi). you want to base your marital decision on the opinion of nairalanders? thats crazy.prayer is the key to all confusions, pls dont be in a hurry, wedding maybe beautiful , marriage on d other hand can be very difficult if u marry wrong. Pple who r in marriages nowsday dont know its going to be ds hard, dey thot its going to b sweet all thru...PRAYER IS D KEY |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by God2man(m): 8:19pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
@op, are you ready to pray? Marriage is a serious issue, i don't know why your people are pressurizing you, i think they should know better. Do not allow any Pastor to decide for you, when it comes to the issue of marriage. Your pastor will not be there, your aunt or parent will not be there. Ha! If you can do 3 days fasting and prayer alone, crying to God for direction, it is more than that, the 3 days fasting and prayer will never go in vain. YOU WILL HAVE PEACE IN YOUR HEART. You are still single. You have time to prepare adequately for your marriage. Do not rush. Do not allow anybody to rush you. Are you happy with this man? Do you really love him? Remember, you are going to be with this man till death. It is such a huge risk. Pls, take your time. God bless you. God2man. 1 Like |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by sashaa(f): 8:25pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
ask ur mother why she dint marry a rich man during her own time. If she had, ur family wouldnt be needing a financial saviour now. 1 Like |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by Templa(m): 8:35pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
ur aunty and ur mother women should learn to understand that marriage is not a source of income 1 Like |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by freecocoa(f): 8:39pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
sashaa: ask ur mother why she dint marry a rich man during her own time. If she had, ur family wouldnt be needing a financial saviour now.Wucked girl Bravo. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by sashaa(f): 8:44pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
freecocoa: Wucked girl |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by member479760: 8:47pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
right here, most people are just jealous that you are marring to money man imposed on you by your parent, see, your parent know better than you, listen to them and marry the money man. 1 Like |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by MrsChima1(f): 9:09pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
lefulefu: You been "trying" to marry a Yankee for five years....you might want to spice up your scamming game boo boo. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by kpolli(m): 9:44pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
Whose happiness is most important? urs or ur family? If it's that bad, ur mum or aunt should marry him. . . . Do not be sold |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by drnoel: 9:49pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
septua: If you ask me I would say ur mum and her pastor only saw the man's money in their vision which by the way is normal due to as u have said ur family's financial constraint. septua: At the end of the day, I expect you would do what u've decided to do. I do hope you make the right decision though, but be adviced that no advise one gives u, here on NL or at home would be right but the one u give urself. That said, I expect u'd stamp ur feet on the floor with irritation but thats all I got 2 say. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by dayokanu(m): 10:20pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
Since your aunt and mom are so interested in the money, Why have they not considered rituals since Women and money sha |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by tucker12(m): 10:26pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
Well I must say that if the aim of your family insisting you marry this fellow is to elevate the financial status of your family. You missed the good of marriage He will definitely pay all that is required to enrich your family .However I can assure you the blatant words of remembrance he will use on you when the chips are down. Besides Do you think he will have regard for your family again knowing he paid to buy ohh marry a wife. Think carefully 1 Like |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by GHANAOGA: 10:28pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
Go for the money!! Money can and will make you happy.You just met the man,during these four months your love will grow. Your poor three bedroom bungalow guy has not passed the fitness test yet to be a man. Hey u can even use the richman's money to better his life later. I just hate growing up poor and will never replace "MONEY" with "LOVE".Love is a hormonal thing. Even in the animal kingdom the alpha male gets all the women.Who cares about love? Pray and make sure you also have some good savings while leaving with the rich man and get a JOB!Do not be a housewife.Listen to your parents jor. 2 Likes |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by sweetrace(f): 10:32pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
If you marry this Rich guy who cannot take the time to court a girl, he will see you as nothing more than his property. Paid for just like his car, house and furniture. And just like those things, you may have no say in your own home. 2 Likes |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by GHANAOGA: 10:41pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
sweetrace: If you marry this Rich guy who cannot take the time to court a girl, he will see you as nothing more than his property. Paid for just like his car, house and furniture. And just like those things, you may have no say in your own home. poor people have broken homes too.Why not advise her on how to play smart with the rich man-get a job,savings,names on properties- rather than all this poor man talks. There is no guarantee in this life.Even the poor boyfriend can leave her later once he gets rich...and then what? For your info,rich people dont have time for all this long term courtship.They know what they want and they are ready to provide.They have nothing else to proof. Get to know him for the four months,ask people about his character and if no red signs..GBAM.Go for it gal!! |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by Jettage: 11:02pm On Sep 06, 2012 |
Don't fool Yourself, you mind is already made, You dont need NL to get the advice of what you ought to do. That is what most girls do. they marry the money and not the man. If Money grows on Trees, women will marry Monkey. You have actually described you Man whom you claimed to Love, You are already in doubts, he might leave you or might be lying. Then Go for the Jugular and accept Money like other girls and revel in the outcome. Does it matter? That is why Most Ladies are single. They worshiped money, avarice material things, Good cars and are unwilling to pay the price of love |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by Nobody: 4:07am On Sep 07, 2012 |
How do you know if this man really has what he claims? It's not difficult to fake riches in front of someone who has nothing. If he is wealthy, you need to know how he obtained his money and if it is sustainable. Also, what is his temperament? Will he communicate with you or smash your head when he gets angry? Take heed and "do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God..." Observe him around other people and in different environments. Get to know his friends and family. I have a "friend" who married a guy who seemed nice and stable. He was a good provider, but after 6 years she realized that one day he was going to deliver a fatal blow. Now she sits on NL an sips tea in peace. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by bknight: 6:54am On Sep 07, 2012 |
swtchicgurl: I guess he was jst being sarcastic abdulkayus: So, force marriage still happen in the south, thought it was only north dat has dat nonsence mentality. Up till 2day, force marriage is still prominent in d north cos of low education and male chauvinism. Did u read same write-up everyone else read? I thot they are 'begging' her to marry d guy Sorry, I think I get d point u were tryna make when u said "...cos of low education" |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by Nobody: 8:14am On Sep 07, 2012 |
AmBeautiful: My deAR, if you know what is good for you and your generations to come, "Berra marry who you love, if you marry for money, anything that you sawest later, remember to endurest" |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by nkemmu(f): 8:48am On Sep 07, 2012 |
Babe if you have needed 50 naira just to quench hunger,then you wil no money is important.how old are you and that of the the old man?is the old man educated?old men treat ladies well you no!are you sure that young boy wunt disappoint you?my dear love is a choice and time.you can cultivate love for a monkey if he has swaq ooo.think before you leap oo. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by Idondome: 8:50am On Sep 07, 2012 |
@OP, don't tell me that you don't have feelings for this rich man. Otherwise, why did you post it here because i did not see anything to convince me that your parents are forcing you to marry their choice, rather, they are begging you to consider him. You have your choice to make which does not require any third party to do for you. Make your choice and stand by it, after all, you an adult. |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by ajadek(m): 8:57am On Sep 07, 2012 |
septua: Hi.i am young woman in my early 20s. I have been seeing a young man of 30 for about a year now and about 2 months ago he started talking about marriage plans although he hasn't proposed but i took that as one.baby 4get all this grama they are been telling you all this y.firstly,you are too young to identified what they call love,feeling,money and mariage.you need extra 5yrs 4 dat,u need more education,exposure,travel,all this will make you strong to identified the heaven sent.secondly,nothing bad in ur parent idea,as far as been a rich is nt a crime,they just want better tomorow 4 u,just go and lean how to identified what you are been waiting 4 when u see it,LOVE IN DIASPORA.I saw many maried roosting because of wrong maried all in d name of love,convinence can bring love even if there's no love.pls just change ur thinking because there's nothing wrong maried a rich if its nt a criminal and there's no much difernt in someone senior u with 10yrs and other one 16yrs....anyway u can pity d poor one because his a poor man and u don't want him to cry and I think maybe u leave him because he poor and you can pity d rich man because of ur parent all in d name of pity which is very bad in mariage institution,[pity]tell two of them to come bk after 5yrs don't be afraid many choice is coming ur way once u work hard in ur youth age,dat poor one will be able to work hard and make more money b4 u join him if u decide to chose him by then..... |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by omosexy1: 9:01am On Sep 07, 2012 |
harvey: Live your life away from all this men drama, you are almost done with service and you are young,are you scared of tomorrow? ignore all these proposals and as for your parents,they have to wait on you to start working for you to help meet their needs... add value to your life and don't let marriage be an escape route. I like this. Poster go and get a job first and support your parents |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by Nobody: 9:20am On Sep 07, 2012 |
AmBeautiful: My deAR, if you know what is good for you and your generations to come, "Berra marry who you love, if you marry for money, anything that you sawest later, remember to endurest"[/quote] |
Re: My Family Wants Me To Marry For Money. by Nobody: 9:20am On Sep 07, 2012 |
harvey: Live your life away from all this men drama, you are almost done with service and you are young,are you scared of tomorrow? ignore all these proposals and as for your parents,they have to wait on you to start working for you to help meet their needs... add value to your life and don't let marriage be an escape route. How will you be telling a lady that is rounding off her NYSC to ignore all marriage proposals? Nawa o. My dear, I wont advice you to marry a man that is 16yrs older than you, unless you love him. I see you loving him anyway because you noted he is ''handsome''. Alternately, dont be in a hurry since you are still young. You can go for any of them. |
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