oluafolabi:
My thoughts exactly, its the extremism and hypocrisy that accompanies 'hearing from God' that I do not support. So many people ignore some physical characteristics such as aggresiveness, incompability, attraction and just 'dive' into the marriage claiming I heard from God/My pastor.

frank3.16:


God speaks bt we are making a caricature of the whole thing, everybody now claims God speaks to him. If we decide what we intend to do, we say its God speaking.

How many people did God speak to in the bible and told them the woman to marry or not to marry?

Let the poster come and tell me how God spoke to him and told him the woman to marry. God didn't jst appear to every Tom dickk and Harry in the bible even on marriage issues.

frank3.16:


God speaks bt we are making a caricature of the whole thing, everybody now claims God speaks to him. If we decide what we intend to do, we say its God speaking.

How many people did God speak to in the bible and told them the woman to marry or not to marry?

Let the poster come and tell me how God spoke to him and told him the woman to marry. God didn't jst appear to every Tom dickk and Harry in the bible even on marriage issues.

oluafolabi:
Hmnnn.. I'm not trying to be sarcastic here, but I would love you to answer my questions, I'm a christian and I delight in describing myself as an open minded christian open to logic, reason e.t.c.
1) The name you heard, are you sure it was not your mind just thinking about the sister thereby giving an impression that you are hearing from God?
2) The term hearing in itself as described in the bible(not the adulterated one we see these days) implies the recipient hearing loud and clear the voice of God and not just 'God laying it in my heart'
I still have more questions but I rest my case for now and would love if you could answer the ones above. Thanks.

omotola1:
Your head is very correct!
But sometimes, GOD choose for pple too sha. I like ur dimension anyway.

omotola1:
Yeah other characteristics are essential regardless of “what you think GOD says“
Pls @ OP, don‘t mislead pple sha.
It is possible to make a good choice for ursef. It‘s only risky dat‘s all! That‘s d essence of involving GOD; to avoid error.

God2man: I knew it. People will always disagree. Anyway, that is life.

Who established marriage? God. Again, Genesis 2:18 " And the Lord said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I- I- I- WILL MAKE HIM AN HELP MEET FOR HiM."

SO, why should God be put aside when it comes to choosing your life partner. Why?

Proverb 18:22 " whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord"
YES, you can decide to do whatever you like, it is up to you, it is your choice. Obama was lucky to have a good wife, clinton said, a great sense by obama to pick a girl in a car that was rusted out. I am not disputing it. Man is mysterious in nature. We are different. Some are highly intelligent, some are not that smart. At times, Our judgement in terms of decision making as to who to marry can put us in serious trouble. WHAT YOU WANT IS NOT WHAT YOU NEED. For example, you admire a beautiful sister in your church, but God said, you need a sister, who is not ugly but at the same time not so beautiful, averagely, so to say. God is saying that beautiful sister is a serpent under sheep cloth. You are saying the Bible says, 'he that findeth a wife' therefore, i do not need God to speak to me, i know what i am doing, like Samson in the Bible, i must marry her. Ah! AH! AH!, you are playing with fire. God is saying, i have a great sister for you, not perfect, but she will be a good wife. God is saying, i will make everything glorious, if you continue to obey me, after the marriage.

How did God speak to me? Infact, i do not know why it is a strange thing for God to speak people concerning marriage. Guys, IT IS NOT A BIG DEAL. How can the creator find it difficult to speak to the men he created. How? I want you to check out this thread on how God speaks:
www.nairaland.com/831812/how-god-speaks

God spoke to me by impressing the name of my wife in my heart. A great impression. It kept on resounding in my heart continually. I guess it was as a result of the fasting. The fasting really helped me.

As for where God did it for people in the Bible. If you can read the whole of Genesis chapter 24. It will answer your question. If you are not convince then wait for part 2.

frank3.16:


Stop lookin for who u will call a sinner and clearly answer simple questions a kindergaten will amswer.

I am very sure that u must have seen this sister b4 and liked her (tell me I am wrong if I am)

Was she also hearing ur name?

Wasn't she in ur church? Don't give us the impression that she just appeared from no where and u married her based on d fact that u heard her name or whatever.

I don't want to agree that she is d only one bearing that name in ur church, how then did u match the face witj the name.

How did u know it was God who imprinted the name in ur mind? What happened to ur imagination?

Let's say the voice was from God, didn't u like her wen u saw her? I assume if u had never met her and God sent the name to u, as a stranger, u would have doubted. U wouldn't have jsut liked her, perhps God imprinted upon u the spirit to like her.

HumbledbYGrace: In terms of God speaking to people,it happens to me too.via dreams,I may not understand the concept of the dream but after my dream takes place its then I regret not talkin bwt it

oluafolabi:
I believe in dreams(my mum experiences them all the time) I believe in prophesy(I have a first hand experience with it , it was shocking to meet someone I never knew telling me about my past and my present and future) I believe in miracles and I believe in God, but the point some of us are trying to make is that on the issue of marriage.. Sooo many 'let me hear from God' has been overrated.
So many people have been brainwashed to believe 'anything' their pastors say. They have ignored the place of commonsense. They have ignored the place of logic and thoughts..
My conclusion --» On the issue of marriage you can pray and let God guide you in choosing the right person but you must also look for the characteristics you desire in your dream spouse.. But all these hoax based on hearing from God are largely overrated .

oluafolabi:
Bless you.. This what just what I wanted him to come out with CLEARLY. We will only regard it as EXTRAORDINARY if you have never met the 'sister' before and God IMPRINTED her name in your mind otherwise we could say that twas probably the OP's imagination running wild and finally settling on someone..

oluafolabi:
I believe in dreams(my mum experiences them all the time) I believe in prophesy(I have a first hand experience with it , it was shocking to meet someone I never knew telling me about my past and my present and future) I believe in miracles and I believe in God, but the point some of us are trying to make is that on the issue of marriage.. Sooo many 'let me hear from God' has been overrated.
So many people have been brainwashed to believe 'anything' their pastors say. They have ignored the place of commonsense. They have ignored the place of logic and thoughts..
My conclusion --» On the issue of marriage you can pray and let God guide you in choosing the right person but you must also look for the characteristics you desire in your dream spouse.. But all these hoax based on hearing from God are largely overrated .

God2man: Typical Nairalanders! I know my people and my people do not seem to know me. I won't be suprised, if people with 50 ID's come here and destroy the purpose of this thread, i won't be suprised. Already, the night i posted this thread was a night of serious spiritual battle for me, i was seriously attacked, but they have forgotten that 1 John 4:4 is in the Bible, and also issaiah 54:17 is still in the Bible. They will continue to fail, In Jesus name. Amen.

No church leader has the right to tell you who to marry. No. They could guide you, but to choose for you. A big No. This is the reason why i prayed.

Who mentioned dream? I never mentioned dream. It is a pity that you are turning this thread to another thing. Well, whosoever has an ear let him ear. I do not see what is wrong in telling God to guide you in the choice of who to marry? What is wrong in it? Is it bad to ask your creator to guide on who to marry? Is it bad?

Agreed, you have the intellect to choos the person you like, but you have forgotten that the heart of man is deceitful and desperately wicked who can know it.

Presently, no marriage is without its challenges, we are not perfect. Your expectation that the person God has choosen for you will be perfect is a lie from the pit of hell. Do you think that after marriage you will just sit down and say oh! I am so lucky, God has given a wonderful wife, my mind is at rest. Then the marriage will crash, why? Because the devil will to try both of you. The devil hates Godly marriage with perfect hatred. The battle will increase, but if you are knowledgeable and prayerful, your marriage will be heaven on earth. This is the truth many christians are still battling with.

Again, how did God speak to me? For the third time, How many people here have fasted before? Do you think it easy to subject yourself to hunger for 3 days without food? Is it easy? I said i fasted for 3 days broke the fast and started again for another 3 days, people here are asking whether i am sure it was the sister name, or i am just attracted to her. It means you are not reading my post with an objective mind, you are reading the post with a mind of criticizing or condemning me. This is not how to learn and be wise.

Many of you here are yet to know what marriage really is, i doubt if there is anyone here who is legally married. I doubt.

God impressed on my heart, you will never believe, another leader told me the same thing, which i had already known before, you will still not believe. I never mentioned dream, even though i dreamt about her, people say i am misleading people with dream. Where do we go from here?

I am not here to force my exprience or my opinion on anybody, i think it is wise to learn from other people and use whatever you have learnt to perfect your mariiage, rather than condemning or criticizing an authenthic spiritual exprience.

@ claremont, you have forgotten that there is no atheist on nairaland, you know it and i know it.

I rest my case. All other questions will be dealt with as we move on to the part 2 of the write up.

God bless you.
God2man.