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Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Blatant: 2:20pm On Feb 08, 2008 |
Just divorce one and marry another. After a little while, divorce that one as well and marry another. It's better to keep recycling them like that than to have more than one at a time |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by deols(f): 12:01pm On Feb 11, 2008 |
A person who is not financially okay is not allowed to practice polygamy in Islam. Many of the people who do, don't follow the rules and that is why you don't see the benefits. you need to also understand that it is not compulsory. Imagine a situation where a Man's wife is not available to Him as a result of child birth or menstruation, He can easily go to his other wife(if he has got one) and wouldn't have any course to go outside thereby reducing his tendency of contracting diseases,prevent unwanted pregnancy, leading to no cause for abortion and thereby solving several social problems. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by hotfunmi(f): 4:07pm On Feb 11, 2008 |
Imagine a situation where a Man's wife is not available to Him as a result of child birth or menstruation, He can easily go to his other wife(if he has got one) and wouldn't have any course to go outside thereby reducing his tendency of contracting diseases,prevent unwanted pregnancy, leading to no cause for abortion and thereby solving several social problemsYou must be a helleva woman. you forgot that marriage is commitment and not a social spree. If he cannot wait till i wean my child or cease to menstruate, then his commitment to me is barbash. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by JustGood(m): 11:38am On Feb 15, 2008 |
Many well educated and well bred women are 2nd/3rd4th/5th wives so anyone who says only illiterates and never do wells practice it should think again. They are also from both mainstream religious backgrounds. It is about what everyone believes is good for him/her as an individual. BTW, we should be clamouring for individual freedom and liberty. So if someone decides to go into polygamy, they'll live with the consequences- positive or negative. I'm sure there are advantages to it and there are disadvantages just like there are to every other thing and practice. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by yemivictor: 12:47pm On Feb 15, 2008 |
JustGood: Well said brother! Well said!! |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Ajisafe: 5:16am On Feb 17, 2008 |
@ "Jezebel," "Hot Pant," HotFunmi, @ "Olosi," +osisi (or whatever ignobly damned your name is), @ other Anti-Great One ignoramuses and Christian Hypocrites on Nairaland forum, Take note, for your own good. "The Great Book verses are misquoted, to present that The Great Religion allows marrying unlimited number of women at the same time, but this is not true. Modern non-Great Ones have always thought of polygamy as a "cruel liberty" given to Great Ones by their holy book. I think many people are under an incorrect impression that the The Great Book allows a man to marry more than one woman, with no stated requirements. It actually imposes certain restrictions and states the requirements which a man should meet to before marrying more than one woman quite clearly. I would first like to make clear in the mind of readers the definition of word Polygamy, so that we are on the same page. Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is Polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In The Great Religion, limited Polygyny is permitted; whereas Polyandry is completely prohibited. Excerpt from Dr. Zakir Naiks research Moreover, other religions allow Polygyny as well. Hindu religious scriptures tell that many Hindu avatars had several wives, for example, Krishna and King Dashrat had multiple wives. In Judaism it is said Abraham had three wives and Solomon had a hundred wives. Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E. to 1030 C.E.) was the person who was against Polygyny, and even then Jews continued to marry more than one woman until 1950s when the Act of Chief Rabbinate of Israel was extended to place a ban on marrying more than one wife. The Great Religion is a religion famous for allowing Polygyny. Some people have gone so far as to identify Polygyny as a specifically Great One practice. As mentioned above this belief is incorrect. In fact, Polygyny is actually mentioned in the Jewish and Christian portions of the Bible! Abraham, Jacob, Moses, David, and Solomon practiced it, among others. It is specifically legislated in Deuteronomy 21:18-17. Jesus mentions the wedding of a man with ten wives, without any condemnation in the Gospel of Matthew 25:1-13, while Paul places restrictions on Polygyny only for priests and bishops, as indicated in 1 Timothy 3:12. The famous Christian thinker, Augustine of Hippo (354-430 CE), commented that Polygyny had recently been banned among Christians because it was not a Roman custom and Christianity was now thought to be the official religion of the Roman Empire. A later Christian thinker and reformer, Martin Luther (1483-1546), advocated for Polygyny on the grounds that what was lawful in the Bible should be acceptable to Christians. A growing number of Christians today are calling for a return to the fundemental religion established by the Bible, which includes Polygyny. Web pages supporting this belief are: http://truthbearer.org/ http://www.polygamy.net/ http://www.polygamy.com/Practical/From-A-Woman-Place.htm http://www.polygamy.com/Reviews/Polygamy-Reconsidered.htm http://www.polygamy.com/Practical/Ultimate.htm http://www.christianpolygamy.com/ Personally, I am in favor of Christians who are willing to restore their religion to the original form. Buddhism, in this case, is silent and no condemning of Polygyny can be seen. On the contrary, one could also conclude that this silence means no Polygyny should be allowed, but this couldnt be true because history tells us that many Buddhists married more than one woman during some times in history. From above, it is proven that none of the scriptures restricted Polygyny but in The Great Religion, The Great Book is the only book on the face of the earth which recommends marrying only one woman at a time. The only verse in The Great Book about quantification of wives is this: Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one. [Al-The Great Book 4:3]. Far too often I have seen this verse quoted by non-Great One brothers, who quote only the first part of the scripture, and leaving off the piece admonishing those who cannot deal fairly with all his wives to have but one. The Great Book, in later verses, clarifies this point as well: Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, [The Great Book 4:129]" Source: http://www.thecheers.org/article_507_Polygamy-in-The Great Religion.html |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by almondjoy(f): 6:59am On Feb 17, 2008 |
Goodbye thread! ![]() |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Ajisafe: 12:32am On Feb 18, 2008 |
I LOVE @AYINBA1 -- she is a truly committed soldier of Islam. More grease to her elbows (Amin). |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 4:31am On Feb 18, 2008 |
Ajisafe: singing to the marines. Polygamy is evil and cruel to women especially the first wife There is no woman begging her husband to go out and bring in bed mates. If there are they need to see shrinks. Even the women of the "great religion" are fighting against it People do so out of lust,a wandering eye and a need to fulfill their urge to cheat on the legitimate wife. and as usual it's the male that justifies this sleeping with 4,called marriage the prophet that allowed you marry four, married multiples of 6,how come? give me a break. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Ajisafe: 4:57am On Feb 18, 2008 |
nwando: Yet, you refused to learn. Why must it be about The Great Religion and the Great Ones? Seriously, you need reading glasses -- your religion and those of others support marrying multiple women. Only The Great Religion forbids this habit. It is clearly delineated in the esteemed Qur'an. God knows that it's not humanly possible to love multiple women (wives in this instance) equally, so He ordains it that we should marry one. Jews, Christians, Buddhists, Hinduists all glorify polygyny, but you and other sick Christians chose to ignore that and only attributed the practise to the Great Ones. Abraham, David, and others all practised polygyny, and who knew what your "lord and savior," Jesus, would have done had he lived longer than his 33 years on this earth. Maybe Jesus would have practised polygyny also had he not been cut down in his prime. Just maybe. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by blacklion(m): 5:14am On Feb 18, 2008 |
nwando - Polygamy is evil and cruel to women especially the first wife nwando, as you are a woman, pls help us understand some of your fellow women agree to become 2nd, 3rd and 4th wives? ekene dili chukwu and alex ekwueme are two prominent igbo polygamists - ekene had 3 and alex has 2. why did your fellow women who are their junior wives accept to become their 2nd or 3rd wife? did they not know that these men are poygamist before marrying them? we all know that in olden days, women are given by their parents into polygamous marriages. even today, this is happening in the m u s l i m north. but what about the south? who is forcing southern women to marry polygamists? yet there are so many igbo and yoruba ladies who are junior wives it takes two to tango as you are condemning men who are polygamists, you must also condemn your fellow women who agreed to become 2nd and 3rd wives |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 7:53pm On Feb 18, 2008 |
blacklion: Yes dear. The second,3rd and 4th wives are usually gold diggers and the first wife is a victim of a randy man with a restless abunna |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Feb 18, 2008 |
Ajisafe: and yet somehow Jews and Christians for the most part are monogamists and "The great ones" have polygamy as a sixth pillar,how come? Read my earlier posts,the New Testament never advocated polygamy. Creation itself was one man one woman. It wasn't until the 7th generation of Adam did we hear of polygamy. It was never advised,commanded or encouraged. get your facts straight. Of all the prominent Christians you know,tell us one who is frolicking in bed with 2 women called wives? You see how weak your arguments are. Which disciples of Jesus had more than one wife? Read about the qualities of a Bishop/deacon which are synonymous with the qualities of a good Christian man,in the New testament That's your assignment. ![]() The 'Great Book' according to you says you should have one wife excuse me make I laugh he HE HE He He ho ho ho ho ho When I tell you to eat one cookie,and yet if you're still hungry you can eat 2,3,4,5,6 what did I really say? Christians marry one wife Jews also marry one wife They were never commanded to multiple wives. We have better things to do than jumping from bed to bed. No wonder Christians and Jews spend time inventing things than impregnating women ![]() There's more to a real man that his dangling yekini |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 8:20pm On Feb 18, 2008 |
deols: You make it sound like the average man is a he goat unable to control his sexual urges. Could this be why some mus-lims especially shittes contract temporary marriages akin to prostitution from city to city since it sounds OK to call these other women wives? Please spare us. and when there are no wives around to offload on do you turn on the housegirls or the little girl hawking banana? |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 8:33pm On Feb 18, 2008 |
@ deol You must be a man. What woman with brains would allows her husband to sleep with someone else? You are just too stupid to be real. You must be a man! |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by blacklion(m): 8:49am On Feb 19, 2008 |
nwando, i think we are agreed that where a man marries a woman with the vow of her being the only wife for life, it is wrong for him to marry more wives and wrong for other women to accept to be his junior wives. now how about a man who married the first wife under native law and custom and so never made any vow or commitment to her either while they were dating or during the native law and custom ceremony that she will be the only wife. Is it wrong for him to marry more wives in future? What if he always made it clear that he can stay with only one woman and will most likely marry more wives in future? Since the woman went ahead to marry him knowing his intention, can she complain after that he is a polygamist? i hope you know that many people in nigeria are still formally married even though they have separated years ago and no more live together for a very long time. Maybe the man does not want to legally divorce the wife so that in future their kids will not be mocked as coming from a broken home. Now assuming the man takes another wife under native law and custom, is he now a polygamist even though he has not co-habited with the first/legal wife for many years? |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 1:02pm On Feb 19, 2008 |
separation is not divcorce. Until you break your union under the law, you are still husband and wife. A better solution would be to enforce the law so that in case of death, all the man's properties would be automatically handled over to the first wife even when there is no will that states so. U don't think any woman by then would dream of becoming a second wife when she knows that, in the future when the man dies, she could become a wreckless frustrated second hand wife! |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Nobody: 9:37pm On Feb 19, 2008 |
michelin89: don't mind these men. at this rate,you young girls should do ya research well well before saying "I do" to any Nigerian men The way some of them reason is scary. so one must go to a Church to marry and exchange vows in order to be faithful to his true wife? blacklion: doesn't marriage in itself mean a commitment to the wife? Most of these first wives stuck in these community marriages would have flatly said no sir,[/b]if they knew there'll be co wives to follow I believe the men ought to say their intentions at the very beginning something like Honey,there'll be other wives later o after I marry you finish that way she can choose to marry you or wave you goodbye. [b]Don't spring it on her after she's had 4 kids, her mammaries are touching her knees and her Ikebe are the size of Mount Everest when she's basically stuck with you Being a female ,I'm pretty sure most will kick you to the curb if they know what the intentions are. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by blacklion(m): 4:38am On Feb 20, 2008 |
hi nwando, sorry, the 3rd para of my last post should actually have read - "What if he always made it clear that he can NOT stay with only one woman and will most likely marry more wives in future? Since the woman went ahead to marry him knowing his intention, can she complain after that he is a polygamist?" i'm not so sure about most females kicking the man to the curb if he makes this proposition flat out to the would be first wife. a lot would depend on their geographical location and respective socio-economic situations. many women in nigeria do not have the opportunities and options available to their sisters in the west. a wealthy man can literally have his way in many ways ![]() and even then, how about all those naija baby mamas in america? many dudes have baby mamas in houston, dc and nj. all the women know about each other and that the dude is servicing all of them. are these women not in polygamous marriages in reality? why don't they walk away? most nigerian/african women are very hypocritical about polygamy. they keep bashing naija men over polygamy yet keep firmly tight lips on the serial monogamy prevalent in the western societies. with divorce rates in america now at 50% within the first 7 years, i'd really love for an african female resident in america to explain to me just how serial monogamy in america is superior in any way to good ol' african polygamy! specifics would be most appreciated |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by blacklion(m): 4:48am On Feb 20, 2008 |
michelin, do u know that there are women lawyers, doctors, accountants, bankers, permanent secretaries etc who are second or third wives to their husband? do you know that many of these women married their husbands long after they finished schooling and were already established in their professions/careers? even if such a law as you propose is enacted, there will ALWAYS be women willing to be second wives. the law will only deter the gold diggers who married the polyamous men solely for their money. but it won't deter women who have their own means but just want a husband to call their own - along with half-a-dozen other women ![]() mind you, the educated, professional 3rd wife will surely see to it that oga writes a will and builds a house for her in his lifetime ![]() btw, its already the law in nigeria that if a man dies without a will, some of his assets e.g. retirement benefits, insurance etc will go to the folks named as next-of-kin. many polygamous men listed their first wives as their NOK when they were beginning their working careers and still had only one wife but never remembered to change it after they married more wives |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by HotFunmi1(f): 4:53am On Feb 20, 2008 |
By Blacklion, Because they were under the law handed down to them by religion and ridiculous culture. How many of these women do you see today getting married as second, third wives? even if such a law as you propose is enacted, there will ALWAYS be women willing to be second wivesOf course, afterall killing all the snake in the bush will not make them go into extinction. If intelligent men like you monopolise your brethren, we will reduce the number of women being exploited by randy men in the name of polygamy unless you are a chauvinist. Are you for women or against them? |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by tpia: 4:59am On Feb 20, 2008 |
like Simibrazil pointed out when she was here, make all of them practice menage a trois, or menage a million, for inside bedroom. ie no need for sex by appointment. Just have the frigging sex at the same time, with all the wives "working" on the husband. ![]() ![]() |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by blacklion(m): 5:22am On Feb 20, 2008 |
hotfunmi - Because they were under the law handed down to them by religion and ridiculous culture. How many of these women do you see today getting married as second, third wives? come lagos, make ah show you big girls working for mtn and zenith bank who are third wives today. from there, make we go abuja, make ah show you lawyers and perm secs who are 3rd wives today the fact is that women do not all reason the same way - just like men. there will always be women prepared to share men while the nwandos and michelins see it as an abomination. every woman's situation is different and she will respond to such issues based on her situation e.g. the marriage options available to a 35 year old naija woman doctor in naija are not the same as she would have in the us. in america, she is an extremely hot cake just for being a doctor alone and dozens of naija guys will be begging for hand in marriage. even nurse and pharmacist sef, dem dey beg dem for marriage talk less of a whole doctor. but in naija, 35 year old female doctors are 2 for ten kobo. come to LUTH or UCH and you will see them plenty. so the one that is in naija's options will be more limited and she then considers being a second or third wife. as for my personal take on polygamy? you women una wahala too much! one woman's wahala is more than enough for me for a lifetime!!! but i respect the right of those men and women who feel they can cope with polygamy to do so as long no one is conned or forced into it |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by HotFunmi1(f): 6:19am On Feb 20, 2008 |
By Tpia, And the 'menage a billion' will soon turn to 'menage a heart attack' one day for you. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by HotFunmi1(f): 6:23am On Feb 20, 2008 |
By Blacklion, These women are desperate to attach a man's last name to theirs because the Nigerian society still frowns at women that are not married. So, it'll take some time for Naija women to understand that they don't have to be married inorder to be happy or pursue their career. Marriage is not a necessity, rather, it's a luxury and a damn expensive one at that. |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by blacklion(m): 6:25am On Feb 20, 2008 |
Just have the frigging sex at the same time, with all the wives "working" on the husband. Angry Undecided eat egusi, edi ka ikong, efo riro, ogbono and nsala soup ALL at the same time? e no go sweet laik dat. na nsala today, egusi tomorrow, ![]() variety is the spice of life but all at the same time na extreme greediness |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by tpia: 6:46am On Feb 20, 2008 |
Hot.Funmi: abeg o. I no be polygamy advocate. I just dey disgusted with the way some people defend the thing as if say them go die if dem no support polygamy. very annoying. ![]() |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by tpia: 6:51am On Feb 20, 2008 |
blacklion: all na the same thing. ![]() ![]() |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by yemivictor: 8:59am On Feb 20, 2008 |
blacklion: Yes o! e.g. Dr. Doyin Abiola and even many more of MKO's wives were very well educated! So what are we saying here, that they didn't know what they were doing? THINK AGAIN! ![]() The summary of this thread is that, much as a man will take a second wife out of greed and selfishness . . . Will an educated woman also be a 2nd or 3rd wife to a man out of the same greed and selfishness!! I keep stressing it on this forum that no gender is guiltier than the other on any issue whatsoever!!! Capish!!! ![]() |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Dalby(m): 6:01pm On Feb 24, 2008 |
The man here pays the piper, thats his right to dictate the tune ![]() michelin89: we do not need to curse to pass across our message ![]() michelin89: Marriage should be beyond who gets what. If you manage to get the above done, then men will decide to have their will done to correct that. A woman will chose to be 2nd or 3rd wife after seeing the mans will that she is taken care of in case he kicks the bucket. yemivictor: Education does not have any thing to do with it, like was rightly said above. African culture allows it, Islam gives a go ahead if the man can deal fairly with them. Somebody said poverty will be reduced by 20% if the law says no to polygamy. I don't think so o ![]() One man one wife for 50k salary will be better than one man and many wives on 50k. Don't you think that we will better distribution of wealth, with polygamy ![]() Speculations are that we have more female to men, if all the males have paired up what will happen to the remaining women?, we might probably have increased criminal activities and unrest among the female folk. The rate of divorce will also go up because those unmarried once will do all possible to remove the married once from their homes ![]() But with polygamy, wealth is better distributed and every one is carried along ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by lucabrasi(m): 6:57pm On Feb 24, 2008 |
hey y' all,kinda new on nairaland,but i felt the urge to contribute to this thread cause im from a polygamous home,polygamy is not just as a result of lack of education cause my dad is highly educated and all his friends and contemporaries were as well,he got into polygamy cause of his quest for a male child and he onli got a male child after the 3rd and 4th wife.he was lucky to be wealthy as well so all of us all schooled in uk after sec school and there was not trouble or nethn while growing up the onli disadvantage i cud think of his the undercurrents between wives competing and cause i lost my mum while i was young,me n ma brothers tend to bear the brunt of the verbal abuse but it didnt go out of hand but on the whole i think polygamy isnt right at all |
Re: Advantages Of Polygamy? by Dreloaded(f): 7:00pm On Feb 24, 2008 |
If your dad was truly educated like you claim he wouldnt think that sleeping with other women would grant him the holy "male child" considering the Y chromosome comes from men. |
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