This is my first time posting a topic. My traditional wedding is by december n the white wedding is april next year. I n my fiance are not leave in the same town n we've never being intimate before, am scare I don't want to be pregnant before d white wedding, considering we are already married traditionally I can't refuse him intimacy n I don't want to use any prevention. I have dis believe that I will get pregnant any time I have intimate with him, n my church does not support wedding a pregnant woman. what will I do mature advice pls.

chaircover: My dear there is no way round it. If you are both healthy, then you will get pregnant if you have sexxx and so the only way round it is to use prevention. if you are worried about the long tern effects of using prevention, then you should consider the short term ones such as condoms.

You should be sitting down with your husband to be and discussing this together on the best way to go round this and arrive at a solution that you both agree to. If you whip out a condom on your traditional wedding night or refuse him sexxx on the night, without already both discussing it before, then it may be misunderstood so please first things first. you should both sit down and discuss the situation and work out solutions TOGETHER.

u ve said it all.

@poster,alternatively,u may decide to forfeit church wedding,no big deal about it. Choose whichever one u want.

a newly traditionally married couple should not be thinking about being pregnant. Other issues like love, understanding, compatibility in and outside the bedroom should be top of the agenda.

Sleeping together once or twice does not neccessary mean pregnancy. You can meet a doctor that will estimate the safe period to avoid pregnancy and some other methods to prevent being pregnant

What kind of church do you attend? Why have two weddings

A wedding is a wedding is a wedding. Once married there is no undoing to get married again. If a church wont marry you because you are married and pregnant..you need to another church that is not demonic.