bittyend: The first sex is the "tie-breaker," that should be your aim.

"Can I be your bf/lover?" is so lame and old school before sexing the girl, do that when she has no other option than to say yes.

Thank me later!

Punteke: Guys, what do u do when a girl who has been giving you green light and you guys get along so well and then she turns around to tell you she just wants to be friends when you pop the main question.

Do you get to mount more pressure on the girls (maybe she is playing the normal hard to get) or do you just understand and swallow your feelings and just be friends (which is very hard)?

Gracious10:

So what are u insinuating? Rap.e her?

Tgirl4real:

Abeg, just swallow ur feelings. You could have been reading the wrong signals anyway. Someone like me when I was much younger, get along very well with guys, but usually they mistake it for something else. So, I have learnt to always define my relationships from the start and I try so well not to send unnecessary signals. But, most times, u guys are at fault cos u tend to read the signal wrongly.

It could be the girl really likes you, but just wants you as a close friend. And it could be she is just playing hard to get. Which ever is the case, swallow your feelings for now. Time will tell.

Foxybone: Sorry o... Whatever happens, just take in good faith....

Meanwhile.... TGIF

Euroclydon: [size=14pt]I have discovered from my experience that effective communication can help you determine if she actually wants to be friends or not BEFORE you decide to talk to her about taking it to the next level...Let your body language do the talking, then discuss open topics that evolve round the matter and study her responses, we will save ourselves alot of stress if we can pay attention to little details instead of allowing our hormones do all the thinking for us. Most gals have more than one 'backup' besides who they are dating and they will be verryy nice to you with the hope that if their present man messes up, they have up to three people to choose from. So be careful....U might be special backup number 7 without ur knowledge [/size]

shadrach77: my two cents - when a lady says "let's just be friends" it's one of three things; (a) she is not interested and doesn't want to hurt you by saying 'no' so she is trying to let you off by being diplomatic (b) she needs you around her to act as a shield to ward off other guys (c)she needs you around her to act as a bait in attracting another suitor which she is eyeing - now in the last two scenarios, she is indirectly using you. Whenever i find myself in such situation, i'll just ignore her "friendship" and seek greener pasture elsewhere

Punteke: Guys, what do u do when a girl who has been giving you green light and you guys get along so well and then she turns around to tell you she just wants to be friends when you pop the main question.

Do you get to mount more pressure on the girls (maybe she is playing the normal hard to get) or do you just understand and swallow your feelings and just be friends (which is very hard)?

john650: When a woman says she just wants to be friends after she has shown an interest, it means that when she got closer to you, you just didn't have what she wanted. What she is looking for is almost always more money and material possessions than she has. If she finds out that she has more than you or on the same level, that's enough to kill the relationship. Remember, women are always looking for the best deal in town. It's all about who will offer them the most. Don't be fooled by their wishy-washy. Instead of trying to convince her to see the good in you, it's best you cut her loose and move on. That's because nothing good will come of it. The only time she could change her mind is if you suddenly hit it big. But then, do you want a girl like that.

Smuthx: ladies kind or sweet gesture does not neccessary mean she loves you or want to be your girlfriend. Ladies that are open and friendly. If she accepts every guy that ask her out. you will probably be her 1000 boyfriend. so stop taking ladies friendliness = asking her out (being her bf)

Punteke: Guys, what do u do when a girl who has been giving you green light and you guys get along so well and then she turns around to tell you she just wants to be friends when you pop the main question.

Do you get to mount more pressure on the girls (maybe she is playing the normal hard to get) or do you just understand and swallow your feelings and just be friends (which is very hard)?

For playing with my emotions..

bbpreye.:
What if she has allowed you kiss her, or you guys have done some intimate stuffs but not sex... *though it would have happened if not for the "am on my oil period"...

And when you ask her out she says Jst Friends..

What do you dou?

Shollypopz: ^^I remember telling u once u have a tendency of becoming a wife beater if u're not one already. SMH!

freecocoa: I wonder why most guys think that being nice and friendly to them, means you want them to ask you out.
That's how I lost one of my friends because I wouldn't go out with him.
Dude kept saying "but you are nice to me na, [size=14pt]you act like you had a special thing for me"[/size]
In the end he said he couldn't keep being friends cos his feelings will always get in the way.
GUYS know that its in our nature to be caring especially to people we like and liking someone doesn't always have to have a romantic twist to it, I for one show my loved ones as much love as possible, it kinda annoys me when people read and interpret meanings all by themselves without asking questions first.
Then again OP, if you really like this girl and feel she was leading you on(cos some girls do sha), I suggest you stay away from her if you can't be friends and watch how she reacts to that, finally its nice to ask questions before concluding.

You evil woman..

You string him along, gets his hopes high and then shatter his poor precious heart!!

Take it!!

africanrapper: Having a similar challenge too.

She's smashing hot. Her office is the next office from mine. Initially, she showed signs of wanting me to ‘toast’ her. Just this week, I did. To my utter shock, she’s now singing a different tune: “Uche, I want to be alone. I don’t want a boyfriend”. We should just be friends…blab la bla.
Now, I’m like WTF? Why did you show all those signs of wanting me to do toast you? Why the mixed signals?
Meanwhile, I’m dying to date this chic, ‘cos I think she has bright prospects.


What do i do?