Is it only the guy that is supposed te be spending in a relationship?

The reason for the separation of my former relationship was that the girl is too demanding. She wanted me to do everything for her without her contributing any quota. I called off the relationship because I was frustrated. Or is my reaction too hard?

Not at all, Owolabi. The man is not always meant to be spending in the relationship. They are meant to carry the relationship together, the girl is meant to be kicked to the kurb. Relationships are not meant to be frustrating, and men don't have to pay for everything.

As a matter of fact, I like to pay for those kind of stuff. That's y is called relationship

Well, maybe if you're still with the girl you could talk to her and let her know how you feel, but apart from that your decision wasn't harsh.

Am no longer with her, Nike. I left when I realized she is not ready too make amends. Notwithstanding thanks for your reply. Catch yah!

oh..aight..gud luck anyway

men you made the right call, i dont blame you for that.. i just can not imagine myself doing that. i am very independent and i rather the guy not spend on me at all or rather we split the cost... some way or the other a relationship should be about giving n taking .....

Dude, you did the right thing.

yep you did the right thing

*thumbs up*

demanding in what sense? sexually? financially? emotionally? time?

i think he means financially

Fox she was demanding in the sense of , everthingcally.

you did the right thing.

o yea

thx hot angel. Can I ask a simple question though, why is everyone saying he did the right thing when there's a girl somewhere whose heart was broken? Did you take time to talk to her about cutting down on her demands? What if her mum was a housewife who depended solely on the husband? That's all she saw growing up so it's not wrong for her to believe that whoever she is dating should support her. Maybe she has older sisters who do the same thing too. Did you at least let her know that her grab-grab mentality bothers u?

its not only the guy o, sometimes the babe too should shake body financially that is, infact that is one of the ways i use to differentiate the good girls from the ugly bad ones

Hi Owolabi, you definitely did the right thing. I made a similar experience but it took me way too long to figure out what's wrong. Love made me blind. I'm proud of you !

Uhmm fox. No matter how the girl grew up, she shouldn't be too demanding. For heaven's sake he's ur boyfriend not ur husband.

THANKS FOX FOR YOUR COMMENT ,BEFORE i boycott the relationship i tried to call her attention to her behavior but she couldn't amend,with all sincerity i was in love with her then ,as we all know relationship is meant to be enjoy and not frustration,I got no option than to call it off.I even threaten her that i will call the dating off if there is no changing but she was damn too adamant and she don't care to know were u even get the cash from all she cares about is i need money!money!money!,ah ah Na my papa be CBN Governor Ni ?,abeg am not regretting my reaction.....Moreso after the boycotting she did not even bother pleading with me she went to the thin her since then.....pls thank God for the deliverance. .

owolabi thanks for explaining the situation better....If you told her how u felt about the setup then threatened to leave and that didn't make her change then omo u did the right thing jare abi dem write lottery for your head.

i thought love exists!

One partner must complain about the other! Why don't you just say you are tired? After all at the start of the relationship you did not complain abi notice that she was too demanding.

Oldboy, you probably made her to believe your courtship that money is not a problem. You see, when some guys are after a girl, they are ready to promise anything in order to get her laid. Thank God you are out of it now. It will also tell others that promissing a lady so much for the little pleasure you intend to get from her may cost you much later.

However your action cannot be considered hash. Just be carefull with your selection of words when next you want to court a girl.

Some girls just want to be another man's liability.Abeg,its a good decision.

To start with if your girl is demanding too much, the girl did not love you she have come to rule you to eat what ever you have and call you mumu in the presence of her friends.

l'm not saying that your girl will not ask you for something but it should be once in a while unless you decide on your own to give her.

Fox you said something about her mum being a house wife, this did not make sense to me because l don't have mum at all and my father is no longer getting yunger but l manage myself. l hate being a burden to people. l do felt my boy friend, l have not come into his life to get him down but l have come to help him grow, if l should be asking him much it will affect his career, education and even his family.

There is one of my cousins who his girl also demand much on, at a point he decided to leave the girl. And since then by cousins is happy because he have much now is his account

So boy you have done well by leaving her. You catch yourself on time.

watin happen know boby dey enter this topic again for some time now why?

My boyfriend and i fight almost every other day. He think i should be the one do the housework " Housewife" but im not even married YET! I have a daughter that from prevoius relationship and he have a son from prevoius first marriage. Im sick of him demanding me to do everything he want me to do. Why can he just help me do it? Why do i have to do all the work? I'm in madly in love with him and he is in love with me too but i just cant take it no more. i always think of him and my daughter and his son before i do myself. Anything they need i always make sure they get it. my boyfriend also play playstation all damn day!! i guess this is it. I want to express my feeling and i cant express it to him. hope y'all understand what im coming from......

i will confirm what other people on this this topic has said : when a girl asks you money and gifts all the time that means she has a plan : taking advanatge of you and letting you down as soon as you bank account is empty.

I live in france My girl friend is nigerian (i am white) and i see how her sexy fiends treat their "boy friends", these boys are much older than me and very rich.

I can tell you one thing : they ask them money and gifts all the time, they say they need support to pay the rent, that their momm is sick in nigeria and needs money, that the little sister need money for school fees etc, this is hustle, strictly hustle, they don't ask anything to their other "hidden" boyfriend who is usually much younger, handsome ,athletic, fashionnable and nigerian of course.

Believe me someone who loves / likes you don't want to take every thing that you have , don't want to make you broke, don't want to see you unhappy.

There is a simple way to avoid that kind of girls: make her understand right form the start that having a relationship with you can not turn into a profitable business, that you are nobody's bank

If the girl doesn't like you she will run away immediately, if she stays that means she really likes you, it is as simple as that, after this very simple test you will offer her what you want when you want, but only when you choose it, not because she gives you an order.

Women have a very powerfull weapon: sex , if you do everything they want they will be hot, make them angry by refusing what they ask and their legs will be locked, thanks to this fantastic weapon weak men can get robbed and abused more efficiently than by two men with guns

Wow. that's some really good advice. Thanks for sharing!

your reaction was perfect!! the girl probably didnt love you, i bet she loved your money!!

i think you did the right thing, any girl who can't stand on her own feet financially will never do so, you tried to talk to her and she didn't listen so you are not on the wrong, just ensure you don't end up wiv another just like her, she may not even want money this time, sha be careful there are many out there!

carlito:

i will confirm what other people on this this topic has said : when a girl asks you money and gifts all the time that means she has a plan : taking advanatge of you and letting you down as soon as you bank account is empty.

I live in france My girl friend is nigerian (i am white) and i see how her sexy fiends treat their "boy friends", these boys are much older than me and very rich.

I can tell you one thing : they ask them money and gifts all the time, they say they need support to pay the rent, that their momm is sick in nigeria and needs money, that the little sister need money for school fees etc, this is hustle, strictly hustle, they don't ask anything to their other "hidden" boyfriend who is usually much younger, handsome ,athletic, fashionnable and nigerian of course.

Believe me someone who loves / likes you don't want to take every thing that you have , don't want to make you broke, don't want to see you unhappy.

There is a simple way to avoid that kind of girls: make her understand right form the start that having a relationship with you can not turn into a profitable business, that you are nobody's bank

If the girl doesn't like you she will run away immediately, if she stays that means she really likes you, it is as simple as that, after this very simple test you will offer her what you want when you want, but only when you choose it, not because she gives you an order.

Women have a very powerfull weapon: sex , if you do everything they want they will be hot, make them angry by refusing what they ask and their legs will be locked, thanks to this fantastic weapon weak men can get robbed and abused more efficiently than by two men with guns

i also believe that in a relationship it must be mutual for both the guy and girl to contribute not jsut one party doing the whole work

hot-angel:

Uhmm fox. No matter how the girl grew up, she shouldn't be too demanding. For heaven's sake he's your boyfriend not your husband.

Even if he was her husband doesn't mean that the woman shoould depend totally on him for every financial need. I also think that the man will even respect you more when he sees that your are also struggling to get what you want and not always saying "Darling I need N50 000 to buy this that and that this!"

@carlito
nice reply