Problems but I know sumthing will pop up for the benefit of the girl in question

There is a girl,she just turned 21,living with her boyfriend at her boyfriend's family home.

Her boyfriend is a brother of a close friend of mine and had always looked down on me because people believed I was dating the guy secretly but things got worse wen she got the guy.She couldn't even stand my presence eventhough the guy was with her,the problem is the guy has been a cheat for as long as I can remember.

Moving on,the guy made the girl pregnant and their baby would be 2years this march...The guy is seeing another girl now and just few days ago babymama was out on a night vigil when the guy brought the new girlfriend into the room,while busy babymama returned early from the night vigil and cought them in action....

When she asked the guy he asked her if she noticed something wrong and escorted the new girl home,returning home and ignoring babymama.

On christmas day,babymama went out with the guy's family and the guy brought the girl in again and shagged her.

Now the problem is babymama,was too proud wen still dating the guy with no child then,she fought with a relative who took her in since she is an orphan,so she moved in with the guy.Now the guy doesn't want her anymore and she has nowhere to go,adding that no woman can stay with such a man.

She needs advice though she doesn't know that I know her situation buh I feel for her

What about her uncles? Aunties? Can't she go to their place? Or does she fall from heaven?
Pls answer the afore-mentioned question first before i proceed.

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That woman made her bed now she has to lay in it. The first mistake she made was moving into this guys family home. Right there she lost everyone's respect. orphan or not i am sure she lived somewhere before she met the guy. Now she has a baby and she is being abused emotionally. If she would have been wise, all these years, she would have taken her as to school and figure out how not to be dependent on anyone(assuming she didn't)

She will eventually get kicked out with her child. Then what? does she work? does she have any marketable skills?

I honestly feel bad for her.

gwas: What about her uncles? Aunties? Can't she go to their place? Or does she fall from heaven?
Pls answer the afore-mentioned question first before i proceed.

nobody fell from above na...I don't know where she lived before she came from before cuming to stay with her aunty who chased her away.

She is not ma friend tho

omega25red: poster

That woman made her bed now she has to lay in it. The first mistake she made was moving into this guys family home. Right there she lost everyone's respect. orphan or not i am sure she lived somewhere before she met the guy. Now she has a baby and she is being abused emotionally. If she would have been wise, all these years, she would have taken her as to school and figure out how not to be dependent on anyone(assuming she didn't)

She will eventually get kicked out with her child. Then what? does she work? does she have any marketable skills?

I honestly feel bad for her.

she dropped out in grade12 the worse part is the guy is a graduate,the guy's 2 younger sisters one being ma friend are in 3rd and 2nd year @ varsity but it didn't bother her.

Anyway solutions please

gwas: What about her uncles? Aunties? Can't she go to their place? Or does she fall from heaven?
Pls answer the afore-mentioned question first before i proceed.

According to Op, the lady fought her uncle or relatives who adopted her..lf the guy's parent are around let the lady park her things and stay with them or are they going to reject their grandson?..

chikeorji123:

According to Op, the lady fought her uncle or relatives who adopted her..lf the guy's parent are around let the lady park her things and stay with them or are they going to reject their grandson?..

the guy's mother is still around and she likes the girl but the thing is...

She can't force her son to love her again

She needs to swallow her pride and make peace with her family.

uj_sizzle: She needs to swallow her pride and make peace with her family.

Noted

HumbledbYGrace: the guy's mother is still around and she likes the girl but the thing is...

She can't force her son to love her again

Then let her go and reconciled with her adopted parent.as a starting point..

Sad story. does she not have any money to set herself up?
Can her friends not help her out temporarily?

Humble...can't you help her?

centje: Humble...can't you help her?

She hates me...she doesn't even know that I know all these.

When she arrived here she took me as her rival because her babydaddy 'favoured' me though he isn't really ma type so I stepped off to let her enjoy her man but she still hates me

HumbledbYGrace: She hates me...she doesn't even know that I know all these.

When she arrived here she took me as her rival because her babydaddy 'favoured' me though he isn't really ma type so I stepped off to let her enjoy her man but she still hates me

if she hates you that much,then i think these suggests wont be of help. She wont buy them.

HumbledbYGrace: She hates me...she doesn't even know that I know all these.

When she arrived here she took me as her rival because her babydaddy 'favoured' me though he isn't really ma type so I stepped off to let her enjoy her man but she still hates me

if she hates you that much,then i think she wont buy these suggests when you present them to her.

centje: if she hates you that much,then i think she wont buy these suggests when you present them to her.

her babydaddy's little sister is ma best friend so she won't hear them straight from ma mouth but from ma best friend

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HumbledbYGrace: her babydaddy's little sister is ma best friend so she won't hear them straight from ma mouth but from ma best friend

i suggest she gives the guy some space. Maybe attempt making peace with the family that adopted her. If she has any legal aggrement with the dude then it should be use to compel him to provide for the baby and probably her.
You can still swallow pride and help her if you can.

centje: i suggest she gives the guy some space. Maybe attempt making peace with the family that adopted her. If she has any legal aggrement with the dude then it should be use to compel him to provide for the baby and probably her.
You can still swallow pride and help her if you can.

will try

Ok, op, how is this your effing business? And why should i be bothered??

The guy's a player. Next month he's gonna jilt the new girl and move on to the next girl. Too bad she has a baby with that kind of guy. I'll only advice her to forget about him and pick herself up, and with time, someone's gonna love her...and her baby.
I'm sure she's wise now. She and the guy do not deserve each other, that's the fact.
Bless you, HBG.

Flashaldrin: Ok, op, how is this your effing business? And why should i be bothered??

Iam bothered because I know the feeling dear just that in my situation the father would do anything for his child though he couldn't careless bwt me,I remember one time I was there to see my child and the girlfriend came,they did their thing in ma presence I felt like pulling ma hair because I didn't knew of the new girlfriend.

And I have no parents but I value ma family,they were all disappointed wen I fell pregnant but I know that if I stayed with that guy I was giving away my future,I apologised to them though it wasn't easy but they took me back.

Sometimes just put urself in someone else shoes just for a minute dear

Larry-Sun:
The guy's a player. Next month he's gonna jilt the new girl and move on to the next girl. Too bad she has a baby with that kind of guy. I'll only advice her to forget about him and pick herself up, and with time, someone's gonna love her...and her baby.
I'm sure she's wise now. She and the guy do not deserve each other, that's the fact.
Bless you, HBG.

with time she should go back to school Larry and thanks

Can I ask?

Well lemme just ask; If she was ur sister,blood sister wat would u tell her?

If she was my sister, I'd get my glock and shoot the guy in the groin. Then I'd take her away from the damned family to live with me until she gets her bearing right. She's my sister, I ain't gonna leave her at the mercy of haters.

Larry-Sun:
If she was my sister, I'd get my glock and shoot the guy in the groin. Then I'd take her away from the damned family to live with me until she gets her bearing right. She's my sister, I ain't gonna leave her at the mercy of haters.

shoot him seriously?

Seriously, yes.

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Larry-Sun:
Seriously, yes.

u aware ur gonna go to jail?

If it's for my sister, i's worth it.

Larry-Sun:
If it's for my sister, i's worth it.

Abel hmmmmm

HumbledbYGrace: Abel hmmmmm

If I were Abel, I would never go to jail.

Larry-Sun:

If I were Abel, I would never go to jail.

the way u talk about not minded the shooting man!

Can we be serious Larry?