almondjoy:

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm, . . . . . . . .


Just to play devil's advocate to the ladies in the house.

What if a seer told you that this child resulting from rape would be your only child to come out of you in your life time or you would lose your life if you got rid of the child.  What would you ladies do?  The men have the right to do what they want to do.

What would you do ladies? If you had this revelation in advance.


Thinking. . . . . . . . . .

D-reloaded:

you're pro choice as well AJ

ifyalways:

@Aj the God i serve wont let that happen.i would rather adopt a child, love and cherish him than having a rape child live with me.i CANNOT love such a child so even if it gets to that extent,ADOPTION becomes my best bet.  

ifyalways:

Agreed.[/b]we don't wish for such things but i really think [b]thats what i would do.

i simply can't live with such a child.

Yes the adopted one might be a product of a worst crime but then,emotionally,its sounds better to me.

hmmmmmn living with and loving a rape child? anyway God help us.

Am not going for adoption because of any man,Hell no.

i would be doing so because i can't possibly be a mother,not to talk of a good one to the unbron child so . . .perharps one never can tell,

if there is any close relative that is willing to have and keep such a child,[/b]i might though its really going to be hard.

[b]go tru 9 full painfull months cursing and hating ,nooo i simply can't.

yes adoption becomes an option for me.whatever the parentage.i don't know so it wont hurt me.

D-reloaded:

why do you think us not anting to have morning sickness, gain weight, bloated ankles etc for some batard child means wanting to please a man

what about the fact that some of us have the guts tp say we don't say we wont feel an iota of love for such a kid

. There was this notorious black rapist in the late 80s who used to rape asian women in Chinatown, NY. One of the victims, a korean lady had the kid
and grpwing up when he was beaten up in the playground by other kids calling him "half demon", she used to look from the window and laughed while he was being beaten half to death. Would you approve of such a behavior, after all she "kept the kid" right?

anyway like i said before, thank God for civilized countries

ifyalways:

@AJ I can't give what i don't have.i can't love a rape child when i don't even love/forgive myself for having him.its a really tough decision but still,i still stand on abortion ! we don't pray for such things to happen anyway

almondjoy:

I know it is not an easy decision. But this child is innocent!



Is is the stigma of society or just plain vanity that is the reason for all this? I am just tryin' to understand. Because no "female" here has given me any reason to sympathize with any female who has been raped to the point of wanting to take her own life and that of her unborn child. Stigma? Pride? or what? I am prochoice but some things just defy simple logic here.

If you can never open up in your heart to love what is half yours---I am sorry, I find it absolutely difficult to believe you can love a total stranger--a child unknown to you. People who love other children usually love theirs first. Because if you plan to harm one innocent child--you can harm yours!

A child is a child--an innocent child for that matter?

Well, your choice---I am pro choice. I will never contemplate such and let the chips fall where they may!

D-reloaded:

You're not exactly being pro-choice by yelling at us for the option we decided to pick from such a riduclous scenerio like a "seer seeing that it's your only child". I would expect such rantings from a frustrated pro-lifer.

No one even said OTHERS should do this, we're just saying this is what we'd perfer had it been us in such a situation. who's saying other females shouldnt keep it? If they want they can. If they believe they'll love it as they own, let them do so, however they shouldnt exect the husband or whoever to feel the same way NOR should they make other females feel bad for not having the same feelings.

almondjoy:

The good news is that it has not happened to any of us.  We have time to think things over--and I pray it never happens to any of us.

It is not as easy as you think---who talks of abortion in 2008!

I deey laff!

You are not serious!  Abortion is only a prochoice decision for people who do not know any better!  For the ignorant. I am not a religious router--this is life and death we are talkin' about. It never an option for[b] any sane female. [/b] Not if you have a period every month.

Go and think about it!

Na beans!

ifyalways:

thanks a million,we pray such things don't happen to any of us
like you said,its a very difficult situation not even good to be imagined.

almondjoy:

No problem. Thank God for Prochoice. This thread was for guys to come and prove the status of their relationships for their "raped" femele partners anyway.

So over to the original audience this thread was intended for.

Enjoy!

You are not serious! Abortion is only a prochoice decision for people who do not know any better! For the ignorant. I am not a religious router--this is life and death we are talkin' about. It never an option for any sane female. Not if you have a period every month.

D-reloaded:


what are better ways then? since we are evil for not wanting to pretend to love a fetus that we didnt bargain for.

i guess i don't see how you are respecting a decision when you make comments like

It's not something most people WANT to do but when it comes to extraordinary situations for example this topic, people should be able to consider it and even confess to considering without others making them feel horrible.

4 Play:

If this happened to my fiancee, its ultimately her decision what she wants to do. So back to the ladies

almondjoy:

.  Where in your bibles did he say you should terminate a pregnancy as a result of rape?

D-reloaded:

a seer ko, a winch ni. 

If the God I believe in would allow such horrible consequences, I wont serve Him anymore and happily DIE.

I will take it as that. The child will still be removed


Anyway thankfully in civilized countries, when a rape case is reported, the first thing they do is a rape kit which involves STD tests AND the morning after pill therefore the baby will be gone within hrs after the horrible situatiom

D-reloaded:

Have I ever come across as being a Bible thumper to you, AJ?

If the same God can allow such to happen, I[b] expect for there to be leniency on how (wo)man chooses to deal with it[/b]

and ONCE AGAIN, the only comment of yours I have a problem with is you saying that those who opt for the abortion route in such a situation must be insane. Dont see how that's being "pro-choice", every person has the right to do whatever they feel is best without snide remarks implying they are senile for choosing a route you think is wrong.

D-reloaded:

Dont start with me, jare.

Only mindless people don't question things due to unnecessary fear.

Bebstic:

This is all so interesting. It's amazing what the ladies think. I thought the really funny answers would be from the guys.
For those who would conveniently abort the baby, does it mean the wedding goes on as planned in 2 months? besides, does the abortion heal the relationship between the two of you? will it ever be the same?