CAMEROONPRIDE: That's NL for you gathering of dumb women who talk anything but sense...These bitter women replying here are from broken or abusive home....now they want to put their anger on innocent men, look at them screaming the man "must", we must share the house chores , Tufiakwa...the day you pay our dowry is the day helping will b a must... Utter rubbish
Don't you have kids? Or househelp..

Do you think I did all that when I was single to do it again when Im married?


I will certainly help but It's not an obligation


Lol, @ people talking about 1950 and 2013 , talking about moving forward? Why don't you fight against dowry and bride prices which are money suckers
Why don't you battle to share the dowry with us?

Hypocrites.

That's Nl's women for u : dumb, bitter, angry ,frustrated.

Mynd_44:
With the chores in you own house? What is bad about it?

SniperInADiaper: ^^ the Op will marry an American

PrettySpicey:

when I first read ds i just had a problem with No2 but now am beginning to have a problem with YOUR MINDSET.
It's all well and good for a women to get of her lazy ass and go get a degree/skill and contribute FINANCIALLY to the upkeep of d house.
But it's okay for d man to remain seated on his royal ass and NOT contribute DOMESTICALLY to the upkeep of d home.
Reason: HE IS A MAN.
So doing a little house chore will shrivel up d 'little man' down there.
Please Ade, get out of your superior CAVEMAN Island.
And don't bother with insults here, this one is married to one not THREATENED by a little act on equality.

tjskii:

bomly:

Nah people like una kill my friend so, African woman my feet, Woman body nah fire wood? even fire wood burns to ash. MEN get it right there is no woman who can do all the house chores, eh nor dey ooooo. and wait, why are you people dragging women backward and want to move forward? Women I nor say make una nor do house chores ooo, I am only saying try as much as you body can take you, nor go cook until you die, know when to rest and when to stop and when to seek for help.

People move forward and face front, if you want to stick to the old believe, move backward and face back.

BY1434: @OP,May Allah bless you for sharing this with us,its so on point,i hope the ladies will listen cos this brainwashing is what is killing them.............when you have gave the guy all he would like to have after marriage,how do you expect him to respect you...sex b4 marriage is evil.dont loose ur virgie for peanut

pc guru:

as much as i hate the comment, you do have a point,because the concept is that if ladies want to adopt the modern era, that's not bad,but its hypocritical to allow bride price if truly its all about gender equality because that totally undermines it. hmmmmmm strong point

anitank: And for those talking about sharing chores....

A full blown African lady shld not expect her man to do chores with her, wether its his house or not. He can decide to help her (most reasonable ones definitely would), but its certainly not an obligation for them

Chomzy19: but most full blown African men does not want a liability? They want a wife who can contribute financially, but they can decide to help ornot when they wish? ... If a man wants an african marriage then he should provide everything money-wise and d lady shld only help when she wants to but if it is for all these men that expect there wives to tk up sm part of d financial responsibility of the household then they better also take up sm responsibility in household chores...

emiye:

you are not getting his point, what he meant is that most chores are PRIMARILY the duty of the wife.

Whatever the man contributes as regards house chores is SECONDARY.

Chomzy19: but most full blown African men does not want a liability? They want a wife who can contribute financially, but they can decide to help ornot when they wish? ... If a man wants an african marriage then he should provide everything money-wise and d lady shld only help when she wants to but if it is for all these men that expect there wives to tk up sm part of d financial responsibility of the household then they better also take up sm responsibility in household chores...

princemedico: On point and very true unlike the load of dos and don'ts we get here. Many ladies are victims of No. 4, they feel they are being social or jovial while they are doing damage.

DailyNews: @OP, it is nice and for copyrite reasons for you to always acknowledge the original writer of a story/article. This piece you re-posted here was my original work. It is not only you that have done same, but I have seen lots of my works copied entirely and re-posted, and re-published in different blogs and sites without even saying thank you to the original writer, or dropping link to my personal blog where I publish most of these works, like I do when I copy another writer, which is me. That's bad, and it speaks bad of our reputation as Nigerians because I have heard several incidents where some foreign bloggers and article writers wrote me personally to ask for my permission to re-post and re-publish my work on their sites, and I gave them terms, and sometimes they invite me to be a guest writer on their sites/blogs.

Pls bro, next time, acknowledge the original writer for your own good image and honour. Thanks

DailyNews: @OP, it is nice and for copyrite reasons for you to always acknowledge the original writer of a story/article. This piece you re-posted here was my original work. It is not only you that have done same, but I have seen lots of my works copied entirely and re-posted, and re-published in different blogs and sites without even saying thank you to the original writer, or dropping link to my personal blog where I publish most of these works, like I do when I copy another writer, which is me. That's bad, and it speaks bad of our reputation as Nigerians because I have heard several incidents where some foreign bloggers and article writers wrote me personally to ask for my permission to re-post and re-publish my work on their sites, and I gave them terms, and sometimes they invite me to be a guest writer on their sites/blogs.

Pls bro, next time, acknowledge the original writer for your own good image and honour. Thanks

2. Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that’s aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?