druid06: I think the topic hit a nerves to the ladies on nairaland as the comments I've been seeing from them are negative ones. The article is absolutely right and it's time we come back to reality. Africa in general is slowly loosing it's culture dignity and pride with everyone trying to copy what they see on T.V especially our ladies. I've always known I would never get married to a Nigerian lady or an african one for that. For me, it's an Asian woman all the way. They seem to have reserve their cultures and tradition. I've always listen to guys married to Asian ladies about how their wives are down to earth and does the right thing a woman is supposed to in a marriage.

mondi_cheeks: if he gets his own clothes dirty, when he gets hungry its shoudnt be seen as an OBLIGATION on her to cook or do his laundry, after all its his tummy and his clothes

DailyNews: @OP, it is nice and for copyrite reasons for you to always acknowledge the original writer of a story/article. This piece you re-posted here was my original work. It is not only you that have done same, but I have seen lots of my works copied entirely and re-posted, and re-published in different blogs and sites without even saying thank you to the original writer, or dropping link to my personal blog where I publish most of these works, like I do when I copy another writer, which is me. That's bad, and it speaks bad of our reputation as Nigerians because I have heard several incidents where some foreign bloggers and article writers wrote me personally to ask for my permission to re-post and re-publish my work on their sites, and I gave them terms, and sometimes they invite me to be a guest writer on their sites/blogs.

Pls bro, next time, acknowledge the original writer for your own good image and honour. Thanks

Adeniyi A.:
some of points listed above are as a result of improper upbringing n sort of vicious cycle of faulty foundation.it started from homes where the child/ren was/were overpampered;the children are left watchin tv,playin games,etc.
.while their mother do not bother to call them.
i hold the beliv that when a child,esp d girl child,
starts to walk,he/she shud start learnin how to cook,wash n bath him/herself,. but wat do u see nowadays,househelps have totally taken over the responsibilities of the children at home,leavin them rotten n decayed domestically. the housegirls most times come out of homes better wife material than the spoilt brats.
this trend continues like dt n when they eventually get married to the unfortunate men, the cycle continues,it's gettin increasingly alarming

sista-jay:
Blah. . . . blah . . . . blah and blah love em or hate them, you'll still end up with one.

StateOfMind: Are nigerian women tormenting nigerian men these days? Almost all the threads lately have been about different advice to women *phew* . Una no dey tire?

Seriously don't you guys have something worthwhile to do with your lives than to sit, analyse, draft, edit, and then paste different garbage called advice on this site about nigerian women?

Na so we dey control your thoughts and minds. Please y'all should get busy, its getting really boring and I'm becoming ashamed of you.

StateOfMind: Are nigerian women tormenting nigerian men these days? Almost all the threads lately have been about different advice to women *phew* . Una no dey tire?

Seriously don't you guys have something worthwhile to do with your lives than to sit, analyse, draft, edit, and then paste different garbage called advice on this site about nigerian women?

Na so we dey control your thoughts and minds. Please y'all should get busy, its getting really boring and I'm becoming ashamed of you.

Mynd_44: ^^
Do they live in that house together? If they do why can't they share chores?

CAMEROONPRIDE: That's NL for you gathering of dumb women who talk anything but sense...These bitter women replying here are from broken or abusive home....now they want to put their anger on innocent men, look at them screaming the man "must", we must share the house chores , Tufiakwa...the day you pay our dowry is the day helping will b a must... Utter rubbish
Don't you have kids? Or househelp..

Do you think I did all that when I was single to do it again when Im married?


I will certainly help but It's not an obligation


Lol, @ people talking about 1950 and 2013 , talking about moving forward? Why don't you fight against dowry and bride prices which are money suckers
Why don't you battle to share the dowry with us?

Hypocrites.

That's Nl's women for u : dumb, bitter, angry ,frustrated.

La Bonito: Nice one tho! Men r goats! Dey no sabi anything at allllll, let dem thank dia God dat in Nigeria na dem dey propose marriage,if not, dey no fit try all des rubbish na!! Decent or no decent dressing bla bla bla, dey kns where dia hearts belong, ekwusigom.

Babzilla: T0T0 NO DEY TALK TRUE
MANY WOMEN NA GLORIFIED ASEWO
MAKE GOD HELP US

jobaskia: @adeniyi. It should really be a favor not an obligation because women once given a meter they go extra mile. I do a lot of house chores at home whenever i feel i should do.

You don't need to tell me this is what that has to be done.God forbid a scenario whereby marriage crashes, i won't feel it that much coz i can do virtually everything except the key thing i cannot do myself.

CAMEROONPRIDE: What chores are we even talking about, you women talk like you are working in plantations ....

What's there to share?
Washing two spoons/forks?

mondi_cheeks: like turning into a zombie jus to have someone else's surname as my own? There is a reason why its 2013 not the 1950s anymore u adapt to it. Women had to adapt to going to receiving degrees and getting jobs jus like men,what makes a man too special to help wit taking care of his household (chores)

Strongbest: Men are goatz huh? Wow! Uhmmmm, ya father is a man rght(one of d goatz). M jxt askin cus anytin happns dese dayz....as in, product of same sex marriage....Goat begets goat. Lol. No offense plzzz!

steve_cantrell: Most of the single 30 something females I know are single because

* they made a pact at some point in their life never to marry. Maybe a really bad relationship or seeing their parents go thru bad marriage.

* they were very brainy, religious or both and didn't have time for the opposite sex until they woke up at 28 , only to find no one around anymore.

* they listened to bad counsel, either from clueless 'friends' or their bitchy mother.

True

Ive encountered 3 of such ladies including my ex and her beechy mother

Today shes still single and bastardly searching

do or die

donguutti: 10.Stalking our social profiles,watching our every move on FB,BBM and even NL is not a marriage inspiring
quality.
But,op, are you trying to ruin my Year with Number 7.oga please remove it from the list.

Adeniyi A.:
[b] Reasons Why Some African Ladies End Up Single For Life

7. You Give Everything Out During Dating- As a single lady who has not been taken to the altar, you need to reserve some things for your husband to be, especially your body, respect it and preserve it at all cost. In the past, men rushed to marry to get certain things or privileges they had been constantly denied while being single. Such privileges include and not limited to: constant sex and companionship, good food and tidied home, etc. But today, a single man gets even the best and of course more of constant sex, good food and excellent home-keeping more than his married counterparts, so tell me how the hell you want him to desire to marry you when you have given him virtually everything he desires from a wife while being his girlfriend? And the most painful part of it all is that he knows that you are prepared to cut down on sex supply, cooking, home-keeping, etc once he marries you, so why would he not want you to remain his girlfriend for life?[/b]