I am confused I'll tell you why. I just had a weirdo bombard me with emails(my own fault for putting my email up there and my stupid picture). My point is He said can we be friends. I said sure, he then asks for my number and goes crazy because I said no. What is wrong with you guys?
Just because a female says yes we can be friends it DOES NOT MEAN YES I WANT TO DATE YOU,
What killed it was I mentioned I have a fiance. What a mistake the next thing I heard was why was I insulting him. Can't I understand he fancies me, So that is it I am slowly beginning to realise African men do not know the meaning of friendship,
You are impossible,

Can anyone explain why guys do this BS?

is the person who emailed you who i think it is?

@poster

I had been thru before. Yes, you are correct that only uneducated or desperately immature jobless African guy DO NOT UNDERSTAND the meaning of PLATONIC FRIENDSHIP of opposite sex, while real matured African guys do understand the meaning of platonic friendship.

You can see the difference.  Most immature African guys CANNOT STAND hearing the word "FRIENDSHIP" of opposite sex, expect to date the next level of the relationship.

You also should make aware the fact there is pest NL members out there.

Next time when you have conversed with an African guy, you speak straightforward saying, "sure, you can have only strictly platonic friend and keep in your mind that I have a fiancee." If he does not like it, then you have your rights to block him off your email or IM.

I have not bothered like that or I removed my email/IM off my NL profile.

Not all guys do that, maybe u were just unlucky to have a conversation with a weirdo.

Anyway . . . when you put up your picture (a very large one if i may add) and left your email address did you expect not to recieve unsolicited mail?
I find it bizare that women put up their pictures on this site and then complain when they start getting attention they claim not to be interested in. You cant have it both ways . . . if u have a fiance then you have no busines putting ur email address and picture out there were others can access it.

brb. . . .gimme a sec

aww T and I was so loving that new pic.

Gorgeous . Jare you can put it up for the world to adore just dont put up your email addy.

anyway you sef you are funny, they all use " i want to be your friend", "i want to get to know you" as a way of trying some stupid crap. It's never the literal definition of the word

4Him:

Not all guys do that, maybe u were just unlucky to have a conversation with a weirdo.

Anyway . . . when you put up your picture (a very large one if i may add) and left your email address did you expect not to recieve unsolicited mail?
I find it bizare that women put up their pictures on this site and then complain when they start getting attention they claim not to be interested in. You can't have it both ways . . . if u have a fiance then you have no busines putting your email address and picture out there were others can access it.

no david, there's attention and then there's too much attention. this is not mainly about the pix, but that the dude can't understand the meaning of friendship. yes, you're right that not all african men can't understand the meaning of friendship, but the majority that do is very low. and this guys wonder why some of us dnt bother to put our pix on our Nairaland profile . . .i gave up on that, i can't risk heart attack every time someone saves my pix and them tried to image-edit it. . .

@NLers
just because a lady shines her teeth at you and jokes with you does not give any indication that she "likes" you. . .she's just JOKING with you. c'mon guys, grab the idea of friendship, dnt go too deep under the surface

Hopefully they will listen to you, alagolo

T, tell me who the person is sef, make I disgrace am.

morenike09:

no david, there's attention and then there's too much attention.

I don't like attention . . . u wont see me hanging dollar notes on the door of my apt.

morenike09:

this is not mainly about the pix, but that the dude can't understand the meaning of friendship. yes, you're right that not all african men can't understand the meaning of friendship, but the majority that do is very low.

then keep your contact addresses out of sight.

morenike09:

and this guys wonder why some of us dnt bother to put our pix on our Nairaland profile . . .

face it, most women don't have their pictures on Nairaland because they are not presentable . . . period.

morenike09:

i gave up on that, i can't risk heart attack every time someone saves my pix and them tried to image-edit it. . .

its just a picture . . . frankly less than 0.1% of those who see pictures will take a second look at it.

morenike09:

@NLers
just because a lady shines her teeth at you and jokes with you does not give any indication that she "likes" you. . .she's just JOKING with you. c'mon guys, grab the idea of friendship, dnt go too deep under the surface

We already know . . . the funny thing is most of the really cute chics here never put their pictures and contact addresses online. You'd be surprised at the number of wonderful girls here who simply keep a low profile. I'll keep my lips sealed on that.
Spare us the complaints o jare.

D-reloaded:

Hopefully they will listen to you, alagolo

T, tell me who the person is sef, make I disgrace am.

i think i know who it is. . .

@Lady T
the one that keeps following you and sent a song to your email?

More fool me jare@D-reloaded

@4him just because I put my picture and my email means Im advertising What century do we live in.  
Yes I know I will get bullshit emails thats you men all over what I dont expect is you guys not to understand the meaning of FRIENDSHIP.

Just because I am with someone does not stop me talking to the opposite sex.  My mind is clear I say what I mean I can have 100 male friends and not have one single sexual thought towards them.  Cant you men do the same?

No Morenike!!! Hes super normal!

@Morenike

Nope you are wrong, not that one ! That one respects her relationship. Guess again sweetheart.

@4Him

then keep your contact addresses out of sight.

so basically, what you're trying to say is that the reason why most bothered to put their pix on NL is because they want more than friendship? look, let me tell you, there are those who email you to become friends with you, either b/c you're in the same location or you share the same interest. it does not necessarily means you want something beyond "i am your friend".

face it, most women don't have their pictures on Nairaland because they are not presentable . . . period.

i beg to differ!! but anywaz, same goes to the guys. . .

We already know

seems you guys still haven't grab the idea of "friendship". . . . moi, i tend to joke around alot and too playful, but do you know how many locos come on my YIM(when it was up) wanting to be my "baby"? shame for NLers sha. . .

Spare us the complaints o jare.

oh puhhlzzz "give yourself a break", david. this is not mere complaining, but this is just the plain truth, its sad that there are so many intellectual and interesting guys on NL, but once you start talking with them or joking with them, they start getting the idea that you like them. . . these guys are missing out on the humorous part of Nl girls, them later you'll see a thread up asking Nigerian Girls are funny. of course we have to get serious with you guys before you get the idea that we just want friendship.

sweet Tai:

@Morenike

Nope you are wrong, not that one ! That one respects her relationship. Guess again sweetheart.

ok, my bad. . . so what happened to Sweet T?

@Lady T

Who is this @sswipe ? tell me who it is and i'll thump his behind for you !

Gotta go y'all, i'm spent. been travelling all day long !

@Morenike

Sweet T got overthrown by Babacha Govt.

I am confused I'll tell you why. I just had a weirdo bombard me with emails(my own fault for putting my email up there and my stupid picture).

First thing first. . displaying your email publicly is not a good idea, Not because of them pervs but for the sake of them almighty spammers

My point is He said can we be friends. I said sure, he then asks for my number and goes crazy because I said no. What is wrong with you guys?
Just because a female says yes we can be friends it DOES NOT MEAN YES I WANT TO DATE YOU,

You ought to know that you're dealin with sum lowkie naija dudes here, . . .
Most of 'em do think its going to ''eventually'' move from ''just friends'' to something else. . . .

What killed it was I mentioned I have a fiance. What a mistake the next thing I heard was why was I insulting him.
You are impossible,

Wow. . .You r very cool i must say. . .
At that very point, u out not to have allowed him to spew further fuckeries. . .he should be discarded and be blocked with immediate effect. . .

Can anyone explain why guys do this BS?

Explained above. . . Majority of them african dudes doesn't know the meaning of ''friendship''

I told seun to ban him

®~^Sly^~®:

. . . Majority of them african dudes doesn't know the meaning of ''friendship''

exactly my point. . . . .

@D-Reloaded

Evil Evil Evil ! Devil in the blue jeans !

Next time you'll watch your evil mouth around me.

Bye "Ayamatanga of a woman" !

Morenike You have said it all O!!!

4him if your wonderful girls were so lowkey you wouldnt have seen their pictures or have any other commnication with them

Sly@ Im glad you see sense and understand what Im saying,

LOL@D-reloaded,

ROTFLMAO@Sweet Tai,
You guys will kill me

LadyT:

@4him just because I put my picture and my email means I'm advertising What century do we live in.  
Yes I know I will get bullshit emails thats you men all over what I don't expect is you guys not to understand the meaning of FRIENDSHIP.

Madam T, its just like putting up ur picture on a billboard in Oshodi and expressing surprise that you are getting snide comments.

LadyT:

4him if your wonderful girls were so lowkey you wouldnt have seen their pictures or have any other commnication with them

who told u?

are you minding him T? How would he know about these so called cute people looked like if he has never seen their pics with their "lowkey" sefs and their 700 facebook/hi5/myspace pics. Make I hear word. No difference putting pics there or here

anyway Sweet She, na me Ayamatanga abi? You better think of a new screen name for your third return

D-reloaded:

are you minding him T? How would he know about these so called cute people looked like if he has never seen their pics with their "lowkey" sefs and their 700 facebook/hi5/myspace pics. Make I hear word. No difference putting pics there or here

For real@D-reloaded,

D-reloaded and Sweet Tai what is up with you guys LOL

4him dont let any chick lie to you. If she dont want to be known you wont know her. At the end of the day we chat here we make jokes but sometimes we talk real talk. We are human it gets to a stage where it goes beyond computer screen name and you realise you really get on with one person or you understand their views.
Im not saying some people wont find love on here thats them. All Im saying is that you guys need to back off a little. This brazen jungle attitude that " NO female will resist me" stinks.

LadyT:

4him don't let any chick lie to you. If she don't want to be known you wont know her. At the end of the day we chat here we make jokes but sometimes we talk real talk. We are human it gets to a stage where it goes beyond computer screen name and you realise you really get on with one person or you understand their views.
I'm not saying some people wont find love on here thats them. All I'm saying is that you guys need to back off a little. This brazen jungle attitude that " NO female will resist me" stinks.

Completely agree with u up until the last 2 lines. Guys wont back off anywhere, as long as there's a female who is pleasing to the eye that can be approached i see no reason why guys shld not move in for the kill. Better to approach and get turned down than to spend the rest of ur life wondering what could have been.

The problem is some guys cant take no for an answer and will resort to insults when they get rebuffed but then such is life. You get on with it.
Its not a brazen jungle attitude, its sometimes called confidence and in this day and age without a good dose of it u may as well marry ur sister.

Classical African male,

Female:  Im fine thank you.  Hard day at work.
African Male hears: I love you so much darling

Female: How was your day?
African Male hears: Sweetrat I need you, you know,

Female: No I wok in fashion
African Male hears: I need to marry you and have your babies NOW!

4Him my love theres confidence and theres "Im not getting the message." Every female likes compliments theres an element of sheer sexiness in confident male but one who knows when to back off. You dont need to be drop dead handsome to attract females.

Im not some dumb girl who thinks shes stunning please there are tons of better looking ladies. So its not me being pigheaded. Im just saying you guys do yourselves no favours with this overconfidence.

LadyT put back that picture first before i answer you.

@Lady T

Ain't it a little' too late? check your box 'morrow. Good night y'all, i'm jet lagged like a mother,,,,,,,,