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Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 12:59pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
devour129: Please a child that will succeed will succeed no matter if the parents are there[b]{although people with grounded parents have a slightly better advantage)[/b]growing up we{mi siblings and i} toiled all our lives with out parents.from school to the shop even till university,while we were in secondary school,we wore uniforms discarded by other kids ,the story is too long jor but i tell you,we all finished school with good results,we all are married with kids and although mi folks are now better off,nobody ask them for anything cos we are not afraid of hard work ! mi point is make your life what you want it to be even if your folks are there or not,nobody cares what you wear or were you shop,live within your means,keep away from bad friends and don't sell your self for money as a last resort.am a very pretty girl even after 2 boys so you could imagine how pretty i was as a younger girl(not boosting)but i have gone to bed hungry for 4-5 days at a stretch and i never sold myself for money but you had school food and you are crying ? I disagree with your first statement totally. My dad made a genius out of me. If not for him I would have just been an average child. Parents MUST learn to train their children not only academically but otherwise. Most bad behavior in children should be blamed on their parents cos they usually don't start on time to train/discipline the kids and by the time they know it, the kids are out of hand for example you see your child being so disrespectful to people and you start hearing excuses like this from the parents '' oh he/she is still a child'', or "haha, he got it from his dad or mum" I've witnessed it and I'm telling u it didn't end well for both the child and the parents 2 Likes |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 12:59pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Wetin man no go hear for this NL? "The Koko, the koko, the koko" -- Abefe Ibadiaran addresses the issue of male hygiene https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TSEaXb9X0A8 |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 12:59pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
@ op the end justifies the means now u are very ok and cOmfortable despite d facts that u designed ur life the way u wanted it u chose to go look for greener Pastyre by running away from where they put u so bear d consequence an let those that want to travel to good people from naija to UK go everyone must have a story in this life |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by sheff(m): 1:01pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
All I can say is "abroad is not END to any of our problems its the BEGINNING of the means of survival" either by studying there or emigrating there,everyone is going to start from where we don't expect" |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by erico2k2(m): 1:02pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
[quote author=Michky]OP, please don't mind many of those useless comment before mine. This matter is quite emotional and i believe it should be treated as such. As you rightly pointed out, misplaced priorities is a huge problem in today's families. I don't know why people still feel the obligation to bear children or send them abroad (without adequate attention) for heavens sakes. Dullards, that what they are. Abeg, don't mind them jare. I, and a few others here, understand how you feel and the lesson you're trying to convey. God bless you for sharing.[/quote There is realy no point calling any o ne's post useles cos out of useless you find useful, my point is:OP says she was a KID when she was sent abroad, now tell me how does a 16 year Old get sent to the Uk from Nigeria Legally without the parents accompanying them or a Legal guardian? mind you Im talking someone not up to 18 years old or even 16,from the story the parents are in Nigeria etc to be honest with you the whole of my Adult hood was spent here in the UK I was i n my very early 20s when I came over here, No help at all but I made my choice.Life is choice driven anyhow you lay ur bed so shall you sleep on em |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by erico2k2(m): 1:04pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Kamsy10:No entirely true, check what kids of billionaires are doing all over the world, the get first class training everywhere they go still they still flops if not for the wealth of their parents |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by GetOvaMe: 1:04pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
UK CALLS!!! . . . I Can't wait @op. . Quite Sad. . Bt Life is what we make of it |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by erico2k2(m): 1:06pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Adura_ngba: This is so true. Go to Hackney, Peckham and all those places in London and you will see such type of kids all over the place, boys and girls and you wonder which homes they come out from.Sister worldwide that's the sad storey, at least them ones got homes to go back to, how about them ones in Nigeria who aint got no homes to go back to, some become rich, some die why some cant be catigorised |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by warrior101: 1:11pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
So JB and 190 still dey live? hhmmmmm |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Adurangba(f): 1:12pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
erico2k2: Who is comparing with those back in Nigeria. you are one of those who dont want anything negative said about Europe, you always say, shebi worse things happen in Nigeria. mtcheewww. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Abbott(m): 1:21pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
OP, this is a touching story but I'm thankful for the comic relief that is your name. Is that the name you were bearing when in the UK: Abefe Ibadiaran |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 1:26pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Your story seems sad, but a LOT has changed since the 80s!! Skinners school and Pembury are still there though... with face-lifts. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by born2boink(m): 1:30pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
warrior101: So JB and 190 still dey live? hhmmmmmDid you send hire assassin to them? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by ANYPEN(m): 1:31pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
braine: The story is sad. But as some get spoiled, some get better; and it depends on the person. At age 11, one should know a bit of right from wrong. Its not every good person was taken care by their parents and not everyone neglected that turn bad. you've said it rightly. i do tell younger ones that a squeeze on an orange wont make it spill out lemon juice. in life, everyone would get a squeeze and no matter how young or old, you spill out the juice of what you really are. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by erico2k2(m): 1:33pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Adura_ngba:How did I mean (not wanting anything negative to be said about Europe)? is it just Europe we have in the world? try and re read my post pay attention to the bit where I made mention WORLDWIDE,I got a good name for you but I have a hatred for name calling |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by kalunomics(m): 1:38pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
sometimes i feel like its not good posting anything in NL |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by OmerianConsult: 1:39pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
ok |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Theblessed(f): 1:42pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
[size=16pt]What a tragedy! Stolen childhood and innocence! You don't know what have done - you saved many innocent Children from long lasting emotional/psychological trauma and pain. At least some parents would now start to consider their priorities - material wealth or your family? Well let me say, God bless you for exposing the devil and his work of darkness! Look at what you went through - it was the Holy Spirit in you that spoke to your heart and erupted this tight lip secrecy from your soul - praise God, Halelujah! Having exposed the devil sure, you now feel absolutely free in the Spirit from this burden of secrecy? Thank you for highlighting the consequencies of abandonment and material pursuit on FAMILY. Children do not raise themselves rather, adults do! [/size] 2 Likes |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by warrior101: 1:45pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
born2fuck: Did you send hire assassin to them? See your mind... shior |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by warrior101: 1:46pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
kalunomics: sometimes i feel like its not good posting anything in NL Why? This is a serious topic o. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by greatgod2012(f): 1:51pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
One thing that i think everyone should always think about is bearing d number of children they can adequately and responsibly catered for. Parenthood is not by force, it is by choice, if you have decided/chosen to be a parent...........be a responsible parent..........so that, at d end, whatever d child turns out to be, you will boldly say...........I DID WHAT I COULD DO, I TRIED MY BEST AS A PARENT, I REAP WHAT I SOW. May God help us all. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by OmerianConsult: 1:51pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
lekibraky: @ op the end justifies the means now u are very ok and cOmfortable despite d facts that u designed ur life the way u wanted it u chose to go look for greener Pastyre by running away from where they put u so bear d consequence an let those that want to travel to good people from naija to UK go everyone must have a story in this lifeYou are a fool who can never learn. I pray ur own story doesn't end in death. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 1:55pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
[size=18pt]I said it on the Nigerian London suicide thread I say it again Why are Nigerians quick to send their children to London or give their kids away to foster parents all in the name of oyibo upbringing. It is beginning to backfire big time The kids are turning into murderers and gang bangers[/size] Popular examples of Nigerian kids abandoned in London by parents The fashanu brothers Victoria Ositeku that organized a killing last year Seal the musician |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 2:03pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Its sometimes a status symbol for some people when they have kids living over there in the U.k.The upbringing is African.The ones that came back to Nigeria for secondary school education and back for university education sometimes appreciate what there parents did for them. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Bla Bla Bla . . . I know a family where the father shuttles heavily between Lagos & London and they are the most adorable family you'd ever meet. Horses for causes! |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Dodfather(m): 2:37pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
parents have 50% while kids have 50% also to contribute to kids future. most often than not, good kids with good parents make the best out of life though there are exceptions. By and large the two parties are responsible. Thank God for my mother. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by tomakint: 3:04pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
modicum: I came to UK in the 80s, went to Skinners school for girls in Stamford hill where I failed woefully. I come from a family that going abroad was like going to the market for us. I lived with my sister-in-law who I happened to have appeared to as a burden at the time. I had no one to take me out as a child, didn't enjoy McDonalds's treats, remember been bought KFC once by my mother's younger sister who was in UK at the time. Most days I had to walk from Pembury estate, Hackney to Stamford hill because I had no transport fee. An uncle got me free school meals from the government so I always had lunch at school but other meals hhhhmmm not guaranteed.... Great post and a very informative one too! |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by jantavanta(m): 3:18pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
..... We really need to stop and re evaluate as a people.Indian,philipinos,chinese(i have why i said those countries)too are immigrants abeg..... Lord Frederick Lugard boasted that we shall always be their best customer. You have tried your best to let us know what has been going on there for over 100 years. Unknown to us, most of the missionaries, adventurers and other colonialists who left UK to Nigeria were people trying to get away from problems in Britain. pussy cat, pussy cat Where have you been? I have been to London to see the Queen. We have been taught to get out of the country to qualify to aspire to come back to Nigeria to live in a mansion, even if it is only for a few months before we die. What UK is to us, is what France is to its ex-colonies. The bond is difficult to break, because we are too busy to stop and re-evaluate. 1960 gave us political independence, but not cultural independence. That is why it will be difficult to Think Before You Send Your Kids.... |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by forkinsonlolo(m): 3:26pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
born2fuck: I tire, I waka with legs,waka pass. Shake head when I see long comprehension passage, cheats from other commenting as usual way of passing exam when you are tired of reading.life no get duplicate, I no go let one post kill mei just did this |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 3:29pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
I hope people are taking note It is unwise to send off a young impressionable kid thousands of miles away It is hard enough to keep kids under your roof in check Some children have rotted right under their parents watch and some could not make it if the parents didn't persist What chance then does a young person with wayward tendencies have when the people that brought them into the world abdicate their duties to others? Status symbol someone says,suicidal mission IMHO I remember the story of a London returnee a few years ago that murdered her mother in Lagos without any remorse Did anyone read her story of abuse? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by enilove(m): 3:37pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
braine: The story is sad. But as some get spoiled, some get better; and it depends on the person. At age 11, one should know a bit of right from wrong. Its not every good person was taken care by their parents and not everyone neglected that turn bad. Have you ever been starved before? You reply is like you practice such yourself. All she was trying to say is that parents should be responsible.If you dont need children do not bring them to the world because God will ask from you what you did with their lives. Only God can save this world, where we have irresponsible father,mother and govenment. |
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