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Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by begwong: 3:37pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Ok,Kpele!(sorry) |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Yvete(f): 3:38pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Depends on how some parents raise their kids. A GOOD FOUNDATION is everything. A child that fears God will not partake in certain things no matter what circumstances they find themselves or give into peer pressure. Its not about location (abroad vs NIG), but the mindset of the child. My youngest siblings came over at 14 right after JS3. Even without my parents here (though we visit NIG quite often as well) we're still well grounded. I met children of a revered Nigerian pastor attending high school in the US without their parents. For a Pastor to send his kids abroad like that, he sure is confident in his kids. She's right about allowing one's kids to be looked after by someone else anyways. Can't compare to direct upbringing by one's immediate family ... Same experience you had in the UK could happen to a Nigerian child in Ghana or Nigeria. Glad she chose to be a role model to others.. 1 Like |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by enilove(m): 3:49pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Mrs mansson: I am familiar with abefe the writer.she is fond of making excuses for every wrong she has done in the past.blame her ex husband for her marriage that didn't work.always looking for one to put the blame on. It is easy to destroy than to amend.If she had gotten the right foundation ,why would she want to pass a blame on anyone.She just made a confession about her past and gave her advice to other parents to learn from ,thats all. Even grown up children of 18 years can follow bad freinds if they feel neglected and unloved. Every parent should take a clue from that. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by SisiKill1: 4:32pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Yeah, I think about this issue every time I see how well behaved ALL the children raised in Nigeria are. Yep, the children who join cults, who rape, steal, murder, do drugs and yahoo yahoo their way to expensive lives . . .they surely got the right foundation, after all they weren't sent abroad. Lovely!! 2 Likes |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Jarus(m): 4:48pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Good points made in a crude manner. Sounded like someone shouting., almost defeating the message. A little better presentation (devoid of abusive, incoherent language) would have passed the message better. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by debosky(m): 4:49pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Thank you jare Sisi. . . .my marriage proposal remains on the table any day. The issue here is not location per se, it's the role of parents in the upbringing of their own child - if you neglect your child in Nigeria, UK, US or anywhere else, there is a greater likelihood of them turning out to be 'bad eggs'. No one should be under any illusions that this is an 'abroad' issue - many kids from the village have been sent to stay with 'uncles and aunties' in the big city and have suffered similar fates. Just do your best to bring up your kids, not by sending them away, but by spending that quality time with them. 2 Likes |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 5:06pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
190:190 na u just splash me this water? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by MsPweshy(f): 5:19pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Plz what about does who are on scholarship in d Uk,are they too at risk? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by queensmith: 5:26pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
skinners is a useless school, but its what you make of it sha, i know doctors, investment bankers teachers consultants and lawyers that went to skinner. Thats what the uk is all about. Though I was born here I didn't have the best of care, didn't have my parents around and was forced into full fledge adulthood by the age of 16, I did however have brains, the drive and motivation to be the best at whatever I did. So i ended up in an equally useless college and came out with 4 As at A levels including maths and physics (something that til date NOBODY at that college has done), and with relatively poor waec grades got into a russel group university. I do fully acknowledge the effects of good parenting and solid support on a child's outcome but I don't offer that excuse to Africans. Because we have better potential. I won't blame skinners for the ops misfortune, there is alot you could have done with yourself, you simply didnt have the ambition to do it. What stopped you from getting a part time job? How important is eating KFC for your future? People shouldnt be discouraged from using opportunities to send their kids here, trust me even skinners is better than the best state school in Nigeria, they have working labs running water and teachers with degrees, what more do you need? The op is complaining about walking from pembury to stamford hill? What a brat, she should have just stayed in Nigeria, the UK government wasted money on this ingrate, do you want me to even get started on the kilometer walks we did in naija to fetch a bucket of water? Carrying a bucket on your head and a keg in your hand whilst dodgin all these villagers and the food they have sacrificed to their gods? I suggest you DPMO! 4 Likes |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by debosky(m): 5:34pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
queensmith: And you know this because evaluated the best state school in Nigeria and compared it to skinners? Don't let some good ol exaggeration get in the way of rational thinking - it's these OTT comparisons that get people in trouble in the first place. Even the most decrepit school 'in abroad' is better than anything you can get in state schools in Nigeria. Since we're on the line of 'whatever you make of it' heck I know a man who went to school in Otueke and didn't even have shoes to wear to school. Just last week this same man was at Davos rubbing shoulders with the best economic minds on the planet. You berra send your kids to the no-shoes-allowed school in Otueke pronto! 2 Likes |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by coogar: 5:39pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
modicum: I came to UK in the 80s, went to Skinners school for girls in Stamford hill where I failed woefully. I come from a family that going abroad was like going to the market for us. I lived with my sister-in-law who I happened to have appeared to as a burden at the time. I had no one to take me out as a child, didn't enjoy McDonalds's treats, remember been bought KFC once by my mother's younger sister who was in UK at the time. Most days I had to walk from Pembury estate, Hackney to Stamford hill because I had no transport fee. An uncle got me free school meals from the government so I always had lunch at school but other meals hhhhmmm not guaranteed.... life is what you make it. enough people shared a similar childhood or even worse than yours and they are successful today. your life was in your hands and it's your sole decision to piss it away. 1 Like |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by queensmith: 5:45pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
you've started again, who the hell is otueke Debosky, the standards of education in Nigeria is different, learning is very independent back home and teachers are not faced with the level of discipline required here. They sleep with the students (on a very large scale, im not talking a 16 yr old runnin off to France with a maniac but of 12 yr olds trading sex for grades), the children are abused by students and teachers, many forced to do hard labour and the schools are poorly equipped. I attended a state school in Nigeria i'm not talking out of my arse here. Attending any school is a gamble, but you can be very well reassured that in the UK you child will receive a decent education. Whether your child is in the right state of mind to take advantage of it is his/her problem. Working toilets, windows that shut and roofs that cover the ceiling is even enough for me to tell anyone Skinners is outright better than Queens College (i assume QC is a state school, and one of the most reputable ones in Nigeria), you only need common sense and experience of both situations to understand this. I'm not speaking for the whole international community, as far as schools in the UK are concerned I can vouch for them. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by damiso(f): 5:48pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
queensmith: you've started again, who the hell is otueke Maybe not today but i would prefer Queens college of the 80's 90'sto Skinners of the 80's 90's.My personal opinion. I went to ISL in the 90's and like 70% of my set who went to Uni in the Uk went to Russell Group or so called Red brick universities.I dont think the same can be said for most bog standard local comprehensives. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by debosky(m): 5:59pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
queensmith: you've started again, who the hell is otueke Whooosh! Otueke is a place, not a person, but never mind, that was just my own little indulgence in hyperbole.
Did anyone tell you that there are no windows that shut and roofs covering the ceiling and working toilets in Queens College? Let's even say that they don't exist - are those the factors that determine the educational attainment of the students? Madame, I trust you mean well, but it is stretching the limits of credibility to glibly say that Skinners - a school you call useless - is better than the best state school in Nigeria without any objective basis. That you attended ONE state school doesn't give you the knowledge or experience to dismiss all the state schools with a wave of the hand. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by queensmith: 6:00pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
damiso: the successful Skinners graduates that I know of graduated early 90s, so I disagree with you. It's now that the school isn't so great, and the borough have just finished spending 180 million pounds refurbishing them, these ladies now learn with Ipads, bring me a college in Nigeria that BEATS THAT!!! I'm not denying many girls that went there are a waste of space, but its nothing to do with their education, they would've wasted space if you sent them to Roedean, its more to do with the demographics than the standard of education. Obviously compared to wealthier parts of the UK the school is very poor, but I insist compared to any school in nigeria the standards are tops, the money spent there alone will build 15 schools in Abuja 1 Like |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by debosky(m): 6:01pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
damiso: Hmm. . . |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by dayokanu(m): 6:03pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: Yeah, I think about this issue every time I see how well behaved ALL the children raised in Nigeria are. Lailai. Those cultist in Ibadan, Enugu Kogi, those kidnappers, prostitutees yahoo boys were all from abroad parents |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by damiso(f): 6:09pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
debosky: Why Hmmm? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by dayokanu(m): 6:12pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
damiso: Debo was the skinny boy in ISL that graduated in 1998. That has Ogo (back of head) resembling T-square. Of course he was an antisocial and dirty scruffy geek who was always reading Lolly magazine under his desk He was reported to Mr Hassans office for throwing mirror on the floor to look at a girls underwear 1 Like |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by warrior101: 6:15pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
dayokanu: Ennnhehhnn? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by damiso(f): 6:19pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
dayokanu: Not admitting to being in the 98 set .More like Mrs Peters and Mrs Monehins era but those silly boys did use to do that alot.Dirty pimpled creeps. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by TotoLicker: 6:21pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
na by force to go abroad? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by coogar: 6:41pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
dayokanu: i am guilty of that too - mr nackson is still my favourite cartoon character! |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by debosky(m): 7:08pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
dayokanu: Defamation of character - this is a false account. . .How do you know Nuhu Hassan? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by coogar: 7:13pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
debosky: nuhu hassan starred in "i need to know" |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by MrCork17: 8:20pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
parisienne: Hnm! OP thanks for sharing. I know Skinners, used to pass there as a kid and have a friend who went there it had a bad reputation back then! so ..people shuld not come to London because you coudnt find husband? |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Willgates(m): 9:19pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Yawwwns...! Boring! |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by tpia5: 9:30pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
nigeria has suffered!!!!! yabbing everyday. |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by Nobody: 9:45pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Pathetic |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by claremont(m): 9:56pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
I hate it when people blame others, but themselves, for their own misfortune; whatever happened to YOUR own sense of judgement as a living human being?! There are people who were exposed to the same challenges of growing up in foster care and spending their early life 'on the streets', but they CHOOSE to make positive changes in their life. I totally believe that a human being is solely responsible for the outcome of his life. Allocating blame to others is like the proverbial ostrich that prefers to hide its head in the sand rather than confront challenges head-on. P.S: The title of this thread is a misnomer. It gives the false impression that sending kids abroad to improve themselves is an exercise in futility, which it is NOT. A person who has made a decision to be irresponsible will be so regardless of wherever he/she is. 1 Like |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by sophy09: 10:35pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
One of the reasons my dad did not send any of us to study abroad until after our university education in Nigeria. We went to numerous vacation overseas. We pleaded and begged my dad but he refused. I am glad he did, cause when I take a look at my cousins who were sent abroad to study, we are better off than they are. My cousin who schooled abroad cannot read and write properly. The only she has going for her is her accent which to me sounds like street talk not the proper way of talking. 1 Like |
Re: Think Before You Send Your Kids Abroad by MMotimo: 10:38pm On Jan 28, 2013 |
Another Nigeria versus West thread, as if you don't have poorly raised kids in both societies |
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