The end of a relationship can come as sudden as a lightning strike, leaving you reeling from the shock and pain of the emotional assault. Sometimes, you can see the end of a relationship coming from a mile away, and the experience of a break in connection with your loved one can be torturously slow like trying to find your way out of quick sand.

In both scenarios the experience of a relationship coming to an end is painful and the pain often lingers in the residues of your heart, mind and soul for a long time.

It brings to the fore the eternal question, is it better as the poet Alfred Lord Tennyson put it, to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? Of course when the break up occurs the pain can be so overwhelmingly paralyzing that you find yourself wondering if the pain of heartbreak is sincerely worth it.

The hurt that the break up leaves behind lingers to such an extent that the possibility of ever trusting or loving is almost certainly eliminated for good. So the million dollar question is how do you move on from this?

In the film the 'Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind' starring Jim Carey and Kate Winslet we see a couple try to move on from their relationship by erasing good and bad memories of each other through a simple brain treatment. If only moving on was this easy. It’s almost impossible to erase memories of ex-loved ones who held crucial roles in our lives as these memories have an important purpose to play. We tend to learn from them and modify our attitudes based on those experiences.

So back to the question, how does one move on?

"Moving on" is really about coming to the realization and having the faith that you are strong enough to live without that person. Once you've made this realization you need to accept the Reality that this person no longer has a significant role to play in your life. Of course getting to this emotional wisdom takes a lot of time, a lot of long walks and a lot of tears.

Accepting that a relationship is not meant to be is facing the truth of a situation. There's a certain relief that comes with letting the chips fall as they may rather than trying to control or save a relationship. Lying to yourself will only make you suffer more. The idea of "moving on" is about looking ahead to a brighter future and leaving the past behind. Whatever you do, don't look back until you are strong enough emotionally to withstand a glance at the past relationship.

Just because the person you care so much about but doesn’t care about you doesn't mean the world has come to an end. To your dismay you will find that life continues around you and you have to make the choice to live it. Move on by meeting new interesting people, take on new hobbies, new experiences and visit new places. Break ups only make you a more multifaceted human being, it adds to the richness of your soul, so use this experience and become a better version of yourself.


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