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Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by msay: 5:25pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
[color=#770077][/color]Staciey are you a learner..... 1 Like
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Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by robinicule(m): 5:26pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
its simple ur mom is a temperamental person.....she gets angry in a matter of seconds.....i know people alot with dah kind of attitude |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by YorubaOmoge: 5:26pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
CeCe Billz: To me nobody is above slapping as long as dey r ur parent period!!! So it's okay for your mother to slap those acne off your face in front of your husband and children? Ah okay. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by Nobody: 5:26pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
suggary: @ poster I think u have to look for a way to stop it if not it would end up like my gist.I am 31 and stay with my parents .I make my own money and not a liabilty in any way cos I make my own money and even train my younger one in school..on vals day I was locked outside the house cos I came 10 o clock.I just blanked and didn't complain.the next day I came home 9 and my mum was angry calling me names like LovePeddler and stuff like that. I got angry and told her not to call me names but correct me as her child cos I deserve some respect too.the next tin was dat my dad brought out a belt and was flogging me all over cos I replied my mum. I was too hurt to cry.he even threw my bag out and told me to return from were I was coming from dat night.. hmmmm, u stayed in a hotel b4 getting ur own huz ![]()
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Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by ocheejemb: 5:28pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
This might be bad advice in the sense of the word, but you need to go apeshit on her next time she tries it. Like freak out like theres no tomorrow, but also try to draw a line though. Slapping you for cold coffee is unacceptable at your age, |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by fpeter(f): 5:29pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
"On the other hand,maybe she is channeling her reserved anger for ur dad through you,,,,just guessing[/quote]" i believe strongly in this post..@ OP make out time to have a matured heart to heart conversation with your mum, find out what went wrong between her and your dad, apologise for any wrongs done to her in the past also make her understand that you love her and you would never disappoint her or go out of line, let her know you appreciate her efforts and the fact that she has catered to all your needs alone, then watch her reaction,study her mood and body language before you continue. Ask her if there's anything you're not doing right that she would like you to amend then when she's done talking you politely draw her attention to your situation. Trust me most single mum's act that way because of bottled up anger and frustrations from their past since you're the product of her failed liaison with your dad and she cannot pour her frustrations on him so you are the closest she can vent on. 1 Like |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by Nobody: 5:29pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
@Op this may seem out of place. Some years back I realized that there are people that easily slap someone. No matter how trivial the issue at hand may be. There is a name they call it in my local dialect which I can remember. Back then my elder sis at the slightest provocation will let go off slap at anyone, it got to a point it was embarrassing even to her. My mum had to sit her down and caution her to put a stop to that before she slaps off her children's head. The thing is that I think your mum is found of slapping you right from when you were a kid as the slightest provocation. In most cases at your age she does it even without thinking, so you threatening to move out or even moving out will not change it. Don't be surprised if she slaps you at 50 ![]() ![]() Like most people suggested I think you should talk to her and let her make conscious effort to stop it. Otherwise the slapping spree will continue. Don't loos it, hold it together and remain the good child you said you are. 1 Like |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by crackhouse(m): 5:29pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
my dear, maybe the problem is that, you always show her that you can't do without her in one way or the other. i think it's time to let her know that you can fight for yourself if you happen to leave her, let her understand that you can carter for yourself. you can do that by saying "NO" whenever she offer to take you out, do that and let's see how it goes. i tell ya, she will be disturbed and will want to know why you rejected her offer and this will also give you the room to bitterly complain to her about her attitude. who knows, maybe that one will go deep down into her brain. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by pastie(m): 5:29pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
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Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by crackhaus: 5:31pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
Lady poster, the only way your mom would stop slapping you is if you force her hand. You have to stand up to her the next time she tries to slap you. Maybe move out for a couple weeks as her punishment, she's bound to stop someday anyhow |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by YorubaOmoge: 5:32pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
crackhaus: Lady poster, the only way your mom would stop slapping you is if you force her hand. You have to stand up to her the next time she tries to slap you. Maybe [size=18pt]move out for a couple weeks[/size] as her punishment, she's bound to stop someday anyhow Move out to where? Will you offer her shelter? |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by yuzedo: 5:33pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
If na me, no be only slap i go give you... I go give you smack-down join!! ![]() ![]() .. Aunty abeg enjoy the slaps now. You will miss her when she is but a memory. A least you know she loves you, and does it as a loving, corrective measure. Maybe she goes overboard sometimes, but hey, when you start proving yourself an adult, you will be treated like one. Don't listen to that stoooooopid person that said you need boyfriend to make the slaps stop. Depend on your mother for money, NOT ON BOYS! ![]() ............. Anyway, that's not why i'm even here. ![]() ![]() So wuz yo numba? ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by ba7man(m): 5:33pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
When next your mum slaps you, retaliate with this "special move".....
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Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by usayab(m): 5:34pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
I no knw 4 una own o. Bt 4 my own, my mum has biological ryt 2 slap me even at age of 88. She go even ask me 2 do frogjump in addition. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by Truckpusher(m): 5:35pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
msay: [color=#770077][/color]Staciey are you a learner..... ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by Kaysalas(m): 5:36pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
staicey: I no longer find this funny whenever it happens.very funny. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by chucksbadt(m): 5:37pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
msay: [color=#770077][/color]Staciey are you a learner.....dis simply answers ur question |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by Philolos: 5:37pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
staicey: I no longer find this funny whenever it happens. It's not right and is a form of abuse. My fear for you is for you not to end up in an abusive relationship, because you have been conditioned to such physical form of abuse growing up. Needless to say, that what you are currently enduring is not normal. Your mom may also need help. Perhaps she really feels like slapping your dad that is no longer in her life and you may remind her daily of him and therefore takes it out on you. It's time you discuss this with your mom and be prepared to do away with her financial support... |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by yuzedo: 5:39pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
suggary: @ poster I think u have to look for a way to stop it if not it would end up like my gist.I am 31 and stay with my parents .I make my own money and not a liabilty in any way cos I make my own money and even train my younger one in school..on vals day I was locked outside the house cos I came 10 o clock.I just blanked and didn't complain.the next day I came home 9 and my mum was angry calling me names like LovePeddler and stuff like that. I got angry and told her not to call me names but correct me as her child cos I deserve some respect too.the next tin was dat my dad brought out a belt and was flogging me all over cos I replied my mum. I was too hurt to cry.he even threw my bag out and told me to return from were I was coming from dat night. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by Z8(m): 5:39pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
step 1 get a job step 2 get ur own place step 3 move out after these she would respect your space. sometimes when u depend on some1 for something its like a hold d person has on u. be your own person |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by yme1(f): 5:39pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
At 23, she still slaps you? That shows you are not in away acting like a grown up from your post, I think you are the kind of young lady that depends on her parents I am not saying there is something wrong with that but work towards becoming a woman of your own |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by oluwadare26(m): 5:39pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
U said the last time u shouted @ her, she refused to talk to u.. But did she cook u food? If yes..she luvs u and if u just leave the house for ur dad place, she'll beg u to return. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by PAGAN9JA(m): 5:40pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
OP your face looks slappable! ![]() |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by icekenkey(m): 5:42pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
poshest: Anytime she slaps you just pretend as if u ve fainted and start shivering on the floor she will be so scared. Make it look so real. She won't do it again after u 'regain consciousness''my mum used to be like dat after I did that she stopped it worked like magic. Lol. U dey craze. I'm certain it will work, though. But it could be disastrous if your mum has hypertension. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by ba7man(m): 5:42pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
On a serious note, when she's in a good mood, you have to talk to her about her method of correction. Don't be confrontational.....but when she gets the message, Tell her in a slightly firm voice "I don't like it". Tell her to talk to you instead. You must be quite submissive to have sat back and collected Slaps for 23years. You also need to spend less time around her and depend less on her to gain back your respect. Don't make it seem like its "WAR"....B nice while you're at it and resist her bribery for once and watch her get confused. Go out more, mix with people and loosen yourself from her wrapper. Independence will set you free from Slaps.......Or you could just try that Kick above. 1 Like |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by yuzedo: 5:42pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
FXKing2012 needs to get the F*CK outta this thread.. Actin' all thirsty and concerned. I bet you'd like some of the OP's 23yr old punny innit? ![]() Man, f*ck outta here with yo lame advice, talkin' bout "you need to get a boyfriend, i can help you up yo income, your story is really moving, you sound like a good girl, i'm impressed"... Go and help kids in orphanage first nuqqa! ![]() |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by AZeD1(m): 5:43pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
OP truth be told, only you can stop it. But i'm with those who say she is transferring the aggression from your dad to you. Next time she slaps you, pick up your phone and form calling daddy telling him that mummy keeps slapping you like a baby so you want to move in with him. Make sure she is there when you are forming "calling". My 2 kobo |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by olly4life: 5:44pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
staicey: I was abt quoting him jare. Don't move out- it will not help U̶̲̥̅̊ since U̶̲̥̅̊ are still in school & ur dad has remarried. Pls get an elderly person- granny, ur church pastor or someone U̶̲̥̅̊ know ur mum respect wit d 3 of U̶̲̥̅̊ seated & trash dis out. Pls ignore dose teenagers advising U̶̲̥̅̊ to get BF. Lastly avoid staying close to her so dat her slaps does not end on ur face(Lol) U̶̲̥̅̊ are indeed a good child. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by obi123: 5:44pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
ihedioramma: LOVE HER MORE DAN U DO BEFOR . SHE WANT THE BEST FOR U.AND DONT WANT U TO GO INTO THE WORLD LIKE THAT.BECAREFUL SHE IS A GOOD MOTHER BUY DOYING THAT TO U. so she shows her love by slapping her ?? even parents get it wrong , surely there are other ways of correcting a child |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by ChiSun27(m): 5:44pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
I feel ur pain sweetie..xpecially d part u said on one of ur reply dat she slapped u few weeks afta celebratn a hot bday 4 u...but den ur mum is still ur mum...u cn neva get ha duplicate anywia...so plz...i advice u walk in2 ha room @ 9t...wake ha up...n talk 2 ha abt it 1 mor tym....i bet u...it will go a long way 2 solv d prob. |
Re: Mum Still Slaps Me At 23 Years Old by YorubaOmoge: 5:47pm On Feb 25, 2013 |
yuzedo: FXKing2012 needs to get the F*CK outta this thread.. Actin' all thirsty and concerned. I bet you'd like some of the OP's 23yr old punny innit? rotflmao ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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