NessaFresh: A female friend of mine has this problem. It's really a
shame because she is actually very caring in a lot of
ways, but holds hatred in her heart toward men
which she usually hides behind her friendly
demeanor. Almost like she's 2 different people in 1. I
tried reaching out to her in the nicest most caring
way possible, but I just got screamed at. She believes
all men are misogynists, while SHE is a huge
misandrist, constantly saying negative things about
men and driving away the good men. Self-fulfilling
prophecy.
I wondered if there's any way these kinds of women
can be helped. Like if anyone knew of books
specifically about how victims of rape can work
toward actually healing and learning how to trust and
seek out good men, instead of wrecking their life and
happiness by holding onto their bitterness and
believing these intensely negative things and
spewing hatred toward men. Thanks.

seedord247: Na only she get r.aped by men??... So many powerful women in this world don get molest one way or the other and yet they still get married...

Maybe she's a tranny cuz their type hate men alot.

seedord247: Na only she get r.aped by men??... So many powerful women in this world don get molest one way or the other and yet they still get married...

Maybe she's a tranny cuz their type hate men alot.

dasparrow:

You have no idea of the strong negative psychological impact *r*a*p*e can leave on a victim. Do you know what it feels like to have something as strong as an erected p*en.i*s forcefully injected into a vjay that is not moist and ready for penetration? Do you you know the pain the victim suffers as a result of internal injury to the vjay that can lead to infection - if not treated immediately- and in severe cases lead to bareness?

A lot of research has been done by researchers and professional psychologists in advanced countries on the psychological impact of r*a*p.e on the victim. That most Nigerians choose to be ignorant about it and brush it off like r*a*p.e is a crime that has no negative psychological impact on the victim does not mean it is so.

Nigeria is indeed a very misogynist society and the average Nigerian male is brought up to be misogynist as evidenced by the responses this thread has gathered so far. I blame both Nigerian men and women who bring males children into the world and then fail woefully in bringing them up properly. The effect of that is a society such as Nigeria where you see many men behaving worse than animals.

When God gave men a p*en.i*s, it was meant for 2 things: urinating and making love to the wife. It was never meant to be used as a weapon to inflict harm on another human being. R*a.p/e is one of the most hideous crimes you can commit against another person because the body is the temple of God and r*a*p.in.g an individual is crime against the body and the soul.

If your friend were my sister, I would strongly advise her to leave Nigeria and go to an advanced country for some serious professional counseling. If possible, your friend should leave Nigeria for good so that she can have time to heal and equally be far away from the Nigerian societal pressure to get married when she knows she is not mentally ready to engage in sex due to what sadly happened to her.

As her friend, give her words of support and comfort and keep her in your prayers. Trying to force her to like men when the man who r*a*p.e*d her was most likely never punished by the law is like expecting a dog to earn a university degree. In other words, its impossible. Books will not help your friend heal either but rather professional counseling by a licensed psychologist.

May God protect our daughters from evil, amen.

baibijay:
one of those times i want to put some1's head inside my water closeth and flush out stupidity

olumaxi: Even we kip molestin God evriday by our sins..yet He stil loves us..i dont c any reason 4 ha to hate a felow human..even d bible says..whosoeva hateth his broda is a muderer..if she dies n endup in hel..whom wil she blame?

Caracta: Time heals. Making friends with the opposite sêx might help.

slysinzu: Leave her! By d tym konji catch her she will cum bk 2 her senses

i taya shes underestimating the power of a d!!-ck in her chukuchuku

sexkillz: You can't convince her. She can only be convinced when she meets a guy that acts differently from the norm. Until she meets that guy, no hope.