debrief08: Am waiting for the email with your number, that's the thing keeping me online.
Will have to leave soon so I can get ready for my trip.

Richvkunt: @OP,
Fist of all the mistakes have been made,so what is the solution?
You are 27 weeks gone and already contemplating giving out your baby for adopton? Is that the solution? Are you very sure in the future you will not want this baby back? Do not act on emotions,because I know you are so confused right now. Right now you claim the unborn babys daddy does not want anything to do with this child but what about in the future? Have you and yourr parents tried to have a sit down with your boy friends family on the way forward? Have either of you talked about getting a job?
How old are you? And how old is your boy friend?
I know you are pretty mixed up now,but you need to take a deep breath and think very deeply and carefully before even contemplating giving your baby away to strangers.
A word is enough for the wise.

debrief08: Ify, I had already told my friend that I would pay for cost of the child during fostering that's why I didn't tell the poster.
My friend who is a social worker will speak with her and find more available options.
I wish I could do more but I am traveling, have to go and care for a sick relative who is having surgery.

debrief08: Ify, I had already told my friend that I would pay for cost of the child during fostering that's why I didn't tell the poster.
My friend who is a social worker will speak with her and find more available options.
I wish I could do more but I am traveling, have to go and care for a sick relative who is having surgery.

debrief08: Ify, I had already told my friend that I would pay for cost of the child during fostering that's why I didn't tell the poster.
My friend who is a social worker will speak with her and find more available options.
I wish I could do more but I am traveling, have to go and care for a sick relative who is having surgery.

ileobatojo:

But the father of the child knows it's a boy and he's still not interested. If she notifies his family and they don't want to claim the child now, then it's not her problem if they will wake up in 10 yrs and decide they want him because it's a boy. By the way, it's very unsettling to think they will want the child just because it's a boy. The OP already has a good plan in the works, let her follow through with it first and see how it goes.

debrief08: Ify, I had already told my friend that I would pay for cost of the child during fostering that's why I didn't tell the poster.
My friend who is a social worker will speak with her and find more available options.
I wish I could do more but I am traveling, have to go and care for a sick relative who is having surgery.

debrief08: Ify, I ask in Gods name please help coordinate the pledges for help, for now am overwhelmed financially due to illness of a family member.
By June I when Baby Comes I will definately be stable to redeem my pledge but even if somethig comes up before then in my absence I will leave standing orders for her support.
She needs money for drugs and antenental, she needs to prepare for babys coming, she needs money to eat the right things, please I beg all of you who have made promises, Ify coordinate it, I want to go knowing she is going to bbe fine so I can have one less burden on my mind.
You know how foreign treatment is, you have to pay the hospital in advance before the patient is transfered, so our accounts are seriously drained.

LADY OF RAGE: since it's a boy, the father and his family would want that child. please do not give up the child for adoption. your parents should be involved in this matter. you should know where the boy lives and his parents. let your family take the decision for you.

ayando:
i think u r myopic. What mks u think u will live more dan today dat u didnt spend all u had today. Life itself is full of uncertainty man.

Sisi_Kill:

This post is so unsettling...even more so because of the matter of factly way in which it is stated and from a woman too.

I'm hoping the poster was being facetious.

Sisi_Kill:

This post is so unsettling...even more so because of the matter of factly way in which it is stated and from a woman too.

I'm hoping the poster was being facetious.

biolabee:

Unfortunately and sadly she is being real
African families have always prized the boy child over the girl
If that child shows up and its a boy, the family of the boy will pull their sons ears for him to man up and provide for the child even if he is not marrying the woman

biolabee:

Unfortunately and sadly she is being real
African families have always prized the boy child over the girl
If that child shows up and its a boy, the family of the boy will pull their sons ears for him to man up and provide for the child even if he is not marrying the woman

elkol: 27 weeks! Still 'abortable'

Sisi_Kill:

This post is so unsettling...even more so because of the matter of factly way in which it is stated and from a woman too.

I'm hoping the poster was being facetious.

Sisi_Kill:

Thanks anyway, now I understand why all the single mothers out there are mothers to girls. That always confused me.