honeeyplum:
Virus, finally I ve to agree dat U̶̲̥̅̊ no well

not just that he is not well,he is also part of the vice plaguing nigeria (corruption) assuming everybody is morally bankrupt as he is.mshewwww.

CHICS IN NIGERIA WILL FCK A PIG IF IT HAS MONEY

claremont: The problem with todays' relationships is basically people trying to tailor-make their relationship according to specific objective criteria they read about; unbeknownst to them, it really shouldn't be that complicated. In the days of our ancestors, a relationship was purely based on mutual compatibility and each party accepting their roles, but alas, today we have all sorts of criteria that people say we MUST follow for our relationship to work. An irony if you ask me, considering that more relationships fail these days for petty reasons as compared to the days of our ancestors.

In my opinion, mutual compatibility should be the one and only key ingredient.

Now, that's what I am talking about.....

Babzilla: CHICS IN NIGERIA WILL FCK A PIG IF IT HAS MONEY

What are Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ trying to insinuate by that statement. Must Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ paint them all black? Re-examine urself, jst because U̶̲̥̅̊'ve used ur money to sleep with all the girls on ur street or ur lack of it has caused Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ not to experience a thriving relationship doesn't give U̶̲̥̅̊ the ryt to blacklist them all.

@OP great job keep it up.



Those of U̶̲̥̅̊ complaining about d length of the article. May that thing which is to turn ur life around not be as long else U̶̲̥̅̊ are a gonner

I thought it should be married women advising single ladies??

Olodostein:

Now, that's what I am talking about.....

that is nonsense talk.in the days of our ancestors a woman was only to be seen and not heard.she tolerated all manner(s) of nonsense in order to keep her marriage and be labelled as a good wife.this days,marriage is for mutual benefits.if it favours one at the expense of the other,there is bound to be crisis.it goes beyond compatibility my dear

Kanuchy: I thought it should be married women advising single ladies??

nobody is an embodiment of knowledge,we see married women been messed up,so someone's marital status should not be a criteria for judging who should and should not give advise,that is part of learning,gosh! Smh

SimplYeahmee:

What are Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ trying to insinuate by that statement. Must Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ paint them all black? Re-examine urself, jst because U̶̲̥̅̊'ve used ur money to sleep with all the girls on ur street or ur lack of it has caused Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ not to experience a thriving relationship doesn't give U̶̲̥̅̊ the ryt to blacklist them all.

@OP great job keep it up.



Those of U̶̲̥̅̊ complaining about d length of the article. May that thing which is to turn ur life around not be as long else U̶̲̥̅̊ are a gonner

there is a passage in the bible that says it is befitting unto a person to ignore a fool so that he will wallow in his folly because replying him is just like reducing your self to his level,pity him,he doesnt know better,he is just a swine in human clothing.afterall it is obvious this days that it is not every body walking on the streets of nigeria that are human beings,some are animals in human body by their words and actions

iamswizz: can someone pls tell me the moral lesson of this post?

Simple. Its always about the other fellow not about me except for what I want. How far have these epistles of selfishness gone to improving society, zilch. Instead of promoting self development, inner strength and character, all they do is to corrode the fabric of humanity in the quest to find the 'perfect relationship'.

Like anti-biotics the more you take them the weaker you get and the stronger the bugs. In modern times we design houses to withstand weather, earthquakes, floods. We design cars to perform and last.

In our relationship advice we design the earthquakes to avoid and hope rain doesn't fall. Sorry. Human beings will not improve. You must be a better person to make it in any aspect of human existence.

Horayce:

It's easy to write a long epistle on something you haven't done yourself.
Anyone can do this
Come back and preach this sermon after 40 years when you've lived it

the last time i checked,there are some single ladies that have more discretion than married women who experience all sort of bullsh1ts just to stay married (because the society said so),e.g one titi (banker) that died of domestic violence because she wanted to be a mrs at all cost instead of using her brain (discretion) that says it is someone that is alive and in a right state of mind that is a wife,now tell me,a single lady that is using logic,common sense,Gods laid down principles and rationality to seperate the wheat from the chaff (the animalistic men from the real men) or someone that just rushed into marriage without proper knowledge and preparation of what it entails only for her to get what she did noy bargain for,abeg spare me joor! @ op good work,dont not suprised because in every thread on nairaland there are always simpletons

expirence is said to be a best teacher. @ op. I thank u 4 d advice to our single ladies out there. 'LOVE' many trade wrongly in this however let me chip in these. 1: You need to know who God is and love him more than everything. 2: Know and love urself so u can love ur neghboor as urself. It is when u understand and apply these u will then talk of 'LOVE'

Reference:

Simple. Its always about the other fellow not about me except for what I want. How far have these epistles of selfishness gone to improving society, zilch. Instead of promoting self development, inner strength and character, all they do is to corrode the fabric of humanity in the quest to find the 'perfect relationship'.

Like anti-biotics the more you take them the weaker you get and the stronger the bugs. In modern times we design houses to withstand weather, earthquakes, floods. We design cars to perform and last.

In our relationship advice we design the earthquakes to avoid and hope rain doesn't fall. Sorry. Human beings will not improve. You must be a better person to make it in any aspect of human existence.

this is not about the blame game or sexism,this is about being real and practical.todays society is viciously unjust to women (you dont have to accept or believe it) especially in this part of our world,you will see threads on nairaland about men looking for virgin wives and it is this same men that are raping minors,young ladies and even grandmothers.now here is a lady advising her fellow sisters on how to detect the beasts from the normal/rational men and you are here trivializing the matter,but if it is places,threads and musics that debase women you will see the animals in men

Reference:

Simple. Its always about the other fellow not about me except for what I want. How far have these epistles of selfishness gone to improving society, zilch. Instead of promoting self development, inner strength and character, all they do is to corrode the fabric of humanity in the quest to find the 'perfect relationship'.

Like anti-biotics the more you take them the weaker you get and the stronger the bugs. In modern times we design houses to withstand weather, earthquakes, floods. We design cars to perform and last.

In our relationship advice we design the earthquakes to avoid and hope rain doesn't fall. Sorry. Human beings will not improve. You must be a better person to make it in any aspect of human existence.

this is not about the blame game or sexism,this is about being real and practical.todays society is viciously unjust to women (you dont have to accept or believe it) especially in this part of our world,you will see threads on nairaland about men looking for virgin wives and it is this same men that are raping minors,young ladies and even grandmothers.now here is a lady advising her fellow sisters on how to detect the beasts from the normal/rational men and you are here trivializing the matter,but if it is places,threads and musics that debase women you will see the animals in men

phaya: @op I think u just spoilt most guys 'show'

You have no idea miss. When i can see some ladies already complaining about how the post is rather too long. No matter how many times you advice, foolish girls will always exist.

chidex101: expirence is said to be a best teacher. @ op. I thank u 4 d advice to our single ladies out there. 'LOVE' many trade wrongly in this however let me chip in these. 1: You need to know who God is and love him more than everything. 2: Know and love urself so u can love ur neghboor as urself. It is when u understand and apply these u will then talk of 'LOVE'

the op has talked about expressing Gods kind of love,she has explained it,you will see it there if you took your time to read it indepth

caukerzee: You have no idea miss. When i can see some ladies already complaining about how the post is rather too long. No matter how many times you advice, foolish girls will always exist.

of course

matinos28: Dear single lady, i no get time to finish the post but if you dey calculate all these things before you commot with guy, you ll probably remain single

No one forced you to read it all tho.

nekaa: I cldnt finish reading ur novel buh okay ah done ear.

hear not ear.in case you are a graduate,please stop embarassing other graduates,i will excuse you if you are not one,smh

caukerzee: No one forced you to read it all tho.

abi o.there is sexuality section on nairalands for people of low minds,if he cant finish reading it,he should go to sex section.mshewww

iamswizz: can someone pls tell me the moral lesson of this post?

the moral lesson is for you to look before you leap

Rooneyboy:

U well so

Who get time to read this epistle

she is perfectly normal and people that love wisdom will read the remaining part,am sure there are other things that will appeal to the simple minded people like you e.g sexuality section,thanks!

Jan8: Eh...e make sense but there are certain things wrong with this post:
1. E too long. Time no dey to dey read all this one na
2. You are searching for Mr. Perfect and there is no such thing as a perfect guy.
3. The post too long

And if you really did read it all you would know that the OP clearly stated that no man is perfect. You cant judge without knowing every detail miss.

Abrantie: Too long. I can't make out what your point is. Can you summarize this in a sentence or two?

and yet you wonder why men take advantage of some women, IGNORANCE.the sad part of it is that they are not ready to free themselves from mental impoverishment,read,whatever you read,you will know and whatever you know will set you free.jeez!

caukerzee: And if you really did read it all you would know that the OP clearly stated that no man is perfect. You cant judge without knowing every detail miss.

obviously he did not read it properly.

yamunla: All this theories don tire Man pikin o..everyday na so so New new advice about Man and Woman..

am sure you weren't coerced to read moreover there are hundreds of other threads that will catch your fancy

Sunymoore: must i comment

if its not reasonable and related to the topic,please dont!

oloto:
Na wa for you o.

na real wa

micki83:
Our reading culture is truly dying/dead. Most ppl fail to realise that being too lazy to read an article might just deprive u of some important lessons that culd aid u at some point in ur life(I'm also guilty of d same thing sometimes,I admit).however,even if u can't read an entire article,u culd skim thru it(I believe we all learnt that in English language class).the article made a lot of sense.good one,O.P.

like i said earlier no matter what,a fool will always wallow and derive joy in his foolishness and ignorance. Thats what many nigerians are suffering from,mental laziness and mental impoverishment

matinos28: Dear single lady, i no get time to finish the post but if you dey calculate all these things before you commot with guy, you ll probably remain single

thats a fallacy girls with low self value and self esteem will buy,there is no such thing as a girl will remain single for life,when a girl knows her onions,she cannot fall for anything below her expectations NO MATTER WHAT.there is always a mr right for miss right but ignoring danger signals and sound warnings is what makes ladies jump into a marriage of pain and regret.

kulyie: that is nonsense talk.in the days of our ancestors a woman was only to be seen and not heard.she tolerated all manner(s) of nonsense in order to keep her marriage and be labelled as a good wife.this days,marriage is for mutual benefits.if it favours one at the expense of the other,there is bound to be crisis.it goes beyond compatibility my dear

And thats why theres a higher divorce rate now than then huh?

Ladies shouldn't worry.if Mercy Johnson could marry,then every girl has hope.

Women they no dey hear word, naa today