caukerzee: And thats why theres a higher divorce rate now than then huh?

on the contrary,divorce rate is not high because of numerous advise but apparently and unfortunatly because many people are marrying for the very wrong reasons e.g s3x,children,friends,parents colleagues etc.ask an average married couple why they are married and you will know why there are lot of turbulent, violent/abusive marriages and high rates of divorce.couples have no iota of self restraints and respect for each other,people are not prepared,of course the divorce rates will be high until people go back to following simple,basic God made principles.God himself instituted marriage,so to live peacably in it,we need God,pushing God away will bring about unpleasant manifestations

dokunbam: Women they no dey hear word, naa today

that is why they are always the victims of marital woes and suffer unnecessarily,some think they are wise,they know it all hence they dont need opinions of others.msheww

I ve definitly learnt a lot frm dis great piece, i ve to bookmark it and read all over again. Tnkx Naomi!

Carius: This is one brilliant piece...I wonder when girls between the ages of 18-22 would start reasoning like this.

Trust me, i ve started for long and dis writeups has made me knw more.

Sunymoore: must i comment

No u must not comment but u just deed. Block head.

These kind of calculative, dos and don't's, making demands of a man you haven't even met, talking from both sides of the mouth, these are what make you marry the wrong guy. Or even if you're with the right guy, he'll definitely resent being reduced to a checklist.
What happened to just taking things easy? When nowadays, 95 per cent of young women are so aggressive( they call it 'ambition') how do expect men not to run away from you?

Rooneyboy:

U well so

Who get time to read this epistle

with this ur signature u're asking this kind question. I think i know the kind student u're.

Gifted_hands:
Trust me, i ve started for long and dis writeups has made me knw more.

Good for u.pls,also endeavour to enlighten ur fellow girls cos it will do them a lot of good.

phaya: @op I think u just spoilt most guys 'show'

You are not completely wrong, the word should have been 'some' not 'most', you'll be surprised a lot of Good guys who will subscribe to the OP's advice..

@OP, I like the belief-system part buh i seriouzly think Guys too should be mindful of it concerning their would-be date/wife.

BoboYekini: he'll definitely resent being reduced to a checklist.

My brother, I tire for some girl own, if u start to do same to them u go begin hear "take me as I am" or something like "I am created in d image of God". I no talk say make girls no look well b4 dm marry o, make dm also no vex if d guy bring im own criteria come because marriage no b 4 only d girls to enjoy na 4 d both of them.

You are good

All i see is rules, theories, dos and donts, but u left the most important aspect - God Factor.

Wit out d word bad tyms u cant appreciate d word good tyms,even d sky had to witness d sun and moon rivalry everyday,no mater d principle u adopt u cant escape fuckups,&trust me most of d Bleep up is caused by u ladiesu act lyk u're d synonyms of perfection,checking all what d guys is doing his phone call,where he had been to,dats d truth,just giv a man a space and make sure u're in his hrt dats ma own believe sha....but i knw all men lovs space no matter

This is realy good i must confess. There will be a lot
less heart breaks if people knew exactly what they wanted.

caukerzee: And if you really did read it all you would know that the OP clearly stated that no man is perfect. You cant judge without knowing every detail miss.

i didn't intend to judge but uh...ok, sha.

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its very contradicting! No wonder you r still single

Is she married??
An advice from an unmarriageable woman to her colleagues

el bin manny: Is she married??
An advice from an unmarriageable woman to her colleagues

it is sickening when simpletons display their foolishness and expect others to buy it.you are so myopic and disgusting,think outside the box (village mentality) tufiaaaa

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its very contradicting! No wonder you r still single

the last time i checked people dont win awards because of their marital status but because of what they offer to the society and their high level intellect.only cave men (like you) assume the highest achievement of a woman is marriage.mshewww,so many bushmeat men on this thread,tufiaaaa

nenergy: This is realy good i must confess. There will be a lot
less heart breaks if people knew exactly what they wanted.

exactly unfortunatly the ego of some men and the foolishness of some women will not make them think about it,smh.mshewww

kulyie: exactly unfortunatly the ego of some men and the foolishness of some women will not make them think about it,smh.mshewww

lol...wetin dey vex you na

jl junayd: Wit out d word bad tyms u cant appreciate d word good tyms,even d sky had to witness d sun and moon rivalry everyday,no mater d principle u adopt u cant escape fuckups,&trust me most of d Bleep up is caused by u ladiesu act lyk u're d synonyms of perfection,checking all what d guys is doing his phone call,where he had been to,dats d truth,just giv a man a space and make sure u're in his hrt dats ma own believe sha....but i knw all men lovs space no matter

a busy woman with goals and ambitions has no time to be stalking her partner either through phone or whatever means,moreover like the op said no one is perfect,we only strive towards perfection

Jan8:
lol...wetin dey vex you na

myopic reasoning,foolishness,mental laziness and empty pride of some nairalanders reflected in their posts

kulyie: myopic reasoning,foolishness,mental laziness and empty pride of some nairalanders reflected in their posts

alright, calm down a bit. There's no need to get that way really. Everyone is entitled to their own incorrect opinion. And if they do not want to listen to the voice of reason, just ignore.

Jan8:
alright, calm down a bit. There's no need to get that way really. Everyone is entitled to their own incorrect opinion. And if they do not want to listen to the voice of reason, just ignore.

ok,i am calm but i dont have a problem with people not accepting advice or others opinion however i have a problem with some people bringing the post down,feeling better than others e.g one poster calling her unmarriagable and so on.its a repulsive attitude in nigerians,jeez.so just because you dont buy it,you start attacking yhe ops personality,asking whether she's married,no wonder she's not married etc,very irritating behaviour,jeez! No wonder we have men and women that have no values,men who have no iota of respect for women talkless of their wives.what a lost society

kulyie: ok,i am calm but i dont have a problem with people not accepting advice or others opinion however i have a problem with some people bringing the post down,feeling better than others e.g one poster calling her unmarriagable and so on.its a repulsive attitude in nigerians,jeez.so just because you dont buy it,you start attacking yhe ops personality,asking whether she's married,no wonder she's not married etc,very irritating behaviour,jeez! No wonder we have men and women that have no values,men who have no iota of respect for women talkless of their wives.what a lost society

alright bro i feel your pain. (you are a bro, right?). But when it all comes down to it, we are living in a seriously backward nation so all of these ignorance and major stup|d!ty should be overlooked dear even thought it has seriously destroyed us

Jan8:
alright bro i feel your pain. (you are a bro, right?). But when it all comes down to it, we are living in a seriously backward nation so all of these ignorance and major stup|d!ty should be overlooked dear even thought it has seriously destroyed us

i refused to be a brother i am a lady babes.you are right sweet

kulyie: i refused to be a brother i am a lady babes.you are right sweet

you don finally reveal wetin I suspect since, u b girl. No wonder you dey fiercelly attack some guys when them talk against women...

BoboYekini: These kind of calculative, dos and don't's, making demands of a man you haven't even met, talking from both sides of the mouth, these are what make you marry the wrong guy. Or even if you're with the right guy, he'll definitely resent being reduced to a checklist.
What happened to just taking things easy? When nowadays, 95 per cent of young women are so aggressive( they call it 'ambition') how do expect men not to run away from you?

its about defining a relationship and not looking for men who has all these qualities

passionate88: you don finally reveal wetin I suspect since, u b girl. No wonder you dey fiercelly attack some guys when them talk against women...

lmao yes thats because i loathe gender bashing or a certain set of people feeling they are better of than some other certain set of people.it gets on my nerves big time

Hard to get babes see wetin seun write about am, though me no agree with am 100%

Seun: I hate it when ladies play hard to get because:
1) At the end of the day, after finally 'getting' her, I might discover that she's not my type. In that case the 'hard to get' game would merely have been a waste of my time (and hers too).
2) The 'hard to get' game is a game of deception, so a lady that plays hard to get is a 'playa' of sorts. If she is already playing me so early into our acquaintanceship, how do I know that she won't be playing me for the rest of my life if I go ahead and have a relationship with her leading to marriage? How do I know that she won't also play the cheating game on me?

So I like approachable ladies, and I am bitterly opposed to the idea of young women playing hard-to-get. It doesn't help anybody because you end up with the most desperate man and not necessarily the one that is right for you.

kulyie: lmao yes thats because i loathe gender bashing or a certain set of people feeling they are better of than some other certain set of people.it gets on my nerves big time

but girls wey dey talk say i won't settle for less e also mean say dm dey also feel say them beta pass guys too, so gals also commit d same crime