byvan:



Brother,please don't divorce hastily.Can you try seperation?like seek refuge with a responsible friend for a while,ofcourse pop back into your house every now and then to play with your children.Maybe this woman will think about her marriage and know she misses her husband.Please keep being faithful and the man that you are,don't let an ungrateful woman change your personality.Since she hasn't cheated yet,please try seperation,don't divorce hastily.At some point you have to make a decision,if this woman still doesn't change after a seperation,let her walk if she want to.


Have you ever tried a heartfelt dialogue,to know why she is mean to you??Communication saves a lot,know her plans for the marriage.Yes,you can't fake romance but you can learn.I wasn't naturally a very romantically expressive person but I try to learn,because am taking a cue from my husband.We are all learning,no one is born married.

50calibre: Haven you heard the saying " if you get caught between a snake and an mbaise woman, kill the mbaise woman first"

50calibre:

They are not generalisations, there is substance to what I said. Will the kids fare better with a mechanical engineer dad or an illiterate mum? Is it better to allow the kids stay with a mum who would only sow seed of discord and her evil vices in them? What sort of upbringing is she going to give them, the type her parents gave her?

No I don't think so

vicoson: I love those kids n they look like me.

rokiatu: Welcome to the institution called "marriage"


lol on a more serious note, you are the man of the house and you can't sit and watch this woman eat over your head. Such behavior will only lead to more unhappiness in the home and bitterness between you and your wife. She either stop or you do something drastic. You don't have to live in an unhappy marriage forever life is already hell as it is.

vicoson: I'm from Akwa Ibom and she is from Mbaise.

50calibre:

Look let me tell you. Being romantic to an mbaise woman is giving her money simple and short. Mbaise women only know how to spend money, they milk their husbands dry, all they do is complain about not receiving enough money from you, they give you examples of their friends whose husbands buys things for them, they don't think of anything apart from collecting money from their husbands and sending to her people.

How were you able to cope with dowry of an mbaise woman. How many million did you spend.

50calibre: How the hell did you manage to get ensnared in the trap of an mbaise woman, an illiterate one for that matter? Haven you heard the saying " if you get caught between a snake and an mbaise woman, kill the mbaise woman first" mbaise women are like leeches, they contribute nothing positive to your life, apart from sucking you dry.

Gather your thoughts together, make plans, go to a marriage court and dissolve the marriage. Nigeria is dysfunctional, with money you would get custody of the kids. Take your kids and go drop them with your people, they are better off there than with her.

vicoson: I took her to their people in January and lodged complaints to her father. All her in-laws were around. They all leapt to her defence and faulted the way I presented the matter that I was too blunt. The complaints were:
1. She doesn't respect me
2. She is not submissive
3. She is lazy and the house is always messy
4. She is rebellious.
My father-in-law said he was so disappointed for me to come complaining so early and a lot of other things. I grew upset and told them to keep their daughter and left. She was there for a week and people prevaied on me to bring her back. The church stepped in and ordered her to come back to my house. I've not heard from her people since then and i've refused to go see them.

Santi222:
u be idiot oh. Tribalistic mugu like u. Dem dey find how to repair sumtin, u open d hole for ur face dey spew rubbish. Na ur people be saints, abi?

Daresh: I agree with deohighlander. AWhy would you marry someone who is so openly promiscous and expect respect. It is not by force to marry and from what you say it is apparent you did her d favour. Are you even sure those kids are yours? How could you even marry an Mbaise woman. NNa your problems are many so goodluck!

vicoson: I love those kids n they look like me.