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Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 2:25pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
HotNaijaBabe: We are in a relationship..and its not stated anywhere that all relationships 'MUST' lead to marriage..If he decides to marry someone else( or allows his mum to choose a spouse for him)..All well and good, Life goes on.. Yes you are right,every relationship must not lead to marriage.Don't mind me,am too conscious of time,hence I must be seeing the future of the relationship from where am standing before I spend further time in it.For me no time to date for the fun of itoooooo!! |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by bukatyne(f): 2:31pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
biolabee: And yet when, people say women were seen as slaves in olden days still now, some people will say otherwise. |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Fussbot: 2:37pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
I also hate a husband using"e" 4 his wife instead of "o"(abeg how I go xplain dis 2 my igbo and hausa folks lol)k "e" in yoruba is used 4 an elderly person as a sign of respect while "o" is 4 ur agemates...I can't jst imagine it...u go hear(honey,na d husband be dat o,ejo ebami mu cup ninu ile(pls bring a cup 4 me)newly married couple fa!)It annoys me rili...(Sade,jhor bami gbe omi kana..en en u naw talking..) |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by SisiKill1: 2:39pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
jeffizy: Reading ladies comments makes me laugh. So you guys believe it's only a female affair? Please think again. The difference here is that no one will have the audacity tell you to your face that you better "behave" or else. They have enough regard for you not to go that far. How many women have that luxury?!! |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 2:56pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
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Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by bukatyne(f): 2:56pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
@ OP: I am lucky to be engaged to the last born in the family and the immediate elder sister to my fiancé is 9yrs older than I am. Madame Anne should better get her act right. It's mostly SILs and MILs who decide to be terrors to the DILs. One of my uncles' wives call all my uncle's nieces (the daughters of her husband's sister i.e. us) aunty and will want to knee for me and I will be like what? She will call us ma, will want to carry our plates when we are done eating and I tell her to stop. She will even kneel fully for my married male cousins. I once 'reported' her to my mother and asked why she was behaving like that and she said 'it's the culture bla bla bla'. However, all my uncles' wives are treated like daughters by my mom and aunts. One would think they are our elder sisters. They all give them stuffs and they don't pay for services rendered for them. One thing with my extended family is that we the ladies are all enlightened and don't care for all the in-law bullshit. I would however not like such a life for myself. |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 3:43pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
bukatyne: @ OP: Abeg last born without any troublesome unmarried sister is always easier,lucky you. |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by biolabee(m): 3:56pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
bukatyne: why would anyone argue against fact Some cultures were matriachial though |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 4:29pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
Thank God for civilization!!!! |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by bukatyne(f): 4:42pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
biolabee: Are you not on the 'Feminism - Why Women In General (especially Black Women) Have Been Duped By It!!' thread? |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by bukatyne(f): 4:43pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
byvan:' Thanks ![]() |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by biolabee(m): 4:48pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
bukatyne: I dont get this |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by bukatyne(f): 4:59pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
biolabee: There is a Feminism - why women in general (especially blacks) have been duped by it!! thread. I thought you were on it. |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by biolabee(m): 5:07pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
Nope.. but looks interesting will look for it.found it! |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by nenergy(m): 5:47pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
I have seen it a lot. If a man treats his woman like a queen, the family/sisters will respect her. But if he treats her like he's doing her a favour, she's Rag. Ladies the 1st "contact" with your potential in-laws is very strategic. Be respectful, but not timid, ask your man the ages of his sisters and treat them like friends not "oga at the top". If you bend at first meet, you will/must bend forever! I no get babe, but i have had this discussion (playfully) times with my mum and sis.lol |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by aadetoyin(f): 8:54pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
Another problem is that some ladies try to hard when they want to marry a man. U want to do everything to please his family then afterwards u'll start complaining that they don't respect u. Advice: don't start what u cannot finish. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 9:38pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
Hmmnnn...,this thread is interestin cos I'm learnin a lot here!it seems all fingers r pointin to yoruba culture!hello omoges(whateva that means)why una dey allow this now? It seems most of d men r helpless were their family r!abi they no lv their wives enof to protect her interest. Where r those guys,come and tell us why u allow this happen?hello guys!!this is very serious!hv never seen dis type of thing before. Where r they?imagine after callin ur small sis aunty and serving her,shebi u go come bleep me? I must get a reasonable answer!absurdity!!! |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by biolabee(m): 9:45pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Hmmnnn...,this thread is interestin cos I'm learnin a lot here!it seems all fingers r pointin to yoruba culture!hello omoges(whateva that means)why una dey allow this now? It seems most of d men r helpless were their family r!abi they no lv their wives enof to protect her interest. we love our women but women anre mostly the ones dishing it out to the younger women and viceversa... finito |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 10:02pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
biolabee:In which case u r just an onlooker? In ur own house? (Hope na man I dey reply abeg o!)Watchin to c how she will take it?is that fair? |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by biolabee(m): 10:29pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: things are changing and men are standing up for their wives more and more this will be an non issue in another coupleof years |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by dayokanu(m): 10:49pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
My Partner would call anyone she is older than even by an hour by name |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by coogar: 11:11pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
dayokanu: My Partner would call anyone she is older than even by an hour by name hahaha dayo, you are from ogbomoso - soun would have you crucified if you defy the tradition of your village. that particular tradition is only prevalent in the village. no one in the city would ask a new bride to kneel for her junior in-laws. |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by dayokanu(m): 11:13pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
coogar: Lailai Your new wife must prepare my bath water, cook for me and lay my bed o. Otherwise i would invoke the Spirit of the Ekiti ancestors on her |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by coogar: 11:21pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
dayokanu: hahahaha - not possible new bride calls her husband by name and tradition expects her to address the people younger than her husband by sir/ma? i am sure it's that yeye "sango" that promulgated these idiotic laws. |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by MMotimo: 11:23pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
nenergy: I have seen it a lot. If a man treats his woman like a queen, the family/sisters will respect her. But if he treats her like he's doing her a favour, she's Rag. .lol Very, very true |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 11:38pm On Apr 18, 2013 |
biolabee:Heavy sigh....thank u so much,what a man!there is hope! Like all those small children used to say'I'm off dancing alingo'! |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by biolabee(m): 12:39am On Apr 19, 2013 |
LOL... It is well |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by jeffizy(m): 3:01pm On Apr 19, 2013 |
My mum once told me , a man knows not where he's going , if he doesn't remember where he's coming from! The Genesis came from the olden days oyo empire. The monarchy practiced this in the palace among the numerous queens. It was created to promote subservience among the queens to control the daily in-fighting. Other members within the empire who had multiple wives soon adopted the tradition. It spread like wild fire and other cultures adopted it. But, i guess it has been so abused from tje ecperiences being shared here. |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 3:28pm On Apr 19, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw:yeah,this is so encouraging.at least this is one of the encouraging news i have always loved to hear.not that after wedding the woman doesn't have a life again and any dck and harry can trample on her ![]() |
Re: Just for marrying your Brother ??? by Nobody: 3:32pm On Apr 19, 2013 |
coogar:am telling you |
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