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Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by justsmile(f): 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2013 |
jakesund: tell her you think you've also lost the feelings you have for her and u want a DIVORCE that madness in her will flee with immediate effect .women tend to act crazy when given too much attention and control .if u don't act now it'll only get worse. WAKE UP AND TAKE CHARGE Oh pls! Just like you have peeps 'crying' in their union, so also do you those 'smiling and laughing' in their marriage! When you fail to prepare your self for marriage (spiritually, mentally, emotinally, character, financially etc)......then be prepared to fail! And this goes for both the guy and the lady! Let me state again.........there are soooooooo many peeps out their enjoying marriage! Look out for those enjoying it and find out what is making theirs work. Look out for those failing and pin point why they failed or are failing! Marriage is no rocket science.......... Its just like mathematics, follow the right formula and get the right result! Follow the simple steps of the one (GOD via His word) who instituted this beautiful gift of marriage to humanity and see yourself enjoy it! Now you wanna marry......how many books have you read on marriage or even r/ships?! How many impactful tapes have you listened to or seminars have you attended?! Do you have a picture of what your own marriage should look like ( this will help in the choice of a partner) Have you ever sincerely asked God to guide your choice of a partner?! "Wisdom is profitable to direct. Therefore,get wisdom and in all your getting, get understanding" It is not marriage that fail, it is people that fail marriage!........for whatever reason! Am not here to convince you to marry.......if you like marry, if you like don't marry.....na for pocket! I personally hate when fellas make a 'caricature' of marriage. People make the choice of a partner......kindly live with the choice you made instead crying foul! 'Its not marriage that is doing you, it is you doing marriage'...deal with it! In fact marriage should be for the 'selfless' IMO. I can go on and on but I'll stop here. Simply be the right person and marry the right person!......this last statement is like a basic foundation and another topic for discussion all together! I hope you get my drift!!! Yours truly!!! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 12:13am On Apr 22, 2013 |
justsmile: Very good and thoughtful words my sister. I am not married and hoping to do so soon but let me just add to your words of wisdom... marriage is also for those who have learned that love is NOT a feeling but a determined decision to love the one you have chosen to be with through thick and thin. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by justsmile(f): 12:18am On Apr 22, 2013 |
davidylan: Thanks jare!!! This is another nugget....... I'll keep it in mind! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by NLGwoodey: 6:47am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Marriage is like anything else. Either it works or it does not. Everything is not fixable, likewise marriage. OP your wife has shown you that there is no love. In love, one party tends to be more in love than the other. Are you sure that there is no one bobo wey dey side dey shine her kongo? @Dr. that talked about psychiatry___kini problem? Which kind hospital dey treat psych problem pass koboko? Na serious caning dem dey use pursue psych/madness comot. OP don't try the kobokoing at home. As women plenty reach, na im you want make one woman give you hypertension abi stroke? If you die from all these stress, she go still move on. Why don't you move on now while you still have your health? You are in an unhealthy relationship. Period! I sincerely believe that God don tire to dey listen to Nigerians problems. No be only Nigerians create. Small thing God this, God that. Una no go leave God make he rest small? God helps those who help themselves. Leave this ogbanje alone! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Katier00(f): 7:24am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Okon.akpan:belive me or nt she is havin an affair |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by adconline(m): 7:59am On Apr 22, 2013 |
omonnakoda:I guess the joke is on me cos I did not see " worster" in OP's post |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 8:59am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Okon.akpan: Yea . . . . . right! Your wife woke up one morning and suddenly changed . . . what is she? a chameleon? I'll advice you to be truthful to yourself . . . ONLY you can fix your marriage! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 10:18am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Ujujoan:Is dat d right thing to say? Can't u figure it out that something is wrong, and if sumtin is wrong must it be frm the man's side? I dnt undastand hw most u ladies visualise things sometimes. Its clear frm his assertions..... the wife dosen't have feeling for him anymore. And all she wants to do is control everything which is a clear evidence and d product of nt having feelings for him anymore. The question should be... How cn he get her back to feel for him?.. Whats d reason or cause of d lost feeling?.. And dats wia u get it wrong, it musn't be frm d man, the cause had every possibility that it can b frm d woman..u knw women and their intimate,material and pleasure issues. @OP I dnt knw yet what to tel u. I wil get back to you but dnt succumb for her. Still be d man and if possible seek nt her opinion any longer. If u let her control d family, her mission for nt feeling for u anymore would be accomplished. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 10:29am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Kzinne: then why are you pussyfooting. give her what she wantslol.... Dude get a work |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 10:31am On Apr 22, 2013 |
tithe: To be frank she's possessed by evil spirit, take her for deliverance. I recommend synagogue.lol |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by cece12: 12:11pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Okon.akpan: marriage is a different ball game...tell her u want a divorce jor rather than suffer... |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by babylast(f): 12:33pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Okon.akpan:i will advice u go for counselling, call for a meeting wt her and her parents present n tell them ur observations while u let her defend herslf. abve all tell God in prayer |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by birdman(m): 12:47pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
justsmile: Lets see how much this nugget will help you if your husband starts to use you as a punching bag. You can do all the counseling and seminars you want, but the successs of the marriage still boils down to your partner actually wanting it to work out. And you have absolutely no control over what an adult decides to do. You can pray, fast, beg, go on vacation all you want, but if they arent interested, you are wasting your time |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by troy20(m): 1:25pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
"alota pple r enjoying marriage"? Well dts highly exagerated.my guy face reality.dis is no romance fiction of those teen years anymore.this is REAL.if dis bothers u dt much dt u cant concentrate at wrk nor sleep, believe me it arnt worth it.u'l just watch life sip out of u.women arnt always d angels de seem.giv it ur best shot.if it doesnt wrk, get RID of her ASAP! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 1:32pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
troy20: "alota pple r enjoying marriage"? Well dts highly exagerated.my guy face reality.dis is no romance fiction of those teen years anymore.this is REAL.if dis bothers u dt much dt u cant concentrate at wrk nor sleep, believe me it arnt worth it.u'l just watch life sip out of u.women arnt always d angels de seem.giv it ur best shot.if it doesnt wrk, get RID of her ASAP! 1000% |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by justsmile(f): 4:54pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
birdman: Mr man! That can never happen to me!!! It can to the females in your life but not me! Thank you! Seem like you are a wife beater and a puncher yourself that's why you could spew such rubbish without shame! Who told you every man is a wife puncher?! What disrespect to the male folk! My dear, there are lots of good guys out there that don't have such barbaric character! Just like there are lots of beautiful women with good character out there! For the fact that someone made a choice to choose wrongly does not mean every husband or wife is bad! Trust me, their are lots of lovely partners out there! If you refuse to acquire the right knowledge and choose wrongly......... That's your biz! I usually don't reply to peeps that are not on the same 'frequency' with me! I simply drop my comment and walk.......if you like take it, if you like don't! Just like I read others comment and take the ones that I like and discard the rest! So Oga once again....... MY HUSBAND WILL NEVER BEAT ME! Tnk u! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by johnwell(m): 4:04pm On Apr 24, 2013 |
lari03: for those saying we have listened to one side of the story before giving advice, this post is from someone who is in the same location and industry, not a faceless person. I lived in eket for a year and I know how it goes down. you are right brother, it's not easy up here, but I know God will give us the grace to identify and overcome them. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by johnwell(m): 4:07pm On Apr 24, 2013 |
Katier00 : I SUSPECT SAME! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by birdman(m): 3:32am On Apr 25, 2013 |
justsmile: So what if he does beat you. What then? You are not the first one to think it cant happen. You have no control over another adult's decisions no matter how much you fast, pray and do seminars all day |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by birdman(m): 3:33am On Apr 25, 2013 |
johnwell: Agreed. This is the most likely reason. She is trying to head fake the guy and keep him confused so he doesnt suspect an affair. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Princesszoe: 11:50am On Apr 25, 2013 |
And what about him cheating on his wife or hasnt he ? Oga, if you really believe in the existance of life after death , i.e heaven and hell, you should never divorce your wife except on the ground of adultery in which you must have been faithful to her ever since you both have been married otherwise fix your marriage. God is the creator and the re-creator, ask Him to do the remoulding . Some women have changed their husbands through prayers, why not do so? She is a woman and not a man. No matter how hard she depicts herself, she cannot overcome her emotions. Try and show her love , i mean sincere love, as a woman, she will get the signal, confess your unfaithfulness if there is any because you may have done that and she might have known (am talking from experience)which is responsible for her hating some part of you. After this storm (ofcourse this issue must calm) always fast and pray together. Infidelity( this has introduced demons in many homes) MUST BE A NO GO AREA for the both of you otherwise devil will have a field day again. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by fibonacciseries(f): 1:55pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
[quote author=Doncolio]Take a deep breath, then follow this few steps. Take time off work, then prepare a vacation of two(2) days exclusive for you and her. Make sure the place is a place she wuld have loved to be. Take along with you things that could bring back the memories of the past when you were courting or when the marriage was sweet. After the fun of the day, try open a table for discussion and speak ur mind. Try understand if are response are selfish meaning she doesn't care about you- meaning t In fact i am inpired by all the reasonable, meticulous and sensitive advisers here. You are highly appreciated. If the wife could be here to tell her side of the story ... |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 8:36pm On Oct 13, 2013 |
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Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 7:27am On Jan 12, 2015 |
iamswizz:Some advise tho, smh |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by jadelyn007(f): 9:24pm On Jan 12, 2015 |
Back in the days when most nairaland men had sense. Now the majority is high on horseshiit. Only a minority got sense 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 7:25am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Whew! Oluwa o |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Barezzi(m): 10:55am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Very sad case... Most married offshore guyz are in this same shit I know quite a number of them...kpele... you've received enough counsel here, go and do the needful! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 3:46am On Jan 14, 2015 |
Send her back to her family |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Arsenate(m): 6:53pm On Sep 07, 2015 |
jadelyn007:but same can be said of the women. most women on this thread sound reasonable, unlike what we have on Nairaland these days; bunch of bitter misandrists masquerading as feminists. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by nikkyshyne(f): 8:29pm On Sep 07, 2015 |
I wonder if Op and wifey are now in good terms... |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by BuddhaPalm(m): 10:11pm On Sep 07, 2015 |
Doncolio: This is very bad advice. You are essentially rewarding her for bad behaviour. What she deserves, at this point, is some good ol' whippin', as uncle Mohammed wisely advised (abeg na Uncle Mo. from ITALY I dey talk, no be the one from Madina - before person go come blow up for pesin side... ) On a serious note though, if it's not postpartum depression, or whatever they call it...give her times 2 of whatever she is giving you. If you are not prepared for everything to go to hell, you've lost. |
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