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When You Are Sexually Harassed By An Ex Who Is Married / Are Guys Scared Of Dating Or Marrying Working-Class Ladies? (2) (3) (4)
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by GraceBestowed(f): 1:27pm On May 06, 2013 |
alpha conde: But I hv been told by someone that she has become addicted to sex cus of this same experience. Can someone separate the difference or substantiate any? It depends on the person, and how they deal with traumatic situations. Some people are resilient, some are retiring, and others overcompensate; either way, if these feelings are not properly addressed, the outcome could be detrimental. The OP is obviously scarred, and has become retiring, whilst your friend is overcompensating - both psychological consequences of the trauma they went through. 4 Likes |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by kagel: 1:27pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: In A ¤confused State¤ Plz I Need AdviceWERE YOUR PARENT INFORMED,AS WHEN THE HARASMENT? |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Freiburger(m): 1:29pm On May 06, 2013 |
FrontPageLawyer:Now i'm asking you same way i will ask a preacher, What will you do, if you happened to be the husband of this young woman? |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by alphaconde(m): 1:29pm On May 06, 2013 |
@ gracebestowed Nice elucidation 1 Like |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by ajanaku2(m): 1:29pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: In A ¤confused State¤ Plz I Need Advice ...seems like a plot from a Nollywood movie! Forget the past and move on with your Life, girl! 1 Like |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by nikkyshyne(f): 1:29pm On May 06, 2013 |
Ishilove, where are you? quite the opposite of Chilo. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by UjSizzle(f): 1:31pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: A psychologist/psychiatrist. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by UjSizzle(f): 1:32pm On May 06, 2013 |
nikkyshyne: Ishilove, where are you? quite the opposite of Chilo.  |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by alphaconde(m): 1:32pm On May 06, 2013 |
ibitomisi: to me sex before marriage isn't good, it's a pity you fell into the victim of child molestation... But think twice. U don't believe in sex before marriage perhaps u r a modest and upright fellow but u believe in cheating entreprenuers who set up telecommunication companies by making profit on their hardwork. Ur space in hell is reserved 2 Likes |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by stargalameena: 1:34pm On May 06, 2013 |
awww! i feel you sis..dis is an emotional,psychology issue which u will need the help of GOD or therapist.you can also go for counciling in church...and kip trying wit ur guy,as long as he is patient.may God help you bloved in jesus name 1 Like |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by stargalameena: 1:41pm On May 06, 2013 |
hahahahahahahahhahaha! alpha conde: |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Ranoscky(m): 1:42pm On May 06, 2013 |
Plane, Car and other transport machine do kill people, but does that stop us from entering them? NO! If u look right in the eyes of ur lover and still vision ur molesters, that means ur love for him is NOT strong enough, sorry. 1 Like |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by pendusky(m): 1:44pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: In A ¤confused State¤ Plz I Need AdviceGet intimate? Are u married?  |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Emlina(f): 1:45pm On May 06, 2013 |
A gd tin u tld ur bf cos he sure has a role 2 play in helpin u cm out of it. D ist step is 2 4gv ur uncle nd cousin. Twil go a long way in ur healin process. Accept it as smtin u cnt change. Its an ugly xprnc nd no mata hw much u wish it neva hapnd, trut is, it did hapn. 4gv dem nd den grow 2 lv urslf. C urslf as bein worthy of able hands lovin u nd nt d cruel, feeble hands of ur uncle nd cousin cos if u blame urslf, u wnt evn kn d diff btw d molestation nd sex. Lyk i mentioned earlier, ur bf has a role 2 play. Patience is jst d word cos its gonna tk a long process. Goodluck dear. No self pity. Grow up |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Elxandre(m): 1:51pm On May 06, 2013 |
U need to be sure your guy aint a chop and clean mouth sorta guy. So i think u should avoid jumping into it with him, only to discover he used you. Believe me if that happens you would be more emotionally scarred than ever. 1 Like |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by redsun(m): 2:11pm On May 06, 2013 |
You shouldn't let your past hold you back.That is living in bondage. People unfortunately fall victims of different kinds,but their ability to get out of them makes them who they are.Their ability to tell the stories with heads held high,not with agonies.Life is made up of two kinds,the pursued and pursuers.And which ever side you are on,you have to play to survive. Sex is good when you feel like it and with who you want to be with. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by animari(f): 2:13pm On May 06, 2013 |
I can't believe some of the insensitive comments that you have to read- ignore it!!Take it easy- you have already progressed so much with this man in your life- take him with for councelling- you are brave and I pray that you heal. YOu will be able to help others in a similar situation one day. 1 Like |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by stargalameena: 2:28pm On May 06, 2013 |
redsun: .hmmmmm.......SMH |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by naijathings(m): 2:32pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: In A ¤confused State¤ Plz I Need Advicei have met some ladies with such event in their past.. it is not easy but you have to SAY NO to all the things in the past that's gonna steal your joy in the future. i got hit by a car as a child does not mean i will not grab the car of my dream and drive it as a grown up.. you are grown up and the highlighted part of your words shows that you are aware that you are ruining your happiness holding on to past terrors.. Breathe in, Breathe out, let it go.. there is so much life to live and if you have love in your heart to give, dont let your uncle and cousin steal your joy over and over again. . . . what am saying in a nutshell is.... furck your boyfriend/husband if you want to or he is going to get it from some other girl while you are still here crying. lets see how confused you will be by then.. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by JOFF: 2:33pm On May 06, 2013 |
My sister have you tried to forgive yourself?even your uncle/cousion as well? For me that is where it should start from,Im telling you once you are able to do that you are completely free.I pray God will give you the grace to do that ijn. 1 Like |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by heykims(m): 2:34pm On May 06, 2013 |
collins123:1 Corinthinas 7: its better to remain unmarried or remain a widow for ever.. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by stargalameena: 2:35pm On May 06, 2013 |
MY DEAR,IF YOU GET INTIMATE WIT D GUY,DERE SHOULD B A LEVEL OR LIMIT TO IT..SO DAT U DONT GET HURT JUST LIKE ELXANDRE SAID....HAVE SEX U FEEL IS RIGHT |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by vingi(f): 2:38pm On May 06, 2013 |
alpha conde: But I hv been told by someone that she has become addicted to sex cus of this same experience. Can someone separate the difference or substantiate any?. Beliv me ur frend is hurting inside,its nt like she is addicted to sex bt she is dishing it out to guys out of anger,probably she blames herself for wat happened or angry at her family or d person dat molested her n feels worthless n gives it out freely without regard,she needs to c a shrink to gain herself n pride bac. @ OP,u need to save urself cos no one can help bt God,seek his face,n pls talk about it,it helps bt nt necessarily to a family member.I knw of a gurl whose Dad molested n d mum ask her to tel no one due to d shame it wil bring n neva sort help for her child,15yrs latr d lady sort for help herself frm a shrink,which means she didn't get ova it. Go to a shrink cos they r trained to handle such. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by dulphines: 2:44pm On May 06, 2013 |
@OP, let me get something clear before i advise you properly. Did your uncle and cousin penetrate or attempted penetration? |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Dbboy(m): 2:49pm On May 06, 2013 |
Go get some happy therapy.  |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by redsun(m): 2:57pm On May 06, 2013 |
stargal_ameena: hmmmmm.......SMH I mean,sex is life and life is sex.Everything emerges from right copulations. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by VANENON(f): 2:57pm On May 06, 2013 |
So sorry about your experience but you need to put it behind you and get on with your life. I tell you the truth at least 50% of ladies were molested sexually during childhood what differs is the extent of the molestation and the person or persons involved. Be determined in your heart that you will get past this stage, pray about it and if you feel you need counselling, you can seek counsel but most of all your partner has to be very patient and gentle with you until you get over it. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by ajufinz(m): 3:53pm On May 06, 2013 |
I can only imagine ur trauma... Ekpele! Therapy is good if u find one, Support network is beta if u can form/find one... Persons who survived similar ish* A healthy Pre-marital sex may also serve but if U die in it, the trauma WILL continue forlife. God loves U, Jesus will Heal U... Find Him today. |
| Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by naijathings(m): 4:00pm On May 06, 2013 |
VANENON: So sorry about your experience but you need to put it behind you and get on with your life. ahh is it that bad? 50 % in Nigeria or around the world? so that means if i have 6 sisters then at least 3 of them have been hacked while they were still children?? Lord.. Scarry. abeg oh make una mind the kind of people that you allow to come around your daughters.. lots of insane and unstable and crazy people walking around in human skin |
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