samoje: i just got married some couples of months ago,he is loving,caring,we play ad crack jokes together like brother and sister, but the greatest problem and challenge i have with him is kneeling down for him.My husband made a law that when i want to give him food i must be on my two knees to present his food on the table, be on my two kneels to greet him every morning and also to be on my two kneels while presenting water for him to drink because that is how his mother has been doing to his father as a sign of respect and also want his wife to do the same to him and also raise up children that will learn from their mother.But i find it difficult to do which has generated problem since i got married and my husband is ready to dissolve the marriage if i refuse to obey him.somebody please advice what do i do, should i obey him irrespective of what my friends are saying.advice pls

samoje: i just got married some couples of months ago,he is loving,caring,we play ad crack jokes together like brother and sister, but the greatest problem and challenge i have with him is kneeling down for him.My husband made a law that when i want to give him food i must be on my two knees to present his food on the table, be on my two kneels to greet him every morning and also to be on my two kneels while presenting water for him to drink because that is how his mother has been doing to his father as a sign of respect and also want his wife to do the same to him and also raise up children that will learn from their mother.But i find it difficult to do which has generated problem since i got married and my husband is ready to dissolve the marriage if i refuse to obey him.somebody please advice what do i do, should i obey him irrespective of what my friends are saying.advice pls

greatgod2012:


did he asked you this while dating, if yes, then do not stop, if no, tell him your mind, even though im the type that kneeling for hubby doesnt really bother me as such, (only that hubby isnt always comffy with it), infact i do it alot, but since im comfortable with it, im ok, if you are not comfortable with it, humbly tell him, this is no big deal, kneeling or no kneeling shouldnt get to the point of thinking about divorce, however, if he insist, compromise and do it, he will soon get tired of it, or may soon feel ashamed about it, even, if i were you, i will always embarass him with kneeling down sef, anytime hes in the group of his friends, na so, i go just dey kneel like housegirl, everywhere and everytime hes in the midst of people, i will make sure i embarass him with my kneeling down, he is the one that will come and beg me to stop it when the shame becomes too much for him.


Secondly, never tell your friends what happens in your marriage, they can mislead you, beware of all those "i cant take it" friends, you will be amazed that most of them accept hundredfold of what they told you they cant accept, so, shine your eyes, no two marriages are the same, what works for you may not work for them and vice-versa.
Even, it is unhealthy of you to even be thinking of what people think or say about you, so be wise, keep your marriage, the best way you could and never allow other parties to rule your marriage for you.
May God help you and grant you the wisdom needed to keep your marriage........ Amen.

greatgod2012:


did he asked you this while dating, if yes, then do not stop, if no, tell him your mind, even though im the type that kneeling for hubby doesnt really bother me as such, (only that hubby isnt always comffy with it), infact i do it alot, but since im comfortable with it, im ok, if you are not comfortable with it, humbly tell him, this is no big deal, kneeling or no kneeling shouldnt get to the point of thinking about divorce, however, if he insist, compromise and do it, he will soon get tired of it, or may soon feel ashamed about it, even, if i were you, i will always embarass him with kneeling down sef, anytime hes in the group of his friends, na so, i go just dey kneel like housegirl, everywhere and everytime hes in the midst of people, i will make sure i embarass him with my kneeling down, he is the one that will come and beg me to stop it when the shame becomes too much for him.


Secondly, never tell your friends what happens in your marriage, they can mislead you, beware of all those "i cant take it" friends, you will be amazed that most of them accept hundredfold of what they told you they cant accept, so, shine your eyes, no two marriages are the same, what works for you may not work for them and vice-versa.
Even, it is unhealthy of you to even be thinking of what people think or say about you, so be wise, keep your marriage, the best way you could and never allow other parties to rule your marriage for you.
May God help you and grant you the wisdom needed to keep your marriage........ Amen.

chaircover: First of all, never proclaim negativity on your life. Your marriage will not crash in Jesus Name.

Also always know this as a fact. No two marriages are alike and what may fuel one may kill another. Even if a set of twins married another set of twins, what works for twin one may be disaster for twin 2. So never ever listen to friends who tell you “not to accept this or that” cos you never know what they are accepting in their marriage. Plus what works for them may never work for you and vice versa.

Some free info Im going to give is there are only a few ways to a mans heart and when I say heart I mean the innermost depth of your man. Forget beauty and brains; that will only get you to the superficial membrane of his heart, but if you really want to get to his innermost chamber then you respect him, you feed him, you give him good bedroom action and you treat his people well. You do all that then his conscience will convict him when he wants to misbehave

He has asked you to kneel down. Let me tell you something, It is not your knees on the floor that he wants, he wants you to submit and if I were you, I will do just that. He is your husband not your neighbour or your colleague at work. He deserves unreserved respect from you and I want to believe that he is a good man as you have detailed in your op and he will therefore appreciate it and not misuse it

Another secret is that many newly married men like flexing. They beat their chests and say this is my wife, I am married now LOL. Seriously speaking for how long will you kneel down and give him food, the practicality of it is not even feasible and I think that with time he will even be the one to say not bother again. But as he has asked you to do it, then really there is nothing stoping you from doing it. He is your husband.

it will not kill you, but you need to find a place in your heart to really want to do it. There is no need of doing it just to frustrate him or to make him feel ridiculed because that shows that even though you are kneeling you are actually standing inside and he Is not a fool and will know that you are only mocking him.

These things go way beyond the surface and if you want a happy union with your partner, you both have to sacrifice for each other. I am sure that there will be times that you will want him to do things that don’t quite go with his constitution too in the long course of the marriage but he will still do them.

Don’t let something as trivial as this cause a wedge between you both. There are still heaps of other challenges that you are going to go through in the marriage.

I wish you all the best

byvan: Kneeling is not really the issue, I wonder what next he will force you to do after succumbing to kneeling. if threatening divorce is this casual to him ,them be ready for a long chain Of "if you don't do this I divorce you" drama.

MRbrownJAY: so many people asked the OP the most important question and she has yet to reply. when did you learn about this insanity? well before marriage or the very day you got married?