How it began is not as important as the intensity of reflection that went along with it. Some was self-reflection, some was a guess of what might have really been going through his mind and why he was doing what he was doing. He and I are in our mid-40's his wife is in her early 30's. They have 2 small children, for which he says he will stay the course, but now that I have ended it with him, he said that he will find someone else to fill that area of his life, because his wife isn't doing it for him and leaving is not an option, because he does not want to destabilize his small children. He was very gentle with my struggle, very supportive and did exactly what I asked him to do to help me get through the pain, except leave. I have enormous respect for him, so I am not angry at him, but I miss him tremendously. He didn't even seem so concern if she found out. He never mentioned her much, only said that he was not miserable and even if he is, he would not be the one to leave. Sometimes I wonder if they aren't in a standoff. I only have one thing to say to this experience, I regret meeting him married, but there isn't much that I would not do for him. I think that it is cruel when parents think that it is ok to stay for kids or for extended family's opinion. Life is too short to live unhappily and this is why I ended it, because I deserve someone who is available, but I do think about him and his emptiness. It is so visible to everyone else, but him it seems.

U did d right thing by breaking it off. Dating a married man sure has negative consequences both physical and spiritual. What happened? Are u divorced or just 'never-marreied single'. If so, u'll meet ur own man soon. Ps. U'll get ova him, give urself time.

I am divorced two years now, but was separated for 5 years before the divorce. It has been a long time. I am ready to meet someone. This was spiritually painful, but gosh, not sure that I can love someone quite the way that I loved him. It didn't have the crazy, cheating, dishonest in the closet feel to it. It really feels like the marriage is about to implode, but no matter what happens they will stand off, because of the kids. It is painful to watch.

is it females opening these threads or gay males?