as a self educated young nigerian/british woman how much shit do i have to take from a nigerian man.? my blood boils over when the price for sticking to nigerian men includes
cooking when u feel or dont feel like
making sure the house is clean 24/7
pleasing his family and friends
learning not to have an opinion
trying to control ur temper
having to hear this all the time " am a nigerain man so i can , "

stop dating egotistical lazy morons? 

Never heard 'as a Nigerian man" in my life. I'd most likely laugh in his face

lol

Hey guyz whats up?
How y'all this afternoon. . . ?


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Well you dont need to take much shit from anyman, all you need to do is study your guy before given into marriage that he's not the kind that would have much to be pleased by his Nigerian/ British wife.

hey gal,
what you are complaining about is not just a nigerian man thing.
Most men are just blinded by their ego, Know what you can take in a relationship, spell it out to this man, let him know you are not his MAID, COOK or CLEANER, w whatever you do at home is becaue you love to not out of a sense of duty or LOVE,
Pls let your man know were the boundaries!! arent you flesh and blood?

Good Luck.

you don't have to take any shit from any nigerian guy,i believe wherever does not please someone,that person shouldnt even go there at all,inorder to avoid marital mistake,afterall its not a must every nigerian woman marries a nigerian man

i belive u're a nigerian!culture is culture nd if culture states dat u should obey his family nd cook 4 him,i see nuttin wrong wit dat._{*dat does nt make u a slowpoke.i mean a push around.}

@ welli , it is argument s like urs that set my soul on fire. culture is not static it is dynamic. what is acceptable today does not ncessarily have to be acceptable tommorrrow.

' jenny i do see reasons with u fortunately am not married and i doubt if i ever wld be
but i do like my nigerian men

Congratulations.

bla bla bla. This kind of threads send you to sleep to be honest. Dating a Nigerian man is not compulsory. Look for British men pls.

@ viv yea.i'm not into any argument.jst sayin der's nuttin wrong wit cookin 4 your man nd tryin 2 be nice to his family as long as he isn't pushin u around  nd if he's over claimin rite kick his ass.

' jenny i do see reasons with u fortunately am not married and i doubt if i ever would be
but i do like my nigerian men

yea,then if u like d nigerian men, have no choice but to obey d culture ,where a woman has to cook,live in peace wt d husbands pple,clean d house

mind u,u dont have to control ur temper,cos i call it pretense wen one is angry and cant tell whoever dat is responsible for dat anger,dat u r angry

2ndly u have an opinion,nobody will tell u not to have an opinion over something

viva u make it sound as if marrying a nigerian man is like living in bondage

Sup Viva, 

u might actually be blowing this a lil out of proportion.

besides, not all nigerian guys are like that.

jennykadry:

yea,then if u like d nigerian men, have no choice but to obey d culture ,where a woman has to cook,live in peace  wt  d husbands people,clean d house

that is xactly my point.even in europe here,u still ve to clean da house,cook nd make his family kool wit u.its nt only a cultural tin bt an individual
responsibility

u guys are completely missing the boat
perharps i will go back to abusing and irritating every one
this f lacks constructive and objective comments which is what i tot originally
hey busta whats up girl
hey desorji congratulations to u too

VIVA don't jump on me but is this the same guy you have group sex with?

Does he push for this or is it a joint decision?

I can't see any guy who allows you to enjoy this kind of activity being an egotistical maniac.

are we talking about sex here or what
4get i even posted this thread/topic
i know when i hear arses talking instead of brains

Touchy touchy!!!

as a self educated young nigerian/british woman how much shit do i have to take from a nigerian man.? my blood boils over when the price for sticking to nigerian men includes
cooking when u feel or don't feel like
making sure the house is clean 24/7
pleasing his family and friends
learning not to have an opinion
trying to control your temper
having to hear this all the time " am a nigerain man so i can , "


Vivaladiva
that was your original post. About keeping the house clean, I don't think anyone should be told that, nonetheless I don't see it as just the females duty, it should be something both parties take equal share in.
learning not to have an Opinion, God forbid that we be slaves again. As soon as you feel you lack an opinion - call a timeout and quit. being in a relationship is not slavery, its freedom.  learn to control your temper, thats a good thing.
no need for the Nigerian man in there, the idea is to address your man's personal shortcomings not is Nationality

[size=16pt]you dont hav to take shit from Nigerian men or any other man for that matter![/size]

to whom it may concern
i am sexually adventurous, i am a wolf in wolf clothing
unlike the many wolves i see dressed as sheeps
since i am the only one inflicted with this disease, we can safely drop this topic and move on
nigeriam men are wonderful capish

too much information, no one asked . . . no one is bothered.

vivaladiva:

nigeriam men are wonderful capish

so why the thread

thank u las maybe what i should have said is above reasonable demands for all the items i listed
yes touchy touchy "i am alowed to be touchy if i feel so"

Why wouldn't you want your house to be clean 24/7?

to whom it may concern the comment was not directed at u so piss off

viva did u create this thread to cause trouble or what?we r all tryin to avoid trouble here ,help us by trying to avoid it too ok?

as a self educated young nigerian/british woman how much shit do i have to take from a nigerian man.? my blood boils over when the price for sticking to nigerian men includes
cooking when u feel or don't feel like
making sure the house is clean 24/7
pleasing his family and friends
learning not to have an opinion
trying to control your temper
having to hear this all the time " am a nigerain man so i can ,

Babes, u will take every shit that comes your way especially when your spouse has the same qualities or more. . . .

Blimey. . . . .what has being British, self-educated, young or whatever has to do with this. . . . .
If u are hoping to go to Nigeria to choose a dude, then expect your toes to be kissed and your spouse to wash your undies.
However, if u are hoping to date a Brit/Nigerian in the UK. . . . .You are just anutha chic around the corner.
There are 66 million Brit citizens in the UK and about 2.2 Brit Nigerian gals that are single. . .so what makes u special. . .

Expect to cook, wash, pound yam in a mortar. . . . . I will even make u grind pepper on a stone and balance a tray on ur head to test ur Nigerianity.
Take care of the kids with the anticipation of remaining a full house wife and putting your certificates in the bin.
Whats more? Be submissive, respectful and act like a proper well brought up Nigerian woman.
It means kneeling down when u meet me parents and elders of the family. . .

If u can't live with that. . . . .go to the ABBEY.   Better still, marry a white DUDE.

vivaladiva:

to whom it may concern the comment was not directed at u so piss off

hmm, please be nice  

has any heard about reading between the lines
yes ur house will be clean but there will be times when its untidy or u just cant be borthered because u are fliping tired

Babes, u will take every shit that comes your way especially when your spouse has the same qualities or more. . . .

Blimey. . . . .what has being British, self-educated, young or whatever has to do with this. . . . .
If u are hoping to go to Nigeria to choose a dude, then expect your toes to be kissed and your spouse to wash your undies. Grin Grin
However, if u are hoping to date a Brit/Nigerian in the UK. . . . .You are just anutha chic around the corner.
There are 66 million Brit citizens in the UK and about 2.2 Brit Nigerian gals that are single. . .so what makes u special. . .

Expect to cook, wash, pound yam in a mortar.
Take care of the kids with the anticipation of remaining a full house wife and putting your certificates in the bin.
Whats more? Be submissive, respectful and act like a proper well brought up Nigerian woman.
It means kneeling down when u meet me parents and elders of the family. . .

lol jackal u no well oooo

why the Abbey?