babyosisi:

All you stingy men
How dare you call your wife a thief
U need to ask for forgiveness immediately


My husband was hiding his wallet and sometimes putting it under his pillow just because I was taking little chicken change from it for lunch
Nonsense !!
How can a woman steal from her own husband
Are we not joined in holy matrimony again?
In Igboland wives are lovingly called odoziaku which translates to mean " the one who arranges the wealth"
Your own is to bring in the money,allow me to arrange it na ,as expected
I pitied him sha one day long ago when we had no credit cards ,he came home ranting about how he was so embarrassed at the store When it was time to pay and he Opened his wallet and the cash was depleted
I said ewoooo, di m oma
I am so sorry
But did it stop me ?
Whosai
If a man has 5 $20 bills in the wallet I bought him for Christmas why can't a woman who bore him bouncing baby boys take one or two $20 as the spirit leads
I don't do it as much anymore
I now ask him first and if he says no i have no cash on me and I go to the wallet and see cash,he can't come back and claim that he had cash
Abi?
Love u boo

slimyem: What does she use the extra money for?
Maybe you are not giving her enough and she feels she deserves more..

jennykadry:

Child and parent.....,husband and wife are two different scenarios. I don't get the logic behind you comparing these two.

Also, can you please type in full English. People like me struggle to read your post

hectortex: I have got this little problem. Am a cash person, i carry much cash around more than i might need at a time.
At first i blamed my sister for the shortages i encounter because she used to do that way before i got married until she swore to me she dosent have access to my money with my wife around. my wife has also been privy to my decision to cut her allowances on several occassions cos of this same issue. until this morning, i discovered yet another shortage and due to a mild fever last nite, i was practically in our room the whole nite. so there was no question of anybody else taking anything in my absence. Ok i was very mad so i grilled her and threatened to make things difficult if i didnt get the money all the while hoping i was wrong about her.
this evening she opened up on how she did it and has been doing it for a while.
my problem is not like she hasnt got money, i make sure of that. she got access to about 50grand right inside our room but couldnt take her hands off my wallet.
i dont know how to handle this; am thinking of pulling a plug on all her allowances except the very basic ones and keeping my wallet far above her reach. I just dont know if its a right move.
If you were in my shoes,what would you do??

N.B: mod please i would want this to remain here in the family section

hectortex: I have got this little problem. Am a cash person, i carry much cash around more than i might need at a time.
At first i blamed my sister for the shortages i encounter because she used to do that way before i got married until she swore to me she dosent have access to my money with my wife around. my wife has also been privy to my decision to cut her allowances on several occassions cos of this same issue. until this morning, i discovered yet another shortage and due to a mild fever last nite, i was practically in our room the whole nite. so there was no question of anybody else taking anything in my absence. Ok i was very mad so i grilled her and threatened to make things difficult if i didnt get the money all the while hoping i was wrong about her.
this evening she opened up on how she did it and has been doing it for a while.
my problem is not like she hasnt got money, i make sure of that. she got access to about 50grand right inside our room but couldnt take her hands off my wallet.
i dont know how to handle this; am thinking of pulling a plug on all her allowances except the very basic ones and keeping my wallet far above her reach. I just dont know if its a right move.
If you were in my shoes,what would you do??

N.B: mod please i would want this to remain here in the family section

Egba girl: It's not stealing? Ok. How about respecting your partner and your partner's property and personal stuff? At least let you partner know especially if you want to use the"we are one" argument. If you are one, then your partner should be informed of your decision to the money from his/her wallet.

Fhemmmy:

Nice one, she could at least leave a note where the money was that read "I have taken some" no need to look for it and sign the note with a nice kiss.

Egba girl:

Lol at signing the note with a kiss... True that though.

Richy.:
So She took money out of the bag because of the love she had for you and you are complaining. If she does not take from you, who do you think she will take from,your best friend? I will advise you to go to the people that have married for for long,let them inform you on what marriage is all about. you guys are no longer dating. she is your wife. you forgot the vow you made, what ever she has is yours and what ever you have is hers. you think it was a joke when you were saying it or are you in Abuja Marriage

Fhemmmy:

Yes oh, cos the kiss signature will make the mind belle kool down.

hectortex: I have got this little problem. Am a cash person, i carry much cash around more than i might need at a time.
At first i blamed my sister for the shortages i encounter because she used to do that way before i got married until she swore to me she dosent have access to my money with my wife around. my wife has also been privy to my decision to cut her allowances on several occassions cos of this same issue. until this morning, i discovered yet another shortage and due to a mild fever last nite, i was practically in our room the whole nite. so there was no question of anybody else taking anything in my absence. Ok i was very mad so i grilled her and threatened to make things difficult if i didnt get the money all the while hoping i was wrong about her.
this evening she opened up on how she did it and has been doing it for a while.
my problem is not like she hasnt got money, i make sure of that. she got access to about 50grand right inside our room but couldnt take her hands off my wallet.
i dont know how to handle this; am thinking of pulling a plug on all her allowances except the very basic ones and keeping my wallet far above her reach. I just dont know if its a right move.
If you were in my shoes,what would you do??

N.B: mod please i would want this to remain here in the family section

Egba girl:

But the guy said that she had access to money in the house already. She had 50 000 at her disposal but decided to take from the wallet and even worse deny taking from the wallet. That's deceit and dishonesty. What would have been the big deal if she had accepted that she took the money? Why she dey fear?

CyberG: This is why people should be careful, pray and hope they don't marry a thief-wife into the house!

Richy.:


It is love. she was satisfying the fantasy she had or inherited from her parent or elderly sisters or cousins. of taking from her own husband. he might not like it now, but he will get used it one day. u should be proud that she owned something that a wife could take.

dayokanu: For those justifying it, If the husband leaves home goes to buy fuel and checks his wallet to see the money isnt complete.

Would that also be part of love?

Taking what belongs to something else is stealing.

Ok Assuming the husband packs the wifes money and jewelries to go sell without her Knowledge can we also say thats showing love?

logica: Lol. Dayo, it is an inconvenience, but it is not stealing. According to the law, you cannot steal from your spouse. What does that tell you? I don't know what it tells you, but what it tells me is, I should be very careful who I make my wife.

logica: I have to break this to you: unfortunately, your spouse cannot steal from you. That IS the law.

hectortex: I have got this little problem. Am a cash person, i carry much cash around more than i might need at a time.
At first i blamed my sister for the shortages i encounter because she used to do that way before i got married until she swore to me she dosent have access to my money with my wife around. my wife has also been privy to my decision to cut her allowances on several occassions cos of this same issue. until this morning, i discovered yet another shortage and due to a mild fever last nite, i was practically in our room the whole nite. so there was no question of anybody else taking anything in my absence. Ok i was very mad so i grilled her and threatened to make things difficult if i didnt get the money all the while hoping i was wrong about her.
this evening she opened up on how she did it and has been doing it for a while.
my problem is not like she hasnt got money, i make sure of that. she got access to about 50grand right inside our room but couldnt take her hands off my wallet.
i dont know how to handle this; am thinking of pulling a plug on all her allowances except the very basic ones and keeping my wallet far above her reach. I just dont know if its a right move.
If you were in my shoes,what would you do??

N.B: mod please i would want this to remain here in the family section

riyageh:

Please what law states your spouse cannot steal from you?