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Re: Does this Make Children bad? by deols(f): 8:19am On Jun 23, 2013 |
stillwater: For parents who don't have cash or money to buy stuff for their kids to bribe them, how do/would they get their kids to do stuff, since the escape route now is using money to bribe them? It doesnt have to be a lot of money. I tell you, the children wont demand what is not obtainable in their environment. When we were kids, my grandpa used to give us money on fridays. Everyone in the house would get new notes. Adults, like my mum would get 5naira each and we, children would get 1naira or 50kobo, depending on if you could recite the qur'an or not. The money was very little and all we could buy with it was kulikuli. We all worked hard at being able to recite so as to graduate to the 1naira level. That is one form of motivation, with little money that worked! |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by deols(f): 8:22am On Jun 23, 2013 |
tpia@: good means respectful, humble, hard working, responsible adults. |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by Nobody: 8:27am On Jun 23, 2013 |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by Daresh(f): 10:41am On Jun 23, 2013 |
deols: Speaking as a mother, I know that you can not let. Children Always have their way. It gives them a sense of entitlement which does not exist in the real world. I remember as a child my. Mum refusing to let me have chocolates when the freezer was stuffed full and her only reason being "I don't want to spoil you"! EXASPERATING!!! I swore I would not do the same but now, I find myself doing same to my daughter. She wants to drink ribena every miniute. I know I have indulged her to some extent cos honestly I hate to hear her cry. And she has exploited it like no mans business. She doesn't do what I ask her to do, she is stubborn and obstinate. Now I have learnt to ignore her when I feel she has had enuough. To smack her when she is stubborn and to give her a time out in her room when she starts screaming. So my love, you can "spoil" your kids, but don't let them take it for granted. My sister told me the story of a little boy who's parents took him abroad at the end of every term for holidays. One year, the family was bumped to 1st class from economy class as per frequent fliers! The little boy went back to school and started boasting to all little friends that he no longer flies economy class just first class. Holiday period rolled around and dear Daddy bought the usual economy class. Little boy refused to fly economy cos his classmates on the same flight would laugh at him. The little boy caused such a ruckus that his grandpa bumped his flight to business class for him. Is that how you want to spoil your children? Into believing what you do out of love is their right? Sometimes we need to be tough and deprive them little so don't don't come out soft, mushy and feeling entitled. Maybe the day you can't provide your girl turns to aristo and the boy turns to Anini. Follow Gods word in raising kids on this one. One more thing, my grandfather was a very very rich man in the east, my uncle his son was made to carry stones in a barrow to sell in the market. He told me, that he hated his father then, but now he realises that it was just character building. He told me that the things his Dad made him do made him the man he is today. (In between, he petted and spoilt his daughters. My mum inclusive ) |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by deols(f): 7:12am On Jun 25, 2013 |
chaircover: That is more like it |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by deols(f): 7:14am On Jun 25, 2013 |
Daresh: He probably doesnt like the 'start up from the scratch' thingy. Thanks for taking the time..will put it all in mind. |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by biolabee(m): 8:35am On Jun 25, 2013 |
chaircover:Good post CC imo flying with minimal connections or chilling at a yotel between flights is not spoiling but common sense to me o i dont think thats the idea the OP had when talking of spoiling she is talking of living her child for one sole purpose - her brood I wonder where the future husband or baby daddy comes in all this fantasy |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by Nobody: 2:28pm On Jun 25, 2013 |
deols: I have plans of 'spoiling' my Children. One questioni Do you have children now? I had plans of marrying a multi millionaire but I ended up with someone on a molue bus 1 Like |
Re: Does this Make Children bad? by deols(f): 10:04pm On Jun 25, 2013 |
babyosisi: Lol.. well, I stand a very good chance. Unlike you |
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