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Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by chamotex(m): 4:07am On Nov 13, 2008 |
j-girl: Me too I love muguns, esp the female ones ![]() Come inside ma room and I'll show u what grimey is ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 4:09am On Nov 13, 2008 |
~Sauron~: Well you can take your uncouth behavior and choke on it. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by jgirl3: 4:11am On Nov 13, 2008 |
chamotex:You are one cunning fella. . . ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Sauron1: 4:13am On Nov 13, 2008 |
stillwater: U should be spanked butt naked. If u are looking for those fantasy dudes u read about in novels, u better take the next coach to a convent. |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 4:17am On Nov 13, 2008 |
~Sauron~: I would rather join a convent than settle for LESS!!! Bite me!!! |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Sauron1: 4:19am On Nov 13, 2008 |
stillwater: I don't have to bite you. The Rev. Fathers at the convent would do that and many more. . . . ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 4:22am On Nov 13, 2008 |
No problem. As long as they are not as demonic as you are. |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Sauron1: 4:24am On Nov 13, 2008 |
stillwater: It's a huge risk u would have to take. Out of every 12 disciples, there's an Iscariot. U can work the math. ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Tatase(f): 8:14am On Nov 13, 2008 |
@ Topic I love nice boys!!! I really do. But I'm a nice girl and for some reason the nice boys always want the bad girls and then THEY want to be "just friends" with you. And then they're bitter because they get trampled on by the bad girls and it's like "what did you expect?" And then we nice girls get the bad boys who like us because they want to "corrupt" us. And to be fair, lots of nice girls like bad boys, but I like nice guys. I think its the niceness, it's absolutely adorable. I love that! |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by frijos(m): 8:59am On Nov 13, 2008 |
Girls rarely date nice guys because they don't know how to create attraction. Ladies need someone who can bring out the naughtiness in them. Someone who is unpredictible. Someone challenging, full of suspense and intrigue. They want to feel protected. Someone who can stand for them anyday. Somone who isn't afraid to handle their f ups! someone who can act like a man. someone with personal authority with a good sense of humor. Tatase:
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Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Tatase(f): 9:13am On Nov 13, 2008 |
frijos: I have to disagree. I don't think niceness has anything to do with "acting like a man." I don't see why nice guys can't be protective or stand up for his girl. I'm not one of those girls who want guys that are "a challenge" or "naughty" or "bad." It's a relationship. It's not a training. I don't have a daddy complex, I'm not looking for an authority figure to "handle my eff ups." My guy should be my partner not my parent. I'm attracted to nice guys who are understanding and intelligent and funny and just basically kind and good and not ashamed to be any of these things. They know how to "create attraction," it's just that like I said, they usually like girls that aren't nice or good for them. All this bad boy whatnot, i don't find it hot at all. It doesn't appeal to me. |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by A40(m): 12:39pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
j-girl:If only you watched that episode with me the scenario was just so real life.The nice guy turn bad guy thing works 9 times out of 10 there is just that unpredictability that gets you girls high Even DMX sang it Why do Good girls like Bad Guys knowing that bad guys tell mad lies!! |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by frijos(m): 4:21pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
Tatase: we all have our own definition/understanding of the phrase "nice guy" don't we? On what level? that's the Q they like girls who aren't nice for them, same goes for the ladies, that na wetin i been dey try xplain and the reason na cos the find the bad/naughtiness of the opposite sex very attractive. U dig now?!
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Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by na2day2(m): 5:32pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
so ur definition of nice is a guy that will kiss ur feet? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() stillwater: |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by tope2000(f): 5:34pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
I like Nice guys ![]() Nice guys arent MUMU pls ![]() ![]() ![]() Although there are some guys who are plain ODE ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 5:40pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
na2day?: That was a joke. Extinct my foot. If eventually males go into extinction, I hope you can only blame yourselves. |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by na2day2(m): 6:34pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
nah girl, we have a ready blame, and it is not us ![]() ![]() stillwater: |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by na2day2(m): 6:35pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
u do? oya take me, take me, i am the nicest on the planet tope2000: |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by tope2000(f): 6:36pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
na2day?: Says who ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by idupaul: 6:47pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
nice guys are just born losers ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by ilurveit(f): 7:55pm On Nov 13, 2008 |
I feel like when I was younger (like 5-6 years ago), I used to think bad boys were the ish. But now, honestly, I prefer a nice boy. I don't like the playah or playah-wannabe attitude. Or the cockiness and "swagger". I think it's a real turn-off. I like quiet confidence (as in he doesn't need anyone's affirmation, he's confident but he doesn't need to talk about how handsome/clever/good at whatever he is as though he thinks you might not realize it for yourself if he doesn't tell you) and humility and niceness and innocent but willing to play and be naughty too but not like naughty with everyone playa-style. |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by dbaptist1(m): 3:22am On Nov 14, 2008 |
i think i also have d same problem as d poster but mine was that we are still friends i called her and she was asking me the difference between lust and love why? maybe na because we meet for church i dnt knw but nice guy most atimes pay but u gotta be patient as they say the patient dog eats the fattest bone |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 2:49am On Nov 22, 2008 |
na2day?: Erhmmm who determines the sex of a child? |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by acidrop(f): 2:51am On Nov 22, 2008 |
datz because nice guys aint really nice, i dont even want a nice guy sef |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by dljbd1(m): 11:52pm On Nov 22, 2008 |
[size=8pt]ATTENTION "NICE GUYS":[/size] If you are a "nice guy" who never seems to be able to attract HOT women, or you have attractive female friends who always seem to say, "He's really wonderful, but I just like him as a FRIEND", then this could possibly be the single most important thing you ever read in your entire life. And I'm not kidding, not even a little. If I had to sum up the biggest mistake that I see men making with women (and the big mistake that I've made myself too many times to count), it's being a WUSSY. Being a WUSS comes in two main flavors: 1) Acting like a WUSSY to begin with. 2) Turning INTO a WUSSY as you get to know her. I would venture to guess that most men either act like WUSSIES with women they're attracted to ALL the time, or they turn into WUSSIES within a few weeks or months of meeting a woman that they REALLY like. I know, this sounds a little strange, right? What the heck should being a Wuss have to do with attracting women? The answer: EVERYTHING. Let's review a few of the most important concepts to remember when it comes to attracting women: 1) ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. As humans, we don't "consciously choose" who we FEEL attracted to. It just "happens" to us, BANG! And you can't "convince" someone to FEEL this powerful emotion. 2) ATTRACTION DOESN'T MAKE SENSE. When you think about the concept of being emotionally attracted to another person, it only "makes sense" that you should feel attracted to good qualities like "niceness" and "honesty" and "loyalty", right? Well guess what, ATTRACTION doesn't play by those rules. The things that we are ATTRACTED to don't make "logical sense" when you look at them. We all know that attractive women seem to date a lot of abusive jerks, and that men often stay in relationships with unhappy, domineering women. For ATTRACTION to make "logical sense", you must learn how it works, and get a deeper understanding of what triggers it. 3) STATUS is very important when it comes to ATTRACTION. Women are almost NEVER attracted to men of "lower status" than themselves. This is why certain stereotypes exist, such as women not liking shorter men, and women who make a lot of money being intimidating to men. 4) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE A LOT OF CHOICES. Most men have never even taken a minute of their lives to consider what it must be like to be an attractive woman. Attractive women are approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men who are interested in them. For an attractive woman, every smile, every kind gesture, and every favor is in one way or another viewed as INTEREST. An attractive woman is approached in one way or another MANY times a day. It would be impossible for an attractive woman to give even a small fraction of her time to each of the men who shows interest in her. 5) MEN ARE SOOOOO UNORIGINAL. Just as most men have never given a thought to how it must feel and what it must be like to be an attractive woman, most men have never given a thought to the fact that MEN ARE PREDICTABLE BEYOND BELIEF, from an attractive woman's point of view. The comment or compliment that you think is so original, or the invitation to a date, or the question about her having a boyfriend, or the comment that "her boyfriend is a lucky man", is so UNORIGINAL, PREDICTABLE, AND WORST OF ALL, BORING to an attractive woman. She gets this stuff 100 times a day! And men who are unoriginal do NOT stand out from the crowd. 6) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE WUSS-DAR! There are a few simple, unmistakable signals that men give off that say, "Hey, I'm just another WUSS, so don't pay attention to anything else I do, because I'll always be one", which, of course, makes women RUN. (As a side note, attractive women also have NON-WUSS-DAR as well. In other words, from a few simple clues, an attractive woman can quickly know if she is dealing with a man who is NOT a Wuss, and who, therefore, will be one of the few who are allowed the time and consideration for romantic interactions.) Soooo, what is it about being a WUSS that is the big problem here? Why is it that of all things in the world, this is the "big sin" when it comes to attracting women? It's taken me several years now to really figure this out, and it's not exactly simple to explain (A detailed explanation is available in my Advanced Dating Techniques Program). But, I'll sum it up and say this: WOMEN COME "PRE-PROGRAMMED" WITH A MENTAL IMAGE OF THE KIND OF MAN THAT THEY SHOULD FEEL ATTRACTION FOR. THIS PROGRAMMING IS BOTH GENETIC AND CULTURAL. WHEN A WOMAN MEETS THIS MAN, THINGS HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN, INSTANTLY. Now, I personally believe that MOST of this programming is genetic. In other words, women are BORN with it. Attraction isn't like other things that "seem" like they should be similar. If you want to make friends with someone, you should be nice, do them favors, be courteous, and generally act like you're making an effort. But, when you try to take this kind of thinking and apply it to ATTRACTION (which almost all men do), then you find yourself doing things that SHOULD work, but they don't. ATTRACTION is very "counter intuitive" (damn, I love it when I use big words), which means that it's not the way it "should" be. It's different than it seems at first glance. It's deceptive in a way because unless you "get" how it works, you'll just keep beating your head up against the wall doing things that don't work, "trying harder" when these things fail, and actually making things WORSE as a result of not understanding it. Have you ever met a woman and given her a compliment, only to have her walk away and show no interest? Or pursued a woman with gifts, favors, and dinners, only to have her be "confused" and need "time alone", which eventually led to her wanting to "just be friends"? Have you ever had an attractive female friend who liked to date abusive jerks, and then tell YOU about the abuse she was putting up with, all the while you would have done ANYTHING for a chance to be with her? Yeah, me too. That's what I mean it when I say that you can actually make things WORSE by TRYING HARDER when you don't "get" how attraction works. >>>Quick note: If you want to learn the "secret language" of attraction, and how to trigger this response in women with your communication ALONE, then read this before you continue: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/SexualCommunication/?cid=QZZZVH&lid=2&ll=1 If I had to sum it all up, and describe the one HUGE mistake that men make with women, the one that causes the most pain and prevents the most success, I'd have to say that it was, BEING A WUSSY, OR TURNING INTO ONE. For a lot of reasons, a WUSSY just doesn't make for an interesting, romantic counterpart. Women will SETTLE for a Wuss, or even SETTLE DOWN with one (usually after the Wuss has demonstrated his TOTAL lack of self-respect, and his COMPLETE willingness to put aside all of his own needs for a woman). Unfortunately, this often ends with the woman cheating on the Wuss, leaving him for someone else, taking everything from him (including his self esteem) etc, I digress, The point is, a WUSSY doesn't trigger ATTRACTION. Wussies are BORING. They're needy. They lack ENERGY, act CLINGY, and make women feel TRAPPED and repulsed. Everything about the WUSS spells "DON'T PICK ME". Now, the first thing most guys say when they hear this news is, "But I don't want to be a JERK to women" or "I like the idea of being NICE" or "I'm just being MYSELF with women, what's wrong with that?". I can identify. I get it. I spent many years of my life thinking these kinds of things. Well, the good news is that you don't need to be a "jerk" or treat women badly to attract them. lol, You just need to: 1) Abandon your Wussy Ways. 2) Learn how ATTRACTION works. 3) Change how you look at relationships. 4) Learn the specific things that you need to do in each situation to meet women and make them feel that wonderful, powerful, magical, elusive emotion called ATTRACTION. 5) Never "slip", or allow yourself to start behaving like a WUSSY as you get to know a woman. Doesn't sound too hard, right? Good, I'd like to get you started with some homework. You have an assignment for the week. Here it is: 1) Stop being "nice" to attractive women. This means no asking women out, no giving them lots of compliments, no putting your needs aside, no accepting manipulative behavior to please women, and no giving women special treatment or privileges just because they're attractive. NOTE: I did NOT say to treat women BADLY. I'm just telling you to stop doing all the FAKE things you're doing just to make women like you. 2) Stop handing women your, um, testosterone making devices on a silver platter. In other words, stop giving away your power to women. Do not communicate in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM that you will put aside your own self respect in order to get a woman's approval. 3) Say the word "NO" to a request from an attractive woman at least once every single day. Do NOT do this in an angry, mean, or abusive way. Just simply say, "no". (By the way, it's OK to say "no" in a serious tone, then DO the thing she requested after making her sweat a little. This is using sarcasm and humor, and if it's done right it will earn you big points). 4) Pay close attention as you do these things, and notice how attractive women will seem MORE comfortable being around you, and want to spend MORE time with you, all because you're not acting needy, clingy, and WUSS-LIKE. 5) If you own a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques program, I'd like you to watch or listen to the five live interviews on that program again. This time, I want you to only pay attention to one thing: Do ANY of these guys, including myself, say anything that would lead you to believe that we act like WUSSIES around women? , and if you don't own a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program yet, then you really need to get it. It has the most complete and detailed explanation of how to stop being a WUSSY available. Of course, it also contains several HUNDRED of the best ideas and specific step-by-step techniques for approaching, meeting, dating, kissing, and getting physical with women, The interviews that I mentioned above are worth the price of the entire program alone. You'll actually get to watch or listen to me interview my friends who are AMAZING with women, and get them to describe their personal secrets. Priceless! All the details, plus free audio and video samples are all here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/AdvancedSeries/?cid=QZZZVH&lid=3&ll=1 , and if you haven't had a chance to download your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to do that IMMEDIATELY. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. It's here: http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/?cid=QZZZVH&lid=4&ll=1 And I'll talk to you again soon. Your Friend, David D. |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by HRhotness(f): 11:53pm On Nov 22, 2008 |
@ dl_jbd na wa oh |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by acidrop(f): 5:10am On Nov 23, 2008 |
dl_jbd: na essay? shooo |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by glorina: 7:39am On Nov 23, 2008 |
I prefer nice guys. I don't do bad guys ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by acidrop(f): 3:32am On Dec 03, 2008 |
dem no dey write am for forehead |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Smi1(m): 1:14am On Feb 05, 2010 |
@PRYNXLEX na you nice pass bros, always a solution to girls problem ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Smi1(m): 1:30am On Feb 05, 2010 |
My mama told me to leave a bich the way i found a bich. Only a fool invests in a woman. Thx mom ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 2:24am On Feb 05, 2010 |
All these bullocks about attraction don't work with Nigerian girls. 99.999% of Nija girls are attracted to MONEY and all it engenders; whether the $$$ sits in the pockets of Mr. Nice or Mr. Bad matters little. Guys, in your own interests, forget all this thrash about trying to put up appearances in order to impress (dim-witted) girls (love-peddlars in fact) who several other dudes are already bleeping ruthlessly. Seek ye 1st the almighty CHEDDAR and everything else (all shapes and sizes) SHALL be added onto you. Full-stop. Like my man P. Diddy sang on biggie's album, "first comes the cash, then comes the a.ss". Full-stop again. If una wan continue to dey give all these yeye 'copy and paste' oyinbo theories about attraction and all whatnot, na una sabi. |
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