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Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by chamotex(m): 4:07am On Nov 13, 2008
j-girl:

There's wuss, ode, maga and mugun.
I love muguns because they are just so naive and so innocent.

Which one is grimey? a combo of ode and maga?

Me too I love muguns, esp the female ones cheesy

Come inside ma room and I'll show u what grimey is wink grin
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 4:09am On Nov 13, 2008
~Sauron~:

If u say so. . . . .
Mr Nice Guy is a complete dolt.
I care less about impressing any woman, so she experiences me as strong, independent, self-sufficient, and hence, very desirable geezer.
It's the oldest trick in the world. tongue tongue tongue tongue tongue

Well you can take your uncouth behavior and choke on it. tongue tongue tongue tongue tongue
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by jgirl3: 4:11am On Nov 13, 2008
chamotex:

Me too I love muguns, esp the female ones cheesy

Come inside ma room and I'll show u what grimey is wink grin
You are one cunning fella. . .  grin grin grin grin
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Sauron1: 4:13am On Nov 13, 2008
stillwater:

Well you can take your uncouth behavior and choke on it. tongue tongue tongue tongue tongue

U should be spanked butt naked.
If u are looking for those fantasy dudes u read about in novels, u better take the next coach to a convent.
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 4:17am On Nov 13, 2008
~Sauron~:

U should be spanked butt naked.
If u are looking for those fantasy dudes u read about in novels, u better take the next coach to a convent.

I would rather join a convent than settle for LESS!!! Bite me!!!
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Sauron1: 4:19am On Nov 13, 2008
stillwater:

I would rather join a convent than settle for LESS!!! Bite me!!!

I don't have to bite you.
The Rev. Fathers at the convent would do that and many more. . . . cheesy
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 4:22am On Nov 13, 2008
No problem. As long as they are not as demonic as you are.
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Sauron1: 4:24am On Nov 13, 2008
stillwater:

No problem. As long as they are not as demonic as you are.

It's a huge risk u would have to take.
Out of every 12 disciples, there's an Iscariot.
U can work the math. tongue
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Tatase(f): 8:14am On Nov 13, 2008
@ Topic

I love nice boys!!! I really do. But I'm a nice girl and for some reason the nice boys always want the bad girls and then THEY want to be "just friends" with you. And then they're bitter because they get trampled on by the bad girls and it's like "what did you expect?" And then we nice girls get the bad boys who like us because they want to "corrupt" us. And to be fair, lots of nice girls like bad boys, but I like nice guys. I think its the niceness, it's absolutely adorable. I love that!
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by frijos(m): 8:59am On Nov 13, 2008
Girls rarely date nice guys because they don't know how to create attraction. Ladies need someone who can bring out the naughtiness in them. Someone who is unpredictible. Someone challenging, full of suspense and intrigue. They want to feel protected. Someone who can stand for them anyday. Somone who isn't afraid to handle their f ups! someone who can act like a man. someone with personal authority with a good sense of humor.
Tatase:

@ Topic

I love nice boys!!! I really do. But I'm a nice girl and for some reason the nice boys always want the bad girls and then THEY want to be "just friends" with you. And then they're bitter because they get trampled on by the bad girls and it's like "what did you expect?" And then we nice girls get the bad boys who like us because they want to "corrupt" us. And to be fair, lots of nice girls like bad boys, but I like nice guys. I think its the niceness, it's absolutely adorable. I love that!

Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Tatase(f): 9:13am On Nov 13, 2008
frijos:

Girls rarely date nice guys because they don't know how to create attraction. Ladies need someone who can bring out the naughtiness in them. Someone who is unpredictible. Someone challenging, full of suspense and intrigue. They want to feel protected. Someone who can stand for them anyday. Somone who isn't afraid to handle their f ups! someone who can act like a man. someone with personal authority with a good sense of humor.

I have to disagree. I don't think niceness has anything to do with "acting like a man." I don't see why nice guys can't be protective or stand up for his girl. I'm not one of those girls who want guys that are "a challenge" or "naughty" or "bad." It's a relationship. It's not a training. I don't have a daddy complex, I'm not looking for an authority figure to "handle my eff ups." My guy should be my partner not my parent.

I'm attracted to nice guys who are understanding and intelligent and funny and just basically kind and good and not ashamed to be any of these things. They know how to "create attraction," it's just that like I said, they usually like girls that aren't nice or good for them. All this bad boy whatnot, i don't find it hot at all. It doesn't appeal to me.
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by A40(m): 12:39pm On Nov 13, 2008
j-girl:

Oh no! It's not always good that way. . . you know the nice guy thing works in certain cases. How many girls do you want that the nice guy attitude cannot get?

If only you watched that episode with me the scenario was just so real life.The nice guy turn bad guy thing works 9 times out of 10 there is just that unpredictability that gets you girls high
Even DMX sang it Why do Good girls like Bad Guys knowing that bad guys tell mad lies!!
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by frijos(m): 4:21pm On Nov 13, 2008
Tatase:

I have to disagree. I don't think niceness has anything to do with "acting like a man." I don't see why nice guys can't be protective or stand up for his girl. I'm not one of those girls who want guys that are "a challenge" or "naughty" or "bad." It's a relationship. It's not a training. I don't have a daddy complex, I'm not looking for an authority figure to "handle my eff ups." My guy should be my partner not my parent.

I'm attracted to nice guys who are understanding and intelligent and funny and just basically kind and good and not ashamed to be any of these things. They know how to "create attraction," it's just that like I said, they usually like girls that aren't nice or good for them. All this bad boy whatnot, i don't find it hot at all. It doesn't appeal to me.

we all have our own definition/understanding of the phrase "nice guy" don't we?
On what level? that's the Q

they like girls who aren't nice for them, same goes for the ladies, that na wetin i been dey try xplain

and the reason na cos the find the bad/naughtiness of the opposite sex very attractive. U dig now?!

Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by na2day2(m): 5:32pm On Nov 13, 2008
so ur definition of nice is a guy that will kiss ur feet? wow! well, what can i say, men are about to be extinct anywayz so it dont matter i guess. this only goes to prove my previous conclusion, NICE GUYS DON'T COUNT, PERIOD! cry cry cry

stillwater:

Who doesn't know? tongue
What's wrong in a man kissing my feet? Are you the man? cheesy
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by tope2000(f): 5:34pm On Nov 13, 2008
I like Nice guys wink
Nice guys arent MUMU pls angry angry angry
Although there are some guys who are plain ODE lipsrsealed
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 5:40pm On Nov 13, 2008
na2day?:

so ur definition of nice is a guy that will kiss ur feet? wow! well, what can i say, men are about to be extinct anywayz so it don't matter i guess. this only goes to prove my previous conclusion, NICE GUYS DON'T COUNT, PERIOD! cry cry cry


That was a joke.
Extinct my foot. If eventually males go into extinction, I hope you can only blame yourselves.
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by na2day2(m): 6:34pm On Nov 13, 2008
nah girl, we have a ready blame, and it is not us lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

stillwater:

That was a joke.
Extinct my foot. If eventually males go into extinction, I hope you can only blame yourselves.
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by na2day2(m): 6:35pm On Nov 13, 2008
u do? oya take me, take me, i am the nicest on the planet

tope2000:

I like Nice guys wink
Nice guys arent MUMU please angry angry angry
Although there are some guys who are plain ODE lipsrsealed
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by tope2000(f): 6:36pm On Nov 13, 2008
na2day?:

u do? oya take me, take me, i am the nicest on the planet


Says who grin
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by idupaul: 6:47pm On Nov 13, 2008
nice guys are just born losers tongue
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by ilurveit(f): 7:55pm On Nov 13, 2008
I feel like when I was younger (like 5-6 years ago), I used to think bad boys were the ish. But now, honestly, I prefer a nice boy. I don't like the playah or playah-wannabe attitude. Or the cockiness and "swagger". I think it's a real turn-off. I like quiet confidence (as in he doesn't need anyone's affirmation, he's confident but he doesn't need to talk about how handsome/clever/good at whatever he is as though he thinks you might not realize it for yourself if he doesn't tell you) and humility and niceness and innocent but willing to play and be naughty too but not like naughty with everyone playa-style.
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by dbaptist1(m): 3:22am On Nov 14, 2008
i think i also have d same problem as d poster but mine was that we are still friends
i called her and she was asking me the difference between lust and love why?

maybe na because we meet for church
i dnt knw but nice guy most atimes pay but u gotta be patient
as they say the patient dog eats the fattest bone
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 2:49am On Nov 22, 2008
na2day?:

nah girl, we have a ready blame, and it is not us lipsrsealed lipsrsealed


Erhmmm who determines the sex of a child?
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by acidrop(f): 2:51am On Nov 22, 2008
datz because nice guys aint really nice, i dont even want a nice guy sef
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by dljbd1(m): 11:52pm On Nov 22, 2008
[size=8pt]ATTENTION "NICE GUYS":[/size]

If you are a "nice guy" who never seems to be
able to attract HOT women, or you have attractive
female friends who always seem to say, "He's
really wonderful, but I just like him as a
FRIEND", then this could possibly be the single
most important thing you ever read in your entire
life.

And I'm not kidding, not even a little.

If I had to sum up the biggest mistake that I
see men making with women (and the big mistake
that I've made myself too many times to count),
it's being a WUSSY.

Being a WUSS comes in two main flavors:

1) Acting like a WUSSY to begin with.

2) Turning INTO a WUSSY as you get to know her.

I would venture to guess that most men either
act like WUSSIES with women they're attracted to
ALL the time, or they turn into WUSSIES within a
few weeks or months of meeting a woman that they
REALLY like.

I know, this sounds a little strange, right?

What the heck should being a Wuss have to do
with attracting women?

The answer: EVERYTHING.

Let's review a few of the most important
concepts to remember when it comes to attracting
women:

1) ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. As humans, we don't
"consciously choose" who we FEEL attracted to. It
just "happens" to us, BANG! And you can't
"convince" someone to FEEL this powerful emotion.

2) ATTRACTION DOESN'T MAKE SENSE. When you think
about the concept of being emotionally attracted
to another person, it only "makes sense" that you
should feel attracted to good qualities like
"niceness" and "honesty" and "loyalty", right?
Well guess what, ATTRACTION doesn't play by
those rules. The things that we are ATTRACTED to
don't make "logical sense" when you look at them.
We all know that attractive women seem to date a
lot of abusive jerks, and that men often stay in
relationships with unhappy, domineering women. For
ATTRACTION to make "logical sense", you must learn
how it works, and get a deeper understanding of
what triggers it.

3) STATUS is very important when it comes to
ATTRACTION. Women are almost NEVER attracted to
men of "lower status" than themselves. This is why
certain stereotypes exist, such as women not
liking shorter men, and women who make a lot of
money being intimidating to men.

4) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE A LOT OF CHOICES. Most
men have never even taken a minute of their lives
to consider what it must be like to be an
attractive woman. Attractive women are approached
in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men who are
interested in them. For an attractive woman, every
smile, every kind gesture, and every favor is in
one way or another viewed as INTEREST. An
attractive woman is approached in one way or
another MANY times a day. It would be impossible
for an attractive woman to give even a small
fraction of her time to each of the men who shows
interest in her.

5) MEN ARE SOOOOO UNORIGINAL. Just as most men
have never given a thought to how it must feel and
what it must be like to be an attractive woman,
most men have never given a thought to the fact
that MEN ARE PREDICTABLE BEYOND BELIEF, from an
attractive woman's point of view. The comment or
compliment that you think is so original, or the
invitation to a date, or the question about her
having a boyfriend, or the comment that "her
boyfriend is a lucky man", is so UNORIGINAL,
PREDICTABLE, AND WORST OF ALL, BORING to an
attractive woman. She gets this stuff 100 times a
day! And men who are unoriginal do NOT stand out
from the crowd.

6) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE WUSS-DAR! There are a few
simple, unmistakable signals that men give off
that say, "Hey, I'm just another WUSS, so don't
pay attention to anything else I do, because I'll
always be one", which, of course, makes women
RUN. (As a side note, attractive women also have
NON-WUSS-DAR as well. In other words, from a few
simple clues, an attractive woman can quickly know
if she is dealing with a man who is NOT a Wuss,
and who, therefore, will be one of the few who are
allowed the time and consideration for romantic
interactions.)

Soooo, what is it about being a WUSS that is
the big problem here?

Why is it that of all things in the world, this
is the "big sin" when it comes to attracting
women?

It's taken me several years now to really
figure this out, and it's not exactly simple to
explain (A detailed explanation is available in my
Advanced Dating Techniques Program).

But, I'll sum it up and say this:

WOMEN COME "PRE-PROGRAMMED" WITH A MENTAL IMAGE
OF THE KIND OF MAN THAT THEY SHOULD FEEL
ATTRACTION FOR. THIS PROGRAMMING IS BOTH GENETIC
AND CULTURAL. WHEN A WOMAN MEETS THIS MAN, THINGS
HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN, INSTANTLY.

Now, I personally believe that MOST of this
programming is genetic. In other words, women are
BORN with it.

Attraction isn't like other things that "seem"
like they should be similar.

If you want to make friends with someone, you
should be nice, do them favors, be courteous, and
generally act like you're making an effort.

But, when you try to take this kind of thinking
and apply it to ATTRACTION (which almost all men
do), then you find yourself doing things that
SHOULD work, but they don't.

ATTRACTION is very "counter intuitive" (damn, I
love it when I use big words), which means that
it's not the way it "should" be. It's different
than it seems at first glance. It's deceptive in a
way because unless you "get" how it works, you'll
just keep beating your head up against the wall
doing things that don't work, "trying harder" when
these things fail, and actually making things
WORSE as a result of not understanding it.

Have you ever met a woman and given her a
compliment, only to have her walk away and show no
interest?

Or pursued a woman with gifts, favors, and
dinners, only to have her be "confused" and need
"time alone", which eventually led to her
wanting to "just be friends"?

Have you ever had an attractive female friend
who liked to date abusive jerks, and then tell
YOU about the abuse she was putting up with, all
the while you would have done ANYTHING for a
chance to be with her?

Yeah, me too.

That's what I mean it when I say that you can
actually make things WORSE by TRYING HARDER when
you don't "get" how attraction works.

>>>Quick note: If you want to learn the "secret
language" of attraction, and how to trigger this
response in women with your communication ALONE,
then read this before you continue:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/SexualCommunication/?cid=QZZZVH&lid=2&ll=1

If I had to sum it all up, and describe the one
HUGE mistake that men make with women, the one
that causes the most pain and prevents the most
success, I'd have to say that it was,

BEING A WUSSY, OR TURNING INTO ONE.

For a lot of reasons, a WUSSY just doesn't make
for an interesting, romantic counterpart. Women
will SETTLE for a Wuss, or even SETTLE DOWN with
one (usually after the Wuss has demonstrated his
TOTAL lack of self-respect, and his COMPLETE
willingness to put aside all of his own needs for
a woman). Unfortunately, this often ends with the
woman cheating on the Wuss, leaving him for
someone else, taking everything from him
(including his self esteem) etc,

I digress,

The point is, a WUSSY doesn't trigger
ATTRACTION.

Wussies are BORING. They're needy. They lack
ENERGY, act CLINGY, and make women feel TRAPPED
and repulsed.

Everything about the WUSS spells "DON'T PICK
ME".

Now, the first thing most guys say when they
hear this news is, "But I don't want to be a JERK
to women" or "I like the idea of being NICE" or
"I'm just being MYSELF with women, what's wrong
with that?".

I can identify.

I get it.

I spent many years of my life thinking these
kinds of things.

Well, the good news is that you don't need to
be a "jerk" or treat women badly to attract them.
lol,

You just need to:

1) Abandon your Wussy Ways.

2) Learn how ATTRACTION works.

3) Change how you look at relationships.

4) Learn the specific things that you need to do
in each situation to meet women and make them feel
that wonderful, powerful, magical, elusive emotion
called ATTRACTION.

5) Never "slip", or allow yourself to start
behaving like a WUSSY as you get to know a woman.

Doesn't sound too hard, right?

Good,

I'd like to get you started with some homework.

You have an assignment for the week.

Here it is:

1) Stop being "nice" to attractive women. This
means no asking women out, no giving them lots of
compliments, no putting your needs aside, no
accepting manipulative behavior to please women,
and no giving women special treatment or
privileges just because they're attractive. NOTE:
I did NOT say to treat women BADLY. I'm just
telling you to stop doing all the FAKE things
you're doing just to make women like you.

2) Stop handing women your, um, testosterone
making devices on a silver platter. In other
words, stop giving away your power to women. Do
not communicate in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM that
you will put aside your own self respect in order
to get a woman's approval.

3) Say the word "NO" to a request from an
attractive woman at least once every single day.
Do NOT do this in an angry, mean, or abusive way.
Just simply say, "no". (By the way, it's OK to say
"no" in a serious tone, then DO the thing she
requested after making her sweat a little. This is
using sarcasm and humor, and if it's done right it
will earn you big points).

4) Pay close attention as you do these things, and
notice how attractive women will seem MORE
comfortable being around you, and want to spend
MORE time with you, all because you're not
acting needy, clingy, and WUSS-LIKE.

5) If you own a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques program, I'd like you to watch or
listen to the five live interviews on that program
again. This time, I want you to only pay attention
to one thing: Do ANY of these guys, including
myself, say anything that would lead you to
believe that we act like WUSSIES around women?

, and if you don't own a copy of my Advanced
Dating Techniques CD/DVD program yet, then you
really need to get it. It has the most complete
and detailed explanation of how to stop being a
WUSSY available. Of course, it also contains
several HUNDRED of the best ideas and specific
step-by-step techniques for approaching, meeting,
dating, kissing, and getting physical with
women,

The interviews that I mentioned above are worth
the price of the entire program alone. You'll
actually get to watch or listen to me interview my
friends who are AMAZING with women, and get them
to describe their personal secrets. Priceless!

All the details, plus free audio and video
samples are all here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/AdvancedSeries/?cid=QZZZVH&lid=3&ll=1

, and if you haven't had a chance to download
your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating",
then you need to do that IMMEDIATELY. You can
download it and be reading it in just a few
minutes from right now.

It's here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/?cid=QZZZVH&lid=4&ll=1

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by HRhotness(f): 11:53pm On Nov 22, 2008
@ dl_jbd

na wa oh
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by acidrop(f): 5:10am On Nov 23, 2008
dl_jbd:

[size=8pt]ATTENTION "NICE GUYS":[/size]

If you are a "nice guy" who never seems to be
able to attract HOT women, or you have attractive
female friends who always seem to say, "He's
really wonderful, but I just like him as a
FRIEND", then this could possibly be the single
most important thing you ever read in your entire
life.

And I'm not kidding, not even a little.

If I had to sum up the biggest mistake that I
see men making with women (and the big mistake
that I've made myself too many times to count),
it's being a WUSSY.

Being a WUSS comes in two main flavors:

1) Acting like a WUSSY to begin with.

2) Turning INTO a WUSSY as you get to know her.

I would venture to guess that most men either
act like WUSSIES with women they're attracted to
ALL the time, or they turn into WUSSIES within a
few weeks or months of meeting a woman that they
REALLY like.

I know, this sounds a little strange, right?

What the heck should being a Wuss have to do
with attracting women?

The answer: EVERYTHING.

Let's review a few of the most important
concepts to remember when it comes to attracting
women:

1) ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. As humans, we don't
"consciously choose" who we FEEL attracted to. It
just "happens" to us, BANG! And you can't
"convince" someone to FEEL this powerful emotion.

2) ATTRACTION DOESN'T MAKE SENSE. When you think
about the concept of being emotionally attracted
to another person, it only "makes sense" that you
should feel attracted to good qualities like
"niceness" and "honesty" and "loyalty", right?
Well guess what, ATTRACTION doesn't play by
those rules. The things that we are ATTRACTED to
don't make "logical sense" when you look at them.
We all know that attractive women seem to date a
lot of abusive jerks, and that men often stay in
relationships with unhappy, domineering women. For
ATTRACTION to make "logical sense", you must learn
how it works, and get a deeper understanding of
what triggers it.

3) STATUS is very important when it comes to
ATTRACTION. Women are almost NEVER attracted to
men of "lower status" than themselves. This is why
certain stereotypes exist, such as women not
liking shorter men, and women who make a lot of
money being intimidating to men.

4) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE A LOT OF CHOICES. Most
men have never even taken a minute of their lives
to consider what it must be like to be an
attractive woman. Attractive women are approached
in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men who are
interested in them. For an attractive woman, every
smile, every kind gesture, and every favor is in
one way or another viewed as INTEREST. An
attractive woman is approached in one way or
another MANY times a day. It would be impossible
for an attractive woman to give even a small
fraction of her time to each of the men who shows
interest in her.

5) MEN ARE SOOOOO UNORIGINAL. Just as most men
have never given a thought to how it must feel and
what it must be like to be an attractive woman,
most men have never given a thought to the fact
that MEN ARE PREDICTABLE BEYOND BELIEF, from an
attractive woman's point of view. The comment or
compliment that you think is so original, or the
invitation to a date, or the question about her
having a boyfriend, or the comment that "her
boyfriend is a lucky man", is so UNORIGINAL,
PREDICTABLE, AND WORST OF ALL, BORING to an
attractive woman. She gets this stuff 100 times a
day! And men who are unoriginal do NOT stand out
from the crowd.

6) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE WUSS-DAR! There are a few
simple, unmistakable signals that men give off
that say, "Hey, I'm just another WUSS, so don't
pay attention to anything else I do, because I'll
always be one", which, of course, makes women
RUN. (As a side note, attractive women also have
NON-WUSS-DAR as well. In other words, from a few
simple clues, an attractive woman can quickly know
if she is dealing with a man who is NOT a Wuss,
and who, therefore, will be one of the few who are
allowed the time and consideration for romantic
interactions.)

Soooo, what is it about being a WUSS that is
the big problem here?

Why is it that of all things in the world, this
is the "big sin" when it comes to attracting
women?

It's taken me several years now to really
figure this out, and it's not exactly simple to
explain (A detailed explanation is available in my
Advanced Dating Techniques Program).

But, I'll sum it up and say this:

WOMEN COME "PRE-PROGRAMMED" WITH A MENTAL IMAGE
OF THE KIND OF MAN THAT THEY SHOULD FEEL
ATTRACTION FOR. THIS PROGRAMMING IS BOTH GENETIC
AND CULTURAL. WHEN A WOMAN MEETS THIS MAN, THINGS
HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN, INSTANTLY.

Now, I personally believe that MOST of this
programming is genetic. In other words, women are
BORN with it.

Attraction isn't like other things that "seem"
like they should be similar.

If you want to make friends with someone, you
should be nice, do them favors, be courteous, and
generally act like you're making an effort.

But, when you try to take this kind of thinking
and apply it to ATTRACTION (which almost all men
do), then you find yourself doing things that
SHOULD work, but they don't.

ATTRACTION is very "counter intuitive" (damn, I
love it when I use big words), which means that
it's not the way it "should" be. It's different
than it seems at first glance. It's deceptive in a
way because unless you "get" how it works, you'll
just keep beating your head up against the wall
doing things that don't work, "trying harder" when
these things fail, and actually making things
WORSE as a result of not understanding it.

Have you ever met a woman and given her a
compliment, only to have her walk away and show no
interest?

Or pursued a woman with gifts, favors, and
dinners, only to have her be "confused" and need
"time alone", which eventually led to her
wanting to "just be friends"?

Have you ever had an attractive female friend
who liked to date abusive jerks, and then tell
YOU about the abuse she was putting up with, all
the while you would have done ANYTHING for a
chance to be with her?

Yeah, me too.

That's what I mean it when I say that you can
actually make things WORSE by TRYING HARDER when
you don't "get" how attraction works.

>>>Quick note: If you want to learn the "secret
language" of attraction, and how to trigger this
response in women with your communication ALONE,
then read this before you continue:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/SexualCommunication/?=QZZZVH&lid=2&ll=1

If I had to sum it all up, and describe the one
HUGE mistake that men make with women, the one
that causes the most pain and prevents the most
success, I'd have to say that it was,

BEING A WUSSY, OR TURNING INTO ONE.

For a lot of reasons, a WUSSY just doesn't make
for an interesting, romantic counterpart. Women
will SETTLE for a Wuss, or even SETTLE DOWN with
one (usually after the Wuss has demonstrated his
TOTAL lack of self-respect, and his COMPLETE
willingness to put aside all of his own needs for
a woman). Unfortunately, this often ends with the
woman cheating on the Wuss, leaving him for
someone else, taking everything from him
(including his self esteem) etc,

I digress,

The point is, a WUSSY doesn't trigger
ATTRACTION.

Wussies are BORING. They're needy. They lack
ENERGY, act CLINGY, and make women feel TRAPPED
and repulsed.

Everything about the WUSS spells "DON'T PICK
ME".

Now, the first thing most guys say when they
hear this news is, "But I don't want to be a JERK
to women" or "I like the idea of being NICE" or
"I'm just being MYSELF with women, what's wrong
with that?".

I can identify.

I get it.

I spent many years of my life thinking these
kinds of things.

Well, the good news is that you don't need to
be a "jerk" or treat women badly to attract them.
lol,

You just need to:

1) Abandon your Wussy Ways.

2) Learn how ATTRACTION works.

3) Change how you look at relationships.

4) Learn the specific things that you need to do
in each situation to meet women and make them feel
that wonderful, powerful, magical, elusive emotion
called ATTRACTION.

5) Never "slip", or allow yourself to start
behaving like a WUSSY as you get to know a woman.

Doesn't sound too hard, right?

Good,

I'd like to get you started with some homework.

You have an assignment for the week.

Here it is:

1) Stop being "nice" to attractive women. This
means no asking women out, no giving them lots of
compliments, no putting your needs aside, no
accepting manipulative behavior to please women,
and no giving women special treatment or
privileges just because they're attractive. NOTE:
I did NOT say to treat women BADLY. I'm just
telling you to stop doing all the FAKE things
you're doing just to make women like you.

2) Stop handing women your, um, testosterone
making devices on a silver platter. In other
words, stop giving away your power to women. Do
not communicate in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM that
you will put aside your own self respect in order
to get a woman's approval.

3) Say the word "NO" to a request from an
attractive woman at least once every single day.
Do NOT do this in an angry, mean, or abusive way.
Just simply say, "no". (By the way, it's OK to say
"no" in a serious tone, then DO the thing she
requested after making her sweat a little. This is
using sarcasm and humor, and if it's done right it
will earn you big points).

4) Pay close attention as you do these things, and
notice how attractive women will seem MORE
comfortable being around you, and want to spend
MORE time with you, all because you're not
acting needy, clingy, and WUSS-LIKE.

5) If you own a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques program, I'd like you to watch or
listen to the five live interviews on that program
again. This time, I want you to only pay attention
to one thing: Do ANY of these guys, including
myself, say anything that would lead you to
believe that we act like WUSSIES around women?

, and if you don't own a copy of my Advanced
Dating Techniques CD/DVD program yet, then you
really need to get it. It has the most complete
and detailed explanation of how to stop being a
WUSSY available. Of course, it also contains
several HUNDRED of the best ideas and specific
step-by-step techniques for approaching, meeting,
dating, kissing, and getting physical with
women,

The interviews that I mentioned above are worth
the price of the entire program alone. You'll
actually get to watch or listen to me interview my
friends who are AMAZING with women, and get them
to describe their personal secrets. Priceless!

All the details, plus free audio and video
samples are all here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/AdvancedSeries/?=QZZZVH&lid=3&ll=1

, and if you haven't had a chance to download
your copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating",
then you need to do that IMMEDIATELY. You can
download it and be reading it in just a few
minutes from right now.

It's here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/?=QZZZVH&lid=4&ll=1

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.



na essay? shooo
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by glorina: 7:39am On Nov 23, 2008
I prefer nice guys. I don't do bad guys kiss
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by acidrop(f): 3:32am On Dec 03, 2008
dem no dey write am for forehead
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Smi1(m): 1:14am On Feb 05, 2010
@PRYNXLEX

na you nice pass bros, always a solution to girls problem grin grin grin cheesy cheesy cheesy !! cheesy cheesy wink smiley undecided
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Smi1(m): 1:30am On Feb 05, 2010
My mama told me to leave a bich the way i found a bich. Only a fool invests in a woman. Thx mom grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Mr Nice Guy, Why Do Girls Rarely Date You by Nobody: 2:24am On Feb 05, 2010
All these bullocks about attraction don't work with Nigerian girls. 99.999% of Nija girls are attracted to MONEY and all it engenders; whether the $$$ sits in the pockets of Mr. Nice or Mr. Bad matters little. Guys, in your own interests, forget all this thrash about trying to put up appearances in order to impress (dim-witted) girls (love-peddlars in fact) who several other dudes are already bleeping ruthlessly. Seek ye 1st the almighty CHEDDAR and everything else (all shapes and sizes) SHALL be added onto you. Full-stop.  Like my man P. Diddy sang on biggie's album, "first comes the cash, then comes the a.ss". Full-stop again.

If una wan continue to dey give all these yeye 'copy and paste' oyinbo theories about attraction and all whatnot, na una sabi.

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