alutacontinua:

I think you're being too hard on the op. Granted, it was a lil out of place for him to spew out that crap but he was just being true to himself. I'm sure so many people might feel like this but they just bottle it up because they know people would criticize them. He;s agreed to work on his thought process and content and let's just hope it works out well for them.

At this stage of the relationship?? C'mon! You should be mad @ me for being too nice.

When he asked her out, he knew she wasn't pretty enough but he went further
When she said yes, he knew she wasn't pretty enough but he went further
When they first had sexx, he knew she wasn't pretty enough but he went further
When she stayed with him at the low moment of his life, he knew she wasn't pretty enough but he went further
When he proposed,he knew she wasn't pretty enough but he went further
When he went to meet her parents, he knew she wasn't pretty enough but he went further

All of a sudden, he's having second thoughts?? A man at his age should know better, bitter truth.

Mynd_44:
The thing with marriage is that when you are about to go into it, there is not room for doubt. If he was doubting that he would be able to stand her body odour or her talking too much it is something else.

If he said he does not think he might be eating her food, it is understandable but he himself said he cannot do without cheating on her cos she is not pretty to him and he needs someone who is.

I don't joke with issues bordering on cheating especiall if you ain't married yet. It is one red flag that you should look at well

So, you don't think there's remedy?
Not even if he's ready to discard that stu*pid thought ringing in his head?

alutacontinua:

So, you don't think there's remedy?
Not even if he's ready to discard that stu*pid thought ringing in his head?

I don't believe cheats change. Sorry but that's my view.

The OP has shown that he is childish with his thoughts, he has shown that he is a liar, he has shown that he is insensitive, he has shown that he is not trust worthy...... I can go on all night.

If you are the girl's mother, with these facts, what will you say and do?

^^I thought I was the only one that got from his post that he must hv cheated on her before.

Mynd_44:
I don't believe cheats change. Sorry but that's my view.

The OP has shown that he is childish with his thoughts, he has shown that he is a liar, he has shown that he is insensitive, he has shown that he is not trust worthy...... I can go on all night.

If you are the girl's mother, with these facts, what will you say and do?

The truth is i've been trying to put myself in the lady's shoes and I must say it's totally depressing.
They've come a very long way and a break-up won't be the easiest thing for them to go through now. What would he even tell the poor lady is his reason? I just really hope he makes up his mind and identifies his priorities and not make that lady miserable for the rest of her life.

Shollypopz:
Your standards are low if you consider the op very mature.

Can u explain to me what people mean when they say "marriage is all about endurance" madam high standards?

Mature people never result to insults when trying to counsel others the more reason I believe the op is more a mature personality(he didn't insult back) to most you no-log-in-eyes commentators.

And for you people saying he doesn't love the lady, ya'all jokers cos ya'all only criteria for loving is outward appearance.

You don't pay to think, use ur brain

#Nigerians #fake #perfectionists

Shollypopz: ^^I thought I was the only one that got from his post that he must hv cheated on her before.

It is a no brainer.....i can bet he also does not find her satisfying in bed and with that, he can't change as he will always long for the skanks he goes with.

He is marrying her cos of pity which is crazy

alutacontinua:

The truth is i've been trying to put myself in the lady's shoes and I must say it's totally depressing.
They've come a very long way and a break-up won't be the easiest thing for them to go through now. What would he even tell the poor lady is his reason? I just really hope he makes up his mind and identifies his priorities and not make that lady miserable for the rest of her life.

It is better she cries when she is single and she can walk away than when she is married with 2 kids

Mynd_44:
It is a no brainer.....i can bet he also does not find her satisfying in bed and with that, he can't change as he will always long for the skanks he goes with.

He is marrying her cos of pity which is crazy

GBAM!!

Yipee!!.....Mynd is back

Shollypopz:
GBAM!!

Yipee!!.....Mynd is back

more like the Sholly I once knew is back and arguing like old times

good times those were

try69:
..................

By your definition of immature, you just called yourself one

Mynd_44:
more like the Sholly I once knew is back and arguing like old times

good times those were

Not really

Shollypopz:

Not really

Winsh

Shollypopz: By your definition of immature, you just called yourself one

Sori I don't do insults

I'll pass

Help your lady become beautiful with God gave her..

And stop being a shallow bitttch

gbam