some men feel that they should be the money bringer in the family so if the girl is making more money they may feel intimidated. but i just comes to show you that females don't only rely on the guys to bring in the money and to support them. in america, womens here get so lazy because they expect the men to do everything and when the family goes bankrupt, they blame the guy for not even trying and then they leave the guy. so having a wife or girlfriend who are sucessful is pretty much a blessing cuz there is always room for back up.

Listen babe, i understand wat u mean but i think u'r sayin' a vise-versa, The question is y arent successful sista's not married, do u think their wealth gets into their their head or some men are too intimidated to approach them, wat do u think?

maybe they just havent found mr. right

shawna:

maybe they just havent found mr. right

Well thats not an excuse , some of them would say "He's my kinda man, but he's too broke, and i have more than he is, so he has to get rich if he doesnt want me to always control him", etc.

it wasnt an excuse do u want them to marry some guy they will regret marrying in the long run

Hey Honey listen, thats not wat i'm meant ok, an listen i'm not saying majority of em' arent good ones wit good motives, there are some who would want their husband to yell at them cos the have money also so they would want to yell at their husbands at any given time.

lmao! it dun make sense to me.

Wat dun make sense , the topic or wat

U luv

How How , Wat did i do

U act like u really need a fine sista but ur scare u cant handle her

huh, guys are scared of successful ladies coz they love to dominate, and make the ladies feel less,

jachoz - i hope we would meet someday in this ph city of ours were life is enjoyable to its fullest even when some girls are ugly.
lets face facts have u ever asked ur self the so called succesful sisters are not that 100% beautiful. it is just like seperating the wheat from the the chaff. the beautiful ones are already selected either they r succesful or not.
please dont kill me in this forum for saying the truth but we all know it is. like they say na from clap e enter dance. maybe no body said how r u to them, they r now chasing career and telling me it has to do with success thats why the men are scared- scared of who?. (dracquila).
the basic truth is that when a lady have got attitude these days the guys run from them be it successful or not

lol! You know what i like about NL, everyone and everything talks.

I wish i cld get a glimpse of the pics of the guys who have the guts to analyse a girl to ugly.

lioness:

lol! You know what i like about Nairaland, everyone and everything talks.

I wish i cld get a glimpse of the pics of the guys who have the guts to analyse a girl to ugly. [/color][color=#990000]

true!!

True indeed, ugly beautiful babes      

lioness:

U act like u really need a fine sista but your scare u can't handle her

Well my dear, i have one already, and funnily she's with me everyday, and even now.

well is she successful?

lioness:

well is she successful?

Well u bet, and she raises my a$$ when i'm broke, and she not ugly

lioness:

lol! You know what i like about Nairaland, everyone and everything talks.

I wish i cld get a glimpse of the pics of the guys who have the guts to analyse a girl to ugly.

I think it would really be kool if we see those guy analysing ladies as UGLY.

kool. Thats one successful sista who is married
~~~ i hope u guys are legally married not be say u just keep her dey chop her cash ~~~~

emmeno, are u ready now? i think they are waiting for u

@ emmeno
SO?? are u guys married?

So nice to read Idekson's response to Ontop (below you mean), I wonder on what side of the bed you rose from the day you wrote that.

Babawilms you got it all wrong; Seun was simply rubbing in his sarcasm in relation to your lame ideas.

Men want women to share responsibility but not authority. Have you asked why?

I know of a guy who fell in love with a lady from a rich home and simply because she is from a rich home (na her offence be that) he never mentioned his desire to her. Maybe the lady loved him too but 9ja culture forbids a female to initiate the relationship. Today she is unmarried and he is richer that she is but he consoles himself by being her confidant; I really wonder why she gives him that joy of tagging along.

Older men go for young successful women because they already have had their share of bossing a woman around and after all the oga game they realise they need more than a subservient woman; they realise the beauty should match the brain. Then they go all out to encourage whoever they meet to reach the very top.

Marriage has never being a mark of success; look around you and you'll see that there are more unhappily married than unmarried women. Family life is beautiful and worth ones while when there's mutual love and respect and that's what we should aim for not some signed paper that say "owned!"

this topic's still alive

there aren't as many succesful "brothas" and the "sisters" don't want to settle for less.

WesleyanA:

this topic's still alive

there aren't as many successful "brothas" and the "sisters" don't want to settle for less.

U DAMN RIGHT, Y SETTLE FOR LESS. EITHER U MORE SUCCESSFUL THEN ME OR WE ARE ON THE SAME PAGE

i agree with you.

@ topic
some choose not to get married because they fill fulfiled by there career and cna't simple share anything with a man,they can have relationships but can't be bothered with the marriage side.

or some i think can't find a man, simple. they either become unapproachable due to their success or become unrealistic about the sort of mate they want.

Hmmmmmmm, well it may be as a result of family problems, societal problems and personal reasons.

1.  Family problems: for instance, this sisters may be the first child of the family, the only educated one and may have siblings. In a situation whereby the parents cannot afford to fend for the younger ones, this responsibility is being drawn to the first child which may be this sister. She has to pay the school fees of the siblings, make sure they are well fed, etc. If she gets married tell me how she is going to combine her family responsibility with her siblings? This may be one of the reasons.

2. Societal Problems: Some may be as a result of societal problems. the kind of society in which they find themselves and it may affect them psychologically.

3. Personal Reasons: Some could be due to personal decisons. you know, you can tell what their thoughts are.

4.  Curse: Some have been destined to stay idle till their death in this kind of situation, prayers must be made to break that curse.

5.  Disappointment: Due several disaapointments from the opposite sex, hopes have been lost on marriage, they therefore decide not to get married.

6. While some wants someone that more richer than them so they wont have to compete their weal,th together.

I think this are some of reasons behins this handicapped situation.

@mekoyo

wow,men i never knew u were such a good writer,well keep it up

well, you have a creative signature niceguy. lol

for me, its just indecision and uncertainty

WesleyanA:

well, you have a creative signature niceguy. lol

Thx Dear,i like people that do appreciate good thing here on Nairaland.

i guess u must be a nice lady!