In a recent interview with TheNetng, Who Wants To Be A Millionaire’ host Frank Edoho’s wife, Katherine Obiang, who has three kids for the TV host talked about her 7-year old marriage to Frank.

See excerpts below:

How are your kids?

They are great.

And how are they taking the whole divorce issue?

We are not really divorced. It’s still a work-in-progress kind of thing but we are taking it well. When its time for him to see the children, he does and when its time to return them, he does. On my part, I
have carried the children along and make them understand they are not stained because of it. I wouldn’t want them to develop a complex because of it. We didn’t design for these things to happen but they do. It’s like people who have lost their parents, they didn’t plan for it but they have to move on. I watch them and I think they are doing pretty okay especially because we talk about it every time there is a reason to.

Y[b]ou mentioned that you aren’t really divorced. Does that suggest possibility of reconciliation?
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No, it doesn’t. We just started the process but there isn’t any hope for reconciliation. We know we would always be in each other’s lives because of the children, so we have to be civil. When the children are getting married for example, we have to hide our differences and make it work.

What if he (Frank) came back, would you consider it?

No. Three years have gone by. It will be a whole entire process of knowing somebody all over again and I don’t have the energy to do that. We’ve let it burn and I don’t think he will do that.

Do you sometimes miss him?

He had such a great sense of humor. I don’t know if he still does. His sense of music too, being a radio presenter, and we used to exchange thoughts on things regarding that, but otherwise, I don’t miss him in that nostalgic way of…It’s a part of my life I have come to terms with. I am a solution oriented person. He was part of my life for more than 10 years (dated for four years and got married for 7 years).

Looking back at everything, do you wish you never got separated?

No, I think Frank and I should not have gotten married in the first place. We should just have been friends because he was an awesome friend. While I was dating someone else and he had to go back to his country, he (Frank) was there all through and I had known him all the while he was in the University of Calabar and we started our career together. I think we shouldn’t have pushed it to marriage and just stayed as friends.

Any regrets about that?

No. I have three lovely kids to show for it and of course, every thing happens for a reason and a purpose. They can only make us better or stronger people and it has done so for me. I have grown from what went wrong.

What is usually the cause of the fight?

I think it’s impatience, anger and not knowing how to deal with issue in the now, so you react before you think. It goes like, ‘huh, how dare you say this to me…is that what you will say?’ I can’t remember any one in particular, it has been long now, I have moved on and it’s not a thing that can happen to me again but I always say no matter what, a man should not raise his hands on a woman. A woman should also not goad a man too much. It takes nothing from the man who walks away because once he hits a woman, he starts to think it is justifiable. Unfortunately, we are in a society where we have friends that will give you thumbs up for doing that. A man should be calmer and not react on the now.

Are you making efforts to ensure that your son isn’t wrongly influenced by this?

I have a son and I talk to him all the time. I let him know he must be there to protect his sister. They should look at him and feel safe with him and he knows that. The girls also push him and I caution them, so it’s a balance.

Were you hit by the rumors of his recent marriage?

I didn’t want to believe he was because we are still married (legally). We are not divorced, so I didn’t see how that was possible and didn’t loose sleep over it. I’m not asking him not to go on with his life but things should be done properly. We are separated for three years and now in the divorce process. If he found happiness and love, then I’m happy for him.

Will you be trying your hands on marriage again?

You just never know.

If you would, what kind of man would he be?

You come to a point in your life where you can’t afford to do things out of adrenaline but with great thought. It would be a more mature person, someone who is calm and has a fine sense of how life should be. Someone who is mature, wise and seen life and the ways of the world and knows what he is doing at every time.

When you think about all that has happened, does it bring tears to your eyes?

No, I feel a sense of disappointment instead especially now when the children come home with questions that I need a man to answer, if he (their father) were around. For example, someone to be there for my son at a time when he is writing his common entrance examination. It’s a feeling of disappointment, but you know, we have to rise above them and you go on.

What was your reaction the very first time it happened?

I’m like these things happen in marriages but we think of reconciliation and getting families involved. It is your first trial in marriage and nobody gives a guideline about how things are going to be.

Apart from being part of the Project Alert, what other steps have you taken to help women who are battling with domestic violence?

I talk to them but in the end, I let them know, the decision is theirs. A friend of mine was involved in this and after we talk, she will go back to him. No matter what platform there is, it rests on the individual. It is what I have arrived at. I still share my story when I have the chance to.

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Aww...love u both. So sorry it dint work out. Twill get better.

Awwwwwww!
Very touching.
Good the children are doing great!
Love not to BY FORCE!!!

Lessons learned:

No matter how baaaaad a spouse turn out to be, THERE IS SOMETHING TO BE MISSED when you are separated! You can NEVER FIND A REPLACEMENT!!!!

Na so NAIJA men be! CHAMPIONS IN DOMESTIC ABUSE! Especially, in that HELL HOLE called Nigeria!

In this day and age? Domestic abuse still dey reign?

TUFIAAAAAAKWA!!!!!

It is well. I think the effect is mostly on the children.

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Man(frank) Happy married life
aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ ‎​ I wish his ex wife happy searchin.

mgbeketoto: Awwwwwww!
Very touching.
Good the children are doing great!
Love not to BY FORCE!!!

Lessons learned:

No matter how baaaaad a spouse turn out to be, THERE IS SOMETHING TO BE MISSED when you are separated! You can NEVER FIND A REPLACEMENT!!!!

Na so NAIJA men be! CHAMPIONS IN DOMESTIC ABUSE! Especially, in that HELL HOLE called Nigeria!

In this day and age? Domestic abuse still dey reign?

TUFIAAAAAAKWA!!!!!

My sister I understand how you feel. But not all Naija men as u quoted in your post are wife beater. I'm a married man, even while dating I have never, can never and will never raise my fingers let alone hands on my lovely angel. She is me, so how can I beat myself. I've never seen my dad did such so I cannot.

Its more of keeping calm by men even when the woman is all out. Because, within some minutes you will come to understand that there was no need for fight.

Its well.

Sincerely, i love and respect them both, especially for kids feeling great, but, is it really possible for the kids not to be affected, either now or later?




#team never raise your hand against your spouse

greatgod2012: Sincerely, i love and respect them both, especially for kids feeling great, but, is it really possible for the kids not to be affected, either now or later?




#team never raise your hand against your spouse

I pray so. Because most of this wife/husband beater/abuser are from abusive home. I've seen some like this that is why I always feel for the children. But I think in a situation where the children are not allowed to see such "movie" for a long period of time, there is a possibility of them growing up into a normal human being.

U went to the alter and u promised d marriage was for better for worse.remember God hates divorce.

@Pokemon
You're a joker! So she should stay and be killed by an abusive spouse?

I pray it never happens to you or someone close to you!

Pokemon43: U went to the alter and u promised d marriage was for better for worse.remember God hates divorce.

Some people due to their religious convictions believe that marriage once instituted is indissoluble. Infact that it is a ‘sin’ to end a marriage union. This group of people will quote some excerpts from their holy books.
Perhaps I should start by trying to define marriage. It can be defined as the civil/legal/cultural/religious union of a man and a woman to live together and possibly procreate. Today,in some countries, it also involves a man and another man or a woman and another woman. But whichever it is, I am interested now in the divorce aspect.
First of all, how do marriages start? It is by the consent of the parties involved. This means that it is the decision of the parties involved to live together as husband and wife. Now, this is an ideal situation because there are cases of forced marriages!!! Those ones do not even deserve to be called marriage.
It is a fact that people tend to consent to marrying because of certain agreeable affinities, qualities and character whose expression they have seen in their partner. These characters are not cast in stone, they are not fixed or immutable !! the law of change operates within all.
It is also a fact that people tend to change with time, experiences and circumstances. Some changes are increasingly inclined towards goodness while some change towards bad/evil. So what happens when a partner start showing or exhibiting a character that is not in agreement with the earlier expectations of his/her spouse? Especially when such character/habits is becoming increasingly manifested .
Infidelity, physical abuse, disrespect, intolerance, hatred, irresponsibility, etc . how can one be compelled to remain in a marriage that brings only sadness, hate, pains and can even cost life? To some people, it is a scriptural commandment !!! what God have joined together, let no man put asunder!!!!!!
However all the marriages I know and can think of are made by man and joined by man !!! there is no marriage made in `heaven`, all are made on earth by man to serve man!!! What the Master Initiate, Jesus The Christ said is Not exoteric in meaning but esoteric !!!
It is a way of saying that the laws of man serves man but the laws of God serves God !!! so, if by the laws of man, marriage serves man, do not bring God into the equation. Likewise, in nature`s laws, man MUST not interfere. Wordly problem today is the result of man’s in-harmonious interference in natural law. So when people say that marriage is ordained by God, it is a slanderous statement!!!
Marriage serves man and not the other way round. As two people freely of their own volition decides to marry and live as husband and wife, they are equally free of their own volition to call it quit if the union no longer serve them as they deem fit!! infact, endangering your life by `sticking` in an injurious and irredeemable union of any sort exacts punishment n you.
However, rational reasoning demands that choices in life must be subjected to the laws of change. For those under the fetters of mis-guided religious creed. You alone bears the consequences of your ignorance, in life and in death!!! Man is his savior and destroyer.

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amtheone:

My sister I understand how you feel. But not all Naija men as u quoted in your post are wife beater. I'm a married man, even while dating I have never, can never and will never raise my fingers let alone hands on my lovely angel. She is me, so how can I beat myself. I've never seen my dad did such so I cannot.

Its more of keeping calm by men even when the woman is all out. Because, within some minutes you will come to understand that there was no need for fight.

Its well.

My written statement is a generalization.
My father NEVER hit a woman either!
My brothers neither!

My husband is not a wife beater or HITTER. . . I HAVE NEVER DATED OR MARRIED ANY SUCH LOW-LIFE.

But it is a FACT that the MANY men who do. . . MAKE IT BAD ENOUGH FOR THE OTHERS WHO DON'T!

My opinion!

Just like saying NIGERIANS HAVE A BAD REPUTATION FOR CRIMINAL AFFAIRS DOMESTICALLY AND GLOBALLY!
Does that mean ALL NIGERIANS ARE 419ners?

I was generally-speaking!

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