Adeniyi A.:
it's high time we started 'rising in love' instead of this abused 'fall in love' which most times are expressed too early in a relationship as a result of lust.
they 'fall' prematurely in lust/love, and after all said and done, they break their hearts, legs, hands, heads etc
anything that falls breaks, and the hearts being fragile break when it is lust fully and deceptively fell.
I rise in love o

idnoble135:
lol... Yea, you should know him and long posts. I can guess all his post should fill the whole first page or more.

lorretta u: Well I know how it feels
I know some would rather not say it for fear of disappointment
And some would rather not hear it for fear of being tied down.
It's the most enigmatic feeling of all times.
Joy,happiness,pain,affection,jealousy,
lust,passion
Are all present in this feeling called love.
Hmm
I've fallen in love with you.
Are you ready to take the roller coaster ride with me?

idnoble135: yea. I thought you asked a question and provided my opinion. But looking at the subsequent posts, i just felt it was no longer necessary.

Truckpusher: Na which person son you wan deceive like this na?

It happens. There would always be some one "better" than one's partner, maybe in terms of beauty, intelligence, body type, communication skills etc.
That does not necessarily mean we quit relationships.
As a matter of fact, some one will always be better than one's partner in a way. But just like this pic says; [img] https://fbcdn-sphotos-c-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn2/p480x480/1186146_679593695403911_1647162515_n.jpg [/img] . There would be something that, that partner can do that the other can not do.
I know you are the bible type , so lemme give a verse that knows things like this might come up but emphasize contentment. Proverbs 5:15-21.
My bottom line is, such situation is bound to come up. One should not stay away from relationships because of such. Contentment is the answer.

Ihedinobi: ^^ BAM BAM BAM!!! Why would you delete that at all? It's smack in the middle of what I was examining.

Look at a scenario like this:

Girl: I think I'm falling for you

Guy: Uuuuuuhh, ok. Let's just take it easy and see how it goes. Maybe we'll see if we still like each other like this in a few months.

That's an adaptation of a scenario taken out of Friends With Kids, courtesy of Hollywood.

The guy is unwilling to hook up with this woman whom he's come to know is pretty much everything he needs. (You really need to see the scene in that movie where the guy described the woman and what type of relationship he had with her, she dumped her perfect boyfriend right after for him.) He thinks he's got a better deal elsewhere until he realizes that the first girl was perfect for him and he just couldn't be satisfied not having her.

I think our parents had it right. Feelings can grow once the will to be together is present. The passion people speak of doesn't just happen (I personally know that). In short, relationships are what we make them.

Ihedinobi: And that's a beautiful pic, thank you.

Ihedinobi: Once those six words are spoken, everything changes. They're not words with which you make friends. Nor words with which you make enemies. They're words with which you name bonds. The tricky part is this last. What if the guy or girl says them and the girl or guy is not game? What then?

Courtesy, human kindness, or more truly hope says to be just friends and keep going. This is the least precise part of this whole issue. The truth is that human nature branches out here. At least, so I think. Some people will be able to settle into a friendship and just go on and eventually things grow into the love they desired at first. My feeling is that this is how it works if the two were only recently met and one needed time to be sure.

Other people will find restraint almost impossible and even though they'd like to be reasonable and give the other person time to discover them and find the, well, resonance or correspondence they themselves already found, they can't help the jealousy that consumes them when they see the object of their love giving equal or more attention to someone else. For them, love very easily turns into obssession and a very unhealthy one at that.

I think those two are the two main possibilities and they mix and overlap in many different ways, I imagine. For instance, someone might play the friend and suffer great jealousies and pain and hold out still in the hopes that the person they fancy ends up with them. Imagine what happens when they don't. Another might play the friend and eventually give up waiting, find someone else and really become the friend (sometimes, about the same time, the object of their affection is ready to love them then). It can get messy, very messy once those six words are said.

I think that's why men try to read women and understand when they're signing that they're interested in them and women read men to try and figure out whether they are available and seeing the signs they're putting out. It's a very delicate game, far more complicated than the arranged marriages our parents and their parents and those before them and some cultures around the world favored, I'll say.

I might even go as far as to say that it's probably why the world is mired in promiscuity today. *shrugs

Truckpusher: Na which person son you wan deceive like this na?

idnoble135:

lorretta u: speak now or forever hold your peace

uj_sizzle: Love sucks, why bother?
What wants to carry all that emotion around?
I watched a movie once (LOL i think) where Miley asked, "have u ever loved someone so much it hurts?"
That's a feeling i don't think i want.
And what sucks more is feeling it for someone who either doesn't hasn't taken the plunge or doesn't wanna do it. So really, why bother?

loretta u: NB. I like IHEDINOBI
Don't ask me why

idnoble135:
Erm.... He is already engaged.

Ihedinobi:

She's not the jealous type

idnoble135:
Erm.... He is already engaged.

Ihedinobi:

She's not the jealous type

idnoble135: ***clears throat***
Somebody would soon start explaining himself.

uj_sizzle:
abi oo, loretta, ishilove....who else

lorretta u: u broke my heart

idnoble135: ***clears throat***
Somebody would soon start explaining himself.

uj_sizzle:
abi oo, loretta, ishilove....who else