In the most rudimentary mathematical calculations, one plus one is two. But God neither sees nor thinks like man. Therefore God’s perception of marriage disregards this universally acceptable mathematical principle. “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife. And they twain shall be one flesh; so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together let no man put asunder” (Matthew 10:7-9).


When two individuals: man and woman with distinct personalities, backgrounds, orientations, come together in intimate and indissoluble marriage union, it is not simply that two people are living together, it is much deeper than this! God comes at this unique oneness and impresses it on us from several different angles. First and foremost, a woman by definition, by origin and by name is ‘one who was taken out of man’, “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man” (Genesis 2:21-23). So then, a woman is of the same substance as her husband.

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God also taught us this oneness by the woman’s unique suitability to her husband’s world. At creation, God observed that there was not found an help meet for Adam for God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:20,18). There was a lack, a deficiency in man. The woman therefore makes the “fullness” of man, and supplies what is lacking in man.


Furthermore, the scripture declares, “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh: but nourisheth and cherishet it” “He that loveth his wife loveth himself” (Ephesians 5:29,28). A man cannot divorce himself from himself. Such is the intimacy between the will of God in marriage. God expects that husband and wife should work together as one in everything they do- in the training of their children and in building of their home. They are to grow together, live together and understand each other more completely, as the years go by, as two fractions of one single whole.


The wedding vows are a promise that they made before God that they will not give up on each other inspite of their differences, but continue to wait on God to harmonise their operations together. The process of blending therefore begins when a couple genuinely recognizes God who brought them together and surrender themselves to the Lord Jesus as their Lord and Savior. For the singles who are genuinely saved, the blending starts when they sincerely pray through and accept the will of God for them in marriage. As couples make up their minds to “leave” and “cleave” and to prayerfully, patiently and obediently keep to the word of God, one plus one will surely become one till death parts them.