waternogetenemy:

I will let bigots like u, reply ur senseless convo. haba! Ur tribalism pass grade 1. U really need me to name failed marriages or divorce? Even Ojukwu was divorced. U people are so stuck in ur generalisation and trying to put down other cultures and uphold urs as superior in ways that surpasses reason. I don sign out jooor. I will never support or encourage divorce as a culture, but neither will I condemn it

waternogetenemy:

Nobody is selling anybody, marriage in all traditions involve spending, some more than others. Someone told me that in Yorubaland the bride shoulder the cost of marriage. The case is reversed in Igboland and even today the cost is split between the bride and bridegroom. Try not to sound tribalistic with every thing you say. Igbo culture promotes responsibility and does not mandate anybody to stay where they are mistreated either. U do get igbo couple separated and divorced but not high.

Bliss4Lyfe: Igbo girls don't come cheap oh. Parents spend alot for masters programme abroad to say the least. Igbo guys know this and don't complain, but imo is more expensive than anywhere in igboland.

waternogetenemy:

I will let bigots like u, reply ur senseless convo. haba! Ur tribalism pass grade 1. U really need me to name failed marriages or divorce? Even Ojukwu was divorced. U people are so stuck in ur generalisation and trying to put down other cultures and uphold urs as superior in ways that surpasses reason. I don sign out jooor. I will never support or encourage divorce as a culture, but neither will I condemn it. That is the igbo way, love it or leave it.

Bolubaba: I want to marry an Igbo girl and I earn 25k per month. How am I going to get this done

Mrs.Chima:


Marry an Ijaw....they are close enough.

Bolubaba:
How much are my to budget for an ijaw woman

waternogetenemy: Eliminate Babaloja and Mamaloja, that agbero culture is disgraceful. A man must be financially capable to get married, otherwise they have hungry kids.

Lucasbalo: . It shows your character trying to demean someone because u disagree with d person. What has babaloja and mamaloja has to do with my writeup. You bringing senseless tribalism to where it doesn't belong. I am a man of means by all measuring scale, and I will not pay a dime to get married to anyone. Love is not about money or dowry u pay. It's nothing but extortion. I guess , I grew up in a different culture. Well , its meaningless having a rational discussion with irrational being like u.

Segeggs: All that 4 a gal dat is not a virgin but a leftover with slacked punny? Not me

ichidodo: Some people and their belly ache.If yoruba girls are cheap our girls shouldn't follow suit, we know their value and worth.Small reasons why our women are relatively well treated some are even pampered (you don't drive a Ferrari to hell because you bought it with big money) to a fault and our divorce rate is at an all time low. If you cannot make the cut compromises might be discussed between families,it is the attempt (a symbolic gesture) that is most important and not the end result. The tradition makes it for our daughters,sisters etc to be valued and respected amongst their in laws.

ichidodo: Some people and their belly ache.If yoruba girls are cheap our girls shouldn't follow suit, we know their value and worth.Small reasons why our women are relatively well treated some are even pampered (you don't drive a Ferrari to hell because you bought it with big money) to a fault and our divorce rate is at an all time low. If you cannot make the cut compromises might be discussed between families,it is the attempt (a symbolic gesture) that is most important and not the end result. The tradition makes it for our daughters,sisters etc to be valued and respected amongst their in laws.

Ucheosefoh: In Idemili marriage is so cheap that with 50k u don do everything go de enjoy ur wife unless u want to make it a big traditional wedding. Bride price here is 2k with a list that will not cost more than 50k

Mrs.Chima(f): 11:57am
You shouldn't have to pay for a wife. If she loves you and you loves her....it shouldn't cost a penny.

Dallas Cowgirl:

Ezewuruwuru of idiotsville, have you bought a wife?

ichidodo: Mamaloja of slutville, we don't buy wives.

Odenigbo Aroli:

Yes,a bit cheaper. Are you by any chance from Umuoji ?

Mrs.Chima:


You shouldn't have to pay for a wife. If she loves you and you loves her....it shouldn't cost a penny. Thank u Mrs Chima. You are 100% right. Ask all this fools how much do Bill Gates or Warren Buffet paid for their spouses. Its these fools who have nothing and they have to borrow and sell their personal stuff to marry . Who r u trying to impress ?.

ichidodo: Some people and their belly ache.If yoruba girls are cheap our girls shouldn't follow suit, we know their value and worth.Small reasons why our women are relatively well treated some are even pampered (you don't drive a Ferrari to hell because you bought it with big money) to a fault and our divorce rate is at an all time low. If you cannot make the cut compromises might be discussed between families,it is the attempt (a symbolic gesture) that is most important and not the end result. The tradition makes it for our daughters,sisters etc to be valued and respected amongst their in laws.

Lucasbalo: I can't believe this kind of scam is still going on in the name of marriage. I can understand getting a little stuff as a token but not bankrupting someone in the name of marriage. Wow, I guess in some parts of Nigeria , marriage is for only well to do guys. No wonder we hear about cases of husbands killing their wives because of adultery. I guess , they must have felt they own the wives after investing so much. This kind of stuff should be eliminated .

Lucasbalo: . That's is bunch of bull. I lost two friends ( Lady and a Guy ) to senseless stuff because of adultery. They met each other while we were in college and get married few years after graduation. Things went well and all of a sudden , I got a call that my friend went to his wife place of work and shot her dead accusing her of adultery. He was arrested, prosecuted and senteced to 40 years in jail. The wife is dead and the husband will be in jail for a very long time. The children (2 young boys) are the losers. They lost both parents because the father thought he owns the wife. Why would someone think like that, if not for the fact that he thought he own her. Please get real, it's antiquated custom that should be discarded.

Lucasbalo: . Go tell that to the families of 2 ladies that were killed in Houston by their husbands because of adultery. Mr Ferrari.

Bolubaba: This is one of the many reasons why guys do money rituals just to impress their inlaws /inlaws to be.

ichidodo: Some people and their belly ache.If yoruba girls are cheap our girls shouldn't follow suit, we know their value and worth.Small reasons why our women are relatively well treated some are even pampered (you don't drive a Ferrari to hell because you bought it with big money) to a fault and our divorce rate is at an all time low. If you cannot make the cut compromises might be discussed between families,it is the attempt (a symbolic gesture) that is most important and not the end result. The tradition makes it for our daughters,sisters etc to be valued and respected amongst their in laws.

waternogetenemy:
@mrs chima, Even these dayz no need to sign papars,just move in with the guy and start having babies. It is called cohabitation Halle Berry is an example. Marriage no be by force. It is ur choice oh. I like to do all three, court,traditional and White and have beautiful babies with no divorce, come disagree with this,

Dallas Cowgirl:

Do yourself a favor and list them....
Lol the lies una keep telling yourself on Nairaland.
Almost all the Rich Yorubas of reputable names are married to Yoruba women.
Nairaland, the cyber airway for ibo lies

I'm still at awe that many Yorubas are letting Ibo ppl continue with their lies on Nairaland.
Is it Yoruba men that marry Ibo ladies that still turn back to Yoruba women at the end? I.e Stella Damascus that has been passed around between 3 Yoruba men, 2 divorces etc.

Mrs.Chima:


You shouldn't have to pay for a wife. If she loves you and you loves her....it shouldn't cost a penny.

ichidodo: Big deal, this incidences are few and far between.It is clear he isnt Mr Right and ofcourse you can see the same situation also applies where the man didn't observe due diligience as far as bride price is concerned example The Arowolo case.What i need you to decipher is the rationale behind the custom, most individuals value what cost them most and what you value most you take darn good care of it.

Segeggs: All that 4 a gal dat is not a virgin but a leftover with slacked punny? Not me