yuzedo: Sooooooooo after i have given you pocket money for donkey years, you will now born before me and i will still start giving your kids pocket money again??!?! HELLLL NOOO!! You must give my kids first so that it cancels all those plenty years you taxed me!

didicold: Absolutely nothing wrong with it, she should just go and meet her spiritual leaders so they can talk some sense into her parents

Okija_juju:



Tufiakwa Aluuuuu!!!



See this people o!! There is everything wrong with it o!! It is an abormination!!

Again!!!! TUFIAKWA!!!!

make una no use "mordernization" carry abormination enter our land o!!

Ife ni'ne na uwa bu turn by turn.. Onye bulu uzor bia uwa, ga e'bulu uzor na.. Obu ka o'kwesili idi.

You cant reverse the natural order of life o!!


If that small girl wants to marry, she should go and find husbands for her 2 elder sisters first, so she can be free to marry!! Abi she wan take the place of Ada in her family?! Mba nu!

So her single elder sisters would be coming to do Omugwo for their small sister wey dem been follow train!! When she never repay them for the one wey dem do for her when she small.. #TUFIAKWA!!


_{#Drinks schinapps, spits it out and breaks kolanut!! Throws 5 cowries up in the... 2 lands inside the circle... 2 lands outside.. 1 has been taken by the gods..}

gtrust:

no comment on this!

Titiluvly:

And you're Ok with it right?

salt 1: Two elder sisters? Poor them! They will be feeling soooooooo old!

I can understand the parents' concern. Peace will disappear from that family until those two ladies marry too.
They can't even share in their sister's joy during the wedding because all the well-meaning uncles and aunties will fill their ears with prayers of " don't worry my daughter. your own will soon come. slow and steady wins the race" etc.

Is it wrong? not at all
Is it good for family peace? Never!

It's even easier if they are men. Women can get very emotional over such things

Chartey:
Seems u don't know masonkz. He's not heterosexual. U should understand his statement now.

jmoore: To those saying the elder one must marry first, after marriage will the younger one also wait for the elder one to get pregnant first?

masonkz:


100% ok with it.

Chartey:
You took the words right out of my mouth. It's sad the way people are ready to brush aside our African cultures in the name of modernity due to ignorance. These things were put in place for a reason.
It is true that in life your happiness is the ultimate. But how can you remain happy when your siblings are not happy with you. The right thing to do is to put pressure on your elder sister to get married while you are patient. A little sacrifice and consideration in life never hurt anyone. Marrying before her is a form of disrespect and humiliation which she may never forget even if it seems she has.

Champele: ignorant.

Chartey:
You took the words right out of my mouth. It's sad the way people are ready to brush aside our African cultures in the name of modernity due to ignorance. These things were put in place for a reason.
It is true that in life your happiness is the ultimate. But how can you remain happy when your siblings are not happy with you. The right thing to do is to put pressure on your elder sister to get married while you are patient. A little sacrifice and consideration in life never hurt anyone. Marrying before her is a form of disrespect and humiliation which she may never forget even if it seems she has.

The right thing to do is to put pressure on your elder sister to get married while you are patient

tpia@:



its statements like these which make people feel bad about their siblings marrying.

another option (which is locking the barn after the horse has gone), is to space your kids about 10- 15 years between each of them, that way there's little chance of the younger getting married before the older.

if that's not practical, then stop stoking unnecessary ill feeling and try to be more supportive.

sibling rivalry isnt limited to marriage issues or gender btw.


and, imo, someone who will consider it disrespect on the part of the younger sibling, will still fight the sibling for some other reason anyway, with or without marriage. The underlying issue is not the wedding but something else in the family dynamics.




ideally, perhaps.

in reality, wouldnt be so feasible unless the younger sister is extremely patient and her fiance is also understanding.

and what if the older sister isnt ready to marry?

Chartey:
It's another thing if she's not ready to marry. At least everybody knows she doesn't want to. But if she does and she's just having challenges, then being patient isn't out of order. It's in the interest of the family. Remember the family is bigger than the individuals in it. Besides everybody makes sacrifices for everybody in the family(the beauty of a true African family). If she explains to the fiance and he doesn't understand then he isn't worth marrying. He'll become the sort of husband who'll alienate the wife from her family anyways since he has little regard for the family of his wife. As a man, i have no problem waiting for 2 or 3 more years to marry the woman I'll build a home and spend the rest of my life with.

Chartey:
Seems u don't know masonkz. He's not heterosexual. U should understand his statement now.

dannysteve99@ya:
Don't mind this yeye old traditions.Elder Sister busy jumping from one front Car to anoda. Younger ones get married and 4get about old Tradition.

tpia@:



its statements like these which make people feel bad about their siblings marrying.

another option (which is locking the barn after the horse has gone), is to space your kids about 10- 15 years between each of them, that way there's little chance of the younger getting married before the older.

if that's not practical, then stop stoking unnecessary ill feeling and try to be more supportive.

sibling rivalry isnt limited to marriage issues or gender btw.


and, imo, someone who will consider it disrespect on the part of the younger sibling, will still fight the sibling for some other reason anyway, with or without marriage. The underlying issue is not the wedding but something else in the family dynamics.




ideally, perhaps.

in reality, wouldnt be so feasible unless the younger sister is extremely patient and her fiance is also understanding.

and what if the older sister isnt ready to marry?

tpia@:


the woman doesnt remain in her family once she gets married, even though she's still part of her family.

making sacrifices can be from anybody, i dont think its right for the older to ask her sister to remain unhappy and resentful just because she (older sister) isnt ready to marry yet.

if people find themselves in a situation like this, imo the best option is to be happy for the bride and believe God for your own man.

should the older sister just jump on any male in sight in the name of getting married first?

These things are not as simple as you make them appear. Yes, it will assuage the older sister if her younger sibling postpones her wedding out of deference to her. However, how will the younger sister alleviate her own hurt feelings and what is she supposed to feel about the family wahala preventing her from getting married?

Shinelle: In those days (bilble days), I remember in Gen 29: 15-30, Laban tricked Jacob into marrying Rachels elda sis, Leah......before giving him Racheal as well......, In dis 21st century tho it doesn't matter... I'm d last born in ma family and were all gals...I av no intention of marrying yet, buh personally I would want my elda sisters to marry before me. So I'm praying hard for them, while I work on my life (skul n stuff)....